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Because we want you to have a way of organizing your life so that you feel your life is manageable and that you truly can make progress in all the areas of your life that count 4

Because we want you to feel the sense of accomplishment and pride that comes from knowing who you are and what's most important to your life! 5

I prefer to live life passionately, which is dangerous because you never know what might happen next It was all the fault of a writer I'd interviewed the previous day who, at one point, said: "I haven't the slightest interest in being happy

He's never satisfied " At the time, I thought: "Poor man

I feel as though my heart has given up beating No more despair

It's autumn, and the evening comes on quickly, the lovely sunset soon replaced by twilight My body reacts accordingly, because I can't move

I'm not going to give up digging this hole, because I know that there's water down below Of course, it would be great if it were requited, but if not, who cares

I'm pleased by that last thought: I'm free to love anyone in the world Fresh water

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They can't stop in the middle, because that means accepting defeat They always have to make the next move

The answer to, "What is driving the boat? The wake is nothing more than the trail that's left behind

This is what makes the boat move forward across the water " is that the boat moves because of present-moment energy generated by the engine

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We're all armed to the teeth (since military service is obligatory, every Swiss man has a rifle in his house), but you rarely hear of anyone shooting anyone else We're happy without the Barbarian hordes

If all of a sudden you had the energy again like you were a little kid and the journey had just begun, what would you be excited to tackle? Write a paragraph, or two, that answers the following questions: What do you want to create for your life?

What would your life be about? What is it that would get you up early and keep you up late at night?

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" The following day, I realized that I never take any risks at all He'll die sad and embittered

And passion? I know what lies ahead of me: another day exactly like the previous one

My friend is on antidepressants I don't even take any risks in this

And precisely because it's the last thing I want to talk about, it's the very first subject I bring up That's the last thing I want to talk about, though, because I've come to the conclusion that I'm just a step away from sliding into depression and I don't want to accept that

What are your resources? What are the musts in that vision?

(Be sure not to list more constraints than there really are Are there any absolute constraints?

Result/Outcome Typically begins with phrases like: make major progress on, create, establish, determine, resolve, etc Here are some tips to help you differentiate between them

(For example, if your result is to lose 10 pounds, weigh 160 with 16% body fat, a stranger could make the evaluation to see if you achieved it Usually your result/outcome is not only something you could measure whether or not you achieved, but it is something that a stranger could evaluate based on objective data

Personal Categories of Improvement Let's start with your personal life Within each of these areas of management, we are then going to decide on the specific categories you are going to consistently focus on and improve, or your Categories of Improvement

(HINT: See below and the following page for some examples): HINT: There is no right or wrong number of Categories of Improvement! What are some of the areas that you believe you must focus on and constantly improve in order for your life to be successful and fulfilling?

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) Creating Your Life Plan One of the strategies that makes the RPM system so effective is that the first thing you do when you sit down to create your plan every week is to review what it is that's most important to you in your life (and we'll cover the weekly planning process later in this manual after you understand the concepts in each section!

Review your RPM Weekly Plan and decide upon the most important three to five Results/Outcomes that you need to focus on this week ) Step 2: Create your RPM Master Plan Step 3: Commit Step 4: Schedule Step 5: Celebrate 4

) Step IV: Set Yourself Up to Win So often in planning people lament that, "I had my plan completely done and then something outside of my control changed and I wasn't able to complete my plan! (We recommend that you chose three from your professional life and two from your personal life

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For example, it's one thing to have a result or outcome that says, "I want to become a millionaire within six months Your purpose will provide you with the emotional drive to follow through and to do whatever it takes to achieve the result you desire

, and BECAUSE I want to create many magical, fun moments for myself and those I love " It's another thing to add a compelling purpose to it by saying, "I want to become a millionaire within six months BECAUSE I will be able to help my children, BECAUSE I want to make a difference in the world, BECAUSE I want to develop the pride of knowing that I've overcome so many challenges in my own life, BECAUSE I want to be an example for other people-if I can do it, anyone can do it!

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But he says that he's tired of talking about politics Why are there so many laws trying to create new tribes instead of simply accepting that cultural differences can make our lives richer and more interesting?

Inside it was a fish, swimming round and round, and I said to myself: He can't remember where he began, and he will never reach the end Then I tell him about the aquarium I saw at the school when I dropped my kids off that morning

You can remove venom by making a decision to let go of resentments It's not the bite that kills you; it's the venom

It was one act of profound forgiveness toward my own father, whom I never saw or talked to, that turned my life around from one of ordinary awareness, to one of higher consciousness, achievement, and success beyond anything I had ever dared to imagine Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel, how much more peace you have

Ever since, the book has remained a constant presence in bookshops around the world Mary thought it must be because of Shelley's preface, but, on the second edition, she agreed to allow her name to appear as author

It was recently described by one wellknown critic as "the most creative work of Romanticism and possibly of the last two hundred years It has inspired writers, theater directors, film directors, Halloween partiers, and those at masked balls

I start to think about the waves I saw earlier at the lake, about the clouds that have now dissipated and the person who was with me Is it because I had too much to drink?

It wasn't long before we were back at our respective computers I remember very little about the nightclub; we both thought the music was horrible and the atmosphere extremely dull

" RPM planning gives you a compelling reason behind all your actions-so that you are focused on the meaning and value it provides to your life In fact, many people have accomplished a great deal in their lives, only to reach a point where they start to ask themselves, "is this all there is?

Instead of having you focus on a huge list of action items (or "to-dos'), the RPM system causes you to focus only on a smaller number of results or outcomes RPM Planning immediately reduces stress, helping you transform overwhelm into a sense of certainty you can accomplish what it is you want

"... but I try to see it as part of a normal relationship The bottle's empty; Marianne motions to the waiter to bring another

Instead of jealousy, you know what I feel? If my man wasn't desired and pursued by these sluts, then he must be completely uninteresting

He is still dressed, and I am completely naked I pull his head to my chest and ask him to bite my nipple, hard, and I cry out a little from pain and pleasure

Instead, he throws me on the bed, takes off his clothes, and gets on top I push his head and ask him to go down on me

When you are clear about the specific result you want to achieve and you focus on that result, your behavior changes instantly And, what do you think adding the words, "enjoy the process" might do to Elvis' chances of success?

Instead, what if you had been clear about your result or outcome in advance and decided that what you really wanted (i To give another example, when you are only focused on what it is you need to do, for example, "Call John Smith," you can call John and certainly cross it off your list, but this does not guarantee that you truly accomplished something meaningful

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On the other hand, if you focus on what is already great about your life (or what could be great), you can always make yourself feel better immediately Before you know it, you're upset!

Is all your focus on your job at the expense of your personal life? In fact, whether you are succeeding at what you're doing right now in your career, your personal life, your health, or your relationships is largely a reflection off what you are focusing on in these areas of your life - or if you are even focusing on those areas at all

"It doesn't matter I ask if we should cancel our reservation at the Italian restaurant and have dinner here instead

Is he suddenly feeling everything I went through when he thought I was depressed? " It doesn't matter?

Traveling the world once you've retired Having your children or grandchildren over for Sunday lunch

Is it really? " Is that what people want from life?

And we wonder: What happened to this person I thought I knew? But every day we meet someone whose behavior suddenly changes from one moment to the next

Is it stress at work? Why is he acting so aggressively?

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If you want a sense of harmony in the workplace, maintain a clear vision and expectation of this harmony In your relationships with your lovers, coworkers, and family, act as if what you would like to materialize in these relationships is already here

Each time you have an encounter with someone, your five o'clock vision pops into your head, and you act in a peaceful, harmonious way so as not to nullify what you know is coming Then, you're out in front of your day, seeing five o'clock arriving peacefully for everyone when it's still seven-thirty in the morning

Your ego is nothing more than an idea that you carry around with you everywhere you go What Is Your Ego?

Ego insists that you are a separate being, that your personality and your body are your essence, and that you are in competition with every other ego to get your share of the pie, which is limited and finite This idea tells you that you are the sum total of what you have, what you do, and who you are

I suggest that you pick up the pencil, and with compassion, allow the words, wounds, and pain of the past to be written, embraced, examined, understood, accepted, and loved for all that you've learned and experienced But the pencil is always there when you look back

Embracing Your Personal History In a universe that's an intelligent system with a divine creative force supporting it, there simply can be no accidents The act of picking it up and embracing it will give you the strength to transform the past into song, poem, paint, or ritual if you feel called to do those things, or to throw it away in your unique way

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Once you've committed to blocks of time when you will work on your plan, you can schedule specific times in which you will do it Step 4: Schedule It!

Enter the times of all the specific appointments and meetings that you have committed to (these are times that cannot fluctuate and must happen at a specific time-i There are two steps to completing your time schedule: 1

Because we want to keep going with someone who deserves our Love, and who knows how to love us as we think we deserve to be loved Because we want to live another day with this person by our side

Even Love for a pet—a dog, for example—can justify the life of a human being Because living is loving

He depends on her and her advice, offloads some of the tension that builds up with each visit he makes, and asks her about the strategy they drew up together and where he should go next He phones his wife every hour to ask if he should say this or that, if it would be best to visit this street or that area, or if the Tribune de Genève has posted anything new on its website

Even though he hates what he's doing, love lends a unique quality to his efforts As he suggested during our conversation in the park, the only reason he stays in politics is so he doesn't disappoint her

Hundreds of other unrelated thoughts will pop in and out of your mind At first your thoughts will take off trying to convince you that this is a waste of time, that you should be out there being productive, and that you've got so many other things to do

Eventually you'll be able to move to the gaps between your thoughts and notice how peaceful you felt in that silent gap when you emerge from it But you can weather this thunderstorm of mental protestations by sitting quietly and becoming the observer to all of this inner chatter

A piece of the divine intelligence that supports everything and everyone on this planet A part of the eternal perfection

Every time you experience fear, selfrejection, anxiety, guilt, or hate, you're denying your divinity and succumbing to the influences of that insidious ego mind that has convinced you of your disconnection to God In a world in which this divine intelligence creates everything, there can be no accidents

But I can't do that —LUKE 5:4 EVERY morning, when I open my eyes to the so-called "new day," I feel like closing them again, staying in bed, and not getting up

Every year—much to his distaste—he appears in Bilan magazine's list of the three hundred richest people in Switzerland I have a wonderful husband who is not only madly in love with me, but also the owner of a large investment fund

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Everyone withholds from time to time, but you need to be accountable for it What does withholding do CO your relationship?

The only thing that counts is what you think That doesn't matter to me

Everything I had to say has lost its importance " I rest my head on his shoulder

I can see that he's trying desperately to help, but he's as lost as I am It's not something external

Everything is a symptom He keeps talking about symptoms, but that, I tell him, isn't the problem

The fact is that I've been more sexually excited by him This has become more frequent, I don't know if it's to cover up my affair or because my libido has been heightened

Except for the first time, when I had to rush straight to the bathroom, I follow Jacob's instructions to eliminate all traces of odors and stained clothing He doesn't ask me questions when I get home late, and he doesn't show that he's jealous

The higher we go, the further I distance myself from me " I start to hear the voices that have been stifled inside for so long, stifled by haunting thoughts, by loneliness, by night terrors, the fear of change, and the fear that everything will stay the same

Far from that life full of chores to do, impossible desires, suffering, and pleasure I'm in another world where things fall perfectly into place

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Is that too much to ask? I just want to cry

I can cry there because no one can hear my sobs or ask me the question I hate most: "Are you all right? And then suddenly, for no reason, I get into the shower and burst into tears

Is there anything wrong with my life? " Yes, why shouldn't I be?

Perhaps my husband has already met someone else and I'm unconsciously responding to that But we women have a sixth sense

Isn't this absurd? And yet I have absolutely no reason to suspect him

She starts listing a whole series of things that are apparently common to those who have visited what she calls "hell You know you're caught, but you can't escape ..." That's exactly what I felt a few days ago

Feeling that the simplest of tasks requires a Herculean effort " Not wanting to get out of bed

" asks one of the children "Can we go outside?

First we will climb on the sofa, eat twelve grapes, and save the seeds to have prosperity all year long Not yet

The ones who haven't made it to this level are all back with the crowd who went out of the game long ago on an easier question, and most are still back there wondering why they keep going home with nothing! And along the extra mile, you'll only meet others who have fully grasped this concept

First, you have to get past blame But I can assure you that they continue to blame others for their emptiness

There's only one omnipresent presence called God God is that which is indivisible

It can never be divided or cut up into pieces This presence is everywhere and is a force that creates and sustains life

Failure is a judgment Do you leave, and moan about being a football failure, or do you say, "Throw it again," until ultimately you're catching footballs?

It comes from your fears, which can be eliminated by love It's just an opinion

What actions—if any—would you deem immoral? How does her husband?

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Powerful pumps were installed and now an extremely forceful jet shoots out five hundred liters of water per second, at two hundred kilometers per hour That was how the mutant monument was born

It doesn't have a special name; it's just called Jet d'Eau (jet of water), the city's landmark in spite of all the sculptures of men on horses, heroic women, lonely children They say, and I've confirmed it, that it can be seen from an airplane at thirty thousand feet

We can now proceed into a future of peace, hope, and prosperity It won't happen again

It doesn't matter "They say the owner has changed and the food isn't quite as good," says my husband

Or melancholy He must have been dying of boredom

It doesn't matter Or rage

I remember the moment I looked out the window and wished someone were watching us with binoculars—perhaps even masturbating while watching me be submissive, humiliated, taken from behind While I, the idiot, am staring at the ceiling and remembering each second I spent in that hotel, watching the same porn movie over and over, in which I had the leading role

It drove me crazy and led me to discover a side of myself of which I was altogether unaware Just the idea turned me on!

And I'm happy My God, it's happening!

It frightens me But he starts to take me in the behind instead of my vagina

" Perfect, back to the subject of your method But sometimes, when the person crosses through the darkness and reaches the other side, he leaves an enormous path of destruction behind him

It has been used for many years against stress, depression, irritability, suicide attempts, and the numerous other ways mankind has found to harm himself "It's not my method

Instead of coming up with a productive question like "What's happening to me? I WAKE at two in the morning and lie staring up at the ceiling—something I've always hated—even though I know I have to get up early to go to work

For days now—although not that many, thank God—I've been wondering if I should go to a psychiatrist and seek help " I let my thoughts spiral out of control

Might this increase not only your effectiveness, but your fulfillment? * If you don't work full-time, can you still treat your home like a business just as Danielle has done above?

For each category, what are the specific roles you play? Spicing up Your Categories with the Power of Roles Let's take a moment to add some emotional power to your categories by spicing them up with some roles!

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For example, perhaps your category title is "Financial Wizard," but within that category, there are several roles you fulfill, such as "Protector of the Family Assets," "Investor Extraordinaire," and Budget Master Who are you in each of these categories of your life?

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It helps you to focus and define your life by making you ask yourself new questions The RPM Life Planner™ System Software is a mind revolution: it transforms your massive demands and responsibilities into the exciting realization that you can accomplish something truly meaningful

2 If you are simply focused on outstanding finances without a sense of the roles you play in that category, you may not consistently focus on all the pieces of this category that are important to you - such as investing, saving, budgeting, asset protection, or even saving for the purchase of fun toys or vacations

For example, there is a difference between focusing on a Category called "Family" and focusing on a Category called "Family" with the following roles added to it: Outstanding Parent, Best Friend, Extraordinary Spouse & Lover, Amazing Son, and Sibling You Can Count on To give you more emotional "juice" and fulfillment

If you did nothing else but start asking and answering these three questions, you would immediately begin to see a radical shift in your thought process and therefore the results you are producing in your life Whether you are planning a day, a week, a project, or even a conversation with someone, your plan will be based around asking and answering these three questions

For example, you may know all the individual digits in a person's telephone number, but unless they are in the right sequence, the numbers are useless HINT: The sequence in which you ask these questions is the difference between success and failure

The camera can be attached to an aluminum rod approximately two feet long " asks the instructor

For starters, I'm not doing this to show other people No, I do not

When you use your mind to empower you, you're appealing to that which uplifts and raises your spirits In this way, you keep yourself in an upbeat, higher state of consciousness, and you prevent your thoughts from weakening every single organ of your body

Force, on the other hand, involves movement Power urges you to live and perform at your own highest level, and it is compassionate

Discipline #5: Give Freedom whether you realize it or not

Forget past deeds Forgive mistakes

What are some characteristics you embody (or aspire to embody)? If you were to look up your name in a dictionary, what would it say?

Forget your past - who are you now? What is it that you stand for in your life?

We need to continue to be a surprise for each other What kills a relationship between two people is precisely the lack of challenge, the feeling that nothing is new anymore

Friends come out, the celebrant says things he's repeated at hundreds of weddings, like that idea of building a house on rock, and not on sand It all begins with a big party

Another paraglider lands Have we reached the point where risking our life is the only thing that frees us from boredom?

Friends film everything, smiling cheerfully And another

Now everyone is busy learning how to care, how to think, and how to make others think The campus is empty again

From a distance, I can see the psychiatric hospital I take the long way back to my car

Summary One of the most important principles of RPM Planning is that it is a top-down planning system By modeling their success, as well as their learning experiences, you can literally compress time

From there, you will go to your Categories of Improvement and your Vision for each Category To be effective - and, most important, fulfilled - you must start at the level of your vision for your life and your life plan

From there, you'll actually create your plan for your week Specifically: You'll look at your overall vision and purpose for your life, You'll review all the areas of your life in which you are working to making progress, and You'll remind yourself of your top goals

You will realize very soon that what you think about is what expands; therefore, you'll become more mindful and careful of what you think about Connected to God as you always are, you are the divine force that puts this synchronicity into your everyday life

From thoughts to feelings to actions, they will all react affirmatively when you stay inspired and get out in front of yourself in ways that are consistent with what you want to become This process of treating yourself "as if" begins with your thoughts, impacts your emotional state, and finally stirs you into action

As the great humanitarian Mahatma Gandhi put it, "Man becomes great exactly in the degree to which he works for the welfare of his fellow man Problems will now be only illusions of the mind that you no longer carry around with you

It is a place where you can live a problem-free existence by changing your thoughts from ego and group consciousness to the higher level of mysticism " This is the level of mystical or God consciousness

Then we will go outside to celebrate life We will do everything we learned from our ancestors

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Polish your descriptions of your Roles? Get going on your life plan?

Getting Started with RPM This is the technical information you'll need to get the software up and running and to navigate through it This section links you instantly to step-by-step instructions for using the most popular sections of the RPM Life Planner™

One of the most effective ways to bring this about is to make meditation a daily practice " Accessing More Silence in Your Life I urge you to demand more and more time for silence in your life

Give yourself time to sit quietly alone And remember, there's no such thing as a bad meditation

One more thing: Be sure to put yourself in an emotional state of certainty -- where you feel strong; where you remember who it is you really are inside; and where you know that while you will inevitably encounter some challenges along the way, you have the power, the skills, and the heart to turn anything you dream about, into reality You might also want to bring a set of headphones and a CD player so that you can play music that inspires you while you are answering these questions

If he allows us to print his address, he'll have work for quite a while People want to know who he is

If he reads the newspaper he'll see he never told me any of what is in the article " The Cuban shaman!

That was months ago It's silly to blame it all on that writer and his interview

If it hadn't been him, it would have been a film, a book, or someone else I happened to talk to He merely took the top off a volcano that could have erupted at any moment, sowing death and destruction around it

Stay in the present by meditating and getting closer to the ultimate now ... God Stop and take notice of all that's in your immediate space—the people, creatures, vegetation, cloud formations, building designs, everything

God will not be doing anything different one hour from now than God is doing now God Is Only Here Now Think about this

Even when it comes to something professional like tonight's cocktail hour—that's right, a cocktail hour, not party—they get dressed up, put on makeup, and tell their friends, not without a certain air of ennui, that unfortunately they'll be busy Tuesday because of the reception celebrating ten years of Pardonnez-moi as presented by the handsome, intelligent, and photogenic Darius Rochebin Yes, people enjoy them

Going to parties like this gives status and visibility Everyone who's "anyone" will be there, and the rest will have to settle for the photos that will be published in the only celebrity magazine for the entire population of Frenchspeaking Switzerland

The next best thing to being invited is seeing your presence garner the spotlight it deserved Occasionally our newspaper covers this type of event, and the day after we'll receive phone calls from aides to important people, asking if the photos where they appear might be published and saying they would be extremely grateful

Good thing I'm not the editor of the social column; in my current state as Victor Frankenstein's monster, I would have already been fired And there is nothing that better proves this than appearing in the newspaper wearing an outfit specially made for the occasion (although this is never admitted) and the same smile from all the other parties and receptions

Imagine an aspect of yourself that only supports and loves you In your thoughts, cultivate an inner voice and attitude that's 100 percent of the time for you

Gradually this attitude will extend to other people even if you can only do it for a minute or two You might schedule a certain time of the day when that's the only thought that you allow yourself to pay attention to!

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HINT: Be honest with yourself! For example, you might rate yourself at a seven in your family life, an eight in your finances, a five in your emotional life, a nine in your career, a six in your spirituality, and a seven in your physical health

If someone you know has created a project plan to help him or her lose weight could you use this same plan as a basis with only a few modifications? Capitalize on plans that have already been created - your own as well as other people's plans

HINT: If you have access to the person who created the original plan, you might also want to ask them what was great about their plan as well as if there is anything they might do differently in the future If so, it is a Pathway to Power: a pathway that has already produced results that you or anyone else can use to accelerate not only the pace at which you complete your RPM plan, but the speed with which you produce the result

Simply type in the errands you you need to run, phone calls you need to make, projects you want to complete, etc This doesn't need to be in any particular order

HINT: If you want to sit down and capture everything you need to do in one sitting, that's fine, but you can also quickly jump to the Capture section of your Day, Week, or Projects any time you think of something you need to do and enter it This Capture list will become the foundation upon which your plan is created

I'll ask you again: Are you happy? It's like seeing a reflection of my own eyes

Happiness is not something that can be precisely measured, discussed in plebiscites, or analyzed by specialists " In this country where I was born and raised, and where I'm now raising my own children, no one asks that kind of question

Your thoughts determine whether you're being empowered or weakened—whether you're happy or sad, successful or not Many years ago, in a tremendously popular audio program called The Strangest Secret, Earl Nightingale taught many of us that we become what we think about all day long

Happy thoughts create happy molecules Everything is a thought that you carry around with you

I've spent ages looking at psychology websites " I've tried

Haven't you noticed the books I've been bringing home lately? I've devoted myself more seriously to yoga

Being able to pay their bills "Oh, that's easy enough

Having a garden full of trees Buying a house like yours or mine

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How wonderful it is to be afraid of missing an opportunity! Life is becoming fun again, my previous apathy replaced by fear

He accepts, phones his assistant, and asks him to put it in the diary I tell him it's impossible, and that we'd better rearrange it for Friday

" Everyone's pretty stressed, including the shaman "She's been pretty stressed

He asks me to call right now I can't promise anything, but I'll talk to him

Hyde Jekyll and Mr

He asks me what that meant I beg him to help me control the monster that is rising up and threatening to escape my control

We hardly ever went beyond kissing before Maybe he'll stop now

He doesn't stop They were long and delicious, exchanged in a hidden corner of the school, although I wanted everyone to see and envy me

Back then he smoked and ran marathons He buys the same souvenir he bought last time—a lighter with the symbol of the city

He is always panting when we walk quickly and, though he tries to hide it, I've noticed he was more tired than usual when we took that run by the lake in Nyon Today he doesn't smoke and he thinks he gets more and more out of breath each day

I felt loved and that I deserved this love I discovered I could go back to sleeping by his side without feeling like I was dirty or think I was cheating on him

He knows it's the last time he'll see me naked I get up, gather my clothes, and go to his private bathroom

Apparently, my crises aren't limited to marital problems; now I'm starting to slip professionally I took everything from blogs on shamanism

He says I shouldn't believe in that sort of thing and asks if I can give his address to just one person: his wife I explain to the editor-in-chief about the moment the shaman looked in my eyes and threatened me if I revealed who he was

I suggest my husband also go in and keep her company while I wait for Mr Marianne has already gone in

He says that the reverse would be better, but I insist—it wouldn't be polite to leave two women alone at the table, even if just for a few minutes König to finish smoking

He hardly says anything more; I keep on talking nonstop, sometimes thankful and sometimes cursing the life I lead Some people are playing, despite the cold weather

He seems more attentive to the game than to my words We stop in front of one of the giant chessboards

" I suggest we walk a bit Nothing major

He slams his fist on the table His eyes are starting to get weird, dull

' It was—" I didn't let him finish his sentence I'm not complaining about anything, I'm just saying I found out why you've been so kind and polite lately

He thought I was going to assault him I got up and grabbed him by the collar

Then he begins: "Once upon a time there was a beautiful princess who was admired by all, but no one dared to ask for her hand in marriage He puts the painting above the unlit fireplace—often just a decorative feature in homes with central heating

He told him that Psyche should be dressed in mourning and left alone on top of a mountain In despair, the king consulted the god Apollo

I grab his arm and we carry on I apologize, hinting that we're both drunk and one drop more of alcohol might lead to catastrophe

He was always the protector, the helper, the problem solver How long has it been since I've done that?

I need to distract myself, to forget everything from before and concentrate on something different I sit on the cold bench and imagine what happened in 1817

He was hated in his own country, and also in Geneva, where he was accused of holding orgies and getting drunk in public I imagine that year, when the castle's tenant, the English poet Lord Byron, decided to live here in exile

Best to change the subject " Of course not!

He's an ex-boyfriend of mine from high school who probably doesn't even remember that we once exchanged a few kisses and that he touched my breasts We talk about the politician I'm going to interview in a couple days' time

He said again, many times, that he loved me and that he had really missed me Then he embraced me, put my head on his shoulder, and wiped the corners of my mouth with his hands

He's gone back to being the well-behaved boy who the voters admire But now he's asking me to get dressed, and I don't budge

If your purpose does not invoke strong, positive emotion in you, keep digging to find the words and feelings that will move you most Usually your purpose are feelings or emotions that only you can determine whether you feel

If you ask and answer the specific questions as designed, you will come up with the appropriate answers: 1 Finally, remember that the three questions of RPM are specifically designed to ensure that you are using the system effectively

Also, by being clear about the specific Result/Outcome you are committed to achieving, the person you leverage things to might have additional ideas about how to achieve the result more quickly, more effectively, and with the use of fewer resources Remember, you want to teach those around you to think in terms of Results/Outcomes as well

If you call someone and are unable to reach them, enter this fact in your Communications Log as well Deal with phone calls by using these two effective strategies: If calls come in to you on a regular basis that you need to track, be sure to record them in the Communications Log section

Create a space where your partner has the tOtal freedom to make mistakes and know that the core of your relationship will never be compromised Flood your parmer with positive energy

If you can consistently forgive, forget and Rood, you will eventually be able to laugh at the things char used ro pain you Recognize that when your panner hurts you, ir's not their true self And realize that you also become someone else when you are capable ofhuning the one you love

The key is to use emotional words -- words that create joy, excitement, and fun HINT: There is no right or wrong answer to anyone's purpose -- what moves you emotionally might be totally different from what moves someone else

Here are some questions you can ask to help elicit your purpose: Why do I want to do this? To that end, sometimes a 5¢ word can be much more powerful than a 50¢ word that sounds important

I'm already overwhelmed! Finally, because these projects are now part of your weekly RPM Blocks, they will automatically show up in your daily plans because you are planning your days based on your weekly plans

Here are some tips for making RPM a part of your life: Don't try to eat the whole whale in one bite! The RPM system sounds fabulous, but what an incredible amount of work

Having diversity and uncertainty is the spice oflife Whar makes a relationship work (cenainty) is actually the very thing that makes it feel sragnam and uninspiring

Here are three disciplines char can help We aJl need a connant sense of newness and freedom

You can only process them with your thoughts You can't get behind their eyeballs and be them

If you change your thoughts to what you love rather than to what you label as wrong, you've just changed your entire relationship If you look for what's wrong about them and store that negative image in your mind, then that's where your relationship exists

What are the specific actions you need to take in order to achieve this result? YOUR MAP: What is your Massive Action Plan?

their panner will leave or betray them And they withhold in fear mat if they give their love

If you don't make yourself accountable for your relationship, if you don't even wane to know jf you're meeting your partner's needs, then nothing can help you This strategy never works to bring you real lo~ in the long term

I will never break the deal I made with him, but I insist that everyone knows where he lives and the days he works He laughs

If you don't want to take the conversation further, I will find someone who will Please, take it or leave it

You can only give away what you do have, and all that you're giving away each and every day are items from your own personal inventory And of course, the reverse is true

If you give away misery, it's because you have a ready supply available from which to select and distribute If you give away hatred, it's because you've stored up hatred inside of you to give away

What would your life be about? What is it that would get you up early and keep you up late at night?

