Lifespan Ch. 16

What are remarriage rates like over 40?

75-80%

What is common couple violence?

either male of female could be perpetrator doesn't lead to serious injury argument gets out of hand

What are the two types of relational abuse?

intimate partner (patriarchal) terrorism common couple violence

What happens to moms when children leave home?

it is a prime time for women to get involved in the community and have time for themselves

Why divorce?

less time together less stigma more emphasis on personal life sexual passion subsides

What is empty nest syndrome?

martial satisfaction declines after children leave home for most parents, marital satisfaction does not decline after children have left home bur increases

How to keep a marriage alive?

men need to show they care by giving affirmation or helping with housework and avoiding the 4 horsemen

When do divorce rates increase?

over 50

What happens to a marriage after children?

satisfaction is a steady, downward slide it declines after childbirth and some will rebound after children leave home but most do not

Define "boomerang" children.

young adults who come back to live with parents due to jobs, later marriage, finances men more than women

What is Helson's Mills College Study?

-a longitudinal investigation of adult personality development -studied 132 seniors at Mills College in California and studied them again in their 30's,40's and 50's -3 main groups distinguished: family oriented, career oriented and neither -concluded that women do not experience a midlife crisis but midlife consciousness

What are the 3 prominent meanings attached to being a grandparent?

1. a source of biological reward and continuity 2. a source of emotional self fulfillment 3. a remote role

What are the 3 reasons men initiated divorce (AARP)?

1. no obvious problem, just fell out of love 2. cheating 3. different values, lifestyles

What are the 3 reasons women initiated divorce (AARP)?

1. verbal, physical or emotional abuse 2. alcohol or drug use 3. cheating

Less than ___ of women remarry

33% lived an entire life of care taking, they are ready to rest

Define generativity.

Generatively is when you consider contributing to family, community, work or society- to further generations, to further world, etc.

What is Erikson's stage for personality development in middle adulthood?

Generativity v. Stagnation

Who initiated a study on men having a "midlife crisis"?

Levison

How is Levison different from Erikson?

Levison believed that men would ditch family, find a younger girlfriend and buy a motorcycle

What cultural group is closest to grandchildren?

Mexican american grandparents

Do women experience a crisis?

No

Do women suffer from empty nest syndrome?

No

Define distant parenting.

a large portion grandparents are benevolent but interaction is infrequent

Define AARP study.

about 1500 40-79 year olds were surveyed who had been through a divorce at least once main reason for staying in marriage: kids found reasons why men/women divorced

What are the 3 styles of grandparenting?

formal, fun seeking, distant

How to keep passion?

go away for weekend try new stuff buy books take up new activities together

Which grandparent has more contact with the child?

grandmother

What is the sandwich generation?

in midlife, when an adult must take care of children and their parents

Define fun seeking grandparenting.

the grandparents are informal and playful, a source of leisure activity, mutual satisfaction younger than 65

Define formal grandparenting.

the grandparents showed strong interest in their grandchildren but we careful not to give child-rearing advice over the age of 65 typically

Define "midlife crisis".

uncertainty, indecision, and potentially drastic change most men do not experience this

What is intimate partner terrorism?

usually male perpetrator related to dominance and control putting down self esteem this can escalate and be deadly- especially if women try to leave

Define stagnation.

when you feel that you have done nothing for your next life life is trivial

Who typically initiates divorce?

women men are usually "blindsided"