Psych Sex and Relationships mid-term

T/F: Physical appeal is the most important trait we seek in partners for long-term relationships. True False

False

T/F: human beings are designed to be monogamous for life. o A - true o B - false

False

T/F: Men have more romantic notions of love and marriage than women do. A = True B = False

Wild to imagine, but true.

2 types of places where people meet:

"closed-field" locations- interacting with someone because of circumstances. Ex. Coworkers, classmates, lab-mates. "open-field" locations- voluntary choice to interact with someone. Ex. Meeting someone at a party or a bar. THIS WILL BE ON THE TEST

According to the article on couples communication, how much time per day should you devote to just listening to your partner? o A. 5 mins/day. o B. 15 mins/day. o C. 30 mins/day. o D. 60 mins/day

15

According to the article on couples communication, how much time per day should you devote to just listening to your partner? o A. 5 mins/day. o B. 15 mins/day. o C. 30 mins/day. o D. 60 mins/day

15min a day

What percentage of children (under 18) in the U.S. live in a single-parent household? o A - 25% o B - 33% o C - 50% o D = 70%

25%

From anthology article: what percentage of "lost-love reunions" studied by author involved extra-marital affairs? ~20% ~40% ~60% ~80%

40%

"Emotional Ecological Balance": For every 1 bad interaction with your partner, you should have at least ____ good interactions to balance it out. A. 1 B. 3 C. 5 D. 10

5

What percentage of couples who live together end up getting married? o A = 20% o B = 35% o C = 55% o D = 75% o E = 95

55%

What % of lost love reunions involved extra-marital affairs.

62%

According to a reader article, moving in with someone who has children is a bad idea. o A = true o B = false

A=True Why?

Chemistry of Love: Which chemical is responsible for the ecstatic, obsessive feelings of falling in love? o A = testosterone o B = estrogen o C = dopamine o D = oxytocin

Dopamine(read anothology or whatever book related to this)

Similarities: o True/False: Opposites attract in romantic relationships.

False-- Why and according to who?

T/F: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

False-- why according to who?

True/False: Opposites attract.

False-- why according to who?

True or false? alcohol is biologically proven to be an aphrodisiac

False. Why?

Which style of loving are college women more likely to practice? o A = selfless (agape) o B = romantic (eros) o C = game-playing (ludus) o D = friendly (storge)

Friendly storage-- College women are more likely to develop friendly, logical and possessive love styles.

Which style of loving are college men more likely to practice? o A = selfless (agape) o B = logical (Pragma) o C = game-playing (ludus) o D = friendly (storge)

Gaming-playing( Ludus) College men are more likely to develop game-playing and romantic love styles.

Which of these issues below is NOT the topic of a couple's 1st big fight? o A = Level of commitment to the relationship. o B = Jealousy o C = Money problems o D = Feeling neglected

Money problems

Never-married Singles make up ___% of all single people. o A = 30% o B = 45% o C = 60% o D = 80%

Never-married Singles make up 60% of all single people.

What is Non love Liking/friendship Infatuated love: Empty love Romantic love Companionate love Fatuous love Consummate love

Non love The absence of any of the three types of love. No connection. Indifferent to relationship. Liking/friendship This type of love is intimacy without passion or commitment. This includes friendships and acquaintances.[11] Infatuated love: Infatuated love is passion without intimacy or commitment. This is considered "puppy love" or relationships that have not become serious yet.[11] Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly. Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses' relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating "how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship...[but] the beginning rather than the end."[12] Romantic love This love is passionate and intimate but has no commitment. This could be considered a romantic affair or could be a one-night stand.[11] Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. "This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present"[13] but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship. Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage—it has points of passion and commitment but no intimacy. An example of this is "love at first sight." [11] Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship which people strive towards. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the "perfect couple." According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.[14] However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die."[15] Thus, consummate love may not be permanent.[citation needed] If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love. Consummate love is the most satisfying kind of adult relation because it combines all pieces of the triangle into this one type of love. It is the ideal kind of relationship. These kinds of relationships can be found over long periods of time or idealistic relationships found in movies.[11]

Be able to draw Stienberg's love triangle and know what everything means. What are three components and what do they mean?

Passion: Passion can be associated with either physical arousal or emotional stimulation. Passion is defined in three ways: -A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something[2] -strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone Intimacy: Intimacy is described as the feelings of closeness and attachment to one another. This tends to strengthen the tight bond that is shared between those two individuals. Additionally, having a sense of intimacy helps create the feeling of being at ease with one another, in the sense that the two parties are mutual in their feelings. Intimacy is primarily defined as something of a personal or private nature; familiarity. Commitment: Unlike the other two blocks, commitment involves a conscious decision to stick with one another. The decision to remain committed is mainly determined by the level of satisfaction that a partner derives from the relationship. There are three ways to define commitment: A promise to do or give something A promise to be loyal to someone or something the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something

Having more than one wife at the same time is called o A = polyandry o B = polygyny o C = monogamy o D = multifemy

Polygyny

According to the reader article, the "worst reason to marry" is All your friends are getting married. You are high school sweethearts. Your parents loves him/her and think he/she is the right person for you. She's pregnant.

She is pregnant

Where are pheromones produced? o testicles/ovaries? o skin? o sweat glands? o hair?

Sweat glands! pheromones = chemical olfactory messengers for sexual attraction, detected by the vomero-nasal-organ (VNO) in the nose.

T/F: According to Sternberg, infatuation is a kind of love too. A - true B - false

True

T/F: Couples who cohabitate before marriage have a higher rate of divorce than people who did not live together before marriage. o True o False

True

T/F: Women who are randomly assigned names like Kathy & Jennifer are rated more attractive than women assigned names like Bertha & Gertrude.

True

T/F: Women who are randomly assigned names like Kathy & Jennifer are rated more attractive than women assigned names like Bertha & Gertrude. A = true B = false

True

T/F: if your parents are divorced, you are more likely to get divorced too. A = true B = false

True

Married men live longer than single men. o A = true o B = false

True, duh.

What is A = polyandry B = polygyny C = monogamy D = multifemy

Types of Marriages Monogamy = Marriage to one person. Polygamy = married at the same time to more than one person. Polygyny = man is married to more than one woman at a time. multifemy = woman is married to more than one man at a time.

Understand the role that your partner's family plays in his/her life

o Does your partner still live with the family? o Is he/she very financially dependent on them? o What does their culture traditionally say about the role of the parents? o Will they someday live with you guys? o How close are they geographically? o Does your partner get along with his/her own family? o If his/her parents reject you, will he/she stand up for you? (WILL BE ON FINAL/MID-TERM)