Family Relations Chapter 9

In 2005, what percentage of American women were living without a spouse? A. 51% B. 49% C. 35% D. 96%

A. 51%

Which of the following kinds of love lacks intimacy, according to Sternberg? A. Fatuous love. B. Consummate love. C. Companionate love. D. Romantic love.

A. Fatuous love.

Ursula is in family therapy and her therapist has asked that she stop playing the "if you really love me, you'll know what I want" game in her romantic relationship. Her therapist is asking her to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games? A. Naming the game. B. Making implicit rules explicit. C. Unveiling game strategies. D. Identifying disguised objectives.

A. Naming the game.

In regards to Olson's Tapestry of Love, which of the following is not a trait of love? A. Real love is immediate. B. Love is often blind. C. Giving love is receiving love. D. Love changes over time.

A. Real love is immediate.

Open communication in _____ doses and with good intentions, can enhance a relationship and lead to greater intimacy. A. appropriate B. small C. large D. highly-disclosive

A. appropriate

In Sternberg's Love Triangle, ____ is the cognitive attachment to another person that develops over time. A. commitment B. intimacy C. passion D. love

A. commitment

The area showing the lowest significant agreement among the following areas in happily and unhappily married couples was A. conflict resolution. B. personality issues. C. sexual relations. D. financial management.

A. conflict resolution.

Marital therapists often ask their clients to _____ the number of daily compliments they give their partners in a week. A. double B. triple C. reduce by half D. maintain

A. double

Which constructive intimacy game involves focusing on the positives rather than the negatives and on giving rather than receiving? A. giving compliments B. asking for what you want directly C. encouraging your partner to be honest D. self-disclosing

A. giving compliments

The ENRICH Inventory is used by couples who want to: A. improve their relationship. B. get divorced. C. take stock of their possessions. D. learn more about their friends and family.

A. improve their relationship.

In an intimate _____, we have the expectation that intimacy will continue over time. A. relationship B. experience C. disclosure D. all of these.

A. relationship

The Fabric of Friendship developed by Davis includes which three characteristics? A. respect, enjoyment, spontaneity B. fascination, exclusiveness, sexual desire C. enjoyment, exclusiveness, sexual desire D. fascination, spontaneity, sexual desire

A. respect, enjoyment, spontaneity

In the United States, it was during the __________ century that the position of unmarried people began to change from living with their families or with another family as a servant, to a wage-earner. A. 18th (i.e., the 1700s) B. 19th (i.e., the 1800s) C. 20th (i.e., the 1900s) D. 21st (i.e., 2000 until the present)

B. 19th (i.e., the 1800s)

_____ focuses on how children develop attachment to their caregivers usually their parents in infancy? A. The caring cluster B. Attachment Theory C. ENRICH D. Singlehood

B. Attachment Theory

Which component of Sternberg's love triangle is characterized by a mature relationship in which most areas are open for discussion and sharing? A. Commitment. B. Intimacy. C. Passion. D. Exclusivity.

B. Intimacy.

Talia and her family are in family therapy and the therapist has asked that to reduce conflict she should be direct in her requests and expression of needs from others. Her therapist is asking her to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games? A. Naming the game. B. Making implicit rules explicit. C. Unveiling game strategies. D. Identifying disguised objectives.

B. Making implicit rules explicit.

Speaking about married people in the U.S. in general (not any particular married couple): The relationship between marriage and intimacy is A. congruous. B. a paradox. C. a triangle. D. patrilineal.

B. a paradox.

In Sternberg's Love Triangle, _____ involves providing emotional support and sharing feelings. A. commitment B. intimacy C. passion D. love

B. intimacy

Which of the following is NOT a way to destroy destructive intimacy games in families? A. reveal game strategies B. make goals and objectives realistic C. name the game D. make the implicit rules explicit

B. make goals and objectives realistic

In Colonial America, all of the following were true of unmarried individuals EXCEPT A. they were seen as out of the mainstream of social custom. B. they were not considered to be fully independent until age thirty. C. they usually lived in some kind of family environment. D. they remained dependent on others until marriage.

B. they were not considered to be fully independent until age thirty.

Marriage provides intimacy on a permanent basis A. when the partners enter the marriage to escape loneliness. B. when both partners work to make it happen. C. when both partners have a high level of self-disclosure to one another. D. when both partners are happy.

B. when both partners work to make it happen.

In the Tapestry of Love, Amy and David Olson identified _____ traits of love that are common in our culture. A. 4 B. 8 C. 10 D. 15

C. 10

According to Sternberg's Love Triangle, _____ occurs when an individual is committed based on passion, but not yet having developed genuine intimacy. A. Companionate love. B. Romantic love. C. Fatuous love. D. Infatuation.

C. Fatuous love.

Maria and Landon have been dating long distance for two years. They are in love and plan on getting married. They are mutually exclusive and passionate. According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love? A. Companionate love. B. Romantic love. C. Fatuous love. D. Liking.