If you had no fear of moving forward, what would you do in your life? What does that vision look like?

To create your Code of Conduct, simply answer the following question: What emotions, emotional states, or virtues are you committed to practicing and living each day? This way, over time, he was showing up each day how he truly was committed to being

If you have not already decided what you value most in your life, you can follow the following steps to do so Your Values Your values are the emotions that are most important to you in life

Which would you pick? With Wand B, you can have a sense of peace for the rest of your life regardless of what circumstances arise

If you opt for peace, then you already have Wand B A guarantee of stuff, or inner peace for the remainder of your life?

He merely asks if I'm speaking as a journalist or as a friend He doesn't seem surprised

If you say it's true, I give you my word that the newspaper will support you At the moment, as a journalist

Love is without resentment and readily offers forgiveness When you respond with hatred to hate directed at you, you've become part of the problem, which is hatred, rather than part of the solution, which is love

If you're against violence and hatred, you'll fight it with your own brand of violence and hatred Love and forgiveness will inspire you to work at what you are for rather than what you are against

If you made any fuss about going against this preordained conditioning, you probably heard even stronger voices insisting that you get back in line and do things the way they have "always been done There may have been some adults who encouraged you to have an open mind, but if you're honest with yourself, you know that your philosophy of life, your religious beliefs, your manner of dress, and your language are a function of what your tribe (and it's heritage) determined was right for you

If your parents were Jewish, it's unlikely that you were raised to honor and respect the Muslim religion, and vice versa " Fitting in superseded having a mind that was open to new ideas

" Closing your eyes and imagining your neighbor lying on top of you, doing things your husband would never dare to do They say that sex in marriage is interesting only for the first five years, and after that calls for a little "imagination

Imagining every possible perversion, every forbidden game Imagining having sex with him and your husband at the same time

Think of telling a lie, and notice how much weaker you are than if you think of a truth It works like this: Hold your arm out to your side, and have someone else attempt to push your arm down while you resist

In a book titled Power vs This can be done for any thought that elicits an emotional reaction

" says Marianne I suppose no one here has had dinner?

In a split second, two hundred thousand excuses run through my head Jacob has a fake smile on his face and agrees like a lamb to the slaughter

Most are not alone, and have an instructor behind them steering They land in the park opposite the hotel

How can they do such a crazy thing? First-timers

I never want to see that man again That's how illnesses come about

How could I fall in love so quickly with someone I don't even know? He's been sent by the devil to destabilize something that was already fragile

Jealousy tells us: 'You could lose everything you worked so hard to achieve "It's true

How is it that hatred can wipe out a couple's entire history? ' It blinds us to everything else, to the moments we've joyfully experienced, to happy times and the bonds created during those occasions

What is your ultimate purpose for your life? Your Ultimate Purpose Write a paragraph, or two, that answers the following questions: Why must you achieve this ultimate vision?

How will that make you feel? What will it give you to achieve this vision in your life?

What is my purpose? Why do I want to do this?

How will this make me feel? What will it give me (or others)?

Perhaps tonight I'll do the same with my husband " So he talks about these things with his wife

How would he react? Instead of going to a nightclub, I could sit down with him and tell him everything

Fires are lit and blankets are brought out of cupboards We already hear about people in other countries dying of the cold, traffic jams on snowbound highways, airports closed

In nature, the landscape looks magnificent But that happens only in the world we humans create

Thus And it is also where we achieve the most inner personal growth

However, so many of us struggle to make sense of our closest relationships [0 fuJly love another person is perhaps one of the most divine experiences on earth

If you or your partner is in a state of anger {which is really juSt another form of fear}, YOli are unable to tap into your heart or (0 see what is really going on ROI\f\1 Managing Your State I n relationships (and in life), state changes everything

However, you need to start to understand and appreciate that the masculine and fem inine accually think differently Many times, focusing on what your parmer is or isn't doing creates a major shift in your own stare and therefore in the state of the relationship

I take a ten-milligram pill and fall into a deep, dreamless sleep I've always refused to take any medicine because I'm afraid of becoming dependent, but I need to be in top form tomorrow

I GET there early, and go straight to the clubhouse and out into the garden I don't wake up all night

" A clean car won't exactly change the world, but this morning, it is the only thing my neighbor cares about After a certain age, you have to do irrelevant things—to pass the time, to show others that your body is still in working order, to express that you still appreciate the value of money and can still carry out certain humble tasks

I LEAVE my car at the park-andride (Take the bus into town! He says good morning, smiles, and goes back to his work as if he were polishing a Rodin sculpture

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I hope the same doesn't happen to my life Gradually, the refurbishment spread to the whole house

I SPEND quite a long time finding out more about Marianne, or Mme König, as she calls herself I hope that the small things won't lead to great transformations

I'm told that he's very busy after the elections, but I need to speak to him I ring his aides

I adopt a strategy I often have to resort to: I use the phone of someone whose number will not be on his list of contacts I continue trying

I've thought of seeking medical help, but my wife doesn't want me to And that makes me feel useless

I agree She says that if anyone found out, it could ruin my career

I'm really scared But I don't want to know

I allow myself to cry as loud as I can, to shout and make a scene in the only safe place on earth: my car My stomach is churning, and my hands clench around the steering wheel

He gets up and walks me to the door Another client will be arriving, and he tries to keep his patients from crossing paths in the waiting room

I already told you everything I had to say "I don't want to be rude, but please, don't look me up again

I'm not a child, and I thought there was nothing new about me left to discover I'm in my thirties

I am a mystery to myself; I opened the floodgates and I want to go further, try everything that I know exists— masochism, group sex, fetishes, everything But there is

All without feeling a drop of remorse And I'm not the least bit concerned with maintaining it: I already got the adventure, the pleasure of the transgression, the new sexual experiences, the joy

I am at peace I am giving myself the present that I deserve after behaving for so many years

The chair is attached to the glider; I will go in front, he in the back " My flight partner, in all his wisdom of twenty-one years, begins attaching ropes to my body with big aluminum clips

I am completely unresponsive I can still give up, but that's no longer me

My secret is out But saying these words has already filled me with an enormous peace

I am no longer alone The wine is having its effect

From one moment to the next, I have suddenly become wise, I have regained control of the situation and dared to do something that before I could only imagine Immediately, all my feelings of impotence, fragility, failure, and insecurity are replaced by one of immense euphoria

I am once again the mistress of my thoughts and my actions I have ventured into unknown territory and dangerous waters, destroying pyramids and building sanctuaries

As adulcs, we still get hurt and it's equally important that we get Jove and attemion when we need it By giving anemion As children, we learned to request love and ancncion when we gOt hun

In our culture, if someone is hUft, we feel obligated [0 help them The problem comes when you get addicted to getting attention through your pain

I can't go to the campus restaurant, where Marianne—or Mme König—is probably casually flipping her blond hair to the side while the boys who study there imagine how they could seduce such an interesting woman and the girls gaze at her as a model of elegance, intelligence, and good behavior The classrooms should be empty

I am told that it is lunchtime (something there is no way I couldn't already know) I go to the reception desk and ask for directions to Mme König's classroom

But I don't believe that it's only once a year that someone important decides to break with routine and go to the underpass at Mont Blanc Bridge to buy something from the dealers who appear like clockwork every day This happens, at most, once a year

I arrive at the underpass If that were the case, the dealers would be long gone for lack of clientele

It implores you to be better than everyone around you Your ego keeps you in a constant state of fear, worry, anxiety, and stress

In short, it maintains your separate status from God and allows you to be terrified of your own divinity It beseeches you to push harder, and to get God on your side

After a few months of going out, during which we discovered at least one hundred and twenty villages around Lake Léman, he asked me to marry him As I got older, I returned to the safe embrace of the wine tasters until I found a man who didn't try to impress me with his sophistication or make me feel like a complete idiot with conversations about mysterious planets, hobbits, or computer programs that erase all traces of the webpages you've visited

I ask Jacob if he knows any nightclubs, because I haven't kept up with Geneva's nightlife ("nightlife" being just a manner of speaking) and I've decided to go out dancing and drinking I accepted without hesitation

At the same time, their attention is diverted by some boxes of marbles, which children used to play with in the backyard He says it's "old" and that we can buy something new on the way back

I ask the vendor how much it costs My eyes fixate on a small painting; it's of a nude woman, lying in bed, and an angel in the process of turning away

He pulls me back into the room What will happen after I leave here and resume my normal life?

I bite his lips and he touches my breasts for the first time since high school I turn around and kiss his mouth and tongue that taste like tobacco, saliva, and vodka

I know what happened here; someone breathed life into a monster that remains famous to this day, although few people know the name of the woman who created him Five minutes later, I'm outside a castle

I can climb through the hedge The gate into the garden is closed, but so what?

Where do they live? I wonder if the mistral has woken him up, too, and what he and his wife will talk about now

I can find out when I get in to work tomorrow It wouldn't be hard to find out

There is no other way to achieve love and there is no mystery about it All you can do is look at Love, fall in love with Love, and imitate it

I can turn on the television and see what is happening around the world because, as long as a bit of Love exists in these tragedies, we are heading for salvation We love others, we love ourselves, we love our enemies, and then we will never want for anything in our lives

All I have to do is determine which drawer she won't be opening anytime soon, which is the riskiest part of my plan I know how to enter the university without being seen and plant the evidence in Marianne's desk

I can't ask a student for help But that's what the drug dealer suggested, and I should listen to the voice of experience

I do, inexperienced and rather awkward He asks me to put it on with my mouth

I can't believe that he thinks that I go around sleeping with everyone and might have something I don't understand the need for it

We live in Switzerland, where the clocks are always right I'm two minutes late

I can't understand why people enjoy them Yes, I have behaved strangely over the last few months, but one thing hasn't changed: I hate going to parties

I keep thinking about the conversation in the park, that kiss Tomorrow it will be sunny

I did something I'd never done before, and that in itself has begun to break down the walls imprisoning me I feel no regrets at all

On the other hand, I feel so good today; why spoil it by confessing to things I don't even understand myself? I'll confide in him, and I'm sure he'll be able to help me

I don't believe that what I'm going through can be put down to a lack of chemical elements in my body, as I've read online about "compulsive sadness I continue to struggle

She stares me right in the eyes I help myself to more fondue

I don't care one bit about her and Jacob, who must have confessed everything, unable to stand the pressure I know you're talking about me, but I don't want my husband to suspect anything

I was thinking today about my childhood and teenage years " Because it's only now that things have become unbearable

I don't think so, not unless my mind has been lying to me all these years, which I think is unlikely Does the root of all this lie there?

That's the way it works Not only do you have to accept me as your doctor, but I also have to accept you as my patient

I don't use drugs " No, I insist

It's an Audi—one of Geneva's nicknames is, after all, Audiland I look at the car

I draw out the conversation and end up asking what he thinks people are looking for in life It looks perfect, but he shows me one or two places where it isn't as shiny as it should be

" We talk for almost two hours Just as a dark well has thirst-quenching water at its bottom, the night, whose mystery brings us closer to the mystery of God, has a flame capable of enkindling our soul hidden in its shadows

I explain my desire for revenge He insists I need nothing more than to let myself be carried away—and that even my greatest fears are unfounded

"Are you feeling all right? You may have been elected to the Council of States, but you could miss out on becoming a minister, I say

I feel fine " Yes, I say, and hang up, but only after asking him to send me a text confirming where and when we should meet tomorrow

"And of course I had to prove them right, what with my need for love and approval "As I'm sure you remember, I was considered the most promising student of our year," he says

I finished high school with brilliant results I sacrificed nights out with my friends to study and meet other people's expectations

And the eagle tells me: "This is Eternity I'm in another world

I go back in time and space to the moment when everything is created and the stars walk backward " In Eternity, we don't exist; we are just an instrument of the Hand that created the mountains, the snow, the lakes, and the sun

His wife can't control everything in his life I look him straight in the eye and say that I'm actually very happy, and that he should go to a psychiatrist

I have a friend who was cured by taking pills Besides, medical confidentiality would guarantee that no one would find out

I finally have something to fill my boring life Why wouldn't I?

I have an enemy to destroy and a goal to achieve And my sleepless nights will no longer be full of crazy thoughts: now I know what I want

Only a few more feet That gives us hope for the spring

I have just been reborn The walls have all fallen

He restrains himself from drinking the entire contents of his wineglass Jacob goes pale

I imagine there are some people like that in your line of work, too, who will go from junior reporter straight to retirement ..." "Many," I reply with zero emotion in my voice "I believe my husband meets insecure people every day who must be dying of boredom in their own marriage and are destined to have a mediocre and repetitive life

We know this story is doomed to end, but it doesn't matter now I just now realize that

I just enjoy this moment by his side and wait for him to finish his cigarette before getting dressed and going downstairs ahead of him I don't say anything more

The problem is forgetting about the wrong man, the one passing by who came in a door that was left open without asking permission Of course you can

I knew from the beginning that our relationship was doomed, although I never imagined it would end in such a humiliating way What exactly did I want from Jacob?

" I decide to take this little game of seduction a step further—it's a game that has always amused me " "Yes, biased

I know all the methods, diversions, traps, and objectives What have I got to lose?

I wanted to screw No intellectual or psychological justification

I know people who married for security, status, and money End of story

I dine out only when my social life requires it, and, whenever I can, I avoid it I like the food, the wine, and the atmosphere, but I always feel that we eat better at home

I love being with my family, feeling that I'm both protector and protected I love cooking

But please don't take this personally—it seems like I'm surrounded by things that make no sense I notice when you turn over in bed and when you talk in your sleep

I love you Just to be clear, though: I love our children

No, best not to think and just let the words flow naturally I keep thinking about what I should say when I reach his side

I may not recognize or accept them, but they are more powerful than my need to control everything They are inside me

I love, but in return I want something concrete—holding hands, kisses, hot sex, a dream to share, the chance to create a new family and raise my children, the opportunity to grow old alongside the person I love Of course not

I must be verging on madness again "We need a very clear goal for any given step," explains the pathetic figure in front of me with a seemingly confident smile

In the middle of the afternoon It could have been in a bistro in the city or in a bar on one of the roads that lead off from the city's main (or you might say only) commercial street, but he chose the restaurant at the golf club

I need to come up with a good excuse for my boss, but that's not a problem Because at that hour, the restaurant will be empty and we'll have more privacy

No one is waiting for me at the end of the journey I get straight into my car and drive, not knowing exactly where I should go

I need to drag myself onward Melancholy has become apathy

My boss is still standing next to me, listening to my side of the conversation and gesturing Now I need to approach the subject in a different way

I need to explore the female role in this "spiritual" quest, and my boss's wife would like to meet him Finally, when the shaman is almost ready to hang up, I insist that the article was lacking

And now I am realizing that those days are gone forever I know I don't love him, but he has slowly been giving me back some of the joy I'd lost, keeping me from the pit of loneliness I had been drowning in up to my neck

I need to pick up the pieces that are still left I have to come back to reality, to the supermarket, to the days that are all alike, and to the safety of my home— something that was once so important to me, but had started feeling like a prison

I go to the oldfashioned ice-cream parlor on the corner of Rue du 31 Décembre I leave, cross the street, and go to the Jardin Anglais, where, moments ago, I imagined walking

I order a scoop of pistachio with chocolate I like the name of this street because it always reminds me that sooner or later, another year will end and, once again, I'll make big resolutions for the next

Turning thirty was hard, and perhaps I just wasn't ready for it But the mere fact that I don't remember says something very important: it's over

I pour myself a glass of wine and go out into the garden My husband goes upstairs to put the children to bed

I get home on time after another day of gathering information about the most trivial things in the world: pilot training, a surplus of Christmas trees on the market, and the introduction of electronic controls at railroad crossings I'LL FIND out shortly if my husband is exercising the utmost selfcontrol or if he really doesn't give a damn about what happened

I prepare dinner as if this were just another evening among the thousands we've spent together This made me extremely happy, because I was in no condition, physical or mental, to think much

You won't be the first I've told "no Then I add: It's because you want to go to bed with me

I pretend to be unfazed and point at the waves on the normally calm surface of the lake below " He shakes his head

We need to wait a while and let things cool off before we go back to meeting Did I not read the message he sent, saying how his wife is convinced there is something between us?

I pretended I was deeply shocked by her insinuations "Of course I denied everything

I gaze at the sky He looks at me

I realize that I am crying All I can see are other colorful paragliders, approaching where I am

I tried to be honest and tell him everything to lift that weight off my shoulders, but I didn't need to He must have known, too, but his love was stronger

I realized I was blaming myself and beating myself up over things he wasn't condemning or even blaming me for He made me see that regardless of the choices I made in life, he would always be by my side and so my burden was light

Before I go to the newspaper, I have to interview Jacob, my exboyfriend from high school There's something very wrong with this world, and it isn't just the wars going on in Asia or the Middle East

I really am losing interest in things Not even that cheers me up

But how do I know that man didn't trick me? I paid a fortune for something that weighs almost nothing

I rent two or three movies whose main characters are addicts I need to find out for myself

Their schedules are packed—a sign there are more unbalanced people in Geneva than imagined I make three appointments with different doctors

I resort to the trump card that never fails: I say where I work I say it's urgent, but the secretaries contend that everything is urgent, thank me for my interest and apologize, but they can't cancel other patients' appointments

Easily deceived, I think: Who knows, maybe he does have something of importance to tell me, some state secret that will change the politics of the country and make the editor look at me with new eyes " I agree

I return his kiss, because it's been a long time He goes over to the door, locks it, then comes back and kisses me

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42 ANT IONY & SAGE ROBSI'" Step 5: Heal Your WOl1nru and Create Passion HeaJ all wounds with consistenc application of love and acceptance Love will heal all wounds and i, will fix problems tha, nothing else can fix In what situntiom and circumstanas can you anticipau that your partn~r may nud mo" support and lov~ from you? 'tAl) MAKING TO IOVf MAKING 41 Step 3: Create Rituals of Giving and Receiving Creare riruals of giving and receiving Keep those riruals a1ive They will sus[ain your love and passion Cr~au a list of rituals that both you and your parm" would enjoy Step 4: Inspire 'lrust and Respect in Each Other Inspire [ruse in each other by showing your consisrency and your honesty Make sure your partner knows your good intentions every day What are thru things you can start doingfor your parm" that wi" ins pi" their trust and "SP~ct?

4 Once you understand the essence of the system, learning the details of how to use it will be a lot simpler

5 Because we want to free you from your stress and to give you more choices, freedom, and certainty about what you can achieve and experience in your life

5 Feel the Strength of your heart and all that it has guided you to do throughout the years

6 Realize that the beating of your heart is life in you

No One Knows Enough to Be a Pessimist Find an opportunity to observe a tiny little green sprout emerging from a seed Having a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing seems to me to be one of the most basic principles that you can adopt to contribute to individual and world peace

A famous poet named Rumi observed, "Sell your cleverness and purchase bewilderment When you do, allow yourself to feel the awe of what you're seeing

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The more peaceful you become, the easier you can deflect the negative energies of those you encounter Meditation Not Only Affects You, It Impacts Everyone Around You When you're at peace, you radiate a different kind of energy than when you're stressed or depressed

A hostile current is greeted with a smile and an inner knowing that this is not your stuff This is like having an invisible shield around you that nothing can penetrate unless it's at a higher spiritual energy than your shield

I know that major world powers send their representatives here to discuss the threat of nuclear-weapons proliferation, "on neutral ground I read today's papers, but not the city sections with the local news

A lot " And does this affect my life?

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And does no one notice? Yesterday's conversation did no good at all; I'm starting to think that I'm headed out of the indignant phase and straight into apathy

After all, I'm the last person in the world to admit that I need help Of course not

Our marriages are safe No one saw us—we're not in a restaurant

After all, it was only a kiss I consider apologizing, but know it's not necessary

JACOB König, what are you doing in my bedroom, in my bed, and in my nightmares? Trusting the one you love always brings good results

After all, it's only three days until the elections for the Municipal Council and you've already wasted precious hours of your campaign having lunch with me at La Perle du Lac and talking in the Parc des Eaux-Vives You should be working

He's relieved to have someone who can help him when he feels most alone I imagine Jacob lying beside his wife and telling her everything he feels (although I'm sure he won't say anything about me)

After all, they don't have any children to worry about! I don't really believe what he said about her— if it were true, they would have separated

If sex is skipped, suspicions arise, so it's best to stick to the ritual As if it were an obligation, both parties accept without questioning whether the other is in the mood

After all, we're married If it wasn't good, don't say anything, because tomorrow may be better

No, the suffering and pain will spread everywhere And if that happens, things won't just happen inside me

After what seems only a second, my husband wakes me up I lie tossing and turning in bed for what feels like ages before I fall asleep

I want to go back in time, only that's impossible I feel like I inflicted this abuse on myself

All I can do is cry, feeling ashamed and hateful I need to make a plan to regain lost ground, but I can't think straight

"I'd like to see you again Perfect, I'll do that

All it took was this simple phrase to transform what seemed like hell, a mistake, a misstep, back into heaven " Right

We've always screamed We're afraid of spiders and insects, and we scream in situations like this

I stop screaming Suddenly my feet lift off the ground, and I hold on to the belts securing me to the chair with all my might

He gives me one, but not before reminding me it's a nonsmoking room I ask for a cigarette

I take a drag and feel ill It feels so lovely to break the rules, even stupid ones like that!

" Like in love, for example Despite their heightened sensitivity, women are more steadfast than men

I tell him everything that happened to me, and I begin to sob He agrees

It's up to you, I say " he asks

I tell him that's when I have my yoga class He suggests meeting on another day

They couldn't understand what I'm feeling at all What stops me isn't my work or my husband, but my children

I think about a marriage, my marriage, in which jealousy plays no part Everything grows more intense

No looking back No good-byes

I think nothing I FEEL nothing

I spent the holidays in New York once I am glad that things aren't as over-the-top in Geneva as they are in other countries

Although I've never taken LSD, I imagine you would need a triple dose of it to see all those colors Everywhere there were lights, tinsel, carolers, decorated windows, reindeer, bells, fake snowflakes, trees with ornaments in every size and color, smiles glued on everyone's faces ... And me, absolutely sure that I was a freak and the only one to feel completely alien

Afterward, I slathered on plenty of moisturizer and went to the children's bedroom to read them a story Then I took my second shower of the day and allowed the water to wash away my anxiety

I told them to turn their electronics off, and they reluctantly obeyed I found them glued to their tablets, which I think should be forbidden for anyone under fifteen

Oh, dear, now she realizes that she has less cheese than she thought! Officially, Jacob is still campaigning, but why not get things ready for the evening?

Among the dozens of varieties on display, she chooses the cheeses that are the pride of the Canton of Vaud: Gruyère (all three varieties: mild, salé, and the most expensive of all, which takes nine to twelve months to mature), Tomme Vaudoise (soft and creamy, to be eaten in a fondue or on its own), and L'Etivaz (made from the milk of cows grazed in alpine pastures and prepared in the traditional way, in copper cauldrons, over open wood fires) She gets in the car again and goes back to the market

We run together for the remaining ten minutes I do as he asks

Among the photos is one of Jacob König, smiling at the camera I pass billboards for the various Council of States candidates, which I hadn't noticed before

I am here, in this womb made of nothing and everything But what does it matter what will happen in the future?

I try to explain this to myself in words, try to find a way to remember what I feel right now, but soon these thoughts disappear and emptiness returns to fill everything once again My heart fills every corner of the universe

And what of the future and all of your tomorrows? All because of that spark of open-mindedness that allowed progress, growth, and creativity to flourish

An open mind allows you to explore and create and grow Can you picture faxing yourself back to the 14th century, flying without machines, telepathically communicating, demolecularizing yourself and rearranging yourself on another galaxy, or cloning a sheep from a photograph of a sheep?

Has Interlaken awakened forgotten memories and opened up Pandora's box? " Who is this man next to me?

And I begin to be afraid I say nothing

What are you doing in my dreams? Isn't that enough?

And afterward, when we made love more passionately than we have in a while, the feeling that happiness had been sucked out of my life disappeared completely I did exactly as you suggested; I talked to my husband, and I felt the love he feels for me

A woman who seems stiff or unapproachable co one man may be completely open and vibrant (0 another a guy who is a jerk [0 one woman might be a total love [Q another

And anytime rwo people meet, a new world is created that never exisred before Sometimes, different people are able ro access differenr pans of personalities more easily man others

To know God is to banish doubt and become independent of others' definition and description of God The second word in the Old Testament observation, know, refers to making your personal and conscious contact with God

And as Melville reminded us so poignantly, "God's one and only voice is silence Instead, you have your own personal knowing

But right now, I can't love To love is to transform slavery into freedom

And as absurd as this might sound, it gives meaning to my days I just feel hate

The wind is controlling our lives The instructor keeps running for a few more seconds and then immediately we're no longer going in a straight line

I try to imagine that I'm at home in the kitchen, telling the kids a story about something that happened during our trip; maybe about the town, or maybe about the hotel room I don't open my eyes that first minute—I don't want a concept of height, the mountains, the danger

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And when that happens, they turn into passion These wounds will only heal through the application of consistent lo'W: and acceptance

I love my husband, who always supports me I love and no one can take that away from me

And while I was walking toward him, one lovely autumn afternoon, I dropped all my defenses and cannot rebuild them I think I also love another man, whom I met in my youth

Whatever the reasons our ancestors may have had for not having open minds, it's true that they inhabited a much less populated world than we do If both your parents were Republicans, it's improbable that you heard the virtues of the Democratic Party extolled

I urge you to open your mind to all possibilities, to resist any efforts to be pigeonholed, and to refuse to allow pessimism into your consciousness In today's overpopulated world, we simply cannot continue to live with those old styles of closed-mindedness

I suspect he is working in Switzerland illegally I visit the first one —a strange sort of man with a British accent, who is adamant that he does not accept national health insurance

I use the examples of Frankenstein and his monster, of Dr I explain, with all the patience in the world, what is happening to me

Time to start the car? I dry my tears and look straight ahead

I wait a bit longer Not yet

There is a door at the end of the hall I leave without looking back, walking in the direction from where they came

I walk over and, at the reception desk, I ask for someone who doesn't exist I open it and exit at the top of a small hill across from the hospital for the elderly with its massive walls and—I'm sure—the heating running smoothly

Anthony Robbins' RPM Life Planner™ Life Management System Software is unlike any scheduling software you might have seen before Once you know the results you are after, how to achieve them becomes immediately clear

In fact, how do most people count? For example, when most people are learning, they tend to remember things that are grouped into threes

Anything above three things becomes too much for us to remember One, two, three ... many!

