Matt Fradd: 10 myths
Myth 1 Only men struggle with porn
40% of Matt's emails seeking liberation from porn are from women.
Myth 3: Masturbation is good and healthy
CS Lewis called it a prison of the self and self adoration.
Genesis 1:28
God's 1st command, 'Be fruitful and multiply" Not about calculators and pineapples!
Myth 5 Porn Actresses are well adjusted and happy
Higher rates of substance abuse, depression, borderline personality disorder, domestic violence, divorce and a higher risk of std's.
Myth 6 Porn is only fantasy it isn't harmful
If a message and images didn't affect behavior then please explain advertisements to me.
Myth 4: pornography is 'adult' entertainment.
If this is true then why do they cover their windows and offer back entrances.
Myth 10: I can never break free from this
Matt believes thinking about freedom from porn as a destination to finally arrive at is wrong. he said it is one day at a time and when people fall they must trust in the many promises of Christ's mercy.
June
Matt's friend who used to be a stripper who said, "i hate them all. it makes me sick to pretend that I like them'.
Myth 8 Porn isn't addictive
Porn re-wires the brain- The release of dopamine is part of the pleasure/rewards center of the brain. The more this action is repeated the greater the demand for dopamine and the greater the need for more harder forms of the drug. Extreme porn.
Indistinguishable
Quotes about women from subscribers to a men's magazine (Leds) and quotes from convicted rapists
When to get off the Pornography highway
Recognize the triggers and get off the highway before the chemical release. After the chemical release it is most likely that one will fall.
Those who use porn for Excitement
Results in boredom
Those who use porn for Joy
Results in emptiness and sadness
Those who use porn for Intimacy
Results in loneliness
Those who use porn for 'Adult entertainment'
Results in perpetual adolescence
Myth 2 If people didn't have porn they would be sexually repressed
That's like saying there is only obesity and anorexia. Sexual health is living a chaste life.
Myth 7 Porn will make me happy
The reason people go to porn is because they seek a legitimate good:such as excitement, intimacy, freedom, joy.
Pornography Highway
These are the steps in between the trigger and the action.
Myth 9 I can overcome this on my own
Very few people heal themselves from porn addiction. Covenant Eyes accountability software is an effective means of overcoming it. Others need counseling as well as spiritual guidance.
Chastity
Virtue that enables us to love others in accord with our dignity. Not being controlled by our sexual desire.
Abstinence
What we are NOT doing. Not having sex. Not necessarily a virtue. Could be due to lack of opportunity.
Physiological effect of porn
damages sexual performance of men. Erectile dysfunction and pre-mature ejaculation.