Who Are You?
"Logos is a Greek word which denotes "meaning." Logotherapy, or, as it has been called by some authors, "The Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy, " focuses on the meaning of human existence as well as on man's search for such a meaning."
"According to logotherapy, this striving to find a meaning in one's life is the primary motivational force in man."
Budda
"Be a lamp unto yourself!"
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. Carl Jung
"Don't go outside yourself and become a victim, go inside and become a master." - Yogi Bhajan
You can really get to know yourself or another person by gauging how we react in stressful situations. 1. Look back on stressful situations in your life and note what you felt and how you reacted. 2. Come up with stressful situations and predict how you or someone else will react.
"Finding yourself" is not really how it works. You aren't a ten-dollar bill in last winter's coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people's opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are.
A lot of today's most common psychological orientation is to analyze the darkness in order to reach the light, thinking that if we focus on our neuroses—their origins and dynamics—then we will move beyond them. Eastern religions tell us that if we go for God, all that is not authentically ourselves will drop. Go for the light and darkness will disappear. MW artl
"Finding yourself" is not really how it works. You aren't a ten-dollar bill in last winter's coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people's opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. "Finding yourself" is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you." ― Emily McDowell
Rick Warren identifies that in times past, people at least had something they wanted and could not get, so they lived in "quiet desperation", but today people don't even know what they want, so they live in aimless distraction.!
"Henry David Thoreau observed that people live lives of 'quiet desperation,' but today a better description is aimless distraction." -Rick Warren 32
in the space of people who have remembered who we are, why we are here, and who lives within us, it's only a matter of time before the cruelties of the world began at last to recede from our midst. (Marianne Williamson daily devotions day 255)
"It is my opinion that true change cannot happen - whether for an individual or for a society - without addressing the fundamental question of 'Who am I?' At the deepest level." -Eckhart Tolle
From Gabor Mate in his book: "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts."
"It is not what we do that has the greatest impact, but who we are being as we do it: loving parent or prosecutor - friend or judge?
Who are you?
"It is not what we do that has the greatest impact, but who we are being as we do it: loving parent or prosecutor - friend or judge?" - Gabor Mate from his book, "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts"
"A tree gives glory to God by being a tree. For in being what God means it to be it is obeying." - Thomas Merton
"It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not
Lao Tzu
"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. If you realize you have enough, you are truly rich."
It is typical of the people who think they can attain justice through the rigid and rigorous observance of the law. Generally, they are people who are afraid, who do not have the courage to assume the risk of liberty and of responsibility. They hide themselves behind the law and authority. When these people obtain an important function, they become harsh and insensitive and indifferent to hide their own imperfection. Lectio Divina: Saturday, August 25, 2018
"Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig." - Marcus Aurelius
Look Within
"Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig." - Marcus Aurelius
"THE PERSONS WHO TRY TO DO SOMETHING WORTHWHILE AND FAIL ARE INFINITELY CLOSER TO FULFILLMENT THAN THOSE WHO TRY TO DO NOTHING AND SUCCEED." Fr. Mike Hussey, OMI
"Much will be required of the person entrusted with much, and still more will be demanded of the person entrusted with more." Luke 12:48
Great quote attributed to St. Francis, but not by him. It illustrates The importanceof the work we do during our lives!
"Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words."
"Never confuse activity with productivity. You can be busy without a purpose, but what's the point?" Rick Warren (33).
"Purpose always produces passion. Nothing energizes like a clear purpose. On the other hand, passion dissipates when you lack a purpose...It is usually meaningless work, not overwork, that wears us down, saps our strength, and robs our joy." Rick Warren (33)
Jesus said in Luke 17:21
"The Kingdom of God is within You!"
David Viscott derived quote on life purpose
"The purpose of life is to discover your gift; the meaning of life is giving it away."
David Viscott full quote on life' purpose
"The purpose of life is to discover your gift; the work of life is to develop it; and the meaning of life is to give your gift away." — David Viscott.
Gabor Mate
"The road to hell is not paved with good intentions; it is paved with the lack of intention."
