Aranged marriages

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" He started to laugh, nastily. "I repeat, you are my wife! now you must do what i want. Got that?" pg 77

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" In khardji, life had become impossible. Tortured by shame and pain, I suffered in silence." pg 89

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" My divorce has changed my life. I dont cry anymore. My bad dreams are starting to go away, i feel stronger." pg 129

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"All those things HE made me endure, day after day, night after night- whom could I ask for help?" pg 89

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"Everyone has their different things they want: what kind of family they come from, the lineage, are they wealthy, are they good-looking," Frankel says. "Everything is checked out, and if it's something that they don't like then the match is off."

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"Five days passed, five difficult days during which i kept running into walls. My father brothers and uncles would never listen to me." pg 98

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"I'd barely open my eyes when i felt a damp, hairy body pressing against me. Someone had blown out the lamp,leaving the room pitch dark. It was HIM!" pg 75-76

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"The people we end up married to or partnered up with end up being similar to us in race, religion and class background and age, which means that they might not be all that different from the person that your mother would have picked for you."

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"Who was he, actually? Why had he wanted to marry me?" pg. 65

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"suddenly it was as if I'd been snatched up by a hurricane, flung around, struck by lightening, and i had no more strength to fight back." pg 77

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A good thing about arranged marriages is that both families are there to help support them in everyway.

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About 60-80% of arranged marriages in Afghanistan are forced.

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Although arranged marriages are no longer common in Europe, they are still a frequently used method of matchmaking in other areas today

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An ageless tradition, arranged marriages have long since been a part of eastern society

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An arranged marriage is the union of a man and a woman which is brought about by someone other than the bride and groom.

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Arranged marriages also existed in the United States in the 1700 and 1800's hundreds

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Arranged marriages are based on caste, horoscope matching, social status, and ego.

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Arranged marriages are culturally acceptable in the Afghan culture, and women are seldom given the choice to decline an arranged marriage

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Arranged marriages are harder on younger children, because they get abused more.

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Arranged marriages are influenced by religon and tradition.

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Arranged marriages are more common in different countries, such as Japan.

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Arranged marriages happen in different ways for different societies and culture. Some families arrange the marriage the moment the children are born. Others wait until the woman is old enough to bear children, which is usually around 13 to 14 years old. Others do it to consolidate political or financial power

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Arranged marriages happened more commen in the 17 and 1800's, rather than today.

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Arranged marriages has increased in the United States over time.

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Arranged marriages have moved beyond their traditional base and are becoming a small but growing trend in the US

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Arranged marriages is most common in India today.

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Arranged marriages sometimes lead to abuse, espicially on women.

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Arranged marriages usually last a long time

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Arranged marriages were common as far back as Biblical times and beyond.

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Arranged marriages were hard on young noblewomen in times when travel was difficult.

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Arranged marriages, and parents, almost always require that the married persons should be of the same caste. Sometimes inter-caste marriage is one of the principal reasons of familial rejection or anger with the marriage.

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At a time which was deemed appropriate, the young bride was sent away to live in a foreign land with a man whom she had never met.

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Average divorce rate globally on arrangedarriages is 4%

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Global divorce rate for arranged marriages is 6%

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If the wife didnt give birth to a son, they would keep trying untill they had a son.

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In an "introduction only" arranged marriage, the parents may only introduce their son or daughter to a potential spouse.

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In arranged marriages it is the parents that decide and they offer an unbiased opinion on the character of the couple. They know what will be good or bad for their child.

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In arranged marriages, the couples have to separate themselves from this wonderful emotion, unless they actually manage to fall in love with one another.

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In some arranged marriages, some women get abused on a daily basis.

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In some cases, marriages were arranged when the daughters were just babies.

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In some countries, arranged marriages are called 'pragmatic marriages'

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It is true that only a few arranged marriages end in divorce, but is the reason really the arranged marriage itself or the fact that in more traditional and conservative societies, people usually don't get divorced anyway and stay within the marriage hoping to work things out.

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It is very hard to get a divorce in arranged marriages, sometimes because the parents wont let you.

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It is very rare that you can get a divorce in arranged marriages, because the father will not let you because in some counrties, the father can get shot.

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Its very sacred that parents marry off their children to good families.

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More arranged marriages are planned.

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Not all arranges marriages are forced, some parents may let their child marry someone they like.

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Now days, Japan does the most arranged marriages.

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Orthodox Jews in the United States are known for arranging marriages, with some parents using professional matchmakers.

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Other groups that practice this custom include the Unification Church and Hasidic Judaism. It should not be confused with the practice of forced marriage. Arranged marriages are usually seen in Indian, Southeast Asian and African cultures, especially among royalty, and are usually set up by the parents or an older family member.

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Some arranged marriages turn out to be good and dont end up being divorced, because they share similarities.

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Some girls who are forced into marriage end up running away.

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Some marriages are forced because the parent likes the significant other.

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Some parents think its best for their child to go through an arranged marriage.

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Some people view arranged marriages as backward and wholly unnecessary, especially in this age where women are treated, or at least fighting to be, equal with men

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Sometimes arranged marriages can lead to a very happy marriage.

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Sometimes arranged marriages do not last at all due to the lack of not knowing each other very well.

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Sometimes it can lead to death, because of abuse.

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The bride and groom are selected by the third pary

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The children, that are supposed to get married, have no opinion on the matter, often meeting his or her future spouse just before the wedding or even at the wedding day itself. The precise lack of choice is the downside of arranged marriages

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The families decide everything, the boy and girl really have no say.

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The general belief is that arranged marriages in Muslim religions are very restrictive and encroach on the personal freedoms of women

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The main argument for arranged marriages is that they offer security and stability.

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The religious and spiritual beliefs can play a large role in finding a suitable spouse

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The traditional purposes of these types of unions were political, military, and social

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The wifes parents couldnt do a thing about it if the husbabnd beat the wife, because they would be killed.

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There are significantly fewer divorces or separations between people of arranged marriages.

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There is another difference between traditional and modern arranged marriages, which is that in contemporary arranged marriages, efforts are made to ensure that the bride and groom are compatible

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This highlights a critical difference between love marriages and arranged marriages, which is that an arranged marriage is more of a practical partnership than a romantic fantasy

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Usually in arranged marriages they do not meet their soulmate untill the day of marriage.

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Usually in arranged marriages, the parents make sure their child is okay with their choosing of the spouse.

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Usually more wealthy families arrange the arranged marriages.

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Young girls were often promised to the sons of neighboring countries as a way of forming international partnerships

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abuse is more common in arranged marriages, because they are forced to marry someone they dont know.

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arranged marriages were more common in the 1900's , than they are today.

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in arranged marriages, men usually have all control

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most arranged marriages lead to divorce.

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one of the chief goals of arranged marriage was to keep royal bloodlines pure