" I reckon he knows this and is happy merely to be an object of desire, nothing more All the women in the office have commented that "the poor thing needs someone to look after him

Anyway, I look at my neighbor this morning and feel like crying Perhaps, like me, he has a terrible fear of taking a false step and ruining everything—his job, his family, his past and future life

The Swiss know how to solve their problems I live in a fantasy one

I walk through this city that I love, looking at its shops and businesses that —with the exception of places for tourists—seem to have frozen in the fifties and don't have the slightest intention of modernizing Incapable of solving my own, I created a situation where I had the ideal family and the perfect lover

" I ask if he has crack or heroin "All right, I'll repeat in terms you might understand: hashish, amphetamines, LSD, or cocaine?

I want to tell him that the ones he mentioned are also banned, but I bite my tongue He says those drugs are banned

Thinking that Marianne was looking at me and saying what I already knew? How could I have been so naïve?

I wanted to humiliate her, to destroy her in front of her husband so she wouldn't see me as just a pastime Because I felt guilty, like a criminal

Even though I was only eight years old, it seemed like it was already too late to change and to prove to the other children that I was just like them But that day in the playground, I realized that I was alone, and might remain alone for the rest of my life

I was at secondary school, and the boys were always hitting on me, no matter how hard I tried to fend them off Now, summer

I'm not trustworthy And that just makes me more upset

I was led to that hotel on false pretenses Actually, yes, I am

I arrive with my husband at the TV station, and we are told the party is on the top floor So had he, and changing his mind now would be terrible for his career

Apparently, I know almost everyone My phone rings before we get in the elevator, and I am forced to leave the queue and stay in the lobby, talking with my boss, while others arrive, smiling at me and my husband and nodding discreetly

"We can't leave any smell He is no longer the violent man from a few moments ago, but the young romantic who used to talk to me about galaxies and astrology in school

Apparently, it's not his first time " His words are a brutal return to reality

Because if something happens to me, you'll know and can take care of our children " Yes, I do

I will be remembered as a companion for all seasons, one who always stood by her husband's side, in sorrow and in joy, adventure and routine And you'll feel guilty for the rest of your life for having this insane idea

On this page, the protagonist laments that all she feels is "insomnia, emptiness, and apathy, and, if you just ask yourselves, you're feeling the same thing 8

Are there other places in the novel wherein the protagonist assumes the reader feels the same way she does? " Why do you think the author chose to direct that sentiment toward the reader?

) Did you include the Role this Result/Outcome fulfills? How will it make me feel?

Are they clear enough that anyone else could pick up your RPM Block and complete them? Massive Action Plan (MAP) Are your Actions specific activities that you could follow through on today?

I suspect that everyone in this room knows it, and that the word "lovers" is written on our foreheads I'm just avoiding the man I went to bed with yesterday

I would love to be home right now, taking care of our children instead of having left them with a babysitter I smile and say something he's tired of hearing, that I'm too old to go to parties

" Are you the instructor? "We're ready, madam

I'd rather go with your boss Aren't you too young for this?

It's not that at all, I say He hugs me, says it's all over now, and that he shouldn't have made me do something I didn't want to

I'll be fine in a little while Just leave me alone, please

" Are we encouraging unlawful activity when we bombard young people with incentives for excessive consumption? "And since it's not all that orthodox, might we be encouraging any unlawful activity?

Are we encouraging depression and suicidal tendencies when we publish articles on successful people without explaining how they got there and make everyone else convince themselves they're worthless? Are we encouraging accidents when we advertise that new cars can reach speeds of up to 250 kilometers per hour?

"Is there something wrong? I want distance, and I imagine Jacob does, too

Are you Dr " I knew it

"Nothing in particular " And what caused your depression?

Are you feeling depressed, too? But why so many questions?

He goes on: "Why exactly do you go to yoga classes? " My heart stops

Aren't you wasting your time? You're such a calm, wellbalanced person, and a woman who knows what she wants

" I think so, too It's impossible to understand you!

As I imagine often happens, he came home begging for forgiveness I continue my story: She said she wasn't ready to live with him and broke it off

After working tirelessly in his laboratory, he manages to develop a formula He is determined to prove his theory, which was ridiculed by almost everyone he knows, including the father of his fiancée, Beatrix

As a result, his demonic side— whom he calls Mr Not wanting to endanger anyone's life, he uses himself as a guinea pig

The joy in life comes from the process of knowing that we are making progress in the areas that matter to us most The way to have time speed by and feel euphoric is if you are focused on what's most important to you in your life

As a result, what many people invariably do is they begin to do all of this at the level of their weekly or daily plans In the beginning, you will likely not have all of your project plans done, or perhaps even all of your categories specifically defined

We've already had a very interesting conversation about the role of women in shamanist rituals Several crystals rest on top of a piece of furniture

As any scholar can see, the goddesses of agriculture are always female, and medicinal herbs were introduced to cave-dwelling tribes by the hands of women He explains to me that at birth we all have moments of revelation, and this is even more common with women

" He begins to walk away, but I stop him and plead for him to listen to me Please, lady, find somebody else

As far as I know, the person in question doesn't do drugs, I explain I note that desperation has likely already doubled the price

Let me take care of the rest And when we start to run, don't stop

As if we were now familiar with all of this, when the most they had the patience to explain was that the risk lies exactly in wanting to stop in the middle " Instructions

After a long conversation, during which she explains that I am being "bullied" in my marriage, that without a doubt "I have no room to grow," and that my sexuality "is causing hormonal disturbances widely addressed in medical literature," she takes her prescription pad and writes down the name of a known antidepressant " Normal?

As long as I continued taking the pills, of course She adds that until the medication takes effect, I will still be facing one month of hell, but soon all of this will be nothing more than an unpleasant memory

I do, and I can't reject it, because it's been a good influence on my life, driving me on Perhaps they don't have this need to impress other people

As long as I manage to preserve my world exactly as it is today As long as I don't take any unnecessary risks, of course

When you dip your glass into the ocean, what you have is a glass of God If you can think of God as the ocean and yourself as a container, you may find it helpful in moments of doubt, or when you feel lost or alone, to remember that you are a container of God

As long as you refuse to believe otherwise, you won't feel separate from God It's not as big or as strong, but it's still God

We conclude that he's had too much to drink to drive home, so we'll have to leave the car at the restaurant and fetch it tomorrow I would hate it if he arrived home bearing a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers

I'll be there early tomorrow morning to take them to school I telephone my mother-in-law and ask if the children can sleep over

" your brain will search until it finds references to support the fact that you are lucky If you ask, "How come I'm so lucky?

As we've already discussed, traditional time planning is based upon the question, "What do I need to do today? If you ask a better question, you will come up with a better answer and therefore, a better result

Step 2: Create your RPM MAP (Massive Action Plan) This step of planning is the process of turning your capture list into RPM Blocks This way, if you think of something in the middle of the day, you can take two seconds, enter it and then forget about it until you sit down to create your plan

As you do this, ask yourself the following questions: What is the most important RESULT or OUTCOME that I must produce in order for this day (week/project) to be both successful and fulfilling? To do this, you will look at your capture list for your day, week, or the project you are working on, and start to notice relationships between some of the items

You move into spirit and feel inspired when you're activating the forces of the universe to work with you Anything that coincides is said to fit together powerfully

As you place more and more of your energy on what you intend to manifest, you start seeing those intentions materializing Since all is guided by Spirit, there is less of a gap between your thoughts and seeing the result of those thoughts materialize for you

The law of attraction is put into play, and your thoughts literally become attractor energies You must hold on to the idea that you can negotiate the presence of these things by keeping your energy field always focused with love on what you passionately intend to create

As you stay in spirit and act as if what you desire is already here, you'll find it less and less puzzling At first, it will seem startling and almost unbelievable

If you have not already decided what you value most in your life, you can follow the following steps to do so Your Values Your values are the emotions that are most important to you in life

Ask yourself, "What's most important to me in life? 1

Tame your ego, and absolutely free yourself from ever taking anything personally Of course you've been taught to take life very personally, but this is an illusion

I'll direct my thoughts off of me, and spend the next few hours looking for a way to be of service to anyone or any creature on our endangered planet Keep these thoughts in mind, particularly when you feel lost or are unsure of your purpose: "My purpose is about giving

The longer we speak, the better I begin to feel He listens without commenting or judging a single word

At one of its gates are huge plastic chess pieces and several black and white squares painted on the ground He suggests we leave and walk through the park

I'll take the same car and I'll drive to the same place I return to every night I'll leave by the same door through which I entered

I'll take a bath, removing what little of him remains on me I'll run in, saying I have indigestion and need to go to the bathroom

No exceptions " What Being Open to Everything Means Everything means just what it says

I'll think about it When someone suggests something to you that conflicts with your conditioning, rather than responding with, "That's ridiculous; we all know that's impossible," say, "I've never considered that before

Unhappiness Opposition

At that precise moment—it's 1:55 p Things I never expected to hear Jacob König say

This was a real discovery! · Write down a list of complaints

At the end of the day, when I read the list, I realize that I've been angry about nothing Every time I feel angry about something, I write it down

Otherwise you go home with nothing and are unable to participate at the higher levels So, at the $1,000 level, blame has to go

At this level, you must be willing to send the higher, faster energies of love, peace, joy, forgiveness, and kindness as your response to whatever comes your way You must be willing to pass a new test at the second critical level, the $32,000 question, which is the final obstacle you must face in order to move into the more exalted realm of self-actualization and higher consciousness, the million-dollar spiritual level

Feeling connected means you truly sense that we are all one, and that harm directed at others is really harm directed at ourselves At the level of mystical consciousness, you feel connected to every individual, every creature, the entire planet, and God

At this level, you're a member of the human race, not a subgroup Here, cooperation supplants competition; hatred is dissolved with love; and sadness is reduced to nothingness with joy

Not at all But do you think memories can fill the present?

I'm discovering I'm no longer the same person In fact, they're suffocating me

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ANOTHER day at the newspaper, trying to ferret out some interesting news other than the usual car accident, weaponless mugging, and fire (which dozens of fire engines manned by highly qualified firemen rushed to put out and flooded an old apartment Everyone is happy apart from me, as I travel to work wondering what's wrong

Back home, there's the pleasure of cooking, the table set, and the family gathered around it, thanking God for the food we're about to receive All because the neighbors were alarmed about the smoke issuing from a pot roast left too long in the oven)

A not-so-crowded bridge is the symbol of San Francisco An apple represents New York

Barcelona has an unfinished cathedral as its most emblematic monument Another bridge, this one over the Tagus, dominates the picture postcards of Lisbon

Your intuitive inner voice keeps urging you to play the music that you hear so that you won't die with it inside you You might not always act on this knowledge, though, because your left brain has not mustered up the courage to do the bidding that your right brain knows is your destiny

Be careful, don't take risks, you might fail, you might disappoint all of those who have a different view of what you should be doing But your left brain says, "Wait a minute

__________ _ eRA/Y MAKING TO lOVl:: MAKIN(J 31 Go through (his exercise quicldy, writing down the first number that comes to mind How am I meeting my panners need for Conuibution on a scale of lto IO?

Be spontaneous Don't hesitate

I walk toward the room where Marianne teaches, surprised by my composure She will certainly conclude that I have recently had plastic surgery

I'm here and I feel quite at ease I imagined that I would be afraid, that I would give up halfway, but no

Because this is where the fun, joy, passion, and fulfillment is! 2

Because having a compelling vision is what will keep you going when the going gets tough 3

To help you get associated to the power of this system, how it works and why it is much more powerful than a simple to-do list 6

Because now that you understand the psychology of RPM and are emotionally associated tyour overall vision and purpose in life, the mechanics will make a lot more sense! Purpose of this section 1

Because once you complete your life plan, learning how to plan your days and weeks to move toward this life plan is simple Purpose for this section 1

Because this is where the fun, joy, passion, and fulfillment is! 2

Because having a compelling vision is what will keep you going when the going gets tough 3

Because we want you to have a way of organizing your life so that you feel your life is manageable and that you truly can make progress in all the areas of your life that count 4

You should face things head-on What's more, forgetting is the wrong approach

Before I go to sleep, I send a message to Jacob accepting his invitation " I listen to the whole tape, and then try to distract myself, making pledges and jotting down a few more things in my calendar, but nothing works

And she already knew exactly what she wanted Fifteen!

I'm in my thirties and wish for a different things every hour, but am incapable of fulfilling them ... although I'm perfectly capable of walking through a romantic, melancholy autumn afternoon, thinking about what to say when the moment arrives And knew how to get it, too

I will never be capable of explaining what I feel, not even to myself, but what does it matter? I am flying and talking with the angels, hearing voices and revelations that will soon be forgotten, but that, at this moment, are as real as the eagle before me

I'm in the present It's the future, and I'm not there yet

Did I do that in order to impress him or in an attempt to escape what my girlfriend called "hell"? Did I want to prove to Jacob that I'm independent, free, my own woman?

I'm not at any crossroads Everything will continue as before

I didn't mean to say all that "Forgive me

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I want him to appreciate my dress, my shoes, my fashionable lightweight jacket, the way I walk Slowly, I begin to walk back to the clubhouse

I'm thinking about what words to use My heart may be pounding furiously, but I must keep cool

Is there something different between the north and south poles? Where did they get that name?

But I bet almost every person has that monster inside of them It must be a minority ... "Of course people who express those dualities are a minority

" Is he talking about my "compulsive sadness"? This isn't just a way of getting some exercise, it's reminding you that there's a finish line and that you can't give up halfway through

I'm too tired to run, but I'm too tired to resist as well He stops jogging, takes my hands, and gently shakes me

I thank him for the invitation and say I already have plans for that evening They do everything they can to hide their weaknesses and any eighteen-year-old girl can manipulate them without much effort

But I can already imagine, and it's of no interest to the newspaper I'm tempted to ask how his latest girlfriend reacted to the wave of negative press and the collapse of his empire

Of course I will I ask, now that there is no going back

I've also made a list of things to focus on whenever I feel I'm in danger of falling back into the black hole: · Play with my children I've survived storms before

"And how are you getting on with that article about next Sunday's elections? It goes down very quickly, among talk of work and complaints about the man who was supposed to come and fix the central heating but never turned up

I've been commissioned to write about a question I find particularly interesting: Does the electorate have a right to scrutinize a politician's private life? " my husband asks

I said the nastiest things a woman can say to a man I made him withdraw, turned over, and asked him to enter me again while looking into my eyes and saying the dirty things we loved to tell each other whenever we made love

But I just spoke profanities and demanded he treat me like a prostitute, like a stranger, that he use me like a slave, someone who didn't deserve respect He called my name softly, begging me to tell him I loved him

Enough And can produce even more beautiful flowers

But I still can't shake anything Work is the best therapy now that I've cried all the tears and thought about everything I needed to think about

" It's time to get my revenge: You don't think you might need some marriage counseling? I know what I'm missing: you

But I would have to go with Marianne, and I can't convince her "I do

I'd love to spend hours chatting with this man " Are all drug dealers like this, or did I just fall into the hands of someone special?

But apparently, he's very busy He's so experienced and knowledgeable

Meanwhile, don't worry, I'll keep fighting " I'd like to believe you, but it's as if my feet are stuck in concrete

I've been in similar situations before, and they've always passed I've been fighting all these months

We need to travel more, maybe at New Year's Eve I think things have improved a lot since we spent that day in Nyon

I've been talking with people who understand this kind of thing Next time we'll leave the children with my mother

But no one shows any anger or enthusiasm; they're not happy or sad, just poor souls mechanically carrying out the mission that the universe assigned on the day they were born Others board slowly, not wanting to get home, to work, or to school

I've figured out a few pieces of my inner puzzle After a while I manage to relax a little

So while you're between the sheets drinking glasses of champagne, a text pops up on the partner's phone letting them know you'll be late leaving work because of an unexpected meeting The way it works is simple: at a set time it sends your partner a sweet message as though you were still at your office

But besides detectives and programmers, hotels have really come out the winner Another app, Excuse Machine, offers a series of excuses in French, German, and Italian —and you can choose whichever is most convenient that day

Have that passion with the awareness that the word enthusiasm literally means "the God (enthos) within (iasm) Be enthusiastic about all that you do

I've found that perceived risks are not risky at all once you transcend your fears and let love and self-respect in " The passion that you feel is God inside of you beckoning you to take the risk and be your own person

Actually, it's not me who is running, but a robot who obeys voice commands " I go faster, my boots kicking snow in all directions

I've gone back to being a cave woman, like the Cuban shaman said I start to scream—not from fear or excitement, but from instinct

"Those who cannot accept this, and who always try to find an explanation for magical and mysterious human relationships, will miss the best part of life I rest my head on his shoulder

But if I can overcome this night and give in to the mystery and faith in life, I will awake in a palace " Today I feel like Psyche on the cliff, cold and afraid

Why? Yes, that's my problem

But if we can defeat these ghosts, we will easily defeat the ones that appear during the day "At night, simply because it is night, we are able to revive our childhood terrors: the fear of being alone, the fear of the unknown

"Like I said, I think it's a stupid feeling Marianne is caught in her own trap

But if you found out your husband was cheating, what would you do? " Yes, you already said that

He will insist that my definition of melancholy is incorrect, but I will simply sip my tea in silence, watching the sun set behind the Jura Mountains and feeling happy to be alive We will talk about love, and how it's always seen as both desirable and threatening

But it's good to talk about flowers in the autumn Ah, yes, we will also talk about flowers, even if the only ones we can see are those decorating the bar inside, the ones that came from some vast greenhouse where they're produced en masse

If he doesn't notice anything different about the routine, he won't suspect that today I gave oral sex to a politician I give him the usual answers

But now I'm mad with desire, needing a man, needing to be kissed, and needing to feel the pain and pleasure of a body on top of mine Which, it should be said, gave me no physical pleasure at all

I don't deserve this This is my problem; the volcano has exploded and there's no way to put the lava back inside, plant some trees, mow the grass, and let the sheep out to graze

But now it's happened and I can't do anything about it except take medication I've always tried to meet everyone's expectations

In summer, the sun makes us drip with sweat In winter, the wind is bone-chilling

But since when have things needed a good reason to exist? It's ridiculous

" I feel disgusted "If he's home, run in and say you're dying to go to the bathroom

But that's life; reality never comes close to our teenage romantic fantasies I waited so long to act like a tigress and ended up being used like a mare

In fact, it's almost a given with me It's not the first time this has happened

But the men ... oh, the men! Even though Mme König won't admit it, I am pretty and smart and I've used my charm to get certain people to say things they wouldn't normally say to journalists, even after warning them I could publish everything

I've never been afraid of flying I don't have to go all the way to the end

But the thing is, when we're in a plane, it doesn't occur to us that it's exactly the same as going paragliding It's always been a part of my life

My sobs are so loud that someone approaches and asks if I need help I park on a side street and cry

But the truth is I do need help—a lot I say no and the person walks away

I run for a few more minutes, then go back But I continue to think them

But there they are, smiling at their loving mother and spouse Halfway, I'm terrified by the possibility that my wish for freedom will come true and I'll find no one there when I go back to the park in Nyon

But we still wake up in the morning and take care of our children, our husband, our lover, our boss, our employees, our students, those dozens of people who make an ordinary day come to life Though the brain says all is well, the soul is lost, confused, doesn't know why life is being unfair to it

But this loneliness exists and eats away at the best parts of us because we must use all our energy to appear happy, even though we will never be able to deceive ourselves And we often have a smile on our face and a word of encouragement, because no one can explain their loneliness to others, especially when we are always in good company

As children, we learn that if we cry we'll receive affection, that if we show we're sad, we'll be consoled In time, that mask gets stuck to our face and we can't remove it

But we no longer cry, except in the bathroom when no one is listening If we can't get what we want with a smile, then we can surely do so with our tears

I look at the dead leaves on the ground I leave the bus stop and start walking back to my car

But we're in Geneva, a much wealthier city, and they're still there In Paris, they'd have already been swept up, I think

In this way, you discover a great truth As you progress through these four archetypes, you'll find yourself thinking less and less of your own self-interest and more and more about how you can make the world a better place for all

But when you turn your thoughts and then your activities, regardless of what they are, to serving others, those things that you used to chase after will follow you wherever you go The more you chase after your own goals and pursue your self-interest, the more these aims will elude you

The children, even without quite understanding our conversation, smile He gets up and gives me a kiss

But why are you telling me this now? "And I'm with the woman I love

"It must have been very difficult to keep all these emotions to yourself for so long I need to learn how to resolve my problems on my own

But why didn't you tell me before? Thank you for telling me

Five minutes of flight is good for me Let's go down gently

But, please, there's a line "You can let me know while we're flying

disowned selves S,ep 2: Accep' Each Personality as rar< of Yours elf Rather than burning all or your energy fighdng internal battles with vilified

By aligning with these selves and uncovering their positive intent (the gifcs that they ultimately wane to give you) love them and integrate their energy inco who you are

It is this belief system that creates your so-called problems You may believe otherwise

By bringing truth to the presence of this arithmetic error, it simply dissolves If you can bring truth to the presence of these illusions, they will dissolve—just as you know that three plus three equals six is true, and that three plus three equals ten is untrue

RPM Planning taps into the power of synergy Thus, you won't need to cross off every action on your list to achieve the result or outcome you are after

By combining related tasks into a single result or outcome, RPM Planning gives you the opportunity to accomplish multiple tasks simultaneously and maximize your effectiveness Traditional to-do list planning does not recognize the relationship between tasks

The people all look my way, smiling But Darius gestures to me

I've regained my composure and am secretly happy, because Marianne wasn't called, nor will she be I walk toward him

How could I have ever been capable of that? I think of this as I make my way to Marianne's office

I've seen men madly in love with their wives lose their heads and beat them, only to beg and sob for forgiveness immediately after Because everyone is

I have to feign interest in what they're saying and respond with a question before I can finally put the hors d'oeuvre in my mouth and finish chewing without seeming rude I'm not much of a drinker—I already get confused with all these people saying hello to me and making conversation

I've worked with some of them, but most of them are foreigners visiting Geneva A screen is lowered and a video clip starts, featuring the most important guests who've been on the program

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I'm not the one who started this conversation, and I don't know what Mme König is driving at " No, I don't

By the way, have you noticed how she's been staring at me the whole time we've been talking about something that's of no interest to anyone at this table but her? But ever since we got here she hasn't stopped insinuating things, and I'm sick of it

Trying to distract myself and calm down, I stop in a bookstore, a butcher shop, and a clothing store It's cold, but not windy, thank God, which makes the temperature bearable

Can you train yourself to love the right man? Each time I go back out into the street, I feel like the low temperatures are helping put out the bonfire I've become

What were some of my magic moments - memories that you will cherish for weeks, months or years to come? How did this week serve to enhance the quality of my life?

If I didn't get as much accomplished as I expected, why not? o What did I learn from this week?

Everything is slowing down The destruction has begun, slow but relentless

Certain files—photos, documents—have disappeared without a trace Some large programs now require a lot of memory to open

"Go all the way," he says I stop whining and also start following the game, though it doesn't interest me one bit

Cheat on my husband, put the cocaine in my rival's purse, and call the police? Go all the way?

The constant beating of your heart in and out, out and in, is a symbol of your infinite connection to the always-present heartbeat of God, or the Universal Intelligence This is who you are

It thinks, thinks, thinks! Your left brain calculates, figures things out, analyzes, and comes up with the most logical choices for you

To become the stud-muffin of my wife's dreams To raise my self-esteem and feel sexy

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I observe my work colleagues out of the corner of my eye, but no one has noticed (or at least none of the women, who have a special radar for these things) Every half an hour or so, I go to the toilet to check that there's nothing on my face or on my Versace shirt, intricately embroidered and perfect for hiding stains

It was as if someone else had taken over and propelled me into a situation that was purely mechanical and non-erotic Why did that happen?

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But sometimes Love demands that you fight for it God would never be so unfair as to allow me to fall in love like that if there were not some possibility for that love being requited

In the pursuit of justice, I have to ward off evil without exasperation or impatience And that's just what I will do

But I want to know exactly what you're looking for, and if you need advice We could have done the deal as we walked, and then I wouldn't be wasting so much of my time

In the three times I walked past, there hadn't been a single interested customer " He wasn't wasting his time; he must have been dying of boredom just standing around in that underpass

But his heart is not made of stone He is unmoved

In this case, the person is happy with what is occurring "When it comes to adultery, meditation helps little or not at all

Try committing only your Result/Outcome and the Must Actions Committing every single Action on your Commit screen

Creating too many Projects This will allow you to chunk your plans at a little bit higher level so that they feel less overwhelming to you

Did he lie awake at night knowing that families were being wiped out, that children were being separated from their parents, or that blood flooded the pavement? I wonder

Did he think everything he did could be justified in the name of love? Or was he so convinced of his mission that there was no room for doubt?

12 Are there any connections to be made between the discussion of cultural norms in Swiss culture and the protagonist's actions?

Did your perception of her change throughout the novel? As her affair progresses, Linda's actions and thoughts take a darker, more obsessive tone

Always put your 10"" jirst 1be 5 Disciplines of Love Discipline #1: Unconditional Love and Compassion

Discipline #3: Know the 1I uth Discipline #2: Total Courage and Vulnerability

) Step 2: Create your RPM Master Plan Result/Outcome Is your result/outcome specific and measurable? (Remember, this is just a place to dump ideas - to get them out of your head - so you can then create your plan

Does it require more just one Result/Outcome to achieve your ultimate result? Could it be made more specific?

He thanked me for taking care of his poodle When my boyfriend arrived, he hugged and kissed me like always

Dogs can't talk We made love, and life continued as before

I try to slow down; I hear more honking and more complaints I hear honking and complaints

Driving under the delayed effects of two tranquilizers and with frazzled nerves, I realize that I am also putting my life at risk If it was stupid to let Marianne suspect something, it was even more stupid to risk everything I have—my husband, my family, my job

) Purpose Typically begins with phrases like: because, so that I feel energized, in order to learn, to feel or experience more love, etc Or, if your result was to make a million dollars in net income in 2001, again, a stranger would be able to evaluate it

! And, typically you will use words or phrases with emotion: because they deserve it, to feel proud, to make a difference, to give back for everything I've received, to kick butt and take names!

Set up a game plan for rewards Treat yourself kindly; catch yourself doing little things right

! What will you do to reward yourself when you reach each of the three phases of implementation of RPM?

