Interpersonal quizzes
Janelle and Letisha are arguing over household chores such as doing dishes, vacuuming, and doing laundry. When the subject of laundry comes up, Janelle accuses Letisha of wearing Janelle's clothes without permission. "Look, we can talk about that one later," says Letish. "For now, let's just figure out who's going to do what chores when" Letish is demonstrating: A) Cross complaining B) Bracketing C) Kitchen sinking D) The blemish game E) None of the above
Bracketing
Carolyn notices she is feeling nervous about giving her speech and begins to dread the whole thing. After a little reflection, she realizes she is also feeling a little excited about it and begins to dread it a little less. This is an example of A) cognitive labeling B) deep acting C) feeling and framing rules D) all the above
Cognitive labeling
"There's only one way to do things in this house, and that's my way. I pay the bills, so i make the decisions," says Aaron angrily. Aaron's disconfirming statement is an example of: A) Neutrality B) Evaluation C) Certainly D)Control E) Superiority F) Strategy
Control
"I just feel he belittled me all night and ruined the whole party" complained Tuan. Tuan's statement is an example of: A) rational-emotive approach to feelings B) counterfeit emotional language C) cognitive labeling D) surface vs deep acting
Counterfeit emotional labeling
I'm sure there are other ways to prepare lasagna" says Mario, "but if it's okay with you, I'd like to try this recipe tonight" Mario's confirming statement is an example of: A) Description B) Spontaneity C) Empathy D) Provisionalism E) Equity F) Problem-orientation
Provisionalism
Which of the following actions is NOT something a couple would do as part of building their relational culture? A) Buying shared possessions to decorate their home B) Discussing how to celebrate birthdays and holidays C) Questioning whether their goals and values are compatible D) Developing strategies for dealing with conflict E) None of the above
Questioning whether their goals and values are compatible
True or False: Practicing safe sex is a communication issue because it requires individuals to discuss with their partners their histories and preferences
True
True or False: Both less attractive and very attractive adolescent females are targets of cyberbullying
True
True or False: Both too much self-disclosure and not enough can harm a relationship
True
True or False: Bracketing is a communication technique used in constructive conflict
True
True or False: Couples in long-distance relationships should develop ways to share the simple everyday matters with each other
True
True or False: Emotional intelligence is related to our overall well-being
True
True or False: Even though they consider themselves to be good friends, Kaya and Tajeen would never think to call each other on the phone because they've just always communicated online or through text. This is an example of a relationship rule
True
True or False: In a confirming climate, messages are often characterized by description, while in a disconfirming climate, they are characterized by evaluation
True
True or False: In an established friendship, interacting online maintains closeness just as effectively as f2f interaction
True
True or False: Luigi and Estelle both have dry mouths and butterflies in their stomachs before delivering their speeches, yet it's possible to Luigi to "feel" excited and Estelle to "feel" nervous
True
True or False: Passive-aggressive conflict often involves the playing of games
True
True or False: The interactive view of emotions emphasizes how cultural rules and expectations shape our perception of emotions
True
True or False: The organismic approach to studying emotions emphasizes only the physical sensation of an emotion
True
True or False: The words we use to label our feelings aren't important. What matters more is the physical feeling
True
True or False: Trust is an important expectation of friendship among Western people
True
True or False: We can accept and confirm others even when we disagree with their actions
True
True or False: We should expect to have dialectic tensions in our relationship
True
True or False: When Karl is in love, he will test his lover's commitment by feigning an illness to see how he or she will respond. Karl's love style is called ludus
True
True or False: When Neil doesn't reply to Indira's email because he's insulted and indignant, he's using the exit response to conflict
True
True or False: Women are more likely to experience negative aftereffects of hook up sex than men
True
True or False: Women build emotional closeness through conversation, while men build emotional closeness through shared activities
True
True or False: Women, more than men, become dissatisfied in a relationship if they perceive they are investing more into it than their partner
True
True or False: When we fail to respond to a greeting from someone, we send them a message of disconfirmation
True
True or False: Among commitment, intimacy, and passion, the least important dimension to relationship satisfaction is passion
True - passion is least important dimension of long-term relationship satisfaction
True or False: Because the privacy of our online communication is not guaranteed, self disclosure has more risks than it does in face-to-face interaction
True - self disclosure online can often be riskier because you may not know to whom you are disclosing
Someone who believes conflict is destructive to a relationship and should be avoided at all costs is showing: A) a voice response B) agenda building C) supportive communication D) grace E) a lose-lose orientation to conflict
a lose-lose orientation to conflict
When Ho doesn't challenge his friend even though Ho saw him flirting with Ho's girlfriend, Ho decides to preserve the harmony in their relationship. Ho is showing: A) An exit response B) A neglect response C) A loyalty response D) A voice response E) None of the above
