7 Habits of highly effective people

Habit 7 - Sharpen the saw

It's the habit of renewal, it surrounds & encompasses all the other habits

The nature of the their energy is positive enlarging and magnifying causing their circle of influence to increase

Proactive people focus their efforts in the circle of influence

Habit 3

Put first things first

Character Ethic

The foundations of success that define _________ _____ -Integrity -Humility -Fidelity -Temperance -Courage -Justice -Patience -Industry -Simplicity -Modesty - & The Golden Rule

The 7 Habits are based upon ___________, ___________ Laws.

Principles, Natural Laws

Habit 6

Synergize

The first 3 Habits constitute the

"Private Victory"

These 3 Habits develop the __________________, effectiveness with others

"Public Victory"

Paradigm

- A mental image of the way things are. -Comes from our backgrounds, experiences -The "map" you have in your mind

4 dimensions of Win-Win

- Character - Relationships - Agreements - Win-Win systems & processes

the 5th level of listening is the heist form which few people ever practice

- Empathic listening

4 autobiographical responses:

- Evaluate - Probe - Advise - Interpret

People listen at one of 4 levels

- Ignoring - Pretending - Selective listening - Attentive listening

Habit 4 - Think Win-Win comes -

- Mutual benefit - Abundance

The 4 dimensions of Renewal

- Physical - Spiritual - Mental - The Social / Emotional

In that space between Stimulus & Response is "Freedom to choose" (4 HUMAN ENDOWMENTS)

- Self-Awareness - Imagination - Conscience - Independent will

The two creations (when something is built)

- The first creation is an intellectual creation. - The second is a Physical creation.

Last Human Freedom

- The power to choose your response to any condition. Liberty is a condition of the environment, Freedom is a condition of the person.

One of the most freeing & liberating things possible:

-Apologize, Forget & Forgive, Let go of resentment

Determinism

-Genetic Determinism - (From grandparents) -Psychic Determinism - (From Parents) -Environmental Determinism - (From your spouse of Boss)

Three - Person Teaching Process

1. Increases Learning 2. Increases Application 3. Improves Communication 4. Deepens Relationships

Empathic responses:

1. Mimicking 2. Rephrasing 3. Reflect feeling 4. Rephrase content and reflect feeling 5. Say nothing

That is the problem. And that is our problem outside in approach rather than the Inside out approach of 7 habits

Anytime we think the problem is out there......... page 96

Habit 1

Be Proactive

Habit 2

Begin with the end in mind. Begin with the end in mind means to begin to day with the image picture and paradigm of the end of your life as a frame of reference. To begin with the end of mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination page 105

Interdependence

Cooperate together to accomplish what we want. It has the attitude of "WE."

Synergizing

Creates the possibility of 3rd alternatives. Strength lies in differences, not in similarities. Synergy Requires; -A common purpose -A common sense of meaning -A common sense of mission

The first 3 Habits deal with self-mastery

Habit 1 - Be Proactive Habit 2 - Begin with the end in mind Habit 3 - Put first things first These are the "Private Victories" Private Victories precede Public Victories (habits 4,5&6)

leadership, which means leadership is the first creation

Habit 2 is base on principals of personal ________ page 108

The next 3 Habits help us in relationships with others;

Habit 4 - Think Win-Win Habit 5 - Seek first to understand . . . Then be understood. Habit 6- Synergize

Personality Ethic

How to "Appear to be" rather than how to "Actually be."

____________________ is a choice that only independent people can make

Interdependence

Moving along the "upward spiral" requires us to _____, ______ & __ on increasingly higher planes.

Learn, Commit & Do

"____" are assumptions of the way things are.

Maps

P / PC Balance

P = Production of desired results (golden eggs) PC = Production capability (The goose)

1. Self awareness 2. Imagination 3. conscious 4. Independent will

Page 77 what are 4 endowments that make us uniquely human?

Most people's self-maps [____________] are a function of the social mirror.

Paradigms

Self-fulfilling Prophecy

People live up to the social mirror that surrounds them.

A _____________ is the actual reality of the way things are.

Principle

Every one of the 7 Habits represents a

Principle, a Natural Law

Programs change, Practices change; ____________ do not change

Principles

Private Victories must precede

Public Victories

The 4 quadrants of the Time Management Matrix:

Quadrant 1. Urgent & Important Quadrant 2. Not urgent but deeply important Quadrant 3. Not important, but Urgent (Important to others) Quadrant 4. Not important nor urgent

The "Upward Spiral"

Renewal is the principle & the process that empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change, of continuous improvement.

Habit 5

Seek first to understand . . . Then be understood

Habit 7

Sharpen the saw

Effectiveness

The 7 Habits are habits of _______________ because they are based on a paradigm of effectivness that is in harmony with a natural law, a principal I call the "P/PC Balance"

Stephen R. Covey / 200 years

The author of 7 habits of highly effective people, ________ __ ________, researched writings as old as _____ _____.

The haves. "I will be happy when I have"

The circle of concern is filled with......

To be. "to be a better student, marriage partner...

The circle of influence is filled with.....

Habits Defined as

The intersection of knowledge, skill & desire Knowledge is the what to do and why. Skill is the how to do. Desire is the motivation to want to do.

Proactivity:

The key to implementing the 7 Habits

1. Direct Control (problems invovling our own behaviors) Habit 1 , 2 & 3 private victories 2. Indirect Control (problems involving other peoples behavior Habit 4, 5 & 6 Public Victories 3. No control (problems we can do nothing about)

The problems we face fall in one of three areas: page 93

Habit 4

Think Win-Win

Physical, Financial, Human

Three kind of assets _________, _________ & _____.

Purpose of the 7 Habits

To lead your life in a truly effective way

1. Let's look at our alternatives 2. I can choose a different approach 3. I control my own feelings 4. I can create an effective presentation 5. I will choose an appropriate response 6. I choose 7. I prefer 8. I will.

What are examples of Proactive Language

1. There's nothing I can do 2. That just the way I am 3. He makes me so mad 4. They wont allow that 5. I can't 6. I must 7. If only

What are examples of Reactive Language

Dependence

You need others to get what you want. It has the attitude of "you."

Maturity Continuum

You will grow from dependence to independence to interdependence Dependence you take care of me Independence I can do it, I am responsible Interdependence we can do it and create greater together

The Emotional Bank Account is the _________ _____________ side of human relationships, human interaction.

production capability

Independence

you get what you want through your own effort. It has the attitude of "I."

Principles are not only Natural Laws but;

· Objective · Factual · External · Self-evident