When I finally approach my destination, the three are smiling " All this takes about ten minutes

" "I do They congratulate me, say I'm a great public speaker, and deliver the bad news: "I explained to them that you're tired and that our children are with the babysitter," my husband says, "but Mme König insists on having dinner together

I'm not here as a journalist, I say, but as a woman and a former girlfriend I ask him to tell me more about himself, about his personal life

" "I don't have a personal life," he says I stress the word "woman

I often take off my clothes, approach him naked, spread my legs, and ask him to do to me exactly what he did with them Horniness

" "That's all in Marianne's fantasies," says Jacob, rather unconvincingly Sometimes I ask him to tell me how it was, and this makes me come many times

Not being specific enough with your Result Commitments/ Outcomes So you should dial in just 10 minutes, not 40

" Are you listing a specific, measurable result such as a date by which you are committed to achieving it? Did you use powerful, specific verbs such as "create," "establish," "determine," "begin," "resolve," "maintain," or "make major progress on?

Gradually, the light of our dreams turns into the monster of our nightmares So we smother the best in us

" As I understand it, psychiatry used to call it "manic-depressive psychosis," but now they call it "bipolar disorder" to be more politically correct They become things not done, possibilities not lived

"No, there are meditation exercises, too, but I don't think they're much use " Is that all?

" But doesn't it help to know you're not alone? I only started to get better once I accepted that I had a problem

Even knowing that everyone, at some point, has felt completely and utterly alone, it is humiliating to say, "I'm lonely, I need company But we insist, every morning, on showing only the rose that blooms, and keep the thorny stem that hurts us and makes us bleed hidden within

" But it isn't I need to kill this monster that everyone thinks is as imaginary as a fairy-tale dragon, but isn't

He begins to realize that I'm not just there because he is an amazing lover He senses something is wrong, but doesn't know what it is

" Closure "What do you want?

Is that how it is? Love also wants results, although everyone insists, no, that the act of loving justifies itself

" Could that be true? I should be walking through the Jardin Anglais, in my fur coat my husband bought when he went to Russia, looking around at the autumn, smiling up at the sky and saying: "I love you, and that's enough

You're aware of that nagging companion saying to you, "This may look right, but does it feel right? But it's a book that was written by somebody else

" For many people, the answer is, "How do I know what my heroic mission is? Are you doing what you came here to do?

Some Examples However, what's most important is that you create categories for all of the parts you want to focus on in your personal life

" Forever Friendships Fun Absolute Financial Freedom Financial -"Show me the Money! Tony Robbins Paige Anderson Jane Carter Henry Thompson Physical Power: World- Class Health & Fitness Health-"Buns of Steel" Emotional Fitness Health & Vitality Emotional Juice Fun-"Fun was had by all" Family Heart & Soul Personal Growth Outstanding Family Life Family & Friends-"The Buddy System" Physical Prowess Family Extraordinary Friendships Community-"What can I give?

I always envied that "You're stronger than me

" He doesn't know what he's saying Maybe that's the reason I've never shown my feelings—so I won't seem weak

Wouldn't it be cheaper to go over to this woman's house and make a fuss? Is it worth it?

" He had gone from pastor to marriage counselor Besides, from what I understand, she might not be guilty of anything

I paraglide at least once a year "Madam, I've been working here for ten years

" He is smiling I've never seen a single accident

"I just need to lock the door first I slapped him across the face

" He walked across his office, tastefully decorated with nineteenthcentury furniture, and turned the key I've also missed you

"I wouldn't say millions He reflects a bit

" His eyes change; they no longer show aggression, but sadness Maybe thousands

It creates an imbalance between the mind and body If I were you, I would stay away

" I ask her nationality: Hungarian " I didn't ask her opinion, but she seems overcome with humanitarian duty and continues: "The aging process is more traumatic for those who think they can control the passage of time

Every culture has a name for it Meditation

" I explain that I do yoga and that I still can't manage to reach the state where problems are sorted out and solved But remember that the Medical Society of Switzerland doesn't look kindly upon these things

"Let's go " I don't move

" I explain that I don't want to keep twirling around in the sky Start running

"Of course not I ask if he thinks I'm with the police

" I explain that it's my first time doing this The police would know immediately what I'm talking about

If he wants to travel, let's do it at Christmas When I make it to the sidewalk, I call my husband and tell him I would rather spend New Year's Eve at home, with the children

" I nod yes, but I don't move LET'S take a walk before dinner?

It's Eros, the Greek god of love "It's not an angel

" I open a bottle of wine and fill our glasses The girl in the bed with him is Psyche

Zeus passionately pleaded the cause of the lovers with strong arguments and threats until he gained Aphrodite's support Imbued with this conviction, they go to Zeus, the god of gods, and beg that their union never be undone

" I pour another glass of wine From that day on, Psyche (our unconscious, but logical, side) and Eros (love) were together forever

I simply got on with my life, although, now and then, I did feel guilty about having more than I deserved Until the beginning of this year, I didn't question anything

" I shouldn't have asked that question One day, though, while I was making everyone breakfast (it was spring, I remember, and the flowers were just beginning to open in the garden), I asked myself: "Is this it?

We're an emotionally well-structured family An ordinary life

" I understand If one of us needs help, the other is always ready to do anything

Only one thing has mobilized public opinion lately: whether or not the city should cancel the New Year's Eve party Jacob is no longer quoted in the press, and I have no idea what is happening with him

" I was in charge of finding out exactly what that meant According to some deputies, the expense is "exorbitant

No " Are there ten-minute flights?

" I'm already starting to back down "Would you like to jump from one thousand three hundred and fifty or one thousand eight hundred meters?

What is happening with my companies is temporary I know entrepreneurs, politicians, industrialists

" I'm also a well-connected person, I know the same types of people he knows Soon you will witness my comeback

"We should live each and every day with the certainty that this armor will protect us from danger, and then we will no longer be bound to the duality of existence The teacher asks us to imagine ourselves surrounded by an armor made of light

" I'm beginning to understand why I keep skipping my yoga classes We have to find a middle path, where there is neither joy nor suffering, only profound peace

I see a lot of darkness in you, but also a lot of light "There is no need

" I'm on the verge of tears And in this case, I'm sure that in the end the light will overcome

There is no intermediate stage Most see their standard of living drop and become critics of the press, writing blogs, giving talks, and spending more time than necessary trying to impress their friends

" If I can get those statements, it's likely that next year I won't have to hear someone say "We've got to cut costs" and "With your talent and your name, you won't have any trouble finding another job I'm still in the category of "promising professional

As I said in the restaurant, the light in your soul is greater than the darkness By doing what you shouldn't, you will realize it yourself

" In my whole life, I don't think that I've ever heard such a preposterous piece of advice But for this you must go all the way to the end of the game

"I think so " Like me, who either feels great or feels awful

" It's true We're always practicing self-control, trying to keep the monster from coming out of his hiding place

St So too will all of your beliefs that create "problems" in your mind dissolve when you bring the higher energy of truth to them

" Light always dissolves darkness Francis of Assisi, in his famous prayer, beseeches us to change our mind to this thought: "Where there is hatred let me sow love

"And what about you, Linda? I thought he simply wasn't interested in what I did

" Me? Don't you get jealous of your husband?

They try to resist, but they are biologically inclined to do it Intelligent women should not blame men for this

" No Am I being too technical?

When we dream, we put powerful engines in motion and can no longer hide the true meaning of our life from ourselves On the contrary, it can be quite dangerous

" Now When we dream, we also make a choice of what price to pay

I can't heal people "That's not true

" Okay, we agree Only God can do that

In 1566 several churches in the Netherlands were destroyed and "rebels"—in other words, people of a different faith—were murdered The death and destruction were not limited to Geneva; Calvin's apostles, likely represented by the monument's smaller statues, spread his word and his intolerance throughout Europe

" Part of the world's historical and cultural heritage was destroyed and lost forever An enormous amount of artwork was thrown in the fire on the pretext of "idolatry

I find a website with a selfdiagnosis questionnaire titled "Find Out if You Have a Psychological Problem " I need to be absolutely clear about what's happening

" Result: "You're going through a difficult time, but you are definitely not clinically depressed " My response to most of the questions is "No

They seem to possess the magical powers of instant manifestation, their presence appears to heal the sick, and they communicate a sense of divine bliss and peace to all those they encounter You may have read about some of the great saints in India

" The saint responded without hesitation, "Yes, I am," to which everyone in attendance seemed stunned One saint was asked by a reporter from the West, "Are you God?

I've chosen a career that has transformed me into an automaton "I can't, unfortunately

" This isn't quite true, but I find his sincerity disarming Everything I say is scrutinized, questioned, published

I knew it was the last time; he didn't, but I couldn't say anything It was great to have made love like that and end as we began, both of us completely surrendered to the other

" Throw it away "What am I supposed to do with it?

The nurse offers to look around for me I am told the person must be somewhere else—Geneva must have more nursing homes per square meter than any other city

" To avoid further suspicion, I agree to let her search I say there's no need, but she insists: "It's no trouble

" Now, I reply "Now, this morning, or in the afternoon, when you can see the sunset reflected on the surrounding snow?

" Two, if we do it now "So, will it be one person or two?

"I'm not an expert, of course, but my next chance will only come when I'm fifty-eight and Saturn returns again Choices become definitive and it's nearly impossible to change direction

" We've been talking now for almost an hour Although, if Saturn is telling me it's no longer possible to choose another path, why, then, did you invite me to lunch?

What is Time? And to do that, there are a couple of concepts that are important for you to understand before delving into the details of your RPM Planner

" Webster's Third New International Dictionary defines time as "a period during which something exists or continues When we ask this question, the kinds of answers we get are, "Time is something we measure by a calendar or clock," or "Time is a measurement of activity

"Hello, I'm Madame König Someone blocks my path

" What a woman! Jacob has told me a lot about you

According to her, I'll be used to everything soon "I've taken on too many responsibilities and I'm not yet accustomed to it

" What about me? What about you?

My tone changes slightly I, for example, could be having an affair with your husband and you would never know, because I'm not stupid enough to fall for that trap

"Darling, don't you think that's going a little far? My husband looks at me, surprised at my answer

"It's you! I look out at the city, lost in absent thoughts, just waiting for time to pass so we can leave quietly without arousing suspicion

"Darling, he's calling your name! " Me?

She apologizes " The nurse is unable to find the imaginary patient

"Do you think plastic surgery helps? I thank her and prepare to leave, but apparently she is happy to have someone to talk to

The paraglider, in turn, is light, descends with the wind, and obeys the laws of nature like a leaf falling from a tree And it carries luggage, people, equipment, and tons of explosive fuel

"Do you want to go first? It makes much more sense

When will I have the courage to confess? He puts more wood on the fire

"Dreaming isn't as simple as it seems But he doesn't seem to want to let me talk

" As I no longer have free will, I follow orders We have to jump now

"Faster I start running toward the void

I suggest that next time we meet earlier—daylight savings time is over and it's getting dark fast I'm fine, I say

"For me, one of the worst things are the beautiful sunny days this autumn He agrees and gives me a discreet kiss on the lips, anxious not to draw attention from the men around us

Maybe it's the wine or the monster having fun with all this My cool surprises me

"Go on," I say, as I dunk the piece of bread in the melted cheese Maybe it's the immense pleasure of being able to confront a woman who thinks she knows everything

He grabs my hair and controls the rhythm of my head Kneeling down, I unzip his fly and wrap my mouth around his penis

"God, that was good He comes in less than a minute

Tourism is apparently thriving, even without ski slopes I read in one of the brochures that there used to be a street here; now they've joined the two buildings that stood on either side

"How can we go paragliding? But instead of going out the door, my husband turns left and approaches the concierge

"It's the cloud," he says, accepting my invitation I ask if we can continue our conversation in a café, since we're standing outside and the temperature has dropped significantly

"How did you find me? The famous cloud hangs in the city skies until February or March and is driven away only occasionally by the mistral, which clears the sky but makes the temperature drop even more

She's right, though I think the place is hideous—the décor, the paper tablecloths, the lack of any view

"I always used to eat in the same restaurant, which was okay, but nothing special," she says It's one of the best meals I've ever eaten in Geneva

How many have I already wasted? That's the average number of days a normal person lives

"I work eight hours a day, and if I get promoted, I'll be working twelve People around me always complain about everything

But he just gets out his wallet and throws some money on the counter I wonder how my husband will react

"I'm afraid that if I think too much about everything that could have been, and never was, I'll fall into a dark hole ..." I know that feeling He takes my hand and we go out in the cold

I'm confused and scared In the beginning they generally have excellent intentions, but little by little, in order to do what they think is for the "good" of their people, they make use of the very worst in human nature: terror

"No Can this happen to anyone?

Who exactly have you been talking to? " The "thing" must be what he considers my depression

"No, not at all Some friend who will spill the beans the first time he has a little too much to drink?

No, I don't understand, but I nod and remember what happened three nights ago, when I had multiple orgasms " The husband encouraged it?

"No, we lost interest And is the affair still ongoing?

" Do you think she really thought I was talking about her? The conversation has already shifted to children and the responsibilities they bring

"Of course not " I hear Marianne asking my husband

I mustn't blame myself I mustn't judge myself

"There's light at the end of the tunnel He's on my side

Take a pill and problem solved Feeling sad?

"There's no point I ask, very gingerly, if she would be interested in collaborating on a major article on depression for the newspaper

I want to go to the restaurant we booked For me it does matter

"This trip was a terrible idea The same one where we exchanged vows of love

" It would seem that Jacob lives in a completely different world from mine, where wives don't feel jealous and husbands encourage their wives to have affairs A few hours after I'd confessed, her mind was already on other things

"Time heals everything, don't you think? Am I missing out?

It's her way of running away She was never affectionate, and now she's like a robot, more devoted to her work than ever

"What's that? " I adjust my skirt, put on my shoes, take a bundle out of my bag, and leave it on his desk

"Are there any at the zoo? The children want to know if they can see a real porcupine

"What's the ice age? " I don't know

He agreed, and the next day he left me with our two children to go live with the love of his life I asked him to move out

"Women! But she didn't take very kindly to this plan, as she thought it much more fun to be in a relationship with a married man than to live with a husband she didn't choose

" Nothing "What?

"Yes, there is light at the end of the tunnel, if that's what you mean I was rambling on about the monument in the park

What's wrong with me? I come from a normal family, I had a normal upbringing, I lead a normal life

"You're definitely not crazy I didn't say anything before—I tell him, crying now—because I thought it would pass and I didn't want to worry you

In short, I've stopped being the reserved woman I always was I love surprising people with ridiculous and out-of-place opinions

"You're different! People have started to notice

He doesn't drink or go out at night, and he never spends a day alone with his friends Can it be that of all the men in the world, I have married the only one who is absolutely perfect?

It would be a dream if it weren't a nightmare The family is his entire life

I have a fair amount of cocaine ready to be used at any moment, and what better than this "opportunity" to see if I'll carry out my plan But why?

It would be our pleasure, Mme König Besides, I have a morbid curiosity to see how this dinner goes

I don't have the slightest intention of doing that " We?

It's all there The concierge hands him a brochure

But that only makes me feel worse, because I feel I'm being unfair to God, to life, to you I adore my work

It's as if he were sitting opposite a complete stranger He's barely touched his food

Accumulating more awards and prestige and climbing higher on the corporate ladder encourages you to feel good about yourself Having more money makes you feel better

It's at this level of consciousness that problems exist Ego consciousness prods you to compete, compare, and conclude that you are the best, so you concentrate on running faster and looking better than others

Comparing economics to love? What am I doing?

It's been one week since I last heard from Jacob Trying to establish a connection between the financial world and the emotional world?

I'm blinded by hatred I'm plunging deeper into my inner self, into its sea of mud, and I can't swim

It's my fault for wanting to go beyond my limits, for always thinking that my behavior is suspicious, that everyone knows what I am doing I imagine that Jacob has already recovered from yesterday's dinner and will never want to see me again

No, certainly not SHOULD someone beg forgiveness for harboring an impossible Love?

It's never requited at the time, and yet He continues to love us Because God's Love for us is also impossible

By chance, or because life wanted to test me, I found someone who grabbed me by the hair—literally and figuratively—and rattled me, shaking off the dust that had been piling up and making me breathe again I know I'm not the only one— people have a tendency for selfdestruction

It's the type of happiness that addicts must find when they do drugs All of it completely false

They will keep trying for the rest of their lives When they see me again, there is still a glimmer of failed conquest in their eyes

It's thrilling to fight for a love that's entirely unrequited If they can act like that, why shouldn't I do the same?

I think she didn't expect a reaction because she's used to controlling everything Marianne looks at me, stunned

Jacob calls the waiter and asks for the bill I say that I've met a lot of people who are driven by obsessive jealousy, and not because they think their husband or wife is committing adultery, but because they would like to be the center of attention all the time, and they're not

I sense how nervous he is and suggest we stay out on the terrace; we'll have more privacy there and he can smoke I reach his side, and we greet each other with the usual three kisses—right cheek, left cheek, right cheek, as demanded by Swiss tradition (although whenever I travel abroad, people are always surprised by that third kiss)

Jacob orders a Campari and tonic, and I order tea, as planned The waiter knows him

It's me The telephone rings twice and Jacob answers

Jacob replies politely and says that today is impossible, but he'll call me back I need to see you urgently

Her other clothes must have been made exclusively by the best couturier in Paris, whose name must be kept secret in order to avoid copycat designs Blond, blue-eyed, and wearing an elegant black cardigan with a red Hermès scarf, although that's the only famous brand name I can spot

Jacob told you about me? I try not to look surprised

I go in anyway, without hesitation I arrive at the classroom door, reflecting on the "whys" I've listed along the way

Just a wooden tabletop on turned legs I find a cheap desk with no drawers

Can I get an article out of that? Someone says that wild boar have been found on the railway line linking Geneva and Zurich

Just as I can out of the phone call I receive from an eighty-yearold woman protesting about the law banning smoking in bars Of course

Just as chemists create oil and acrylic paints and artists use them to create art, we created the science - the software - and it's up to you to make art with it! RPM is an Art As you learn the specifics of how to use this system, it will be important for you to remember that planning your time is an art

A heart starts beating inside a mother's womb a few weeks after conception, and it's a total mystery to everyone on our planet How can anyone be a pessimist in a world where we know so little?

Keep this in mind whenever you encounter those who are absolutely certain that there's only one way to do something In comparison to what there is to know, we are only embryos

Tomorrow's going to be a difficult day Please go away

Leave me alone, Jacob König I have to get up early to take the children to school, then go to the store, find somewhere to park, and think up something original to say about a very unoriginal topic—politics

How wrong they are! We still chat to strangers on the bus, even though the rest of the world thinks of the Swiss as being very discreet and reserved

Let them believe that all we produce is cheese, chocolate, cows, and cuckoo clocks But it's good that other people should think of us like that, because that way we can preserve our way of life for another five or six centuries, before the Barbarians cross the Alps with their wonderful electronic gadgets; their apartments with tiny bedrooms and large living rooms to impress the guests; their women, who wear too much makeup; their men, who talk loudly and bother the neighbors; and their teenagers, who dress rebelliously but who are secretly terrified of what their parents might think

Once you do master this system, however, you will feel more efficient, more productive, more fulfilled, and more alive than ever before So, taking the extra moment in the beginning to first decide what it is you want -- and to associate to your reasons why you want it - will likely take you a bit longer

Let's get started! The RPM thought process will become second nature to you and you will be astounded by the speed with which you are able to not only create your plans, but act on these plans to produce results

To have courage, you must conquer your fears And for that, you have to break down the barriers of prejudice, which requires courage

Let's make peace with our days And so on and so forth

Let's take a look at these three questions in more detail Similarly, knowing all the numbers to a combination will not open the lock if they are not in the right order

The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Dyer, Wayne W In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions

Everything in your experience as a human being appears to be in duality, however There's only one power in the universe, not two

Light exists because of dark; right exists because of wrong Up exists because of it's opposite, down

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" The lakes tell me: "You have my peace and my calm The mountain tells me: "You have my strength

Listen " The sun tells me: "Shine like me, go beyond yourself

" A fearsome scene, I must say Some people end up like Tolstoy's character Ivan Ilyich, who anguished on his deathbed, "What if my whole life has been wrong?

Listen to your invisible companion, express the music that you hear, and ignore what everyone else around you thinks you should be doing You don't have to choose that fate

Let him step to the music he hears, however measured or far away As Thoreau put it, "If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer

Listen to your music, and do what you know you have to do to feel whole, to feel complete, and to feel as if you're fulfilling your destiny " Be willing to accept that others may even see you as having betrayed them, but you haven't betrayed your music, your purpose

By changing your inner thoughts to the higher frequencies of love, harmony, kindness, peace, and joy, you'll attract more of the same, and you'll have those higher energies to give away Not only do they weaken you, but they attract more of the same!

Loving and Respecting Yourself By becoming more loving toward yourself, you will attract more of the higher, faster energies and begin to change what's inside you These higher and faster frequencies that empower you will automatically nullify and dissipate the lower energies in the same way that the presence of light makes darkness disappear

Mutually satisfying? Harmonious?

Loving? Respectful?

But they insist that this is just a rough patch or depression because they are afraid to use the real and damning word: loneliness All I have is insomnia, emptiness, and apathy, and, if you just ask yourselves, you're feeling the same thing

Many claim that life is unfair Meanwhile, we continue to relentlessly pursue the only thing that would make us happy: the knight in shining armor who will slay the dragon, pick the rose, and clip the thorns

By referring to past struggles and using them as the reasons for not getting on with your life today, you're doing the equivalent of attributing to the wake the ability to drive the boat By bonding to your past, you not only ensure that you'll be immobilized today, but you prevent yourself from healing

Many people refer to the good old days that are gone forever as the reason why they can't be happy and fulfilled today This also works in reverse

But everyone learns as a child that before the worst storms, there's always a moment when the wind stops and everything seems absolutely normal " His voice seems calm

Marianne exhibited the jealousy hiding behind her modern, liberal mask I push the matter

For him it was just a simple, but dangerous, distraction I believed my life could take another direction; he just thought that afternoon would mean something other than the boring and endless discussions at the Council of States

Men cheat because it's in their genetic code For me it was something unforgivable and cruel, a display of narcissism mixed with selfishness

" That's not the way journalism works, I explain The material you have must be more than enough!

Most of it I had to research What was published used very little from those two hours

Similarly, if you take a task and make it into too many small steps, it's equally daunting, overwhelming and frustrating For example, if you take on a project and try to do the whole thing all at once - to eat the whole whale in one bite - you're going to be a bit overwhelmed!

Most people are only able to focus on a limited number of things at one time The number one skill that will allow you to succeed at anything and not be stressed in the process is the ability to take a variety of action items and group them together so that they help you achieve a common outcome/result - chunking

Your actions also have a purpose behind them so that you are associated to why it is important to you to achieve your result With RPM, all of your actions are consciously designed so that you are moving toward a common outcome or result

Most people walk around unconsciously chipping away at seemingly random actions RPM Planning gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment for your life

Become "an instrument of thy peace," as St Wherever you go, others will experience the glow of your God consciousness, and disharmony and disorder and all manner of problems simply will not flourish in your presence

Move up the ladder of human awareness from the lowest to the highest Francis desires in the first line of his famous prayer

Shouldn't I take a little time to think about them myself? What about all those things I said to Jacob this afternoon?

My perfect husband is asleep beside me; he doesn't seem to have heard the wind rattling the windows This room is suffocating me

I ask if this man is him " I can't control myself

My wife left me because of it "Yes

I don't want to think about others But what does that matter?

Nature speaks to me as if I were its beloved daughter I'm floating in Eternity

And I am a family woman, married to a man who, though he inherited his wealth, is extremely hardworking Jacob, whom I may have once loved, is now a family man, married to a professor

Not only did I discover a new Japanese restaurant, I'm having a bit of illicit fun as well I consider pushing him away and saying that we're not kids anymore, but I'm enjoying it

For most, it's nothing more than a fling, something you know from the beginning won't last long And I think only one in a hundred is capable of getting confused enough to be carried away by the fantasy, like I did

Nothing more A little thrill to make sex more erotic and hear "I love you" shouted out at the moment of orgasm

What can I do to make her happy? I can imagine what my husband's thinking: "How can I help my wife?

Nothing more than he's doing already " Nothing

So choose to avoid thoughts that weaken you, and you will know true wisdom No one can have control of your thoughts without your consent

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"About that photo you mentioned," he says cautiously, because he's noticed that I'm in a particularly sensitive mood What would he like to talk about?

Of course it exists Ah, the photo

I had good intentions: I wanted to relive the early days of our relationship I'd rather go back tomorrow

Of course not But is that even possible?

The fact is that it was far better for me than for him, since he came so quickly " I say nothing

On the way to the office, I buy a toothbrush and some toothpaste SIN is followed by a fear of being caught

But when you shift to loving and trusting others, you become strong When your thought is on blaming others, you're weakened

Once you realize that what you think about is the source of your experience of reality, then you'll begin to pay more attention to what you're thinking in any given moment Your thoughts come with an accompanying energy, so you might as well shift to those that empower you

What will it help me give to others? What will it give me?

Once you've decided upon a clear result or outcome, the second step is to define your purpose How will it make me feel?

I don't ask him why he's told me so much about his private life, and he adds nothing very significant to what he said in the restaurant He finishes smoking his cigarette and says good-bye

One can never lower one's guard, despite all that fuss about tasting the wine I would like to believe that something has changed during that lunch, just one among hundreds I've had where I eat extremely unhealthy food and pretend to drink wine that remains almost untouched when the time comes to order coffee

Will the two of us be able to rebuild our marriage? It's also been one week since that night in front of the fireplace, when my relationship with my husband returned to normal

One day I discovered that everything I had could disappear just like that, and instead of reacting like an intelligent person, I panicked Until this spring I was a normal person

— Carlos Castaneda Any man can make mistakes, but only an idiot persists in his error OceanofPDF.com The Sixth Secret Any path is only a path, and there is no affront to oneself or to other, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you

One of the most intriguing passages in A Course in Miracles suggests that you don't have a problem; you only think you do — Cicero You Can't Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It 6 The Sixth Secret You Can't Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It Any problem can be resolved with a spiritual solution

After darkness, light POST Tenebras Lux

One stands out from the rest I am standing in front of the old city wall, a monument one hundred meters wide with towering statues of four men who are flanked by two smaller statues

After all, I was the one who asked my boss to drop the series of articles about searching for solutions to stress for good I try to show interest in what he's saying

One week since I roamed the streets aimlessly, a moment I would soon be reminded of by the traffic ticket It's been one week since I received Jacob's message saying I'd ruined everything

" The jack-in-the-box of that question about whether or not I'm happy springs out at me again So don't you want to know why I wanted to meet you again?

Only if you want to tell me, I reply, in order to provoke him and destroy, once and for all, that arrogant air of his that makes me feel so insecure Doesn't he realize that you don't ask that kind of thing?

If someone suggests that crystals can cure hemorrhoids, that natural herbs can lower cholesterol, that people will eventually be able to breathe underwater, or that levitation is possible—listen, and be curious " Open yourself up to the spiritual ideas of all people, and listen with an open mind to crazy schemes and ideas that at first seem to be outrageous

Open your mind to all possibilities, because whether you believe something is possible or impossible, either way you'll be right Let go of your attachments to what you've been trained to believe

Unlike my conversation with the Cuban shaman, this time I'm not paying attention to a single word We need to ask only one question, and they talk for an hour

Optimism is contagious, he states The recorder is turned on, and later I'll trim this monologue down to six hundred words, the equivalent of about four minutes of conversation

Frequently Asked Questions What's the difference between a Category of Improvement and Project? You may be over-chunking - creating Projects where a simple RPM Block will suffice

Or between an Action and a Result? Or between a Project and an RPM Block?