"Until we have met the monsters in ourselves, we keep trying to slay them in the outer world. And we find that we cannot. For all darkness in the world stems from darkness in the heart. And it is there that we must do our work." ― Marianne Williamson
"The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why." —Mark Twain
You may not want to know yourself because you are afraid of what you might find out. Page 192 a new Earth Eckhart Tolle
"The world always makes sure that you cannot fool yourself for long about who you really think you are by showing you what truly matters to you." — A New Earth (Oprah #61): Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle https://a.co/6LBLP71
When learning about oneself, have the client make a manual. In this manual, include a daily, weekly, monthly, etc. inventory about each topic. Make it a systems approach.
"There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." Carl Yung
Monsignor James Vlaun
"There's no vacation from your vocation!"
Identify where people are at in regards to getting help: self-help or outside help, individual coaching, group work, therapy. Use Prochaskas model
"Though I know I'm not perfect, I am more than good enough when I keep reaching to be the best I can be." Sarah's self esteem book
~Eckhart Tolle
"To recognize one's own insanity is, of course, the arising of sanity, the beginning of healing and transcendence"
We let the past dictate the future
"Unwittingly, we write the story of our future from narratives based on the past." Gabor Mate In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts.
Who are we? - William Shakespeare
"We know what we are, but know not what we may be." - William Shakespeare
Changing outwardly and inwardly
"What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality" - Plutarch
"How you react to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply you know yourself." — A New Earth (Oprah #61): Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
"Who you are requires no belief. In fact, every belief is an obstacle. It does not even require your realization, since you already are who you are. But without realization, who you are does not shine forth into this world. It remains in the unmanifested which is, of course, your true home.
"Henry David Thoreau observed that people live lives of "quiet desperation" but today a better description would be aimless distraction. Rick Warren (32).
"Without a clear purpose, you will keep changing directions, jobs, relationships, churches, or other externals - hoping each change will settle the confusion or fill the emptiness of your heart. Rick Warren" (32).
Identify what you like and don't like using Wilbur's four quadrant model.
"Your sense of who you are determines what you perceive as your needs and what matters to you in life—and whatever matters to you will have the power to upset and disturb you. You can use this as a criterion to find out how deeply you know yourself. What matters to you is not necessarily what you say or believe, but what your actions and reactions reveal as important and serious to you." — A New Earth (Oprah #61): Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle https://a.co/8jCmkf1
From the Gospel of Thomas
...if you do not know yourselves, then you are in poverty, and you are poverty.
Use Viktor Frankl's Logotherapy to help people find meaning in their lives.
...logotherapy, in comparison with psychoanalysis is a method less retrospective and less introspective. Logotherapy focuses rather on the future, that is to say, on the meanings to be fulfilled by the patient in the future.
There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. 5 There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. 6 There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work... continued
1 Corinthians 12: 4-27
13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing...continued.
1 Corinthians 13: 1-3
Tony Robbin's Six Core Needs can influence what a person does for their vocation or job.
1.Certainty 2.Uncertainty 3.Significance 4.Love/Connection 5.Growth 6.Contribution
"There are five great benefits of living a purpose driven life." -Rick Warren (30)
1.Knowing your purpose gives meaning to your life. 2.Knowing your purpose simplifies your life. 3.Knowing your purpose focuses your life. 4.Knowing your purpose motivates your life. 5.Knowing your purpose prepares you for eternity.
When trying to get someone to understanding about finding their spiritual role/passion/etc. there is a progression, process, development, evolution.
1.Understand each person has a passion 2. Seek to find their own passion 3. Develop their passion 4. Practice their passion 5. Continue to practice, refine, and grow it 6. Realize it may grow or change
The Golden Circle - Simon Sinek
1.Why 2.How 3.What in that order. Most companies and people do it in just the opposite order. Examples of Apple, MLK, Wright Brothers
Hebrews - Paul 23Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.
25And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.
COR 12:4-11 4There are different kinds of spiritual gifts, but the same Spirit is the source of them all. 5There are different kinds of service, but we serve the same Lord.
6God works in different ways, but it is the same God who does the work in all of us. 7A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other.
Use the flower diagram in the Parachute book to identify what you like and don't like.
Begin keeping track of what you don't like - people, places, and things.
