Exploring Marriages & Families Ch. 4

Lee's Styles of Love

A categorization of six types of love that describe how couples are attracted to one another.

Dowry

A financial gift given to a woman's prospective in-laws by her parents.

Controlling the development of Love

A macro-level perspective on love suggesting that all societies control or channel love.

Courtly Love

A poetic style of the Middle Ages when poets or troubadours would write songs of unrequited love and present them at the court of their aristocratic/royal masters.

Love

A strong affection for one another arising out of kinship or personal ties; attraction based on sexual desire; and affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.

Attachment Theory

A theory describing that the way in which infants form attachments early in life will affect relationships throughout later life.

Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

A theory that sees love as having three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Companionate Love

A type of love that grows over time, based on strong commitment, friendship, and trust.

Romantic Love

A type of love that is characterized by passion, melodrama, and excitement, and is seen commonly in media.

Agape

Altruistic, kind, patient.

Avoidant Attachment

An attachment type where infants show little attachment to their primary parent; 15% of children.

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment

An attachment where infants become nervous when their parents leave the room and may show rejection when the parent returns; 15% of children.

Sociobiology Perspective of Love

An evolutionary theory that all humans have an instinctive impulse to pass on their genetic material. (ex: Women seek out men who are older, larger, and a higher status to protect and support the family, while men look for younger women because they are the most fertile).

Secure Attachment

Attachment where infants feel safe when their mothers are out of sight; 65% of children.

Storge

Companionate, mutual love, respect, trust.

Stalking

Conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to be fearful.

Fatuous Love

Full of passion and commitment, but little intimacy (such as people marrying very early).

Romantic Love (Sternberg's Love Types)

Intense, full of passion and intimacy.

Rational Jealousy

Jealousy based off of real rival threats.

Irrational Jealousy

Jealousy that truly doesn't exist, and is caused by our own insecurities about ourselves and our relationships.

Mania

Obsessive, possessive, intense.

Eros

Passionate, strong physical attraction.

Empty Love

People who stay together solely because of commitment.

Ludus

Playful, carefree, casual.

Pragma

Practical, sensible.

Infatuated Love

Relationships full of passion, but once passion fades there is no intimacy or commitment.

Cyberstalking (Electronic Monitoring)

Stalking contact using electronic technology.

Feminization of Love

The process beginning in the 19th century in which love became associated with the private work of women in the home, namely, nurturing and caring for family members.

Biochemical Perspective of Love

Theories that suggest humans are attracted to certain types of people, at which point the brain releases natural chemicals that give us a rush we experience as sexual attraction. (ex: Chemicals that are natural amphetamines such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine).

Nonlove

There is little to no intimacy, passion, or commitment.

Liking

These relationships are intimate, such as a good friendship.

Companionate Love

These relationships characterize long-term couples, sharing intimacy and commitment.

Reiss's Wheel Theory of Love

1. Building rapport 2. Self-revelation 3. Mutual dependency 4. Personality need fulfillment

Ways the Development of Love is Controlled

1. Child Marriage 2. Kinship Rules 3. Segregation of young people 4. Close supervision 5. Relative Freedom

Types of Stalking Behavior

1. Making unwanted telephone calls 2. Sending unwanted letters or emails 3. Following or spying on the victim 4. Showing up at places without legitimate reason 5. Waiting places for the victim 6. Leaving unwanted presents 7. Posting info or spreading rumors about the victim

Unrequited Love

When one person's feelings are not reciprocated by the other person in the relationship.

Consummate Love

When relationships contain passion, intimacy, and commitment.