What's the difference between a Category of Improvement and Project? The RPM system sounds fabulous, but what an incredible amount of work

Or between an Action and a Result? Or between a Project and an RPM Block?

Examine the scene in which Marianne and Jacob dine with Linda and her husband 9

Or did Linda's anxiety about the situation color her perception of Marianne's words? Based on what was said, do you think that Marianne had any suspicion about her husband's affair?

" Of course not "You don't use a security code?

Or maybe his has one, but it was deactivated at that moment We trust each other

Or, are you focused on taking care of everyone else, all of the relationships in your life, but not doing a quality job of taking care of your own emotional well-being? Or, are you focused on being spiritual, but then not taking care of your body?

I'm sweating, my body and mind dirty, but still I hold them close I embrace them all

Or, rather, despite what I don't feel Despite what I feel

Then they say: "I've had enough, I don't want this anymore I imagine that some people spend years allowing the pressure to build up inside them without even noticing, and then one day some tiny incident triggers a crisis

Others get divorced " Some commit suicide

I go to an ATM, surprised at my own naïveté He asks me to return in half an hour with the money in cash

Otherwise they'd be considered drug dealers! Of course drug dealers don't carry large quantities

Wasn't that my advice to Jacob? I need to stay focused and hold negativity at bay

Otherwise, I run the risk of really falling in love, and of feeling permanently what I felt for only a fraction of a second when we had lunch together that first time I must stand firm and wait for the crisis to pass

The pleasure came in waves My entire body was covered in goose bumps

Our bodies collided violently, creating rumblings that he must no longer care if anyone heard through the door I came again and again as he controlled himself to prolong it as long as possible

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People are having fun "Be more forgiving

People are just pretending to have fun " My husband doesn't know what he's talking about

So my skull will still be intact if I hit a rock and skip three thousand feet to the ground? Why the helmet?

Perfect The helmet is mandatory

What for? Are you going to keep it?

Perhaps Omar Khayyam will inspire you with his poem: The moving finger writes and having writ moves on Are you going to give it up?

He doesn't care about your happiness I tell myself: You're a fool, he just wants to get you into bed

Perhaps going to bed with someone who just touched my breasts when we were teenagers will be good for my marriage, as it was yesterday, when I gave him oral sex in the morning and had multiple orgasms with my husband later that night Then, in an almost suicidal gesture, I say yes

, according to my watch—I fall in love with him all over again m

Perhaps in my childhood, my parents and my grandparents asked that question, but no one has since No one, not even my marvelous husband, has ever asked if I'm happy

She asks me to hold the line while she confirms His assistant knows me

Perhaps in the new year? One minute later she returns and says she's sorry, but his schedule is fully booked

Or am I deceiving myself, trying to make my life a little more interesting with problems? I'm just inventing all this to get some attention

Perhaps it might be a good idea, after all, if my husband asked our doctor to prescribe something to help me sleep Problems require solutions and I can spend my hours, my days, my weeks, looking for them

Those who know how to love, love Truth, rejoice with the Truth, and do not fear it, because sooner or later it redeems everything Because Love begets more Love

Perhaps the word "sincerity" isn't the best way to explain this characteristic of Love, but I can't find any other They seek the Truth with a clear, humble mind lacking prejudice or intolerance—and are ultimately satisfied with what they find

Because force is in motion, it always creates a counter-force This is unlike power, which is a standing field that never moves against anything

Rather than being compassionate, force is associated with judgment, competition, and controlling others That counter-force constantly consumes, and must be fed, energy

The process will take about an hour to an hour and a half to complete (keep in mind that it will likely take a little longer the first few weeks that you do it) Your Hour of Power The Weekly Planning Process is perhaps the most important piece in the entire system because it is the very thing that will ensure you are using and incorporating all of the elements of your life plan, your projects - everything that's most important to you - in your day-to-day life

Read through your ultimate vision and ultimate purpose for your life, your identity, your code of conduct, your values and virtues, and your passions Step I: Connect to your Driving Force: 5-10 minutes You begin the process by reviewing the Driving Force section of your RPM Software

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Reasons come first and answers come second your result or outcome), you need to associate to why you want to do it-your purpose for wanting to achieve this result

If your past behavior mobilizes you to learn from your mistakes, this is not guilt; it's learning from the past No amount of guilt will ever undo what's been done

Releasing guilt is like removing a huge weight from your shoulders But to wallow in the present moment over your so-called errors is guilt, and it can only take place now

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First, you will discover that there are many ways to achieve a result The beauty of the RPM system is the flexibility your MAP provides!

Second, you don't have to accomplish every single action item in your MAP in order to achieve your result And this also means that if one set of actions doesn't work, then another will

Be still actually means silence The key words are still and know

See how nature— trees, grass, grow in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... Mother Teresa described silence and it's relationship to God by saying, "God is the friend of silence

After three years of marriage, a person already knows exactly what the other wants and thinks Two years after the first child is born, the house has no more room and, if we add something, we risk looking like we live to impress others and will spend the rest of our lives buying and cleaning antiques (which will later be sold for a song by our heirs and eventually wind up at the Plainpalais market)

Sex goes from being a passion to a duty, and that's why it becomes increasingly sporadic At dinner parties we are obliged to listen to the same stories we've heard time and time again, always feigning surprise and, occasionally, having to confirm them

It feels like I'm communicating with the eagle by telepathy Is it just having fun, enjoying life and the beauty all around it?

Show us where we need to go to climb increasingly skyward—to fly forever The flight instructor follows it, our guide

"I feel the same," he says " I had that exact thought during lunch; tortured souls recognize each other and are drawn together in order to frighten the living

Since I depend on the approval of so many people, I am filled with self-loathing when I haven't resolved this or that problem "Except that my problems are more real

When you do this, you begin to create an unbelievable momentum in your life Because you will be absolutely clear about what it is you want and why you want it, you will become more focused, more passionate, more committed, more resourceful, more flexible, and more fulfilled in the process

Since you've made this investment, you obviously see the value in the system The rewards for living this way are unimaginable

" When you welcome the part of you that you've previously made wrong For example, if you are a "giver," learn to "receive

Slep 4: Reclaim Your 'If ue Self Re-align and adjust your personalities to create the life you desire the charge is gone and you stop attracting its reciprocal

No Was the result or outcome he wanted to run ten miles?

So often we forget what our real result or outcome is and we start thinking instead that we have to write out a to-do list to make it happen What he really wanted was to lose 20 pounds

3 Review your RPM Project Plans to determine which RPM Blocks, if any, you need to make progress on or complete this week

Step 1: Capture (As you brainstorm, be sure to transfer over the items that your review indicated need attention this week Follow the 5 Master Steps of Planning for your week

If I'm capturing something I know I need to do the following week, why would I put it on my Weekly Planner instead of entering it on the Capture screen of my Daily Planner? Then, once a week when you sit down to create your Weekly Plan, you will add to this capture list by brainstorming any additional outcomes, actions, projects, calls or communications that need to happen that week

Step 2: CREATE your MAP (Massive Action Plan) This is the same process that you used to design your day: You review the items you've already captured in Step 1, and create RPM blocks for your week What if I think of something I need to do not next week, but the week after next?

2 Just write "DR," which stands for Daily Routine

Step 5: Complete, Measure & Celebrate! Block out chunks of time when you will work on your RPM blocks

As A Course in Miracles reminds us, "If you knew who walked beside you at all times, you could never experience fear again Before writing, I see myself with no writer's block, being inspired and having spiritual guidance available to me at all times

Synchronicity and Inspiration There are no coincidences " This is the essence of inspiration, as well as seeing the future in terms of how you want it to be—and then acting exactly in that manner

Again, I remember that he's married The elections are fast approaching

That he can't do anything he enjoys That he's unhappy

— George Bernard Shaw As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live OceanofPDF.com The Third secret No man who is occupied in doing a very difficult thing and doing it very well, ever loses his self respect

That seems so obvious that you may be wondering why I would make it one of my ten secrets for inner peace and happiness — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have 3 The Third Secret You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have Of course you can't give away what you don't have!

Remember that progress would be impossible if we always did things the way we always have A closed mind seals off any such creative explanation

The Miracle Mind-set Refuse to allow yourself to have low expectations about what you're capable of creating The ability to participate in miracles—true miracles in your life—happens when you open your mind to your limitless potential

What we focus on determines the direction in which we move When we change our focus, we change our lives

The Power of Questions The most powerful way to direct your focus is through the questions you ask The power of the RPM system is that is causes you to consistently focus on what it is you want in life

I've been lying every day But I do lie

The Swiss live in the real world I've lost my self-respect and I don't know where I'm headed anymore

Touch my body, drive me wild, and then I'll do the same to you —that would be more natural How can I have pleasure if I have to be paying attention to what I'm doing?

The communion has to be "perfect," or, in other words, nonexistent But most of the time that's not how it is

Change your thoughts, and you change what you carry around in your head as problems You experience every thing and every one in your thoughts

The economy is just as it should be The world is just the way it is

The car radio must always be on, and any pause in conversation is a moment of embarrassment that most people quickly fill with chatter In fact, you've been raised in a culture that not only eschews silence but is terrified of it

The famous scientist Blaise Pascal observed, "All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone For many, being alone is a nightmare, and being alone in silence is pure torture

To become the stud-muffin of my wife's dreams To raise my self-esteem and feel sexy

I want to stay in this state, but my thoughts are returning In a moment I will be stepping on the planet where I live, but in my heart I have experienced all the planets and all the suns, which was greater than anything

The lakes are already hidden by the forests and small hills I see our hotel to the right

We get the car, and when we arrive home I go directly to the bedroom and swallow two Valiums while my husband pays the babysitter and puts the kids to bed Neither the cold nor the walk calms me down

The next day, when I get up for the usual morning routine, I start to think my husband is a little less affectionate I sleep for ten hours straight

You're relieved, but soon after the rug is pulled out from under you when you least expect it And then the next day the person is normal again

The shaman says nothing And this time, instead of asking what's wrong with this person, you wonder what you did wrong

"Then I see you making breakfast or dinner and occasionally I think that fifty years from now, or maybe even less, one of us will be sleeping alone, crying every night because once we were happy I imagine we're not the only ones to think that way

The surviving one of us will be sick, always needing help from strangers The children will be all grown up and far away

I've often been asked to speak at high schools and colleges over the past three decades In this short book, I will elaborate on ten principles to success and inner peace, which, if mastered and practiced on a daily basis, will also guide you to this same sense of tranquility

The ten secrets in this book are what I talk or write about when I have the opportunity to speak to young people Frequently, my readers encourage me to write to young adults embarking on the journey of adulthood and provide them with my "secrets" for being successful and happy

Yet we cannot lose hope I wait for a pure and virtuous knight, in all his glory, to come defeat it and push it into the abyss for good, but that knight never comes

The thorns inside us will grow larger and more overwhelming, yet we cannot give up halfway We start doing things we don't usually do, daring to go beyond what is fair and necessary

Where is the lightning bolt that brought the monster to life? I'm still sitting here when night comes, looking at the castle and seeing its tenants scandalizing the bourgeoisie of Geneva at the beginning of the nineteenth century

The traffic, which isn't very heavy in this area, anyway, grows still thinner No bolt from out of the blue

We asked friends who know more about these things, but they are unable to detect the problem, either We looked for the reason but found nothing

The undetectable virus now owns it The computer is becoming empty, sluggish, and it is no longer ours

We pass by a group of young men and women who are talking animatedly among the beer cans scattered everywhere " I'm stunned

The young people look frightened My husband, usually shy and serious, approaches them and invites them to have another drink

I haven't felt this happy in a long time I've managed to break the rules and the world hasn't caved in on me

Then I do something I've dreamed of doing since I was in school I feel better and better, braver, freer

I can't say I took a risk and went flying, because they'll want to do it, too I can't tell them their father drank so much he fell down when we were headed back to the hotel

Then I realize I'm being stupid; why be here with my eyes closed? Or, worse, they might try to fly alone and throw themselves from the top floor of our house

He lights another cigarette That's why we like fish in aquariums; they remind us of ourselves, well fed but incapable of moving beyond the glass walls

Then I realize that I've been talking for a very long time in a trance of light and peace without giving him a chance to express his feelings I see that there are already two cigarette butts in the ashtray

No doubts In your thoughts, begin to picture yourself having the skills to do these things

Then begin acting as if these things were already your reality Only a knowing

Step 1: Capture Ideas, Wants & Needs Step 2: Create Your MAP (Massive Action Plan) Step 3: Commit to Block Time & Resolve Your "Musts" Step 4: Schedule It: Imagine & Anticipate the Results & Rewards Step 5: Complete, Measure, Master & Celebrate Your Results! Here is an overview of how you use these five steps to plan a week

Then you can let go of it with the confidence that it will be there waiting for you when it's time for you to plan your week STEP 1: CAPTURE: Ideas, Wants & Needs Anytime during the week that you think of a phone call you need to make or an action item you need to do and you don't already know the specific day you are going to do it, enter it onto the Weekly Capture screen

We must protect our citizens A deputy recently tried to annul this law, but Parliament stood against it: Yes, there may never be a nuclear war, but what about the threat of chemical weapons?

There are some things, however, that despite all our efforts to remain an island of peace, we cannot keep from crossing our borders So the costly fallout shelters continue to be built, and are used as wine cellars and storage spaces while we wait for the Apocalypse

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There is no greater gift in life (han the joy that is possible when you have radiant, inspiring and passionate romance in your life Dear Friend

After twenty minutes of conversation, I start to wonder if my lack of interest is due to my strange state of mind Year after year, the issues are the same and the problems continue unresolved because no one really cares

There is nothing more tedious than interviewing politicians No

" "I searched for God and now I have to go to church services, Mass, and religious ceremonies " "Ever since I got married, I don't have any time for myself

There is only one way to escape this: love " Everything we seek so enthusiastically before we reach adulthood—love, work, faith—turns into a burden too heavy to bear

This way, you are consistently focused on your most important goals in each area of your life so that you can experience balance In order to ensure that you are making choices that support you, the RPM system provides you with a way to define up front all of the areas of your life that are important to you - and what you want in each area - before you actually create the plan for your time

These are areas of your life that, if you don't improve, the quality of your life will suffer, and if you do, you'll become more successful and fulfilled than you ever imagined In this section, we will show you how to identify the most important areas in your life -- areas that you are going to continually focus on, measure and improve

Your spiritual aspect sees the folly of attachments because your spiritual self is an infinite soul As a spiritual being, you can observe your body and be a compassionate witness to your existence

These are inner constructs that you bring to your world, rather than what you receive from it Nothing can make you happy or successful

— Bill W Mill Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us

These human-made, unnatural sounds invade your senses and keep silence at bay Embrace Silence 4 The Fourth Secret Embrace Silence You live in a noisy world, constantly bombarded with loud music, sirens, construction equipment, jet airplanes, rumbling trucks, leaf blowers, lawn mowers, and tree cutters

There is a Chinese proverb, "If you're going to pursue revenge, you'd better dig two graves You do this for yourself

They are low energies " Your resentments will destroy you

—about their lovers and their insatiable fire Women talk—do they ever!

They buy expensive clothes and pretend to be modest, even though they're exhibiting more sensuality than a sixteen-year-old girl—the only difference being that the girl knows the power she holds There's an element of truth in this, because more often than not it's happening in the enchanted world of masturbation—just as real as that of the women who let themselves be wooed by the first man who appeared, regardless of his attributes

Every spiritual advance that you will make in your life will very likely be preceded by some kind of fall or seeming disaster As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through in order to get to where you are today, and the evidence is that you did

They happened, so you can assume they had to and you can't unhappen them Those dark times, accidents, tough episodes, periods of impoverishment, illnesses, abuses, and broken dreams were all in order

No, I'm looking for an answer I can't find Did you think I'd suddenly become less literary and more spiritual?

They have an immediate effect, but that effect stops as soon as I close the book After reading about ten of those self-help books, I saw that they were leading nowhere

They know why they want it: the compelling Purpose that gives them the drive to follow through 2

They know how to make it happen: they have a MAP (Massive Action Plan) that is flexible to get them there 3

Whether they are aware of it or not, people who achieve fulfillment in life have an RPM plan You then design all of your activity around making progress toward achieving what you want

They know what they want: the Target or Result they are after They consistently focus on three things to produce results in their lives: 1

The tree just thought about itself; some things, like leaves and insects, are discarded as needed No

They lived it up, until one day they began to turn yellow and the tree bid them farewell I'm like one of those leaves on the city ground, who lived thinking it would be everlasting and died without knowing exactly why; who loved the sun and the moon and who watched those buses and rattling streetcars go by for a long time, and yet no one ever had the courtesy to let her know that winter existed

Time to spring into action Marianne says she doesn't know the address, but if he gives her his phone number, she'll send it to him by text

They love to make insinuations and see if they can get some information about their partner's behavior, but are naïve to think they'll succeed I say that, in general, jealous people will try to show exactly the opposite in public

They're not particularly interested in his sex life, but his source suggests that König might be being blackmailed My boss asks if I can get closer

They need a little help A foreign metallurgical company wants to airbrush out certain tax problems in its own country, but has no way of getting in touch with the minister of finance

A few connoisseurs patiently examine a piece and talk at length with the vendors The place is swarming with people

They return home, use them once, and then put them in the garage, thinking: "It's completely useless, but it was a bargain The majority, tourists and onlookers, find things they will never need but end up buying because they're so cheap

They offer Peace, but do not speak of Life He tells us that many of the spiritual texts we see today are addressed to only one part of man

They tell us about Justice, and do not mention Revelation, like the one I had when I jumped from the precipice in Interlaken and the one that got me out of the black hole I had dug in my soul They discuss Faith, but forget Love

Darius gives me a kiss The guests applaud

They're delighted with the series of articles on shamanism and suggest topics, hand me business cards, and discreetly offer themselves as "sources" on something that could be "very interesting I try to get to my husband and the Königs, but am waylaid by people who praise me for things I didn't say and claim I was wonderful

Remind yourself of this every day Embracing Your Divinity There is no place that God is not

Think of God as a presence rather than a person—a presence that allows a seed to sprout, that moves the stars across the sky, and simultaneously moves a thought across your mind It has been said that God sleeps in the minerals, rests in the vegetables, walks in the animals, and thinks in us

They take on the same separation-sickness, and then we have what we call social problems Our societies are the creation of our collective thoughts

Think of it this way: If you change your mind, you will solve your problem All of the so-called problems, however, represent a spiritual deficit that can be remedied with spiritual solutions

We already have everything we need There comes a time when defeat is inevitable, but at least they fought until the end

Thinking we are good or bad, fair or unfair, all that is nonsense There is nothing to improve

We recommend one of two times: Friday afternoon (so you can enjoy your weekend knowing things are set for the following week) or Sunday afternoon or evening (so you can begin your week by associating to what it is you want to accomplish) Take a moment right now to put the stakes in the ground and commit to a specific time each week for doing this planning process no matter what

This is effective both in your personal life (so that your friends and family know what is most important to you and can support you if start to get off track! Power Strategies Share your Life Plan as well as your Categories of Improvement, Roles, and Projects with those closest to you

Therefore, silence is your one way to experience the oneness and the indivisibility of God There's only one silence

This is how you know God rather than having to settle for knowing about God This is why you want to meditate

I have some actions on my capture list that seem to be random - at least, they are unrelated to any specific result To complete this step, you will then go back through all your RPM Blocks and number each block in order of priority (so that you know which RPM blocks are most important for you to achieve that week)

This process makes sense to me, but I don't understand how any of this planning relates to the life plan I created in the previous section What do I do with them?

At this stage, you realize what is meant by being in this world, but not of this world " At the final stage (and the highest that we know) is the archetype of spirit

This spirit archetype invites you to minimize your material-world concerns and to put more of your energy into the essence of life, which is love and service The spirit part of you knows that neither the body nor this world is it's exclusive domicile

I once had lunch there with a correspondent from the Financial Times This time, I choose the place, and we end up in the lovely but neglected Parc des Eaux-Vives, where there's another awful restaurant owned by the city

This time, we don't have lunch in the restaurant, we just sit on the grass and eat sandwiches We ordered martinis and the waiter served us Cinzanos

All of these thoughts of shame, guilt, apathy, fear, and anger are energies, since everything in our universe is a vibrating frequency Every thought of anger moves you away from love and into violence and vengeance, which are forces that spur counter-forces, weakening everyone involved

Thoughts That Strengthen You When you shift from a thought that's a very low energy vibration to one of a higher frequency, you go from weak to strong Those that weaken you are low/slow frequencies, and they can only be dissolved by bringing the higher/faster energies of Spirit to their presence

Then, each day, he would check off on a chart which virtues he lived that day and which he did not The idea of a Code of Conduct dates all the way back to Benjamin Franklin, who used to keep a list of all the virtues he was committed to embodying each day

Therefore, the words you use to describe who you are, are incredibly important - they will determine what you do, what you say, how you behave, what you strive for in life and what you fail to even try In other words, the strongest force in human personality is the need to remain consistent with how we define ourselves

To create your identity - your ultimate picture of who you really are (or want to be) and what you stand for - write a paragraph or two that answers the following questions: Who are you? Your identity can be the very thing that limits you from becoming more - or it can be the impetus to incite you to even greater heights

To create a foundation for understanding the RPM system by explaining that the key to RPM is developing a new psychology-and that this psychology is based on teaching you to consistently ask and answer three simple questions ) INTRODUCTION - THE FOUNDATION Outcomes/Results for this section 1

To destroy the possibility of your ever making a to-do list again and instead providing you with a sense of absolute freedom and empowerment that comes from having a clear outcome or result and a strong reason why you want to do something 2

The purpose of your RPM software is simply to help you use the system of thinking we have already taught you: 1 " Of course!

To engage strong enough reasons, or a compelling purpose, to drive you to follow through 3 To focus on the specific result or outcome you are after 2

To ensure that each of your categories has all the appropriate textures " There are two reasons for adding roles to each of your categories: 1

To give you a sure-fire method to plan your weeks - the Weekly Planning Process - that will ensure that you stay associated to and follow through on the vision for your life (your life plan) that you worked so hard to create in the last section 4

To ensure you understand and are excited that once you complete this section, you are ready to go - all that remains after this is the detail of walking through your actual RPM software planning steps - you will already know how the system works! 5

Because I want to reflect outward the gratitude I consistently feel inside To take care of myself and have a passionate love affair with myself to ensure that I have more to give

To give my friends, family and loved ones absolute certainty about my love for them-so that it lasts well beyond my physical years on this planet I also want to ensure that my body reflects the soul I know I am inside

To show you how to tap into the seven forces that create vision and momentum in each area of your life 4

To give you a tremendous enthusiasm and belief that you can create the ultimate balance, results, and fulfillment you are after! 5

To help you understand that this system may take a little longer to master, but that this system will help you experience far greater results and tremendous levels of fulfillment 3

PURPOSE: To feel great about myself RESULT OR OUTCOME: To lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching my ideal weight and vitality

To increase my strength and vitality To increase my sense of control over my life

After shame, guilt and apathy thoughts make you the weakest Removing your own thoughts of shame involves a willingness to let go, to see your past behaviors as lessons you had to learn, and to reconnect to your source through prayer and meditation

To live in guilt is to use up your present moments being immobilized over what has already transpired They produce the emotions of blame and despair

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Try to wound? Do I whind Cry' Nag> Pull rank' B<com< alno/ and distant?

The career of a journalist is as short as an athlete's And it will be to your advantage, too ..." Yes, I know how it works

Very few continue and progress We achieve power and glory early, then step aside for the next generation

"There are no ski slopes here It looks like a ghost town

We are in the middle of a valley, with very high mountains to either side and lakes at each end " Nor could there be

We need more than that while we're still young Caring about the children isn't enough

We can climb part of the Jungfrau and enjoy the scenery from above Who knows, maybe we can revisit Interlaken, the first trip we took together after we met?

I thank him for the interview, turn off the recorder, and go get my coat I can't stand to be here any longer

We could get a drink and finish this conversation," he suggests "Are you free this evening?

I don't remember the last time I did that I wake him up with a kiss

We sit at the table and savor the treats in front of us He is startled, but then smiles

They speak of God "I listen to the bells

We're in our thirties, and life isn't fun anymore But is God listening to us?

For example: the world has stopped I'm starting to confess things to myself that would be best left unspoken

When we meet with friends, we always talk about the same things and the same people Not just my world, but the world of everyone around me

The RPM system causes you to focus first on what you want - the results that you are committed to achieving in your life - before you figure out what you need to do There is a big difference between movement and achievement

Whether they are aware of it or not, people who achieve fulfillment in life have an RPM plan You then design all of your activity around making progress toward achieving what you want

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Which on~ a" kss dominant? What p~onalitj~s a" more dominant?

To love forever is to live forever To love abundantly is to live abundantly

Why do we want to live forever? Eternal life is coupled with Love

And I see that I have hit home Is Jacob happy?

Why on earth wouldn't he be? Mme König gives me a condescending look and replies slowly, as if she were a teacher giving me a lesson: "Of course he's happy

We cannot As if we could stop time

Wisdom and experience don't change the man We should not

Through the Love of man The problem is that people tend to relate these traits to the Love of God, but how does God's Love manifest itself?

Without it, we are worthless To find Peace in the heavens, we must find love on Earth

How can people overcome years of disappointment in their marriage and suddenly create a whole new relationship with the same parmer that they've had for years? 1 I --------~--- 27 Overview How can you regain a feeling of trust for a parmer who's wronged you in the past?

You can be happier together than you've ever been and you can do it quickly The truth is that you can fall in love again

That's one of the reasons why I sometimes say that "it's never crowded along the extra mile Very few people understand and live this principle, largely because of their conditioning and unwillingness to train their minds in present-moment living

You can begin by releasing your personal history from your repertoire of available excuses for why you're not living in peace " On the extra mile, choosing inner peace and attracting success into your life while living in the present moment becomes a way of being

And then, because you're not attached to them any longer, they'll flow in and out of your life freely When you get yourself out of the picture completely, the forces of the universe will seem to conspire to provide all that you previously sought for yourself

You can end any and all suffering by reminding yourself that nothing in the universe is personal In essence, I'm urging you to stop taking your life so personally

If what you give is self-respect and self-love, the universe, via the attractor energy, will return the love and respect you've been radiating " energy to the universe, and it will do the same in return

You can't give away what you don't have It's really so simple

It's for an enemy It's not for me, I explain

You want to kill someone with an overdose? "You mean revenge?

