CR Chapter 8: Love
Intimacy =
Liking
Should we love our spouses?
Marital status
The Coolidge Effect
Mating with novel females after mating to satiety with one female (animals)
Should love involve same or other-sex partners?
Sexuality
triangular theory of love
Sternberg, 1986
T/F: Any form of physiological arousal can increase our feelings of passionate attraction
True
Is passionate love also cognitive?
Yes
Romantic love tends to decline over time for love marriages but increases for
arranged marriages
6 love styles
eros, ludus, storge, mania, agape, pragma
eros
erotic, with a strong physical component
3 main components of the triangular theory of love
intimacy, passion, commitment
ludus
playful and uncommitted; love is a game
mania
possessive, obsessive, full of fantasy
Maintaining passion and commitment over time is
possible in real life
"madly in love" - both _________ reward and __________ attachment areas of the brain activate more for spouses
short-term, long-term
Should love be sexual or nonsexual?
Sex
agape
altruistic, selfless, dutiful
Compassionate love (I+C)
- Wanting to suffer in your partner's place - Loving them even when they're unwell
After 2 years of marriage, all spouses express affection _____ as often as they did as newlyweds
1/2
Divorces occur more frequently in the _______ year of marriage than at any other time
4th
Incomprehensibility and mixed blessings are most common in
China
biological stage 3: Attachment (oxytocin, PFC)
Commitment
Intimacy + commitment
Companionate
________ ________ is more stable - and more strongly linked with long-term satisfaction
Companionate love
Arguably a third major type of love in long-term marriages
Compassionate love = intimacy + caring
Another name for all 3 components of the triangular theory of love
Consummate
Is love desirable?
Cultural value
________ & _______'s vancouver bridge study
Dutton & Aron
Commitment =
Empty love
T/F: People have always believed that love and marriage go together
False; recently
Romance is enhanced by...
Fantasy, Novelty, Arousal (all 3 fade as familiarity increases)
Passion + commitment
Fatuous love
The triangular theory parallels ____________'s biological stages of love (2006)
Helen Fisher
Passion =
Infatuation
biological stage 2: Attraction (dopamine, reward centers)
Intimacy or liking
biological stage 1: Lust (sex hormones)
Passion or infatuation
Hatfield & Berscheid's two-factor theory of passionate love proposes that...
Passionate love = Arousal + Attribution of Arousal
Intimacy + passion =
Romantic love
Students' beliefs about themselves were more _________ and _________ when they were in love
confident, versatile
(qualification) Triangles are rarely __________
consistent
People with secure attachment styles get closer to __________ love
consummate
storge
friendship, commitment
Most loves are " _______ _______ " with all three components present in different amounts
impure mixtures
Romantic love leads to relationship ________
initiation
Committed men pay more/less attention to attractive opposite sex photos when primed to think of their partners
less
Which love style best associates with men?
ludus
Emotions are ______ positive and ______ intense as people age
more, less
pragma
practical and pragmatic; dispassionate
(qualification) Love types are not ________
pure
Two major types of love that occur frequently in US marriages
romantic love and companionate love
The best attachment style is
secure
Love expands our ____________
self-concepts
Companionate love leads to relationship ________
stability
Which love styles (2) best associate with women?
storge, pragma
fantasies and fairy tales are more common in
the US