a loyalty response
Stephanie sees her roommate taking Stephanie's iPod. Stephanie convinces herself that because it was an old one and she was already planning on replacing it, she shouldn't say anything to her roommate. Stephanie is showing: A) An exit response B) A neglect response C) A loyalty response D) A voice response E) None of the above
a neglect response
Conflict can: A) Benefit a relationship B) Benefit individuals in a relationship C) Benefit both a relationship and its individuals D) All the above E) None of the above
all the above
To adopt a win-win orientation toward conflict, we should: A) Recognize our emotions B) Use I-language C) Make an effort to see the other person's needs D) All of the above E) None of the above
all the above
Before expressing and sharing your feelings with someone, you should: A) be careful to help the other person "save face" B) monitor your own emotional state and make sure you're calm enough C) choose a neutral space such as a restaurant to a park D) all the above
monitor your own emotional state and make sure you're calm enough
Stella and Dan have been together for 14 years. They regularly share meals together and help each other with career decisions. Stella visits Dan's mother every week, and Dan often goes out of his way to pick Stella up at work so she doesn't have to take the bus. Still, they don't want to get married. This relationship is: A) Lacking commitment B) A blend of mania and eros C) In the deterioration phase D) None of the above E) All of the above
none of the above
Which of the following is NOT an expectation of Western friendship? A) None of the above B) Acceptance C) Support D) Willingness to invest E) Trust F) Emotional closeness
none of the above
Which of the following statements about social media and digital communication is not true? A) It's easier to disengage from conflict when communicating online B) It's easier to attack others online C) It's important to check our perceptions when communicating online D) It's sometimes okay to engage in conflict online E) None of the above
none of the above
The rational-emotive approach to feelings teaches us to A) Choose rational expression instead of emotional expression B) Observe our physiological response to situations and examine our self-talk for fallacies C) Avoid advice giving D) Paraphrase our own emotional expression D) All of the above
observe our physiological response to situations and examine our self-talk for fallacies
The phrase "owning your feelings" refers to: A) All of the above B) Using "i" statements to explain your emotions and behaviors to others C) Recognizing when you're feeling distressed D) Knowing how to pull yourself out of a bad mood E) None of the above F) Being enslaved to your emotions
using "i" statements to explain your emotions and behaviors to others
The early stages of a developing conflict are critically important to determining whether it will take a productive or unproductive path. This early stage usually lasts: A) 3 minutes B) 20 minutes C) 30 seconds D) 1 minute E) None of the above
3 minutes
Joel's mother is quick to blame herself when things are challenging for Joel. For example, she feels guilty that Joel is not able to come home to a quiet house to study because she is teaching piano lessons. She believes a good mother shouldn't cause such hardships. Her feelings represent: A) Surface acting B) a feeling rule C) deep acting D) emotion work
A feeling rule
When Agit tells James that he, Agit, would like to begin saving for an expensive car, James responds with, "Don't be silly. You're never going to stick to a plan that would take so long" This is an example of what kind of disconfirmation: A) Recognition B) Acknowledgement C) Endorsement D) All of the above
Acknowledgement
Armand has pointed out to Clarisse that she frequently behaves as if she thinks she's better than others. Clarisse can choose to respond constructively to this criticism by: A) Seeking input from others to see if they agree with Armand B) Reflecting on the specific examples Armand cited to see if he was right C) Thank Armand for helping her to grow in self-awareness and improve herself D) All of the above E) None of the above
All the above
We sometimes avoid expressing emotions because: A) we want to avoid hurting other people's feelings B) It's not always socially appropriate to share our feelings with higher or lower status people C) We tend to follow cultural expectations about which emotions should be expressed D) All of the above E)None of the above
All the above
Which of the following actions illustrates how we use technology to disconfirm people in our environment A) Conducting a purchase with the assistance of a cashier while talking to someone on our phone B) Pretending to be checking for messages on our phone while waiting for class to begin C) Wearing ear buds at the gym or on the bus to avoid interacting with others D) All of the above E) None of the above
All the above
Three factors that influence our attraction to another person are: A) attractiveness, proximity, and similarity B) similarity, self disclosure, and commitment C) attractiveness, passion, and intimacy D) intimacy, commitment, passion
Attractiveness, proximity, and similarity
Delfina rarely speaks up and objects when Tom behaves inconsiderately. She is showing too much: A) Aggression B) Assertion C) Deference D) Neutrality E) None of the above
Deference
Duane is upset about flunking his Chemistry class. His girlfriend wants to console him over dinner, but Duane chooses to go bowling with his buddies. Duane is opting to receive what kind of support A) Instrumental B) All of the above C) Distraction D) Verbal E) None of the above F) Social and physical
Distraction