In mystical consciousness, you won't feel separate from any one, any thing, or God Here, you're a nation of the world with a global awareness, rather than a patriot of any one country

You will be the beloved, and you will have changed your mind! You won't be what you have, what you accomplish, or what others think of you

You suppress your individual ego and join a larger organization, the group ego Group consciousness is similar to ego consciousness with the exception that you move past yourself as the central focus of your life, and you now include others who are members of your tribe or your clan

You're required to think and act like the group to which you've been assigned Your membership is based upon your family, your heritage, your racial background, your religion, your language, your political affiliation, and so on

Now that you have a clear, specific result or outcome and some compelling reasons, or purpose, to drive you to follow through, you still need a plan to make it happen MASSIVE ACTION PLAN (MAP): The specific steps or actions that you need to take in order to achieve your desired result or outcome

Your MAP is simply the specific steps, or actions, you need to take in order to achieve our result The third step in RPM is to develop your Massive Action Plan (MAP)

Turn anything that seems problematic over to your higher self, trusting that the "problem" is not what it seems to be Change your attitude toward yourself, and resolve to believe in your connectedness to the higher energy of God, even in the direst of circumstances

Your New Agreement with Reality Your thoughts are the source of virtually everything in your life Rewrite your agreement about who you are and what you're capable of achieving

Your Vision for Success To maximize the results you achieve in each of your Categories of Improvement (Personal and Professional), you will create your vision for each of these Categories Adding roles to your categories will give you more drive and purpose to follow through

RPM Planning prevents you from falling into the trap of mistaking movement for achievement This prevents you from allowing yourself to live in reaction to the demands of the moment, or from focusing on one area of your life at the cost of another

So, when you encounter someone saying things that you find inappropriate, or when you know they're wrong, wrong, wrong, forget your need to be right and instead say, "You're right about that! Most people operate from the ego and really need to be right

Your desire is to be peaceful—not to be right, hurt, angry, or resentful " Those words will end potential conflict and free you from being offended

Thoughts That Weaken You If a simple thought will make the muscles of your arm go weak or strong, imagine what it must be doing to all of the other muscles and organs of your body! Power thoughts energize you, since they make no demands on you

Your kidneys, liver, lungs, and intestines are all surrounded by muscles that are affected by your thoughts Your heart is a muscle that's weakened by thoughts that disempower you

Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality You're a part of the beloved, connected always to your source, and therefore connected to the unlimited power of the beloved

Your life is like a play with several acts Don't allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments

In the world of Spirit, or God, problems simply don't exist and aren't real " When we feel separated from our sacred center, it's easy to believe so strongly in the separation that we explain any unpleasantness as a problem

Your mind creates the illusion of separateness, and your body, influenced by your ego thoughts, takes on diseases When your spiritual connection is weak, you move away from the world of Spirit, and problems come from your belief in separation

Passionately think that you won't get a cold, and your body will react to your thoughts Your health is determined largely by the thoughts you have

Your mind tells your body to produce the drugs it needs to keep you healthy Refuse to entertain thoughts of fatigue, jet lag, or headaches, and your body responds to your thoughts

Kahlil Gibran said, "When you are born, your work is placed in your heart You must have shown up here for a reason!

Your purpose? " So, what is your work?

This is the part of you that goes beyond reason and analysis Your right brain represents your intuitive side

Your right brain allows you to tear up as you hold your babies, or bask in the beauty of a glorious day It's the part of you that feels things, that's sensitive to love, that's emotional about what's important to you

If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, then remember that you can't give away what you don't have, but you can change your life by changing what's inside if you're willing to go that extra mile They know that it's impossible to give away what they don't have, and they've gone that extra mile to acquire what it is that they want to both attract and give away

Your thoughts create your reality because your thoughts determine how you respond to situations in your daily life Changing What's Inside Consider the following concept of your inner reality

Then, we'll start to delve into creating categories of improvement -- which is the process of defining the specific areas of your life that you want to consistently make progress on and improve INTRODUCTION - YOUR DRIVING FORCE This section is divided into two parts: Your Driving Force Your Categories of Improvement First, we are going to take a look at "Your Driving Force" - which is basically the process of defining your overall vision and purpose for your life

Your ultimate vision for your life 2 Your Driving Force There are six main parts to your Driving Force: 1

Your identity for your life (who you are and what you stand for) 4 Your ultimate purpose for your life 3

Your values 6 Your code of conduct 5

Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence Everything that's created comes out of silence

Your very essence emerged from emptiness Your words come out of this void

In order [0 make sure you are meeting the needs of your partner, ask yourself: 1 Anytime you associate a thought, feeling or emotion to at least three needs, it becomes an addiction

____________ 2 How am I meeting my partners need for Certainty on a scale of l[oIO?

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It all depends on the meaning you 3nach ro the experience the truth is that feelings of fear and excitement can all stem from the exact same moment

if you become a master of meaning Thus

If you are not writing purposes that move you emotionally (or worse yet, if you are not writing purposes at all! o First, it comes from having purposes that really are compelling for you

o Second, you need to take time, at a minimum once per week, to stop and celebrate all your victories ), not only could you lose your drive to follow through and achieve the result at all, but more importantly, you'll ultimately forget why you are doing it at all!

'You nearly died because of your curiosity,' he told her He managed to enter the castle and wake her with the tip of his arrow

' But in love, nothing is destroyed forever 'You sought security in knowledge and destroyed our relationship

\Alil RORSIN\ Pain provides three choices I('s easy to feel trapped when the problem is internaL AN tiONV &

'When we feel pain, we have three choices: First Choice Blame 1 When our life conditions do not equal our blueprint for life, we experience pain

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That was when they thought I was just "stressed " People have been advising me to try it for ages

) "Thoughts will come into your mind " (I was stressed, but at least that was better than feeling completely indifferent about life

(Buy! The most we see here is a hint of decoration on the main street, most likely for the tourists

) But I still haven't been by there yet, so this strange feeling can't be Christmas Take something from Switzerland to your children!

What decisions have you already made and what decisions do you need to make? ) What's the opportunity in this challenge?

1 Now it's time to make some decisions and in order to do that you need to get clear on what your Outcomes and options are

And just as there is a balance and exponential synergy between men and women, true passion and sensuality are triggered by the safe space to express an erotic, exciting dark side and a fl uid, beautiful light side Just as there is a scale of masculine and feminine energy, there is also a scale of light and dark

23 Your New Disciplines 'VJhar are some specific ways that you can starr integrating (he W 5 disciplines of love and 3 disciplines of passion il1co your li fe? We need all dimensions of love and passion to be: complete and fulfi lled

To do this, you'll use the same key to measure every action item as when you plan your day: 1 At the end of each week, you'll want to look at your Weekly Plan to determine how many of the RPM Blocks you've actually completed

2 For any items that you didn't complete that you want to transfer to the next week, take a moment to transfer them to your Weekly Capture for the following week to make sure this gets done

2 What is the biggest d istinction you have made about your own rela tio nship?

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And you can consume your now with thoughts of "then" and "maybe," but that will keep you from the inner peace and success you could experience And yes, you have a future, but not now!

A beaver only does beaver, and he does it right in the moment It's doubtful that the other creatures waste the present in thoughts of past and future

We want to maximize your understanding by explaining a couple of core principles that will aid in your overall understanding of the use of this system 2

Because clarity is power! 3

Because Charity is only one of the manifestations of Love Why is Love more important than Charity?

And Charity is also only one of the many roads that Love uses to bring man closer to his fellow man And the whole is always more important than the part

Or would that appear ostentatious? Is it worth popping in to one of the shops and buying something new to wear?

And how will Jacob be feeling? Best to wear that Moschino outfit she bought in Milan when she accompanied her husband to a conference on labor laws

For another, it's her artwork and design that make her feel purposeful She's felt that way since she was two

For me, it's writing and speaking and creating products to help people become self-reliant For yet another, it's designing Websites and creating computer programs for others

Tonality? Vo'um~?

Frustraud' Hurt' 2 ) Do I fod angry?

"No Can you imagine a kind of spongy black hole?

He assures me that I will get out of this situation " Well, that's what it is

I've never imagined having sex with him TODAY, when I leave the house to walk the kids to school, I take a good look at my neighbor

I've never seen him try to seduce anyone, and that's what's so charming I'd rather imagine having sex with a young reporter who works with me, the one who seems to be in a permanent state of suffering and solitude

You can wait for me down here with the camera "Sure, I can go by myself

It's always terrified me But I need and want to have this experience in life

If you gave one of your Actions to a total stranger, would he or she understand it? Test your Actions

Putting too few Actions in your RPM Blocks; creating too many Do most of your RPM Blocks contain only two or three Actions? Would he or she be able to complete it without further instruction from you?

I really believe that One day I'll wake up and all this will just be a bad dream

Something has gotten better He asks for the bill, he takes my hand, we call a taxi

Second, you don't have to accomplish every single action item in your MAP in order to achieve your result And this also means that if one set of actions doesn't work, then another will

This is the 80/20 rule You'll find that most often, a small number of actions make the biggest difference in your ability to achieve your result

PURPOSE: To feel great about myself Now, let's add a compelling purpose to this result

To increase my strength and vitality To increase my sense of control over my life

Use the Lord's Prayer Try it right now

Try to go into the gap between the two words, Our and Father First, concentrate on the word Our, and then Father

manage and lead, create effective relationships with other team members, use technology to communicate, effectively manage costs, and work at lightning-like speed to stay ahead of the competition We must be able to fulfill multiple roles within our businesses: we must be able to

a loving spouse an outstanding parent fit, healthy and strong an effective financier a lover a best friend a community activist, and a spiritual being Similarly, in our personal lives, we strive to be

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Today, the unspoken expectation is that, in order to be a thriving, contributing, happy, and successful member of society, we must be multi-dimensional ) INTRODUCTION - YOUR CATEGORIES OF IMPROVEMENT Now that you know what your life is about overall - your ultimate vision, ultimate purpose, identity, and code of conduct - let's start looking at the individual areas (or categories) of your life

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we have found growth And through our unwavering love for each other

passion and a richness of life that is simply unlike anything else meaning, hope

random activity While we want you to understand the details of this system, you have already learned the most important piece - how to think in terms of results vs

Checklist for the Five Master Steps You can print this page to serve as a reminder Review all of your Results/Outcomes for each of your categories and set new Outcomes/Results for the new year

that you need to do? Step 1: Capture Did you thoroughly exhaust your list of actions, communications, etc

When you do this, we recommend that you go somewhere were you will not be interrupted and if you can, choose an environment that inspires you (i Your passions Your Ultimate Vision To complete this part of your life plan, simply set aside some time to answer the following questions

the beach, the mountains, a favorite park, an art museum, or even a favorite tree in your back yard) e

Pretend that the middle of the circle corresponds to zero and the outside ring of the circle corresponds to ten Look at the wheel below and notice that it's divided up into different sections corresponding to some of the typical areas in life: your finances, emotions, family and relationships, spirituality, career, and physical health

where you really want to be Now, taking one area at a time, grade yourself on a scale of zero to ten of where you are today vs

Thus, if you don't make a conscious effort to control your focus and decide in advance which things you are going to focus on (i The Power of Focus There are so many things competing for and demanding your focus in life

where you're going to put your emotions, time, and energy), you'll live in reaction to the demands of the moment e

This is an open mind—and an absence of attachment True love means you love a person for what they are, not for what you think they should be

— Euripides A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he be at peace with himself What a man can be, he must be OceanofPDF.com The Second Secret There is just one life for each of us: our own

"Shall we? He must have repeated those words thousands of times over those ten years

Why don't you go alone? " What?

"It's the morning " Why not now?

" My God, who am I? I want you to tell me that again tonight, when we're in bed together

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Any Aspect of the Business Look for Patterns: People usually have a category about maximizing their output or production (sales numbers, acting roles, etc Product Quality Control Home Improvements Manage & Master Costs Great Neighbor Relations Proactive, Superior Customer Service Fantastic Family Fun CANI!

), and supporting clients and costs ), improving their own skill sets in their job (for example, ongoing training), building their identity (through networking, building relationships with other important team members, and so on), communications (including empowering teams, managers, etc

46 The Real You

54 Your Relationship Action Plan

My neighbor Me

After a certain age, we put on a mask of confidence and certainty Probably even my boss, as well, and the man sleeping by my side

I'm in my thirties, five-foot-eight, 150 pounds, and I wear the best clothes that money can buy (thanks to my husband's limitless generosity) My name's Linda

And yet, every morning, when I open my eyes to this ideal life that everyone dreams of having but few achieve, I know the day will be a disaster I arouse desire in men and envy in other women

It's all up to you Treat them all in this "as if" manner, and I guarantee you that they will respond accordingly to your highest expectations

And you'll see the Tightness of your thoughts manifesting everywhere you go Whether you think this is possible or impossible, either way you'll be right

I trust him completely Of course not

And you? I think jealousy is for sick, insecure people with no self-esteem, people who feel inferior and believe anyone can threaten their relationship

The answer is no Take pictures of myself naked to motivate me to change HINT: Does Elvis need to complete every action on this list to lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching his ideal weight and vitality?

And, while this is Elvis' list, are there different actions someone else might take to achieve a similar result? He could simply shop for healthful foods, schedule 45 minutes a day to exercise and make a lot of progress with those two actions alone

" Try it I'll move my ego out of the way and turn it over to You

Anger, likewise, is an emotional reaction to thoughts that say, "I want the world to be the way I want it, not the way it is; therefore, I'm angry You'll be surprised by how quickly that higher energy of love will nullify and dissolve your fearful thoughts and empower you at the same time

For one of my children, it's about riding horses and being at the stables You're living it

Another daughter is only inspired when she's singing, writing music, or performing She's in heaven when on horseback or even cleaning out a stall filled with horse manure

"Going after a dream has a price He interrupts me and continues his line of thought

But however costly it may be, it is never as high as the price paid by people who didn't live It may mean abandoning our habits, it may make us go through hardships, or it may lead us to disappointment, et cetera

I don't give you the attention you deserve "Maybe I caused your problem

We've lost the romance needed to maintain a happy family I'm always talking about work, or things we need to do

This market has become a tourist attraction and even appears in travel guides as a "good thing to do It's Saturday and there are antiques vendors with stalls scattered all around

Antique bronze sculptures from the remote corners of Asia are displayed alongside horrible furniture from the eighties " Sixteenth-century relics intermingle with VCRs

Why do I want to do this? What is my PURPOSE?

What specific actions do I need to take to achieve this result or outcome? What will it give me?

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Review all of your Categories of Improvement (personal and professional) Refine your Ultimate Vision, Ultimate Purpose, Identity, Code of Conduct and Values and Rules

Create a new vision for new categories Add, delete or modify your categories if necessary for the coming year

If he doesn't understand now, he will understand later I don't need to convince him of anything

Despite the cold, we'll sit out on the terrace so he can smoke It's simply a matter of time

Whether you are stressed or fulfilled has little to do what what you're actually doing, or even the results you are producing Or, in your business are you focused on marketing, but not looking at the finances of your business?

Focus is the ultimate power that can change the way we think, the way we feel, and what we do in any moment If you're stressed, it's a result of where you are putting your focus

They're not real " The key word here is imposters

Follow your right brain, listening to how you feel, and play your own unique brand of music They exist only in the minds of people

And, from there, you will finally complete your RPM plans for your week and for your day From there, you will define your yearly and quarterly Results/Outcomes

Following the Weekly Planning Process will ensure that you do not make this error! The single biggest error people tend to make in their planning is to focus on what it is they need to do on a particular day before they've first re-associated to the big picture of what their life is about

Hyde today? Jekyll or Mr

No, darling Victor Frankenstein or his monster?

" The return of Saturn? Every twenty-nine years the planet returns to the same point in the sky that it occupied at the moment of our birth

No, my Saturn return has already happened He realizes that he's said more than he should, and suggests that it might be best if we went back to work

Listening to Your Heart Take a moment right now and point to yourself Are you living it out the way your heart urges you to?

Not at your brain, but your heart Your finger is very likely pointing right at your heart

I doubt it Is there some underlying suspicion in his comment?

Not because he's a fool—far from it—but because he trusts me He believes everything I tell him

Patanjali suggested that inspiration involves a mind that transcends all limitations, thoughts that break all their bonds, and a consciousness that expands in every direction You may recall that the word inspire originates from the words in and spirit

Place your thoughts on what it is you'd like to become—an artist, a musician, a computer programmer, a dentist, or whatever Here is how you can become inspired

This new agreement with yourself to always stay connected to Spirit even when it seems to be the most difficult thing to do will allow whatever degree of perfect harmony that your body was designed for to proliferate And in so doing, you may influence those who are the farthest removed from God to return to their source

Your new agreement with reality in which you've blended your physical self and your personality with your spiritual God-connected self will begin to radiate a higher energy of love and light Turn "diseases" over to God, and treat your body to regular exercise, healthy food, large amounts of pure water, and plenty of rest to allow it to function as a container for Spirit to flow through

"I was abandoned as a child," I'm an alcoholic," "I'm an incest survivor," "My parents were divorced and I've never gotten over it They hang on to past pains, abuses, and shortcomings as calling cards to announce a "poor me" status to everyone they meet, within minutes of their introduction

Your past is over! " The list could go on for hundreds of pages

And if you can find the place to love your parmer even when they're down, they wi ll never forger it You can only be truly upset in an argument if you are focused on your own needs

Your physical state can also affect your relacionship If you heal your partner's pain and love them through it, their true nature will show up

— Wayne W I send you love and all green lights

—Ralph Waldo Emerson I always entertain great hopes Dyer OceanofPDF.com The First Secret I wish to say what I think and feel today, with the proviso that tomorrow perhaps I shall cantradict it all

All that's left is my need to please others, especially my wife, who has fought like crazy for me to have a great future The honeymoon is over

" Is this the same man who, only a few minutes ago, suggested that we start going out again? Marianne has made a lot of sacrifices and I can't let her down

Look into my eyes "It varies

" In the name of the forces that guide my work, by the power given to me, I ask the spirits who protect me to destroy your life and that of your family if you decide to turn me over to the police or report me to the immigration authorities " I obey and fall into some sort of trance, unable to control where I'm going

What am I doing here? If she knew what she was asking ... But then who am I to judge a technique that has lasted for centuries?

" I WAKE up again in the middle of the night I know: "De-stressing

It also wants to get better We can't forget that life is on our side

" I pour myself another glass of wine Let's help it out!

I WON'T tell you I missed you because you won't believe me I can't control myself, that's my problem

" I really don't believe any of that I won't tell you I didn't reply to your messages because I'm afraid of falling in love again

"Much better," she says, "although the medication can take a while to work I ask how she's feeling

" In other words, suffering has become yet another source of income for the pharmaceutical industry Once it kicks in, though, you regain your interest in life; things get back their color and flavor

I pray that you do, because even I can't understand what it is that I'm asking I hope you understand

" Instead, I type in "depression I get up and go over to the computer, intending to Google "How to get your man

He continues: "Everyone has days when they say: 'Well, my life isn't exactly lining up with my expectations " He's laying the groundwork for me to say everything I need to say

" Is that a question for me? ' But if life asked you what you had done for it, what would you say?

"They're children's stories," says the nurse, without taking her eyes off the screen While she sits busily at her computer, I pick a book off the counter and leaf through it

" It makes sense "The patients love them

Now I realize just how far I am from living the life I dreamed of when I visited Interlaken the first time Until we got here and had that bottle of champagne, everything was fine

"It was silly " What did you dream?

Wasn't he doing that yesterday? I go off to work and again see the neighbor polishing his car

"It wasn't quite perfect," he says, but only after having said "Good morning," asking about the family, and noticing what a pretty dress I'm wearing Unable to resist, I go over and ask him why

Could she tell me a bit about it? I'm not depressed myself, of course, and don't know how it feels

"It's like being inside a trap My friend hesitates, perhaps suspicious of my motives

"We always have to know how to sell an idea One week since that conversation with my husband

"Knowing how to sell what they want That is what constitutes success for any individual," continues the former tycoon

It's still early—the sign says dinner service doesn't start until seven p Along the way we find a beautiful and charming restaurant, but we've already made reservations elsewhere

"Let's have another gin m

The case went to the school board and he was removed Hyde lost control and attacked one of my classmates

"Like the tricoteuses Since that time, I've become afraid of people who seem excessively sensitive

ARE WE all like this? Should I be in there?

"Like what? I ask my husband after the kids have fallen asleep and we are getting ready for bed

" No, it isn't a challenge, I just want to change things around a bit "If it is, you're going to have the best breakfast you've had in years

"Listen, it's far too early for arguments So, you don't think the breakfast I make is good enough?

Ah, right " Plastic surgery?

"Most patients here have had plastic surgery I remember the small pieces of adhesive tape under my sunglasses

So go ahead and let yourself go We know that today Geneva is covered by a cloud that might take months to go away, but sooner or later, it will leave

"No " Not one word to stop me from doing something I shouldn't?

She knew her husband had had an affair with the wife of a friend and yet she didn't create a scandal I say I admire her dignity

"Of course not Not even when it appeared in the newspapers just before the elections

I decide to resume my role as journalist and ask if she has anything more to add She doesn't take her eyes off me

"Of course not! Has she organized a party at home for close friends?

I can't go on When we've been running for twenty minutes, I stop

"Of course you can do it! I'll have to walk the rest of the way

" That's absurd! Or listening to music for hours, smoking, or doing anything that other people deem to be wrong

"Perhaps it's the return of Saturn No one cares about his personal life

Old people and their fears should be respected " His condescending tone annoys me

"Remember the instructions Besides, he must tell everybody that

My heart beats stronger and stronger—from joy, surprise I expected almost anything from this meeting, except a man opening his soul to me like he is doing now

"See, it's not that I'm jealous of others I won't ask why this is happening

And I could have made it come true But it was still my dream

"Sell everything I had, buy a boat, and travel the world with you " But what was it?

"Tomorrow? I think it's then that he suspects something has changed

"Since you've brought it up, can I ask a direct question? " I can't tomorrow, I have my yoga class

I have a gift for inventing fantasies with extraordinary speed Or is this what he wants: someone to talk to who will understand him because she feels the same way?

"So when shall we meet again? I'm already imagining myself lying between silk sheets in some chalet in the Alps

In very little time the search for security turns into a heartfelt love, and things become less bitter and difficult And in the name of this fear we are capable of doing anything, including accepting the wrong person and convincing ourselves that he or she's the one, the only one, who God has placed in our path

"Some people say I'm one of the most well-connected men in my country Our feelings can be put in a box and pushed to the back of the closet in our head, where it will remain forever, hidden and invisible

Oh my God, it hurts a lot It hurts

"Tell me it hurts I'm unable to masturbate—I just grab on to the sheets and bite my lips to keep from screaming in pain

"We just need confirmation and photos In most other places you need lawyers, witnesses, signed documents, and the threat of legal process if the secret were leaked

"That shouldn't be difficult, either " So I'll need to get closer to him

It's the ideal situation They are maintaining the security of their relationship at the same time they experience adventure

"That's not my area " What leads people to commit adultery?

Another glass of gin Like taking a trip to a place filled with memories, for example

"That's right He sits in silence for a while before replying

" he asks suddenly "Are you happy?

"There's something in your eyes, a sadness I find inexplicable in a pretty woman like you with a nice husband and a good job What?

" Seeing that photo of Jacob right there on our breakfast table troubles me deeply "Grocery Store Fined, No Reports of Food Poisoning

"We can leave the children with my mother and go to dinner somewhere, just the two of us," he says I tell my husband that we need to have a talk—tonight

And you don't even know that I'm thinking about you I'm happily married

But no, all I can think of is you I wish I had someone here with me tonight to tell me stories with happy endings, to sing a song that would send me to sleep

But after all that, we realized that sometimes Outcome is simply the better word, so we decided to use both For these reasons, we changed the name of the system to RPM

" "What is my real Outcome? The best way to keep the two words straight is to ask yourself: "What is it that I really want?

4 " Do this with every value on the list until their order has been established

" (Ask this several times for each value, as people most often have multiple rules for every value Create rules for each value by asking yourself, "What has to happen in order for me to feel _______ ?

You need to be active If you want to enjoy your reJationship, you can't hang back and criticize

" - Thomas Crum '- lAZY· MAKINLI 1"0 LOVE MAKINt, 35 36 ANl HONY & ~ "Conflict can be seen as a gift of energy, in which neither side loses and a new dance is created

Besides, he's already been elected Imagine how much work that would be

" Again, I feel like a complete imbecile, but I need to ask at least one other question You hold any parties and dinners before an election, to draw votes

You'll need a book for your studies that you can't find, and it will show up in a "mysterious" delivery You'll think about a particular person, and that individual will "mysteriously" appear

" All of these so-called mysteries will soon be viewed by you as part of the synchronicity of the universe working with you and your highly energized thoughts You'll have in mind that you want information on a vacation spot, and it will arrive in the mail "mysteriously

On the other, I'm a mother who takes loving care of her family, working hard so that my loved ones want for nothing, but still without understanding where I get the strength to keep these feelings strong " On one side, I'm a villain who goes to a campus to incriminate an innocent person without understanding the motive behind my hatred

" Apparently, Frankenstein isn't the only book that has stayed in print since it was first published: The Strange Case of Dr "Do you remember Jekyll and Hyde?

The exercises continue So why am I bothering with him at all?

" Emptiness is precisely the thing I fear most and the thing that troubles me most We change posture, and the teacher insists, as she does during every class, that we should try, at least for a few seconds, to "empty our minds

I have no past, present, or future And the eagle is right: I am the mountains and the lakes

" For a split second I wonder: Does everyone who jumps have this same feeling? I am getting to know what people call "Eternity

But my clients were all in favor We campaigned with almost no money, because my father was completely opposed

" He looks around again, having hidden the cigarette behind his back I was elected by a tiny majority, but I was elected nonetheless

"No, that's not it He needs to look for something that will give him a little joy, like sailing, or going to the movies, or reading

" He seems startled by my response You don't understand

6 What aspects of his personality are most appealing to her?

" How does that need to exhibit a normal, happy life arise throughout Adultery? On this page, the protagonist emphasizes the importance of "keeping up appearances

I thought it was pretty ghastly at first, as you probably did, too "Then a friend of mine who works at the Japanese consulate suggested this one

" It occurs to me that I always go to the same restaurants and order the same dishes But it's the owners themselves who run the restaurant, and that makes all the difference

And the eagle tells me: "Come I feel the same thing I felt that day in Nyon when I imagined running until my body couldn't run anymore

" It seems like I am in my mother's womb, completely safe and protected and experiencing things for the first time You are heaven and earth, the wind and the clouds, the snow and the lakes

You have your own mind, which is a kingdom of limitless potential You don't need a television or a radio constantly blaring to avoid apathy

" It's always a choice You have the choice each day to wake up and say, "Good morning, God" or "Good God, morning!

"When I ask what it is, they aren't able to explain it He says that once a year he flies with someone who has the same reaction as me

" It's exactly the opposite The same thing happens to my friends; some people go into a state of shock and they only recover when their feet touch the ground

I don't show any nervousness or raise suspicions Now I always bring an extra pair of panties, take a shower at the hotel, and enter the elevator with flawless makeup

" It's good for the ego and absolutely safe Twice I ran into people I know, and I made sure to say hello and leave them asking: "Is she meeting someone?

There are some things you can't hide My wife knows about it

" Nigeria is where that metallurgical company is based Some people in Nigeria photographed us together and are threatening to publish the pictures, but that's not news to anyone

"There's no need to answer We don't even ask what kind of car someone drives, let alone something so personal and impossible to define

" No, my silence doesn't say it all Your silence says it all

To experience Godlike spontaneous miracles, you must have a sense of yourself as Godlike They actually rewrote their own agreement with reality

" Now tell me, what does that leave out? The Scriptures say, "With God all things are possible

"You could have fooled me I cope perfectly well with my work at home and in the office, but for some months now I've been feeling sad

" Of course Like I just said, you seem much happier

As you know, my dear, we women have a very keen sixth sense when it comes to detecting anyone who is a threat to our relationship She must be a very lonely person

" Of course, I say, showing no emotion whatsoever Don't you agree?