When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in your life. Nobody can even have an argument with you, no matter how hard he or she tries. You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person. An argument implies identification with your mind and a mental position, as well as resistance and reaction to the other person's position. The result is that the polar opposites become mutually energized. These are the mechanics of unconsciousness. You can still make your point clearly and firmly, but there will be no reactive force behind it, no defense or attack. So it won't turn into drama. When you are fully conscious, you cease to be in conflict. "No one who is at one with himself can even conceive of conflict," states A Course in Miracles. This refers not only to conflict with other people but more fundamentally to conflict within you, which ceases when there is no longer any clash between the demands and expectations of your mind and what is. Eckhart Tolle the power of now 182
Differentiate between "you" - who you are- and your life situation-what's going on in your life. You have limited control of your life situation, but 100% control of who you are! Based on ET teachings.
1 Peter 4: 10
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God's grace in its various forms.
To begin to learn who you are, start noting your energy gainers and drainers.
Energy is one of the strongest indicators of who you are.
I built this mother****er - Tony Robbins
Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is stupid. Albert Einstein
Define who you are by the roles you play. Then expand them further.
Expand the role by giving subroles. An example would be with the role of father, which is the value, would be the sub role of being the glue that holds the family together, which is the belief. The rule would be that you keep everyone talking and engaged.
"There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." - Nelson Mandela
Finding meaning and passion in your life is like the parable of Jesus with the yeast with the wheat and the mustard seed. It is finding Jesus within yourself and all the energy that comes from that.
"What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
For where your treasure is, there also will your heart be. Mathew 6:21
Five regrets of the dying
Guide you as you plan your future
You are then like an apparently poor person who does not know he has a bank account with $ 100 million in it and so his wealth remains an unexpressed potential." — A New Earth (Oprah #61): Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle https://a.co/7Y2ZV7P
Have people list challenging times from their past and reflect on what their actions tell about themselves. That's who they are and what scares them and is going to affect their future. A time they were scared, angry, lonely, self doubt, etc. Use the wheel of life.
We must do what we are designed to do because if we don't, we create negative energy in the world. Eckhart Tolle talks about this in "A New Earth"
I chose you from the world, to go and bear fruit that will last, says the Lord. John 15:16
Go through and identify energy levels for yourself in the Wheel of Life and Spheres - and within each... breaking them down into smaller pieces.
Identify and rank the emotions you most like and least like to experience.
If you don't know yourself, how can you please yourself or others?
Identify, define, name your weaknesses - from Verbal Judo!
"In the seeing of who you are not, the reality of who you are emerges by itself." — A New Earth (Oprah #61): Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
If you don't know who you are, it is very easy to be swayed into someone you are not supposed to be.
We all have different gifts Romans 12, 4 - 8 For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.
If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with youra faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,b do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
One of the most dangerous forms of human error is forgetting what one is trying to achieve. -Paul Nitze
In the Gospel LK 3:10-15 John the Baptist gives hands on instructions about how to live. The crowds asked, "What should we do?" John replied, "If you have two shirts, give one to the poor. If you have food, share it with those who are hungry."
"What we Achieve Inwardly will Change Outer Reality" - Plutarch.
Inner transformation is not a matter of faith or prayer. It involves reason and the use of human intelligence. A calm and healthy mind has a very positive effect on our physical health and well-being. - Dali Lama
Edmund Hillary
It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.
George Eliot
It's Never Too Late To Be What You Might Have Been
Make a list of things that upset and disturb you and prioritize them. Then identify what emotions you are experiencing when these things are happening. After this, unpack each one and flesh them out. What is it about this upsets and disturbs you.
Keep asking "Why" and "What would that mean" to get it down to the most base level. Then relate if this is something inside yourself that you are seeing in others.
When we don't know who we are we are unhappy because we just try to fit into a role we think we ought to be and this causes more unhappiness because it is not who we are, much like fitting in as compared to belonging with Brene Brown's work.
Knowing who you are can be compared to what kind of food you like or growing a plant. There is no right or wrong answer; it just depends on what you naturally like and need to thrive.
Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching Look to achievement for satisfaction and you will never be satisfied. Look to riches for contentment and you will never be content. Look to possessions for happiness and you will never be happy.
