Chapter 7

Johari Window

A model that describes the relationship between self-disclosure and self-awareness.

content messages

a message that communicates information about the subject being discussed

relational messages

a message that expresses the social relationship between two or more individuals

Developmental Model

(of relational maintenance) theoretical frameworks based on the idea that communication patterns are different in various stages of interpersonal relationship

What caveats are in order when choosing relational partnership? What things must you consider?

1. First impressions can mislead, 2. Our priorities change, 3. Perfection can be a turn off, 4. It's not all about communication, but it's a lot about communcation

What are the seven questions to ask yourself to determine when and how self-disclosing may be beneficial to you and others?

1. Is the other person important to you?, 2. Is the disclosure appropriate?, 3. Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?, 4. Is the disclosure relevant to the situation at hand?

Why people use communication technology

1. Mediated channels enable communication that would not happen otherwise, 2. Mediated communication can feel nonthreatening, 3. Online communication can be validating, 4. Electronic communication often has a pause option

What are 8 common explanations people offer for why they chose to form a close relationship with someone in particular?

1. The person is physically attractive, 2. We have a lot in common, 3. We balance each other out, 4. The person likes and appreciates me, 5. I admire the person's abilities, 6. The person opens up to me, 7. I see the person frequently, 8. The relationship is rewarding

what lessons emerge from the developmental perspective?

1. each stage requires different types of communication, 2. relational development involves risk and vulnerability, 3. partners can change the direction a relationship is heading

phubbing

A mixture of the words phone and snubbing, used to describe episodes in which people pay more attention to their devices than they do to the people around them.

altruistic lies

Deception intended to be unmalicious, or even helpful, to the person to whom it is told.

What makes a family?

Parents, siblings, grandparents and grand children

immediacy

The degree of interest and attraction we feel toward and communicate with others. As with all relational messages, ____________ is usually expressed nonverbally.

self-disclosure

The process of deliberately revealing information about oneself that is significant and that would not normally be known by others.

family

a collection of people who have affection and resources and who think of themselves and present themselves as a _______

intimacy

a state of closeness between two (or sometimes more) people. ___________ can be manifested in several ways: physically, intellectually, emotionally, and via shared activities

social penetration model

a theory that describes how intimacy can be achieved via the breadth and depth of self-disclosure

love languages

affirming words (compliments, thanks, and statements that express love and commitment), quality time (completing tasks together, talking, or engaging in some other mutually enjoyable activity), acts of service (performing favors such as caring for each other when they are sick, doing the dishes, making meals), gifts, physical touch (hug, kiss, a pat on the back, or having sex),

Self-serving lies

attempts to manipulate the listener into believing something that is untrue, not primarily to protect the listener, but to advance the deceivers agenda

Strategies for managing dialectical tensions

denial (deny their existence), disorientation, selection (they respond to one end of the dialectal spectrum and ignore the other), alternation, polarization

Stages of Romantic Relationships

initiating, experimenting (small talk), intensifying (others express how they feel about each other, time of strong emotion and optimism), integrating (take on identity as a social unit), bonding (involves a wedding, a commitment ceremony, or some other public means of communicating to the world that this is a relationship meant to last), differentiating (not all relationships last forever), circumscribing (communication decreases significantly quantity and quality). stagnating, avoiding, terminating

Metacommunication

messages (usually relational) that refer to other messages; communication about communication

affinity

the degree to which people like or appreciate one another. As with all relational messages, __________ is usually expressed nonverbally

respect

the degree to which we hold others in esteem

depth (of self-disclosure)

the level of personal information a person reveals on a particular topic

dialectal model

the perspective that other people in virtually all interpersonal relationships must deal with equally important, simultaneous, and opposing forces such as connection and autonomy, predictability and novelty, and openness versus privacy

breadth (of self-disclosure)

the range of topics about which an individual discloses

Control

the social need to influence others

interpersonal communication

two way interaction between people who are part of a close and irreplaceable relationship in which they treat each other as unique individuals

types of friendships

youthful versus mature, short-term versus long-term, low disclosure versus high disclosure, doing-orientated versus being-orientated, low obligation versus high obligation, frequent contact, versus occasional contact, same-sex versus other sex, in-person versus mediated