"Should we ask them if our kids can join? My husband spots a couple family friends sitting on a nearby bench, eating ice cream with their children

" Our friends are surprised to see us, but agree We can buy them ice cream, too

Start a Project Plan now to improve the quality of your life (If it requires more than one, this is a PROJECT and will most likely require more than a week or month to complete

" Purpose Does your purpose give you the necessary drive to make you want to follow through? ) Does it contain words or phrases like "create, establish, determine, begin, resolve, maintain, or make major progress on?

Most people walk around unconsciously chipping away at seemingly random actions RPM Planning gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment for your life

"In fact," she says, "it was my idea to get an anonymous informer to tell the newspaper the week before the elections She doesn't need to

" She laughs at that last bit and tells me that what she's saying is strictly off the record, of course, and should not be published People will soon forget a marital infidelity, but they'll always remember his bravery at denouncing corruption even though it could have had serious repercussions for his family life

There she is described as "an expert on aggression, conflict, and harassment in the nursing homes of French-speaking Switzerland She has her own entry in the French Wikipedia, although it's not often updated

" She must be a brilliant strategist to have succeeded in persuading a mainstream newspaper to believe in her, an anonymous informer " She must have a profound understanding of the agonies and ecstasies of being human—so profound that she was not even shocked by her husband's "consensual sex

The second, should the first fail, is if Mme König one day goes to the trouble of rummaging through her husband's phone The first is that Jacob will realize he has my support and that I'm not the least bit upset about our meeting at the golf club

" Since the election, nothing important has happened in Geneva I go online, copy something that seems intelligent, and press "send

"Sure " I know, but when this aggression passes, when the person returns to normal, won't they be consumed by guilt?

" So Calvin's motto—after the darkness, light—is wrong And over the years, this merely worsens their condition

And David sent and inquired about the woman " IT'S IN the Bible: It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king's house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful

" So David sent messengers and took her, and she came to him, and he lay with her And one said, "Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?

Whatever you ask yourself consistently, you will get an answer to " Right?

" your brain will search until it finds references to support the fact that you are lucky If you ask, "How come I'm so lucky?

Ask yourself, "Why would I allow something that belongs to someone else to be a source of my resentment? " The answer leads you to the extra mile

" Stop Looking for Occasions to Be Offended When you live at or below ordinary levels of awareness, you spend a great deal of time and energy finding opportunities to be offended " As the title of a popular book says, "What you think of me is none of my business

"And that shouldn't be difficult My boss explains that Jacob König isn't our target; what we want is to denounce the people who are trying to corrupt our political system

" Switzerland is one of the few countries in the world where a man's word is still his bond We just have to say we're on his side

" I feel like I'm sitting with a schoolteacher who is explaining the obvious We will not fear the darkness because we are partners of the light

" That hadn't occurred to me, but it is exactly what I need Could I go to your house to do a ... "... an exorcism?

Think of the message in this ancient wisdom: "Fear knocked at the door When you have love within you, fear cannot survive

" That music that you hear inside of you urging you to take risks and follow your dreams is your intuitive connection to the purpose in your heart since birth Love answered and no one was there

"It really varies For how long?

" The big problem with using insurance is that the bill is sent to the patient's home But I believe that in three years you'll be able to reduce the dosage

" I suggest "How about we put a cattle herder and a Protestant minister together?

" The boss says it's a great idea, but it would be even better to find someone "in the industry "Wouldn't it be interesting to record their conversation about how they deal with stress or boredom?

"Let's go to the Jura National Park this weekend Then, to top it all, having to clean up afterward

" The elections are this weekend We haven't been there for ages

My dream: feet on the ground And that, when we reach the ground, we should keep walking until we feel our feet firmly fixed

" Want to bring the camera? I go to my husband and ask him to go last, then he'll have time to see what happens to me

"I'm sure Can't we stay until tomorrow morning?

" We head to the door crossing the long, glass-ceilinged lobby Last night was enough for me to understand that it's impossible to go back in time

I don't need to pretend all the time Now that my husband knows everything, I feel relieved

" What about the kids? "Let's go and run round the lake

" "You are always connected to God, and God doesn't do sickness " "You're so smart, I know you'll study and do well on that exam

" When you act toward your children, parents, siblings, and even more distant relatives as if the relationship was great and going to stay that way, and you point out their greatness rather than their goofiness, it is their greatness that you will see You're going to feel much better tomorrow at this time

Try to always remember that you carry every relationship around with you in your head It went from lousy to great by your changing your mind!

" When you forget this and process other people on the basis of what you think they should be, or what they used to be, or how they compare to what you are, then you've sent love away, and in your mind, the relationship has soured Robert Frost reminded us, "You love the things you love for what they are

And what does the word inspire mean? " You'll find your passion in what inspires you the most

" When you're inspired, you never have to ask about your purpose It derives from the words "in spirit

Don't be nasty Dear Depression, please keep your distance

" Whether you like it or not, I know how to defeat you Find some other person with more reason than me to look in the mirror and say: "What a pointless existence

"No, not at all Isn't talking about depression's effects good for other people, too?

" Why did you put up with it for so many years? If you've just emerged from hell, you don't want to know what life is like down there right now

It means that you're willing to say, "I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why I've been victimized, or why I had this accident, but I'm willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it Removing blame means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you're experiencing

" Why do this? I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life

IT'S breakfast time," my husband says It's a bright day, the sky is blue, and the mistral is still blowing

" Why don't we swap roles for once? "I'd better go and get the kids up

I just want to set a trap for her But she has seriously harmed my romantic relationship

" Will you look at that? "That's going against the ethics of God

Is it curable? He still doesn't trust me

" Yes, I know, but how does God cure it? "There's a cure, but it belongs to God

I look at them lovingly, afraid: What will happen to them? Sometimes it's when I'm at work, sometimes in the car, and sometimes when I put the kids to bed

" Yes, I understand what you're saying They live in a country that gives us peace and security, but what about the future?

I was nervous and shy, but next time will be better Yes, I would also like to see you again

" Yes, it was great "Actually, it was great

Gimme! If your consciousness is a "Gimme!

" energy, you'll attract all manner of demanding energies into your life Gimme!

You go to the kitchen and I'll get the kids ready for school I suggest

" he asks "Is that a challenge?

" Finding Your Purpose You most likely yearn to know your purpose in life " and "Why have I chosen to store these kinds of energies in me to give to others?

" is the question that I am asked most often "How can I find my purpose?

Ask yourself, "What's most important to me in life? 1

" until you run out of answers " Then, keep asking, "What else is most important to me in life?

We can watch the people coming and going He can smoke freely here, because we have a private view of everything around us

"/"I'm going tonight" exchange), the first thing I ask is whether he's being blackmailed because of, how shall I say, an extramarital relationship I've decided to be honest: after the usual formalities (the weather, work, a "how was the nightclub?

It's a page from CNN's Money site detailing the price of drugs " He grabs his smartphone, pulls up something, and shows it to me

"As you can see, you'll need to spend five thousand Swiss francs I'm surprised, but discover it's a recent report on the difficulties facing the major cartels

We needed major changes in how the city was governed Then I came across a completely archaic law that has absolutely no relevance today

"At one point, I decided I wanted to stand as a candidate for deputy " All this is in his official biography, but hearing it from his lips feels quite different

If you could reduce that number by half, you would open up an entire world of possibilities for yourself With so many thoughts, there are almost no gaps

"Be still and know that I am God," says it so beautifully in the Psalms of the Old Testament For it is when you merge into the silence and become one with it that you reconnect to your source and know the peacefulness that some call God

" He looks at his watch It just happens that women have more selfcontrol

"Brief encounters without any emotional involvement on the part of the man, and with the sole aim of satisfying sexual urges, enable the preservation and proliferation of the species I ask that he please continue—perhaps he is glad to open up his soul

" I'm not that caught up in my work We're far too caught up in work, and that's not good

"But we do need more exercise, more time outdoors Despite what you think, the idiotic articles I write help me keep my mind occupied and drive away the wild thoughts that overwhelm me as soon as I have nothing to do

He thanks me for being honest and for keeping his identity a secret and praises my knowledge on the subject I do it, and I'm surprised by the Cuban man's reaction

"But we talked for two hours! I thank him, tell him about the reaction to the article, and ask if we can arrange another meeting

"Like winter? " A time when it was very, very cold

"But why didn't they remove their prickly spines before they snuggled up together? " Yes, but a winter that never ended

" If you interpret those words literally, it's quite clear that problems are impossible The opening lines of the Torah, as well as Genesis in the Bible, state, "God created Heaven and Earth," and later, "And all that God created was good

"But," you say, "disease, disharmony, despair, and so on all appear to exist and run rampant in our world If God created everything and all that God created was good, bad does not exist

In one of the tasks, Psyche opened a box that makes her fall into a deep sleep Needless to say, her mother-inlaw was incredibly jealous of Psyche's beauty and she did everything she could to thwart the couple's reconciliation

"Eros was also in love and regretted not having been more lenient toward his wife " I grow anxious to find out how the story will end

I begin to argue with the eagle, but I find that I am doing it rationally, trying to reason So what?

"Find a way," replies the eagle, almost inaudibly How will I live in this world after having gone through what I did in Eternity?

You haven't been particularly irritable, you haven't lost weight, and if you can control your feelings that well, then there must be a way out of this I haven't noticed any of this

"I can ask our doctor to prescribe some tranquilizers to help you sleep " Why did he mention losing weight?

" I have no idea, either By the way, why did we stop going out again?

"I graduated from university, became a defense lawyer, and spent my life between crooks and the completely innocent, between scoundrels and the totally honest I think at the time everyone was simply busy hooking up with everyone else, and no one stayed with anyone for very long

It merely reflects my surprise and confusion It isn't an answer

"I have everything a man could dream of, but I'm not happy "I'm not happy," he says

I suggest we change bars, but he is determined to combat the cold with alcohol He orders two glasses of gin

"I know it's only been ten years, but when we were here the first time, I was young We haven't done this in a long time

Can we move on to another subject? "Have you finished asking questions?

"I think you should have asked why I wanted to see you again " Yes, I've asked all my questions, but I don't really have another subject

I've decided to write an article about Lord Byron's castle and I need to stop by there By the way, I'll be home late tomorrow

"I'm not worried You needn't worry

People might be angry, stressed, or grieving over a broken heart—and in the latter case, they might think they're depressed and in need of medicines and drugs—but they're not I don't want to enter the dangerous territory of legal drugs

"If you don't want to go and see a doctor, why don't you do some research? They're just suffering from a broken heart, and there have been broken hearts ever since the world began, ever since man discovered that mysterious thing called Love

"You cannot," says the eagle, who led us to the park where we will land shortly, and who now bids us farewell because it has found a new stream of warm air My God, can't I stay this way forever?

"If you stayed this way forever, you couldn't live in this world," it says It climbs up again effortlessly, without battings its wings, and controls the wind with its feathers

" Let's say, hypothetically, that during one of these moments of aggression, a person devises a Machiavellian plan to destroy another person That's all

"It happens every day Like slandering someone at work, for example

My husband observes us without saying a word and, before I can thank the man for the information and move on, he's already paid for it Before telling me the price (a pittance), he explains that it's a reproduction done by a local unknown painter

"It represents an ancient myth Why did you do that?

If I don't have time to open the box and let the demons out—fear of heights, of the unknown, of death, of life, of extreme feelings If I don't have a chance to think about what I'm doing

"We have the option of twentyminute, half-hour, and one-hour flights Now or never

WHEN I get to work, the editor-inchief commends me But, strangely, I don't feel the least bit guilty about what happened yesterday

"We've received a lot of e-mails for the newsroom, praising the story with the mysterious Cuban man The article I suggested was published this morning

Then the doors swing wide open I drink a bit more than I should and start to feel relaxed and cheerful

"What do you think about it? "The other day I was talking with some friends about the stupid feeling of jealousy," says Marianne König

I broached the subject in a way that would allow him to understand "love" as "trauma by verbal attack," which was exactly what we were talking about at that moment When I was still pretending that I was just a journalist—and not a woman frightened by herself—I had asked if self-hypnosis (or his preferred term, "meditation") could make someone forget about another person

"Yes, we can induce relative amnesia, but since this person is associated with other facts and events, it would be practically impossible to eliminate someone completely "That is a somewhat murky area," he replied

"I'm afraid of deluding myself, of looking at reality the way I would like it to be and not how it really is "I'm not afraid of loneliness," he continues

"You are a blessing in my life " He takes my hand

The editor-in-chief wanted me to interview psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists, but that's been done a hundred times " A security guard from the newspaper told me about you

"You can't publish my name I need something original, and he might be just the right person

It feels like the most surreal thing in the world, and I want to get up and leave " He waves his hand a few times around my head

"You may ask But when I come to, he's already back to normal—neither friendly nor aloof

He changes the subject He doesn't believe me

"You need to trust me We talk a bit about the conflicts we're all forced to deal with on a daily basis, and then he returns to the drugs

And many people, including prison security guards, use his services I explain that his concern with anonymity is absolutely ridiculous—a lot of people know that he sees people at his house in Veyrier

"Your problem is with the night," he says That's what the guy at the paper explained to me

Traffic lights are set up with three chunks: green, yellow and red Most symphonies are chunked into three movements

(2) What is my Purpose? Even RPM is chunked into three questions for you: (1) What is the Result I'm committed to achieving?

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RPM does take a little extra time to master -it's like learning to drive a stick shift car 1

-but once you master it, it becomes second nature to you At first, you have difficulty focusing on all the different elements-the stick shift, the clutch, steering, watching the road, etc

To ensure that each of your categories has all the appropriate textures " There are two reasons for adding roles to each of your categories: 1

There are four main parts to this step: 1 Step III: Create your RPM Plan for an Outstanding Week: 30-45 minutes This is where you do most of your planning for the week

2 Learn from the past: Review last week's RPM plan to determine your top 10 to 12 accomplishments as well as the most important things that needed to get done and didn't

Permanent Have you evcr felt like your problems will never go away? " There are three categories of beliefs that trigger this mindscr: 50 1

2 Once you believe [hat a problem is permanent, you tighten a noose around the neck of happiness

1 Again, to do this, you'll look at your Capture list and ask yourself the following questions

2 What is one of the most important results/outcomes I must produce this week?

Write down all of your options, including those that might initially sound far-fetched Three options is a choice

3 You can then prioritize your options

Because clarity is power! 3

4 Once you understand the essence of the system, learning the details of how to use it will be a lot simpler

Ask yourself what you could gain from each option and what it could cost you Consequences: Brainstorm and write down the upsides and downsides of each option

4 Then write down a summary of what each option will mean for your life if you pursue it

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Specifically, you will identify which Outcomes are affected by each upside/downside, the importance of each upside/downside happening in order for you to get those Outcomes, the probability that each upside/downside will occur, and the emotional benefit or consequence to you if each upside/downside occurs Evaluation: Evaluate each of your options' upsides and downsides

5 When you have finished, review your options and eliminate those that are unacceptable based on your desired Outcomes

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A Tour of the RPM Software This section provides an overview of the RPM Life Planner™ software, with links to the step-by-step sections It's divided into two main sections: Installation (Installing and Starting Up, Registering Your Copy, System Requirements, Technical Support) Software Basics (The Home Screen, the Main Menus, Screen Conventions, Abbreviations and Indicators, and so on) The RPM Philosophy This section takes you through the conceptual foundation of RPM

Nothing has changed, except for the fact that I'm no longer alone The tile wall is still there

A bird flies across the sky, playing with the wind In my mind are two men; one will never be mine, but I'll have dinner tonight with the other one in some special, carefully chosen spot

Before I saw a gigantic universe around me; and now the universe seems like a little dot within my heart that has infinitely expanded, like space My heart!

A blessing An instrument

There's something that isn't on the list, though, something I'm definitely not going to forget: finding out where Jacob König lives and taking a moment to drive past his house And then I realize that nothing on the list is actually very important

A copy of the newspaper I work for is placed discreetly to the left When I go downstairs, the table is perfectly set with fruit salad, olive oil, cheese, whole-grain bread, yogurt, and plums

My marriage to a man who seems close, but who never shows his weaknesses and vulnerabilities My absurd infatuation with a man who, by now, must think he's being harassed

A lot of people say time heals all wounds, but that isn't true The desire to destroy someone I met only once, on the pretext that it will do away with my inner ghosts

Remember, you are taking time to do what 99% of the population has not done-decide what it is you want from and for your life! This part of the process can be a lot of fun!

A lot of people will decide to tackle this step by setting aside 2-3 hours per week over the course of 1-2 months to accomplish this And, you don't need to do it in one sitting

But you're not that body you behold, nor are you it's personality or any of it's possessions and accomplishments Your body will depart at precisely the right moment as well

A miracle You are the beloved

The entire muscular structure of your body is actually weakened, because thoughts of force weaken you For example, in an athletic event, your thoughts are on overpowering your opponent, being better than another, and playing and winning at any cost

A thought of force requires a counter-force, and a battle that weakens; while a thought of power strengthens you, since no counterforce is called into play to consume your energy On the other hand, if in the midst of an athletic event you can keep your thoughts on performing at your highest capacity, on using your inner strength to muster the energy to be as efficient as it's possible for you to be, and to have great respect for your God-given abilities, you will actually be empowering yourself

O's Affected = Outcomes Affected Imp = Importance (-10 - 10) % = Probability (0 - 10) EB/C Emotional Benefit/Consequence (-10 - 10) Then develop a plan and specific time line for its implementation and take massive Action to implement it

ANTHONY ROBBINS RAPID PLANNING METHOD "The Fastest Way to Results" The RPM Philosophy Welcome You can't manage your time if you don't have a plan for your life fahmy

What fun acknowledgement will you give yourself every time you catch yourself thinking in terms of results vs How can you reinforce everything it is you are doing right?

APPENDIX: DECISION STRATEGY Decision Maker You should spend 5% of your time on the problem and 95% of your time on the solution what it is you need to do?

The same thing is happening inside me: with every step I take, another barrier falls, another defense is destroyed, another wall collapses, and my heart, hidden behind it all, is beginning to see and enjoy the autumn light I see the leaves falling, their shapes silhouetted against the sun

About the music I heard in the car on the way here? What shall we talk about?

We'd stop off at ports, do odd jobs until we earned enough to move on, and as soon as we had enough money, we'd set sail again My father would have been furious that I didn't follow in his footsteps, but it wouldn't have mattered

Adventure Be with people we'd never seen before and discover places not listed in the guidebooks

I was given the cold shoulder and humiliated by his silence for weeks on end I have no intention of answering

After I go to bed, I listen with headphones to one of the tapes I recorded of the Cuban shaman Does he think I'll come running just because he gave me the honor of an invitation?

I'd have left, slamming the door behind me, and taken the children to my parents' house I'd have screamed bloody murder, I'd have cried nonstop from jealousy, which would have actually been envy—he can, and I can't

After four months, I would be terrified by the possibility of having to start all over again Two or three months later I would have regretted it and tried to find some excuse to go back, imagining he would want the same

Resist with all your might, because we hardly know anything at all in comparison with what there is to know Resist being a pessimist

Airplanes, electricity, automobiles, television, remote controls, the Internet, fax machines, telephones, cellular phones, and so on Can you imagine what a pessimist who lived only 200 years ago would think about the world we live in?

If you want to park your car, look for a big city, full of spaces for just that Even if you were born and raised in the next city over, we are not interested in what you have to say

All Swiss buildings are required to have fallout shelters We are so isolated from the world that we still believe in the threat of major nuclear war

(I know someone who gives them a new job description Embrace them from that perspective, with help if you need it, and then understand them, accept them, honor them, and finally retire and/or transform them in your own way

All You Get Is Now The willingness and ability to live fully in the now eludes many people ) Become free to immerse yourself in this moment—the now that's called the present—because it's simply that—a present to open, relish, nurture, play with, and enjoy and explore

Read about it Talk to others about your love for this car

All of this may seem silly to you, but when you become inspired and act as if what you want is already here, you'll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to make this your reality Bring up a picture on your computer screen, and leave it there to view each time you're near that computer

" My response is that you come into this world with absolutely nothing The questioner often elaborates on his or her dilemma by saying, "I would be happier if I could be on purpose, but I just don't know what my purpose in life is

All of your acquisitions and achievements can't go with you You will leave this physical world with exactly the same

" This is also living in the wake and assigning responsibility to the past for why you can't be successful or happy today "Everything has changed," "No one respects anyone else like they used to," "A dollar used to be worth a dollar, now everything is so overpriced," "People don't seem to want to help out like they did in the past," "When we were kids, we respected authority; today's kids walk all over their parents

All of your past is in that pencil Getting Out of the Wake Imagine a pencil with the ability to only write your past history It has no use otherwise

Your agreement with reality and all that's possible determines what you'll become How can that be true?

All that you'll get from your effort is being right If you're convinced that you can't become wealthy, famous, artistic, a professional athlete, a great singer, or whatever, you will act upon that inner conviction that prevents you from manifesting what you'd really like

" I don't know if this minority is all that small; something similar happened to me in school Only a minority lack a clear notion of right or wrong

All the students lived in fear, because it was impossible to predict how he would be from day to day I had a teacher who was the best person in the world, but suddenly he changed and left me completely bewildered

" The concierge explains that we don't have to go all the way up "And how do we get up top?

All we have to do is set a time and they'll pick us up from the hotel The road is very treacherous

The real dragons never die, but you still have the right, just once in your life, to live out an adult fairy tale Then you come up with a million excuses for your behavior and say you have the right to be happy, even for a little while, because dragonslaying knights exist only in fairy tales

Along with this moment, however, comes the fear of making a mistake, no matter what decision you choose Then comes the moment you tried to avoid at all costs, one that you had been putting off for so long: the moment you must decide to stay together or to separate forever

The name of this life management system is the Rapid Planning Method, or RPM for short " The answer is: Both!

Also keep in mind that RPM is a life management system and not a time management system To make it simple for you to remember, however, we've also made the steps of RPM coincide with the initials of the name of the system: the Result you are after, the Purpose that will drive you to follow through, and your Massive Action Plan (or MAP) to give you the specific steps to achieve your result

Here are the specific steps you will take at the end of each day (week/project): Go through each of your RPM blocks Step five is called C-M-C: Complete what it is you're going after to get your result, Measure whether you're on track or not, and then Celebrate your results - your victories, your magic moments, your accomplishments

Also, think about any of the special moments - or what we call "Magic Moments" - that you want to include For each action item in every RPM block, note its status (In Progress, Done, Abandoned) Take a moment to capture everything that you've achieved and celebrate it

He's entirely focused on himself, his career, and his future, while I find myself staring foolishly back at the past as if I were still the adolescent who, despite the braces on my teeth, was the envy of all the other girls Of course, it's good to see him again, although he hasn't yet asked me what's happened in my life since we each went our own way after graduation

Always the same script, the same promises—reducing taxes, combating crime, keeping the French (the so-called cross-border workers who are taking jobs that Swiss workers could fill) out After a while, I stop listening and go on autopilot

RESULT: The target you are after; the specific, measurable result or outcome that you want to achieve Question 1: What is the specific Result you are committed to achieving?

An Action Here is an example to help illustrate the difference between having a result or outcome that you are committed to achieving and a simple action

In fact, you might want to think of your implementation of RPM in three distinct phases: Phase I: You are consistently using RPM as a system of thinking Use what you've learned about chunking so that you go about mastering this system in a way that supports you

And (3) What is my Massive Action Plan to follow through? You are consistently asking and answering the 3 questions of RPM: (1) What's the specific result I'm after (2) What's my purpose?

Apathy That led to inertia

And after many sleepless nights, many days of finding no joy in life, I did exactly what I feared most: I walked the other way, despite the dangers An inability to react and change

Because she is not some poor wretch without a resident's permit who wakes at five in the morning in order to travel into the city, terrified that one day she'll be exposed as an illegal worker She is precisely the kind of woman I would like to destroy pitilessly

And because she isn't the mistress of a highranking official at the United Nations, where she works and, however hard she tries, will never be recognized for what she does because "she's having an affair with the boss Because she isn't a lady of leisure married to some high-ranking official in the United Nations, always seen at parties in order to show the world how rich and happy she is (even though everyone knows that her husband has a mistress ten years her junior)

And it asked the wind for help loosening them from their branches and carrying them far away It didn't say "see you later" but "good-bye," knowing the leaves would never be back

And if it grows, it will be respected The tree knows it can grow only if it rests

I may have lost the thing that's most important to me in life: my family One of them is the reason why this hatred comes and goes, like the buses at this stop

And my husband? I've been defeated in the battle to find happiness, and this not only humiliates me, it keeps me from seeing the way forward

It was hard at first, because our instinct is to control everything, even the uncontrollable, like love and fidelity "So I promised myself I would never let that happen to me if I ever got married

And my wife, who meets with other people every day and sometimes comes home later than usual, has never heard a criticism or an insinuation from me But I did it

She refuses The waitress looks frightened, and I order another glass of gin for me

And she brings the bill It's time to close the bar because dinner will begin soon

Not only is she heiress to a fortune and married to a promising politician, she also has her own career as an assistant professor of philosophy It's possible that she is the most enviable woman in Geneva and its environs

And she's had two essays published in the respected journal Les Rencontres, in whose pages Adorno and Piaget, among others, have also appeared She has written two theses, one of them —"Vulnerability and Psychosis Among the Retired" (published by Editions Université de Genève)—for her doctorate

During the ice age, many animals died of cold, so the porcupines decided to band together to provide one another with warmth and protection I picked up a book of traditional stories, opened it at random, and began to read

And so they drifted apart again But their spines or quills kept sticking into their surrounding companions, precisely those who provided the most warmth

If you're in some small (perhaps unknown) way responsible for that migraine headache or that depressed feeling, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what it's message is for you If you take responsibility for having it, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it

And that is unlikely to occur If, on the other hand, someone or something else is responsible in your mind, then of course you'll have to wait until they change for you to get better

Then you stop complaining, because complaining means that you are at least still battling something Until there comes a point where you reach an imaginary red line and realize that if you cross it, there will be no turning back

And that's hard work You accept the vegetative state and try to conceal it from everyone

Would my children be in good hands? But he would surely remarry, because he's rich, charming, and intelligent

And the more questions I answered, the more questions appeared The first thing I did was try to answer all my questions

No one is perfect-and this exercise will give you a great overview of where you might want to start to take your life to the next level And, it is by being honest that you gain the drive to follow through

And then answer this question: If this were a tire on my car called Life, how would my car run? Answer This Question Imagine drawing a line across each section, rating yourself on a scale of zero to ten, and coloring in each section to get a true picture of where you really are in each area

I get a wonderful bonus of silence I use those two minutes or so at the stoplight to bring my mind into harmony with my inert car and body

And there's always someone behind me to let me know that my time is up by breaking the silence with a honking horn! I probably stop at a red light 20 or 30 times a day, creating 40 minutes to an hour of silence

How many men have fallen in love with me in the past and not been loved in return? I can decide who without asking anyone's permission

And they never became angry And yet they still sent me presents, courted me, accepted being humiliated in front of their friends

Because something has been missing that even you don't know how to pinpoint, because you love him and don't want to lose him You are not an adulterous man, tolerated and often even admired, but an adulterous woman, one who is sleeping with someone else and deceiving her husband, her poor husband, always so understanding and loving ... But only you know that this husband is unable to keep the loneliness at bay

And to make matters worse, your husband quietly puts up with everything But a shining knight promising adventure in distant lands is a much stronger lure than your desire for everything to remain as it is, even if at parties people stare at you and whisper among themselves that it would be better to tie a millstone around your neck and toss you overboard than let you be a terrible example

When you decide to visit the villages around Geneva, one thing becomes immediately clear: there is nowhere to park, unless you can use an acquaintance's garage I live in a country that has decided to happily shut itself off from the world

And we want to keep it that way, outsiders, so don't come here The message is: don't come here, outsiders, because the view of the lake below, the majestic Alps on the horizon, the wildflowers in the springtime, and the golden hue of the vineyards in autumn, all are the legacy of our ancestors who lived here completely undisturbed

"I've been here for ten years and have never seen a single accident," said the concierge No one made me jump

And what I see, what I feel, is something I will never be able to accurately describe I open my eyes

We learn at school that if we pick up a prism and allow a ray of light to pass through, that ray will divide into seven colors, those of the rainbow In the letter to the Corinthians, Paul tells us, in three short lines, that Love is made of many elements, like light

And what are those elements? Paul shows us the rainbow of Love just as a prism reveals to us the rainbow of light

I blame my husband for not shutting them properly I WAKE to the sound of the wind rattling the windows

And yet something stops me I feel the need to get up and perform my nightly ritual of going into the children's bedrooms to check that everything's all right

Every day we're bombarded with information and images —with adolescents in heavy makeup pretending to be grown women as they advertise miraculous creams promising eternal beauty; with the story of an aging couple who climbed Mount Everest to celebrate their wedding anniversary; with new massage gizmos, and pharmacy windows that are chockablock with slimming products; with movies that give an entirely false impression of reality, and books promising fantastic results; with specialists who give advice about how to succeed in life or find inner peace I do understand

And yet we feel obliged to repress our emotions and our desires, because they don't fit with what we call "maturity And all these things make us feel old, make us feel that we're leading dull, unadventurous lives as our skin grows ever more flaccid, and the pounds pile on irrevocably

" But he does know I told myself: "I'm not worthy of this man, he doesn't know who I am

Because if a man like him wants to stay by my side, a man who would have no difficulty at all finding a new partner the day after separating, it's because I'm worth something; I'm worth a lot And that's what allows me to get back my self-respect and regain my self-esteem

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You empower yourself with love and respect, letting go of standards of perfection and refusing to use up the precious currency of your life, the now, with thoughts that only continue to frustrate and weaken you Guilt is released through the empowering thought of love and respect for yourself

Apathetic thoughts create despair Instead, you can vow to be better than you used to be, which is the true test of nobility

Jumping into the nothing between two mountain ranges without ever having done it before? Isn't it very dangerous?