C. Fatuous love.

Sara and Guillermo have been dating for a while, they are passionate, mutually exclusive and intimate with each other. According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love? A. Companionate love. B. Romantic love. C. Fatuous love. D. Consummate love.

C. Fatuous love.

Generally speaking, what is the relationship between communication and intimacy? A. High self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy to occur. B. To have intimacy with a relationship partner, you should share all of your feelings with that person. C. High self-disclosure can actually damage a close relationship. D. High self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy to occur and to have intimacy with a relationship partner, you should share all of your feelings with that person.

C. High self-disclosure can actually damage a close relationship.

Which of the following statements about jealousy is FALSE? A. Jealousy can create a vicious cycle of greater and greater jealousy. B. Jealousy is seen by therapists as a self-defeating emotion. C. Jealousy is caused by the other person in the relationship. D. Jealousy can be triggered by both internal and external causes.

C. Jealousy is caused by the other person in the relationship.

In regards to Olson's Tapestry of Love, which of the following statements about traits of love is correct? A.Because of the changing nature of language, by the 2000s we have sufficient words in the English language to describe love. B. The phrase "love is blind" is erroneous. C. Love-based marriages are more fragile than arranged marriages. D. Once it is firmly established during early marriage, love tends to remain unchanged.

C. Love-based marriages are more fragile than arranged marriages.

Which component of Sternberg's love triangle has to do with motivation? A. Commitment. B. Intimacy. C. Passion. D. Exclusivity.

C. Passion.

Intimacy, commitment, and passion are components of which of the following theories? A. Davis and Todd's Passion Cluster. B. Davis and Todd's Caring Cluster. C. Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. D. Davis and Todd's Fabric of Friendship.

C. Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

Hugo is in family therapy and his therapist has asked that he stop sullenly withdrawing from arguments. His therapist is asking him to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games? A. Naming the game. B. Making implicit rules explicit. C. Unveiling game strategies. D. Identifying disguised objectives.

C. Unveiling game strategies.

All of the following are important areas for developing and maintaining an intimate relationship EXCEPT A. appropriate communication skills. B. good conflict resolution. C. different personalities, because "opposites attract." D. couple flexibility.

C. different personalities, because "opposites attract."

It appears that the strongest love relationships have roots in A. exogamy. B. courtship. C. friendship. D. heterogeneity.

C. friendship.

Males gain greater _____ through doing things together. A. bonding B. friendship C. intimacy D. self-disclosure

C. intimacy

An emotional response to real or perceived threat to a valued relationship is termed: A. double jeopardy. B. the principle of least interest. C. jealousy. D. the Triangle of Love.

C. jealousy.

In Sternberg's Love Triangle, _____ is the motivational component. A. commitment B. intimacy C. passion D. love

C. passion

In the "I Don't Care, You Decide" game, A. the initiator usually knows that the other person will make the "wrong" decision. B. the initiator truly does not care what the decision is. C. the initiator wants to avoid responsibility for what may be a poor decision. D. the initiator begins by asking a direct question.

C. the initiator wants to avoid responsibility for what may be a poor decision.

In a study using ENRICH, which of the following distinguishes happy and unhappy couples? A. Communication B. Closeness C. Flexibility D. All of the Above

D. All of the Above

The Fabric of Friendship developed by Davis includes which of the following fabrics of friendship? A. Trust B. Spontaneity C. Respect D. All of the Above

D. All of the Above

Attachment Theory: A. provides a context for romantic relationships and marriage. B. may provide explanations for happy and unhappy relationships. C. is a relatively new theory of study. D. All of the Above.

D. All of the Above.

Wren and Tariq like each other but have not had sexual relations and both are dating other people on and off. According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love? A. Companionate love. B. Romantic love. C. Fatuous love. D. Liking.

D. Liking.

Generally speaking, which of the following groups are included under the term "single"? A. widowed people B. divorced people C. never-married people D. all of these

D. all of these

Intimate experiences include A. emotional intimacy B. social intimacy C. sexual intimacy D. all of these

D. all of these

Seen as a self-defeating emotion, jealousy typically leads to feelings of: A. envy. B. suspicion. C. possessiveness. D. all of these

D. all of these

Zero-sum games A. are helpful in relationships because neither partner wins nor loses. B. are dangerous in relationships because the same person always wins. C. are helpful in relationships because both partners must cooperate in order to keep the sum at zero. D. are dangerous in relationships because there is always a winner and a loser.

D. are dangerous in relationships because there is always a winner and a loser.

One piece of advice for singles is to A. work more hours. B. quit whining. C. get married. D. develop a network of people with whom to share social activities.

D. develop a network of people with whom to share social activities.

In 18th- and 19th-century America, not marrying was usually due to A. social circumstances. B. economic realities. C. personal choice. D. social circumstances and economic realities.

D. social circumstances and economic realities.