VectorSolutions Sexual Assault Prevention for Adult Learners

Who can commit sexual harassment?

all of the above

Which of the following is an example of coercive tactics?

both A and B

The best way to get consent in sexual situations is to:

discuss and clearly agree to what each person is comfortable with before any sexual activity

Which of the following are examples of helpful ways of supporting a friend who discloses a harmful experience to you?

none of the above

Repeated, unwanted contact that communicates a threat or makes someone fearful can be referred to as:

stalking

Intentionally keeping your partner from forming or maintaining connections with others is:

emotional abuse

Caitlin says, "I don't know, Riley is just a little intense sometimes. I really shouldn't complain about it, though. He's always making sure he knows where I am in case something happens with the kids, so that's good, right? He's literally always there for me, so it's probably not a big deal for me to just keep him happy. Besides, he does give me money when I need it, especially now that I'm taking classes and there's tuition to pay...and I think work has probably been stressful for him lately, too. He's mentioned that he's afraid he might lose his job.Select the response that most closely matches what you'd say to your friend in this situation. How should you respond?

"It seems like you're having some concerns about Riley. If you want, you can share more of what's going on with me — I won't judge you or Riley. Do you want to talk about this a little more?"

A couple of months go by and you haven't had a chance to see Caitlin. Today, she reaches out and tells you that she needs to talk. You call her and she explains that things are really not going well with Riley.She tells you, "He's getting more and more insistent that he knows about anywhere I go or anyone I'm talking to, and wants me to explain how I'm spending any of 'his' money. He's gotten mad at me for doing things on my own a ton of times, and he's suspicious whenever I talk to someone he doesn't know, or if I even just stop to run a quick errand before going home without letting him know. I feel like I just can't get away from him and he keeps getting mad about everything. I'm worried about what the kids might be seeing of this situation, too. I know I need to talk to him about it, but I know he's going to be so mad and I don't really know what to do."Select the response that most closely matches what you'd say to your friend in this situation. What should you say?

"OK, it sounds like you want to talk to him about this, but you're afraid of how he'll respond, right?"

Brittany and Frances have been married for a number of years. Recently, they went on a weekend trip to celebrate their anniversary. On their last night after dinner, Frances decided to try something new. The next morning, Brittany told Frances, "Last night was great and while we didn't discuss it at the time, it ended up being unexpected and exciting. You know though, one thing I've been thinking ... we've been talking to the kids about verbal consent and how important it is in relationships ... so we should make a habit of following our own advice. Let's make a pact with each other that in the future, we'll talk about things first so that we can be completely sure that we're in agreement about everything and respecting what each other wants. Sound good? What should Frances say?

"I assumed you'd like it; I didn't think we'd need to have a discussion, since we've been together for so long — and if I thought you didn't like it, I would have stopped. But I'm willing to give the 'talking about what we want' thing a try."

Liam and Ivan met through an online dating site and had been seeing one another for a few months when Ivan's ex-girlfriend, Sabrina, reached out to him about getting back together. Ivan told Liam he wanted to try to work out a relationship with Sabrina again, so he and Liam ended their relationship. Since then, Ivan's been running into Liam seemingly everywhere: the grocery store, restaurants around where Ivan works, even the trail Ivan frequently runs during the week. Liam doesn't live or work anywhere near Ivan's neighborhood, so Ivan's pretty sure this isn't just a coincidence. When you see Ivan today, he tells you about what's happening and that he's concerned, but wants to know whether you think it's a big deal or not. What should you say to Ivan?

"Well, you said that you're concerned — do you want to talk more about that?"

You go to a networking mixer with your friend, Jiro. The two of you walk around the room, chatting with different people, and then Jiro separates from you and starts talking to a woman who's standing by herself. After a few minutes, you hear Jiro ask the woman whether she has a boyfriend or not. You look over and the woman looks like she's embarrassed and uncomfortable. Jiro teasingly asks her again and starts trying to guess, saying, "I bet you do — you do, right? I hope you don't, but how could you not?" Then Jiro puts his hand on her arm and says, "It's OK, you don't have to tell me right now if you don't want to. But let's continue the conversation at the place across the street where we can get more comfortable. Do you like steak? They have the best filet ..." How should you respond in this situation?

Walk over to the woman Jiro's talking to and say, "Excuse us — Jiro and I already have plans for dinner! We should get going so we don't miss our reservation, but nice to meet you!" and make sure Jiro walks away with you.

Threatening to share harmful or embarrassing information (or photos) with a partner's parents, friends, or colleagues is an example of relationship abuse.

True

You and your friend Caitlin meet up for lunch over the weekend. You've been looking forward to finally having a chance to get together because the last few times you've had plans, she's canceled at the last minute saying she needed to stay home with her husband, Riley. Just as you sit down, her phone rings. She silences it. Then she immediately gets a text. You ask her if everything is OK, and she says "yes," but looks upset and hands you her phone. You read a message from Riley:Caitlin — you didn't tell me where you were going for lunch. Why not?? I don't deserve to be ignored. Not sure why you do this to me. And besides — why do you think you have to go out to eat all the time? Such a stupid waste of my money.Select the response that most closely matches what you'd say to your friend in this situation. What should you say to Caitlin?

Hmm. How do you feel about that text?

What should you say to Lara?

I am sorry that this happened and I can see that its worrying you. I am glad that you are monitoring her online time. Have you reached out to discuss this with someone who can help, such as an advocate, or considered reporting your concerns to her coach or the police?

Your online course has an official chat forum, but you recently found out another student has created an alternate unmonitored chat group for some members of the class. You ask to join, hoping to get additional lecture notes, and discover the chat group is sharing sexually explicit and threatening comments about your professors. What could you do to address this situation?

Reach out to the professor with an explanation of what you've observed on the discussion board.

Aggression, intimidation, or hostility based on sex or gender stereotyping are types of misconduct that can lead to hostile environment sexual harassment prohibited by Title IX.

True

Refusing to provide agreed-upon financial support related to child support, utility bills, rent, or other essential needs is a form of relationship abuse.

True

You're at the monthly office meeting and your boss announces that your good friend, Heidi, has been promoted. Everyone claps, and you look over to Heidi, who's standing across the room. You see another co-worker, Tanya, excitedly hugging Heidi and grabbing her arm. Heidi looks stiff and awkward, but Tanya doesn't appear to notice. Then Heidi says, "Sorry, um, I'm just not a big hugger." What should you do?

Wait until the meeting ends and ask Heidi if you can chat when it's convenient for her. When you're able to talk privately, let her know that you saw what happened and ask her if she's OK.

An effective strategy for intervening if someone appears to need help is:

all of the above

Title IX of the Education Amendments Act of 1972 requires schools to:

ensure all students have equal access to education

Using a position of power, control, or influence to ask for sexual activity in exchange for some kind of decision or benefit is an example of:

quid pro quo or "this for that" sexual harassment

"Freezing-up" or being unable to move or respond physically during a traumatic event is an example of:

trauma-induced paralysis