FAD CH5

selection hypothesis

Assumes that individual who choose cohabitation (or who "select" themselves into cohabiting situations) are different from those who do not; these differences translate into higher divorce rates

substitution hypothesis

Texting appears to be replacing other forms of communication

Wheel of Love Theory

The development of love has 4 stages that continue indefinitely in a circle: rapport, self revelation, mutual dependency, and personality need fulfillment

Relationship churning

On again off again

Assisted marriage

Parents provide children with possible mates, out of which the child can choose

event-driven relationship

Partners vacillated between commitment and ambivalence. They often disagree on how committed they are and there are many fights.

free-choice culture

People choose their own mates, although often they seek parents' and other family members' support for their decision

Exchange model of mate selection

Women have traded their ability to bear and raise children, coupled with domestic duties, sexual accessibility, and physical attractiveness, for man's protection, status, and economic support

pool of eligibles

a group of individuals who are the all-unmarried or all-unpartnered individuals

marriage market

a process in which prospective spouses compare the assets and liabilities of eligible partners and choose the best available mate

Dowry

a sum of money given by the wife's family to the husband upon marriage

interethnic marriage

a type of marriage in which spouses come from different countries or have different cultural, religious, or ethnic backgrounds

Attachment theory in relationships

People with kore secure attachment styles would have less ambivalence about emotional closeness and commitment. Secure styles have stronger interpersonal skills and better prospects for a committed relationship. Insecure styles have a fear of abandonment. Avoidant styles leads to passing up on closeness and intimacy.

dating scripts

Scripts that govern behavior in the getting to know you stage of dating relationships

Heterogamy

choosing romantic partners who are dissimilar to us in terms of class, race, education, religion, and other social group membership

experience hypothesis

cohabiting experiences themselves affect individuals so that, once married, they are more likely to divorce

self-revelation

gradually sharing intimate information about oneself

intamacy

in Erikson's theory, the ability to form close, loving relationships; a primary developmental task in late adolescence and early adulthood

Martyring

maintaining relationships by consistently minimizing one's own needs while trying to satisfy those of one's partner

Endogamy

marriage between people of the same social category

arranged marriage

marriage orchestrated by the families of the involved parties

Exogamy

marriage outside the tribe, caste, or social group

rapport

mutual understanding and harmony

Mutual dependency

stage of a relationship in which two people desire to spend more time together and thereby develop interdependence

Matching

tendency of individuals to select partners with characteristics similar to their own

status exchange hypothesis

the argument that an individual might trade his or her socially defined superior racial/ethnic status for the economically or educationally superior status of a partner in a less-privileged racial/ethnic group

principle of least interest

the person who is least committed to staying in a relationship has the most power

Limerence

the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.

Homogamy

the tendency of people with similar characteristics to marry one another

geographic availability

traditionally known in the marriage and family literature as propinquity or proximity and referring to the fact that people tend to meet potential mates who are present in their regional environment

need fulfillment

two people find that they satisfy a majority of each other's emotional needs

manipulating

working to control the feelings, attitudes, and behavior of your partner or partners in underhanded ways rather than by directly stating your case

cross-national marriages

- marriage where the spouses are of different nationalities -May decline because the required visa for an immigrating spouse has been far harder to obtain since 9-11 - Common pathway to U.S Citizenship

Steps of associative mating process

1. Pool of eligibles 2. Propinquity filter 3. Demographic and social filter 4. Physical attraction filter 5. Personality and lifestyle filter 6. Engagement and/or cohabitation

Family scholar definition of love

A strong emotional bond with another person that involves sexual desire, a longing to be with the person, a preference to put the other persons interest ahead of one's own, and a willingness to forget the other persons transgressions

Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

A theory that sees love as having three elements: intimacy (close, connected, binding feelings), passion (drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sex), and commitment (the decision component of love, deciding to commit to the relationship and maintaining the love)

Love is not:

Inordinate self sacrifice

Traditional definition of love

Love is patient, love is kind. It doesnt envy, it doesnt boast, it isnt proud. It doesnt dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Interfaith marriages

Marriage where the husband and wife are from different religions

Assortative Mating Theory

Mate selection involves narrowing down the possibilities until a suitable partner is found

bride price

Money or property that the future groom pays the future bride's family so that he can marry her.

commitment

Characterized by this willingness to work through problems and conflicts as opposed to calling it quits when problems arise. Involves a constant investment in the relationship.

consummate love

Composed of all three components is complete love...a kind of love toward which many of us strive, especially in romantic relationships

relationship driven couple

Couple that follows an evolving pattern of transitions that move toward marriage without stopping to evaluate the relationship

Stimulation Hypothesis

Digital communication and in person communication go hand in hand and that more texting would be positively associated with other forms of communication

empathy

Understanding a partner from their frame of reference rather than ones own

interracial marriage

Unions between partners of the whites black, Asian, or native America races with a spouse outside of their race