kubler-ross grief and loss
Five Stages of Grief
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance
Bargaining
Feel guilty, that it's their responsibility to fix the problems.
Anger
Feels a generalized rage at the world for allowing something like this to happen.
Who invented the five stages of grief?
Kubler-Ross
Loss
The experience of parting with an object, person, belief, or relationship that one values
Acceptance
The loss is accepted and we work on alternatives to dealing with the loss (minimize the loss)
Denial
The person has thoughts that helps them reject the experience.
The stages popularly known in its abbreviated form DABDA
include, 1)Denial 2)Anger 3)Bargaining 4)Depression 5)Acceptance
bereavement
state involving loss
grief
the affect that accompanies bereavement
Depression
the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving.
mourning
the overt expression of grief. the usual response to bereavement
Denial
— "I feel fine." "This can't be happening, not to me." Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals that will be left behind after death.
Depression
— "I'm so sad why bother with anything?" "I'm going to die... What's the point?" "I miss my loved one, why go on?" During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to disconnect from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
Acceptance
— "It's going to be okay." "I can't fight it I may as well prepare for it." In this last stage, the individual begins to come to terms with her/his mortality or that of a loved one.
Bargaining
— "Just let me live to see my children graduate." "I'll do anything for a few more years." "I will give my life savings if..." The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically the individual is saying "I understand I will die but if I could just have more time..."
Anger
— "Why me? It's not fair!" "How can this happen to me?" '"Who is to blame?" Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy.