Look to position for security and you will never be secure. Appreciate what you have. Rejoice in how things are. You lack nothing when you realize—there is nothing lacking.
Identify who you are by using Tony Robbin's Six Human Needs.
Most of us really don't know who we are. We don't know if we are our emotions, behaviors, looks, etc. because we are always trying to fit in and fit in to someone else's pattern.
Happiness is a symptom or result of doing something you love: just like sadness is the result or symptom of doing something you hate.
My feelings set me free, where my thoughts had held me in bondage. AA Reflection June 19, 2017
"Finding yourself" is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you." ― Emily McDowell
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?
Parable of the Talents - Mathew 25: 14 - 30
Parable of the slaves, who when their master left were given each a measure of responsibility and two of them double theirs, but the one just buried his, is an example of how it is our God directed responsibility to use what gifts we are given to help others.
Tony Robbins who are you?
People know what they want (physical things), but they don't know who they are (Derived from Tony Robbin's AGW).
Use Bronnie Ware's Top Five Regrets of the dying to reinforce someone doing what they should do to be true to themselves.
Philippians 2:12 Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. 13For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.
Logotherapy is based on an existential analysis focusing on Kierkegaard's will to meaning as opposed to Adler's Nietzschean doctrine of will to power or Freud's will to pleasure.
Rather than power or pleasure, logotherapy is founded upon the belief that it is the striving to find a meaning in one's life that is the primary, most powerful motivating and driving force in humans.
The Holy Spirit is the energy we need that supports us to fulfill God's greatest commandment: the work we are called to do. The spirit works through us to do God's work.
Spirit is energy. Like electricity you can't put it in bag, but if you get in its way, you know it. (Derived from Fr. James Vlaun reflection 5/15/17)
"Faith leads to action." Father Luke Ballman July 8, 17 Reflection. Means that first people have to believe before they will take action. People have to believe in what you have to offer before they will do something.
Success is knowing what your values are and living in a way consistent with your values. - Danny Cox
"I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy." ― Rabindranath Tagore
The many different spheres of or lives: Transcendental, Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, Physical, Interpersonal, Social, Faith, Meaning, Financial, Political, Motivational, Locus of control, Acceptance, Behavioral
Dan Ryan quote about people in society not knowing who they are.
There appears to be such worry, anxiousness, and sadness in Society today... Because most people really don't know what they want... Because they don't really know who they are!
"...human beings, by changing the inner attitude of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." -William James
There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. Nelson Mandela
Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life. Confucius
There is no vacation from a vocation." Monsignor James Vlaun (10/30/17 Reflection).
your emotions reveal who you are - especially your subconscious
Truth-telling is a spiritual discipline that requires practice. We must not lie to others and, as Fyodor Dostoevsky suggested, we mustn't lie to ourselves. Being honest with ourselves about ourselves is to love ourselves unconditionally, to love ourselves fiercely. Cac Email
"'Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?' asked Alice. 'That depends a good deal on where you want to get to', said the Cheshire Cat. 'I don't much care where -', said Alice. 'Then it doesn't matter which way you go!', said the Cat." ― The Cheshire Cat, Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Use Brene Brown's concept of fitting in verses belonging to help people distinguish the difference between doing a job they don't like - fitting in, as opposed to a job they do like - belonging.
"We know what we are, but not what we may be" William Shakespeare
Use Brene Brown's terms of "Belonging":really being true to yourself
Use La Miserable as an example of someone trying to find themselves. Use Lawrence of Arabia: "Who are you" scene in the desert.
Use Viktor Frankls: "Mans search for meaning" as an example of finding themselves.
Even corrupt tax collectors came to be baptized and asked, "Teacher, what should we do?" He replied, "Collect no more taxes than the government requires." "What should we do?" asked some soldiers. John replied, "Don't extort money or make false accusations. And be content with your pay.
Use story of beggar finding gold in the box he was sitting on from Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now introduction.