When Sari is passed over for a promotion, she feels ashamed and too embarrassed to tell even her parents. But after some time, Sari begins to feel angry, knowing the promotion was offered to her less experienced male coworker. Sari has been involved in A) emotion work B) cognitive labeling C) cultural expression of emotions
Emotion Work
True or False: Sophia and Antonio argue often and loud. With this kind of behavior, it's clear the relationship is in trouble
False
True or False: "I" statements are not effective in expressing emotions because they put too much focus on the speaker
False
True or False: A Win-Lose approach to conflict is efficient, practical, and productive
False
True or False: A burst of anger will subside in about two hours
False
True or False: A counterproposal will lead to a more productive conflict outcome than a contract or compromise
False
True or False: Anna has learned it is wrong to feel happiness at another's misfortune. Yet, she is secretly delighted when her friend fails a history test. Anna finds herself pretending to be sorry about her friend's poor grade. Anna is engaging in "deep acting"
False
True or False: Close relationships that develop online are not considered friendships until the individuals have met f2f
False
True or False: Donald doesn't express his anger when Shelly comes home with yet another pair of shoes, which they've already agreed she wouldn't do. Instead, he goes for a walk, smokes a cigarette, and then goes to bed he has successfully avoided conflict
False
True or False: Ginger is friends with Jay and Pat, and she believes they will be great friends with each other, so she finds a way to get them together. Ginger is adopting a dual perspective
False
True or False: In a confirming climate, messages are often characterized by a strategy, while in a disconfirming climate, they are characterized by spontaneity
False
True or False: In the navigation phase of relationships, couples finalize and complete once and for all the work of dealing with dialectal tensions such as autonomy and connection
False
True or False: It's not possible to experience more than one emotion at a time
False
True or False: It's useful to focus on the content-meaning, or the problem in an argument, and overlook the relationship meaning
False
True or False: Men are more honest in their online self-description than women
False
True or False: Most friendships end suddenly, usually because one person perceives the other has committed a serious breach of trust
False
True or False: Sexual attraction is considered to be a source of internal tension in a friendship between a heterosexual man and woman, but not in a friendship between two gay men
False
True or False: The Internet allows partners to monitor each other's actions, so one advantage of digital technology is there is less opportunity to cheat
False
True or False: The phrase "friends of the heart" vs "friends of the road" pertains to the relationships we're born into vs the ones we make as we grow
False
True or False: The three stages of committed romantic relationships identified among Western cultures a growth, maturation, and deterioration
False
True or False: There are three primary styles of love: storge, agape, and eros
False
True or False: We're more likely to express our true emotions online if we're logged in under our name than if we're anonymous
False
True or False: Women and men do not differ in how likely they are to maintaining long-distance friendships, provide they're from the same social class
False
True or False: Women are more likely than men to express anger
False
True or False: Women experience stronger physical and psychological reaction to conflict than men
False
True or False: Dante confides in Tessa his concern about missing assignments because he's been gaming online far too much. Tessa gives her friend a confirming message by saying, "don't worry. Everybody screws up now and then"
False - Tessa's response is disconfirming because she acknowledges her friend's concern with denial of its importance
True or False: All relationships, even very healthy ones, experience moments of criticism and anger. Relationships can handle these moments as long as there are 3x as many positive interactions as negative
False - healthy relationships need 5x the number of positive interactions
True or False: Conflict is always best addressed as soon as an issue arises rather than delaying the inevitable
False - it's important to feel rested and calm when resolving a conflict - choose a time that's good for both
True or False: Deidre is becoming bored with the daily routine of her life with Josh and overwhelmed by the financial pressure of owning their first home. Nonetheless, she waits up for him on Tuesday nights after his night class. Deidre is showing relationship intimacy
False - loyalty demonstrates a commitment to relationship even though her feelings may be changing
True or False: Passion in a committed romantic relationship refers to sexual excitement, while intimacy refers to spiritual and emotional excitement. Intimacy refers to feelings of emotional closeness
False - passion can refer to sexual, spiritual, emotional, sensual, and intellectual excitement
True or False: Relational dialectics refers to the strain that occurs in a relationship when it is in trouble
False - refers to tensions that are continuously active even in healthy relationships
True or False: Relationship climates are either confirming or disconfirming. There is seldom any middle ground
False - relationship climates exist somewhere along the gradual continuum between confirming and disconfirming
True or False: Unproductive statements and behaviors in conflict reflect an excessive preoccupation with the other person
False - unproductive statements and behaviors reflect an excessive preoccupation with self