When we try to use just willpower to solve a recurring challenging problem, we are just resisting and making it worse because willpower focuses on the symptoms of the problem, not the cause. We are just fighting or resisting the problem. In the end, this just reinforces our learned helplessness and self limiting beliefs because it reinforces the failure of our willpower! Brooke Castillo concept from "Stop Tolerating" Episode 305
We are searching to satisfy our need for contribution, connection, and creating by consuming, and this never satisfies our needs! Concept from Brooke Castillo "Stop Tolerating" Episode 305
Most of us have never really asked who we are. We do not know our own beliefs and values that is why we are all over the place with who we are.
We must take the time to learn who we are, what be believe in, our values, what we like and what we don't like.
Richard Bolles who are you?
We need ... to unlearn the idea that our mission is primarily to keep busy doing something and learn instead that our mission is first of all to keep busy being something (WCP Loc. 4630)
"Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig." - Marcus Aurelius
We need to find vision that leads to action! Vision that leads us to service. Monsignor James Vlaun (6/5/17 Relfection)
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianna Williamson
"If you had all the money you wanted and you had done everything you yourself wanted to do, what would you do for others?" Dan October 4, 2019
What are the things that upset or disturb you? These are the things that are important to you? If small things disturb you, you must have be a small person and have a big ego.
Abraham Maslow
What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen. Quotations from Ralph Waldo Emerson
What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen. Quotations from Ralph Waldo Emerson
Brene Brown who are you?
What we know matters, but who we are matters more (Brene Brown "Daring Greatly)
The Mississippi River paradox There's no water in that river that was there ten years ago. The boundaries have shifted in that time as well, there's no riverbank that's exactly where it was. And the silt and the fish have all moved too. So, what's "the Mississippi River"? It's a label, a placeholder, and a marker-when the Mississippi does something we don't expect it to do, we comment on it. People are like this as well. What if you could only be known for the best (or the worst) thing you ever did? You're not that person now, and it's likely you'll never be that person again. But that's the label we gave you. When we talk about the organization or the brand or that neighbor down the street, we act as these are immutable objects, basic unchanging elements or static facts. But like rivers, people change. When the label stops being useful, we should change it. The problem with holding a grudge is that it makes y
When the label stops being useful, we should change it. The problem with holding a grudge is that it makes your hands too full to do anything useful. - Seth Godin
Rick Warren what's your purpose?
Without a clear purpose you have no foundation on which you base decisions, allocate your time, and use your resources. You will tend to make choices based on circumstances, pressures, and your mood at that moment. People who don't know their purpose try to do too much - and that causes stress, fatigue, and conflict. From Purpose Driven Life page 31
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." ― George Bernard Shaw
You ask for something but do not get it because you ask for it for the wrong reason—for your own pleasure. James 4:3
Don't live from the outside in. Live from the inside out! John Aitken Faith Center Paducah
You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you, and allowing that goodness to emerge. -Eckhart Tolle New Earth
on remembering who we are. we are heir to the laws that govern the world we identify in. if we think of ourselves as only being of the mortal world, then the laws of scarcity and death that rule this world, will rule us. if we think of ourselves as children of god, whose real home lies any realm of awareness beyond this world, then we will find we are under no laws but god's.
are sense of who we are determines our behavior. if we think we're small, limited, inadequate creatures, then we tend to behave that way, and the energy we radiate reflects those thoughts. if we think we're spiritual beings with an infinite abundance of love and power to bring to the world, then we tend to behave that way. who we think we are determines what we do; what we do then determines what we experience; and what we experience then determines our suffering or joy. it's hard to overestimate the importance of remembering who we are. -Marianne Williamson a year of miracles day 250
"That is why I speak of a will to meaning in contrast to the pleasure principle or, as we could also term it, the will to pleasure, on which Freudian psychoanalysis is centered,
as well as in contrast to the will to power on which Adlerian psychology, using the term "striving for superiority," is focused." Victor Frankl
Luke 17:21 New King James Version (NKJV)
nor will they say, 'See here!' or 'See there!' For indeed, the kingdom of God is within you."
Use our actions to understand who we are. Go through imaginary scenarios can a person write what they would do in each situation. Then, go to their past and look for examples demonstrating the same values to demonstrate who this person is.Use this to identify who a person is and to Define their beliefs and values.
work our actions backwards to learn Who We Are. psych using ctfar
you're doing reveals who you are - pastor John Aiken
you're thinking reveals who you are