After many years of being alienated from her father, Leah decided to forgive him for his violent outbursts that had been fueled by his alcoholism. Leah demonstrated: A) Passive aggression B) Grace C) Empathy D) All of the above E) None of the above F) Voice response
Grace
Which of the following statements about love styles is not true? A) Mania involves falling in love quickly and deeply for a long time B) Pragma involves a calculating and strategic inventory about how compatible a potential partner might be C) Storage is a slow-to-develop expression of friendship and compatibility D) Agape is a self-sacrificing love style
Mania involves falling in love quickly and deeply for a long time
Elisa feels hurt that Theresa has not responded to Elisa's text message, even though there's no way she can be certain Theresa has even received the message. This situation is an example of how social media and technology can cause disconfirmation on what level? A) Recognition B) Acknowledgement C) Endorsement D) None of the above E) All of the above
Reconition
Which of the following criteria is NOT part of the definition of interpersonal conflict A) Strong emotions B) Expressed tension C) A felt need for resolution D) Perceived incompatible goals E) None of the above
Strong emotions
O'brien and Adil have had similar problems in the past. They seem to differ greatly on how much time and importance to give to their families. Which of the following statements is true? A) The problem is so deep that it will probably continue, they should end the relationship B) O'Brien is wrong, family means everything C) Their differing perspectives about family is not the source of the problem, it is the way O'brien is interpreting Adil's behaviors that is causing the tension D) All of the above
Their differing perspectives about family is not the source of the problem, it is the way O'brien is interpreting Adil's behaviors that is causing the tension
O'brien just cannot believe that Adil spent an hour Skyping with his parents in Egypt. Now they'll be late for the movie. "How selfish," thinks O'brien to himself. This friendship is experiencing: A) An internal tension B) An external tension C) A lack of investment D) A breach of trust E) All the above
an internal tension
Twan and Kim are arguing over their Thanksgiving plans. Twan wants to celebrate with just the two of them as a couple, while Kim wants to get together with their extended family members. They are experiencing dialectical tension along with which dimension: A) Autonomy / connection B) Novelty / predictability C) Open / closedness D) Neutrality / empathy E) None of these
autonomy / connection
As her job responsibilities grow and her mother becomes ill, Rosario has less time to go for coffee with her coworkers. This friendship is experiencing stress from A) Relational dialectics B) Competing demands C) Personal change D) Diverse communication styles E) None of the above
competing demands
Which of the following is NOT one of the investments we make when building and maintaining friendships? A) Humor B) Time C) Money D) Thoughts E) Effort
humor
When Tatiana's car breaks down and she misses her job interview, she feels frustrated when her boyfriend doesn't listen to her story and instead goes right outside to work on her car. He's just not supportive at all" she thinks to herself as she dials her girlfriend's number. What she doesn't realize is that her boyfriend is showing: A) Verbal support B) Emotional support C) Dual perspective D) Instrumental support E)Acceptance and trust
instrumental support
Three key features of satisfying relationships are: A) None of these B)Investment, commitment, and trust C) Emotional maturity, social compatibility, and physical attraction D) Honesty, time, and self disclosure
investment, commitment, and trust
As Mary gets to know Raul, she begins to feel more comfortable with him, and gradually shares some of her more private memories from childhood. Raul feels honored she's trusting him with this information. This is an example of: A) Self-disclosure occurring over time B) All of these C) Using spontaneity to enhance a relationship D) An endorsement message E) A supportive communication climate
self-disclosure occurring over time
Carolyn has confided in Emily about her plans to drop out of school, a decision Emily thinks is a mistake since Carolyn is a B+ student and only needs three courses to graduate. To be a truly supportive friend, Emily should: A) Congratulate carolyn for her courage B) Offer to help her pack and lend her some money C) Share with Carolyn why it seems like a poor decision to Emily and encourage her to give it more thought D) Tell Carolyn's parents about her decision and hope they'll intervene E) None of the above
share with Carolyn why it seems like a poor decision to Emily and encourage her to give it more thought
The old cliche line of, "what's your sign?" is an example of invitational communication. Recognizing it as such means you would have to pay attention to A) The content-level meaning B) The dual perspective meaning C) None of the above D) The relationship-level meaning E) The intrapsychic meaning
the relationship-level meaning
As a friendship deteriorates, which of the following is likely to occur A) There will be an increase in relationship rules B) None of the above C) Both people will have an assumption of continuity D) All of the above E) There will be a gradual dwindling of investment
there will be gradual dwindling of investment
Which of the following statements about emotions and social media use is NOT true? A) We can use it to relate to others, but it may keep us from sharing in ftf relationships B) We can easily find others who share our emotional reactions to important events and people C)We may avoid expressing our emotions online if we perceive them to be socially inappropriate D) Things posted online are less hurtful than when spoken ftf
things posted online are less hurtful than when spoken face to face