Are there any government controls on the instructors and their equipment? Who is in charge?

Have I changed that much? I had ambitions, I liked the open air, and I wouldn't let myself be intimidated by the unknown

Are you really an old man? " You're only in your thirties

We go straight to the front desk We get dressed and go downstairs to enjoy the morning

Are you sure? He says we'll be leaving today, asks them to bring down our suitcases, and pays the bill

Then I begin to wonder: Could this prized course on her CV be nothing more than an extracurricular with absolutely no academic weight? I ARRIVE at the building where Marianne teaches her philosophy classes —an annex that, to my surprise, is located on one of the University Hospital of Geneva's campuses

Arrows indicate directions Having parked the car at a supermarket, I walked about half a mile to get to this jumble of low buildings that sit in a beautiful green field with a little lake in the middle

Why hold back now when we know there's something between us? What mysterious reason did I give for meeting again?

As I walk, I feel as if I were entering a tunnel I've never traveled before, one that leads from cynicism to passion, from irony to surrender Are we afraid of stumbling and falling, like we have before?

To engage strong enough reasons, or a compelling purpose, to drive you to follow through 3 To focus on the specific result or outcome you are after 2

As a society, we are used to just slamming through all the activities that are in front of us To develop a flexible MAP - a massive action plan - that will help you to achieve your result or outcome

" The winner says: "It was the female vote that really counted for me I walk back and forth, collecting statements such as "Now we can get that law on immigration through" or "The voters realize that they made the wrong choice last time and now they've voted me back in

At one point, Jacob König is called for an interview, and I try to get closer to hear what he's saying " Léman Bleu, the local television station, has set up a studio in the main room, and its female political presenter —a vague object of desire for nine out of ten men there—is asking intelligent questions but receiving only the sound bites approved by the political aides

When you find words that create emotion for you, you might want to keep track of them in one place so that you can refer to them when you create your plans (you might enter them in your Journal) Keep track of juicy words!

At the end of each day, take a moment to ask yourself the question "Who was I today? Usually you will find patterns in the words that consistently have the power to move you emotionally and create drive so you want to capitalize on them as much as possible

Of course I want the lowest possible jump I didn't need all this information

I'm sure nothing will happen, but if it did, the danger is the same "Darling, that makes no sense

She's noticed I'm different, but attributes it to the elections For her, philosophy explains everything

At this moment, Jacob has just saved his wife from a serious drug-trafficking charge " The shaman was right when he said we must take things all the way

I go to the bathroom, brush my teeth, and order breakfast for the two of us My husband is still sleeping

At this point, I notice something: the sky is full of paragliders! I put on a robe and go to the window to pass the time while I wait for the room service to arrive

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Authentic wisdom is the ability to monitor yourself at all times to determine your relative state of weakness or strength, and to shift out of those thoughts that weaken you , elaborates on this method and provides a map of consciousness to show you how every thought computes to either weaken or strengthen you

A discreet place, that's what he must have had in mind After all, the article I wrote about the elections was picked up by lots of other newspapers

Autumn has already painted the trees many shades of gold; perhaps I'll invite Jacob to go for a walk But in my usual mania for believing whatever I want, I think of it as romantic

The human brain is fascinating; we will forget a scent until we smell it again, we will erase a voice from our memory until we hear it again, and even emotions that seemed buried forever will be awakened when we return to the same place I stare at the park across from the hotel and, beyond that, the Jungfrau, perpetually snowcapped and illuminated by the afternoon sun

Back then we stayed at a cheap hotel and hiked from one lake to another, each time like we were discovering a new path I think back to when we were at Interlaken the first time

Rather than seeing the glass as half empty, it's always half full You become an optimist

Be aware at any given moment in your life that you always have a choice about the thoughts you allow in your mind All of this is nothing more than a conscious decision on your part to be in charge of your thinking

Paul compares Love with Prophecy, with knowledge of the Mysteries, and with Faith and Charity However logical and intelligent they might be, they do not touch us

Because Faith is merely the road that leads us to the Greater Love Why is Love more important than Faith?

Your Ultimate Purpose: An Example Because my life has a meaning and a purpose and to honor this is the most powerful way to show my respect for myself and for God What emotions do you want to experience as a result?

Because I believe that we only get one trip through this lifetime and it's important to enjoy the process By endeavoring to become more myself, I can set a strong example of what's possible for others

Because I believe that you get what you give in life and so it's important to give everything you can to help others What we remember in the end isn't all the things we have done, but the lives we have touched and the memories we have created along the way

But I know myself Some go to poor parts of Africa to try to save the world

Because I do actually believe that many illnesses are the result of repressed emotions I know that my only reaction will be to repress my feelings until a cancer starts eating me up inside

But I married for love Love was the last thing on the list

Because I feel lonely So why did I do what I did?

Because I want to reflect outward the gratitude I consistently feel inside To take care of myself and have a passionate love affair with myself to ensure that I have more to give

Because I feel comfortable in my madness Because these sleepless nights are driving me mad

Because I want to stop obsessing about this Because I won't get caught

" "I'm sure their grandparents would be delighted to take care of them " "But what about the children?

Because love is like a kaleidoscope, the kind we used to play with when we were kids " And he concludes: "When you love each other, you have to be ready for anything

To give you a tremendous enthusiasm and belief that you can create the ultimate balance, results, and fulfillment you are after! 5

Because once you complete your life plan, learning how to plan your days and weeks to move toward this life plan is simple Purpose for this section 1

But why do this to Marianne, when all she did was snub me at a party? We are incomprehensible animals

Because she's attained what I cannot: Jacob's love and attention Why come up with a plan and take the risk of buying drugs and planting them in her desk?

Because we want you to start to see how it all fits together and have the sense of completion of truly understanding this system! 4

Because the Weekly Planning Process is the fundamental place where dreams are turned into reality - where your life plans are converted into action 5

And the most important lesson is learning to love Life is not a long vacation, but a constant learning process

Because the languages, the countries, the solid Swiss Confederation, Geneva and the street where I live with its lampposts, our house, the living-room furniture, it will all disappear ... and my body will disappear, too Loving better and better

The penalty is much heavier than the one for users "It's the minimum amount to frame a person as a drug dealer

Because you could be arrested on the way to your house, or to that woman's house, and you'd have no way of explaining why the drugs are in your possession Are you sure you want to do this?

I say that's enough He begs for more

Before I go to sleep, I masturbate and have two orgasms, one after the other I'm the one in charge!

Your ability to get out in front of yourself and see the outcome before it transpires will cause you to act in ways that bring about these results You'll also see the other person responding to you in love and harmony rather than in an embittered way

Before I speak to an audience, I always see them as loving, supportive, and having a terrific experience This strategy for living works for virtually everything

I thank him for his comforting words But I don't feel like explaining anything

But it's over, and I have no obligation to sit here explaining anything to anyone I would like to explain that I never wanted what I experienced up there to end

While I wait, I think: If that man in the middle had been born today, everyone—especially Catholics, in France and around the world—would call him a terrorist His head is covered, he has a long beard, and he holds in his hands what, in his time, was more powerful than a machine gun: the Bible

Both men had the same goal: to install a theocratic state in which all who disobeyed what was understood to be the law of God should be punished His tactics for implementing what he believed to be the ultimate truth remind me of the perverted mind of Osama bin Laden

To me, it's an insult to this wondrous universe filled with a hundred million miracles to ever allow myself to think thoughts of boredom or apathy Any moments that you fill with thoughts of boredom and apathy will truly weaken you physically, emotionally, and spiritually

Both of these categories of thought employ force, which produces a counter-force and an inner atmosphere of tension and weakness The other prominent thoughts that compete to make you weak include fear and anger

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I got down on my knees and began to give him oral sex Don't worry

But I didn't want him to come in my mouth Again, he held my head, setting the pace—faster and faster

"That happens very often He was glad that I had found out before he had to tell me

But I keep going— because I am getting excited about the story I'm telling as I invent it " The dealer has gone from pastor to marriage counselor!

" And how did you react? Which is no reason for such a drastic decision

But I needed to understand why she had acted as she did "I could have summoned spiritual assistance, but I would have paid for this in my next life

I guess— in fact, I'm sure—that all married people always have a secret crush I don't know what to do

But few people take it further; only one in seven, according to the article I read in the newspaper It's forbidden, and flirting with the forbidden is what makes life interesting

Traditional planner software causes you to focus on one very specific question: What do I need to do? When you are focused in this direction, you will begin to not only produce extraordinary results, but most importantly, you will experience an amazing level of personal fulfillment in the process

But have you ever crossed off everything on your to-do list and still felt like you had not really accomplished anything? To-do lists can keep you busy, and checking off a series of tasks can provide the illusion of progress

IT'S SIMPLE; as long doing anything illegal, making and losing money on the financial market is allowed He knows what is going on and is able to deal with the situation in a way I never could

But his fortune evaporated in less than a year after the big financiers discovered he was selling dreams " The former tycoon is trying to maintain his pose as one of the richest men in the world

You identify yourself as a particular ethnic person, often with labels such as Italian, Chinese, or African American You go to war in the name of patriotism to kill others who have been conditioned to do the same

But it also comes right down to daily living At the group consciousness level, you're often dedicated to continuing social problems such as war, brutality, and religious persecution, which originated in ancestral enmities that have existed for thousands of years

They are moving to Singapore or Dubai, where we spend the holiday season The small talk continues; Jacob's new routine as a member of the Council of States, congratulations for my two articles on stress ("a rather unusual approach"), and if it's true the price of real estate will fall now that banking secrecy is disappearing and if the thousands of bankers will go with it

But it doesn't, and I lower my guard I keep waiting for the bull to enter the arena

And I know you need that I may not be the best husband in the world, because I hardly ever show my feelings

But it's not like that I also know that because of this, you might not think you're important to me, you might feel insecure, or things like that

Then you'll set me free from my addiction It cost me a small fortune, but throw it away

It has a name: Jacob König I don't explain exactly what addiction I'm talking about

The attempts to get your attention may take the form of an ulcer, or a fire to burn up your resistance, or being fired from a stifling job, or being brought to your knees with an accident But your constant invisible companion always hears the music and continues tapping you on your shoulder

But not always Usually these accidents, illnesses, and forms of bad luck finally get your attention

I actually wanted him to return I forgave him

But now, after only a few weeks, I've noticed he's changed again I'm a romantic woman, and I wouldn't know how to live without the person I love

I thought I'd failed at everything, except at work and as a mother I cried tears I didn't have and became lost in thoughts of being carried away to the campus where your wife works and committed to the university asylum

But there came a moment when I understood that I had reached the limits of despair and couldn't go any deeper, and when I looked up there was a single outstretched hand: my husband's I was one step away from life and death at every minute, dreaming about everything we could have had if we were still two teenagers looking into the future together, like the first time

But you build to make others happy You build because you love to build

But those designs are in the service of others You design because your heart directs you to

It's one step away from "You're hiding something," which soon turns into "You only need to hide if you're doing something you shouldn't " they say

But today I feel like two different people " I may just be paranoid, of course

"Has something special happened to cheer you up? "You seem happier today," he says after the waiter has brought our main course, and after I realize I've been talking nonstop for twenty minutes

But today has been another normal, tedious day despite my attempts to convince myself that I'm very important to the world " If he'd asked that same question on the day I went to Parc des Eaux-Vives, I would have blushed and immediately come out with the string of excuses I'd saved up

I'd rather do nothing " I never want to

But what about our children? "Me, too

I know he'll understand Perhaps confess everything that happened to my husband

But what if he doesn't understand? He's a good, intelligent man who always puts family first

I say I accept the risk And now, from marriage counselor, he's turned into a financial adviser, trying to keep me from needlessly spending my money

But why thirty grams and not ten? I know I'm right

Otherwise, I will just pretend I can't hear the other stuff or block it out But I've decided to hear only the things that encourage me to improve, the things that help me correct my mistakes

But you've dealt with it all in the best possible way I came here in search of a complicated story involving adultery, blackmail, and corruption

Spirit always cancels problems Love always nullifies hate

By actually rewriting your agreement with reality, you can change your mind and send away any perceived problem Problems exist as beliefs of your ego mind, which is unable to conceptualize an awareness of your spiritual mind, just as dark has no concept of light

By changing the questions you ask when managing your life, you will immediately change your focus, gain access to new resources within yourself, and produce a better quality result " If you keep asking yourself this question, you are undoubtedly going to feel stressed because most of us can't possibly achieve everything on our to-do list!

You will learn to create a... Results-Focused * Purpose-Driven * Massive Action Plan How You Will Benefit from Using the RPM System RPM Planning taps the power of focus You will learn to think about and use these three components whenever you use the RPM system

By focusing on the result or outcome you desire, you'll come up with a more effective action plan and will ensure that you are consistently moving toward it What you consistently focus on in your life, you will achieve

By helping you develop a plan for your life before you ever start planning your time, RPM ensures that you are consistently making progress on what is most important to you RPM Planning ensures that you are making progress and achieving balance in all the areas of your life that matter to you most

He just can't bear carrying around those twenty extra pounds he's gained in the last few years (and subsequent love handles) One spring morning, Elvis wakes up, takes a good look at himself in the mirror, and shudders in disgust

By the end of the run, he is exhausted, his lungs hurt, he's sweating like a pig, and his heart feels like it's going to pop right out of his chest That morning, he decides to solve his problems by adding going for a ten-mile run to his to-do list

When I was a teenager, everything in my life went exactly as I planned But this year is turning out to be very, very strange

It's like a virus has infected the computer I was happy ... but now something has happened

Categories of Improvement To do this, let's first take an honest look at where you stand in some of the areas of your life today

As you do, you will send out the attractor energy that will work with you to materialize your actions based upon those stated declarations Declare yourself to be a genius, to be an expert, to be in an atmosphere of abundance, and keep that vision so passionately that you can do nothing but act upon it

Celebrate in others their finest qualities Treat everyone you encounter with the same intention

Consistently used, the RPM system, will ensure that you achieve the results you want most quickly, effectively, and easily " Anything that's worthwhile in life requires our consistent focus if we are going to make progress in achieving the things we want

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My husband and I have done all that, but the magic lasts only one or two years, at most The big problem is that people believe what they see in books and movies—the couple that strolls along the beach holding hands, gazes at the sunset, and makes passionate love every day in nice hotels overlooking the Alps

Choosing and decorating the house, planning the nursery for the children to come, kisses, dreams, a champagne toast in the empty living room that will soon be exactly as we imagined—everything in its place Then comes marriage

Early one morning, while her husband slept, she lit a lantern and saw Eros, a man of incredible beauty, lying by her side However, occasionally she was afraid that she was married to a hideous serpent

Desperate to get her lover back, Psyche submitted to a series of tasks given to her by Aphrodite, Eros's mother The light woke him, and seeing that the woman he loved was unable to fulfill his one request, Eros vanished

Meanwhile, she can build the career she wants without being troubled by babies crying in the middle of the night or by neighbors saying that she should give up her work and pay more attention to the children (as mine do) She still has time

Despite appearances, the only person I am a danger to is myself She has excellent instincts, and doesn't see me as a threat

While the rest of the continent is in crisis and companies are going bankrupt and laying off workers, the infidelity market has seen tremendous growth dollars) on hiring private detectives who specialize in following, photographing, and providing evidence that a client's spouse is cheating on them

Developers have created smartphone apps like SOS Alibi And it's not only the detectives who profit

Adultery is set in Switzerland, and mentions of Swiss culture pepper the narrative 11

Did anything surprise you? Discuss what you learned about Geneva and Swiss culture

Did the tree have any consideration for the green cloak that covered it, fed it, and enabled it to breathe? These leaves were once part of a tree, a tree that has now gone to ground to prepare for a season of rest

Did it think of the insects who lived there and helped pollinate its flowers and keep nature alive? No

And I can't show my love I open the curtains in my office and see people out there, some walking and holding hands without having to worry about the consequences

Did that Cuban shaman feel sorry for me and ask for some help from mysterious spirits? " Love?

At the end of each day, did you review your RPM plan and mark items that are done, leveraged, in progress, moved or abandon? Step 5: Complete, Measure & Celebrate Are you following through and actively making progress on your plans each day?

Did you capture your accomplishments, Magic Moments, and anything you could learn from for the future? You cannot manage what you don't measure!

"It's so nice to see you happy," he says Why?

The autumn morning is beautiful, the house is tidy, and I'm with the man I love I say that yes, I really am happy

Step 4: Schedule it Did you put those items that have to happen at specific times first? Did you list each of your Results/Outcomes and then the most important Actions under each?

Did you schedule blocks of time to work on specific RPM Blocks based on your Commit section? These are items that must occur at a specific hour and cannot fluctuate

I have to draw up a list of priorities I need to reflect

Discipline has never been my strong suit, but I can't behave like I'm unstable In the coming days, months, and years, will I be able to pretend I'm a devoted wife instead of a wounded animal?

"Come on, you can do it! He keeps jogging circles round me

Do it for me, for the kids It's worse if you stop

What does her affair teach her about herself? How does Linda's understanding of herself and her desires change by the end of the novel?

Do you think she regrets her affair? About her relationship with her husband?

"Yes, I had an affair with the wife of a friend, which I imagine you already know We won't publish anything about your personal life, but we will go after the blackmailers

Do you understand what I'm saying? He was the one who encouraged it, because we were both bored with our marriages

But I suspect they are He's no longer foolish enough to leave his phone lying around, so there's no way to find out if they're back together

Does he know what love is? And the woman—that blond, independent executive, irresistibly charming and powerful—is taking what's most important in my life: love

" I ask why I should call back "If you want to call her back, I don't mind

Does he want to be interrupted by people who will spend hours on the phone engaged in irrelevant chatter? Is he unhappy with my company?

Doesn't it make sense that you have to have a plan for your life before you create a plan for your time? This ensures that you are focused on the big picture of what's important to you before you begin planning your time

Regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in, it is your choice No one else can put a thought there

Don't convince yourself that it can't be done or it's easier said than done Choose to replace disempowering, weakening thoughts with thoughts of a higher spiritual frequency

While reading a book, notice where your thoughts are While eating your appetizer, don't be concerned with dessert

Don't let the elusive present moment get used up by thoughts that aren't in the here and now While on vacation, be there instead of thinking about what should have been done and what has to be done when returning home

"I've been jumping since I reached the age minimum of sixteen It's my first time, after all

Don't worry, madam I've been jumping for five years, not just here, but many different places around the world

National governments attempt to control the suppliers and close their eyes to the buyers Drugs, for example

Drugs stimulate productivity (cocaine) and relieve tension (hashish) We may live in paradise, but aren't we all stressed by traffic, responsibilities, deadlines, and boredom?

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Some are villains and others are good guys Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger

Embrace them all, and move on to the next act But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn't be in the play

I see endless reports about accidents, people made homeless by natural disasters, refugees I turn on the TV and watch the news

How many, whether in silence or not, are suffering injustices and betrayals? How many people on the planet are ill right now?

I take my first sip and stare at the flames I open a bottle of wine and prepare a plate of assorted cheeses

Enough with this double life I don't feel anxious or afraid

" until you run out of answers " Then, keep asking, "What else is most important to me in life?

Establish a hierarchy by asking yourself, "What's more important for me to feel: _________ or ______? 2

"No, the windows were shut For example, did you notice the mistral last night rattling the windows?

Even a high wind that has blown thousands of times since we've been married is capable of waking me up " That's what I mean

"Do you think you need to see a doctor? Thank you, Jacob König

Even if I did, I don't want to go down that road " I don't know

Think about this: If we found the end, would there be a wall at the edge of the universe? We are a speck in an incomprehensibly vast universe that has no end to it

Even more perplexing, what's on the other side of the wall, and how thick is it? If so, who built it?

And I can't show my love," he'd said "I open the curtains in my office and see people out there, some walking and holding hands without having to worry about the consequences

Even though I'm surrounded by loved ones who care about me and want only the best, it's possible they try to help only because they feel the same thing—loneliness— and why, in a gesture of solidarity, you'll find the phrase "I am useful, even if alone" carved in stone And when I felt like no one, absolutely no one, was capable of understanding what was going on inside me—not a shaman, not a psychoanalyst, not even my husband—you materialized to explain it to me ... It's loneliness

This should be our goal in the world: learn to love Learn to love better

Every man and every woman, in every day of our lives, always has a good opportunity to surrender to Love Life offers us thousands of opportunities for learning

Apathy stems from self-pity and a need to be entertained continually to avoid boredom They are the thoughts that keep you from being engaged in life

Every moment of every day presents an unlimited number of options for living fully and being connected to life You can never be apathetic or lonely if you love the person you're alone with

It's in his diary Our sources tell us that you've already arranged another meeting

Everyone knows everything " And this is the land of banking secrecy!

Her result was a monster capable of implicating the innocent and saving the guilty If I ever have to write about myself, I will do it for the same reason as Mary Shelley and her Victor Frankenstein: I just wanted to get out of a rut, find a better reason for my boring, unchallenging life

Everyone wants a taste of absolute power Everyone has a dark side

" At that point, I see my article go out the window, and along with it my big chance of rising up the ladder in a dying industry I've set a trap for them with the Ministry of Finance and arranged to record everything, exactly as they did with me

Everything is following the Swiss pattern of quality and excellence There's nothing new to be told —no adultery, no blackmail, no corruption

If you feel anger, it's because you have anger energy in your body Those responses are the energy you have inside of you to give away

Everything that you feel and experience is the result of what I call attractor energies Like everything in our universe, your thoughts are a form of energy

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FAQ We've compiled a sampling of some of the most common questions we receive on the tech support line and forum Step by Step With the RPM Life Planner™ This is where you'll find detailed instructions for using each section of the software

I'm sure you don't have the slightest interest in damaging my husband's reputation "But you won't repeat it, will you?

Feeling embarrassed, I agree to treat her statement as off the record " In less than five minutes of conversation, there is already evident hostility between us

Take some time each week to work on your categories and projects and whatever you do, be careful to not try to put everything including the kitchen sink in your weekly or daily plans! Then, their weekly plans become filled with much more than they can possible accomplish in one week because they are trying to eat the whole whale in just one bite!

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, the biggest level of fulfillment in RPM planning comes from two places 4

You are using RPM to plan your communications You understand and utilize your Weekly, Daily, and Project forms

Find a buddy who wants to learn to use this system with you! You are fully benefiting from living a life that's a result of your own design and experiencing deep fulfillment in the process

Your MAP is simply the specific steps, or actions, you need to take in order to achieve our result The third step in RPM is to develop your Massive Action Plan (MAP)

First, you will discover that there are many ways to achieve a result The beauty of the RPM system is the flexibility your MAP provides!

First, schedule your most important Results/Outcomes (from the step above) in your Daily Plan " This last step is like an insurance policy to help protect you when the inevitable challenges do arise

For example, an employee might call in sick, or your brother is coming to town and you know this will create interruptions, or you might be called into an important business meeting Second, take a moment to think about the challenges that might come up

Reasons come first and answers come second your result or outcome), you need to associate to why you want to do it-your purpose for wanting to achieve this result

Step 3: Commit to block time and resolve your 'musts' No plan is worthwhile unless you bring the emotion to the plan that will make it happen: Commitment What is my MASSIVE ACTION PLAN OR MAP?

For example, look at your week and decide in advance which day you will work on each item and for how long For each RPM Block (or if you prefer, each Action item that's part of each RPM block), you MUST take a moment and commit to blocks of time when you will work on it

I needed more and more and more The pace increased, but I ordered him not to come yet

From his stifled groans, I knew that he was ready to come, that he could no longer control himself He put me on the floor on all fours, like a dog, hit me, and penetrated me again as I wildly moved my waist

My son complains that he hasn't got his iPad Before we go down to the shore of Lake Léman—which all foreigners call Lake Geneva—he buys the ice cream for the children and asks them to stay with our friends while Mommy and Daddy go for a run

From that moment on, the screen will be the best possible nanny My husband goes to the car and fetches the stupid thing

To be honest, nothing at all I mean, what's wrong with routine and boredom?

From the moment I had that ominous thought that bright, beautiful morning, I began to feel afraid It's just ... it's just the secret fear that everything could change from one moment to the next, catching me completely unawares

I explain that everything he tells me will be kept secret I never imagined a shaman dressed like that

From what I hear, he has healing powers We're just interested in knowing if many people seek his services

) Say "No" to pollution!

Geneva doesn't seem to have changed at all since I was a child; the grand old houses are still between the buildings put up by some mad mayor who discovered "new architecture" in the 1950s I catch the usual bus and look at the same things I always look at on the way in to work

TRAFFIC is at a standstill But mostly it will destroy you, whatever your choice

Geneva, with fewer than two hundred thousand inhabitants, behaves as if it were the center of the world Today of all days!

Send out "Gimme! You know if this is true by the number of deadlines not being met, demanding bosses or customers you encounter, and the feeling of being a victim

Gimme! Gimme!

Try spending a day in an isolated spot, listening only to the sounds of nature—the birds, the insects, the rustling of leaves, the wind Nature has a marvelous way of healing many maladies

Give yourself opportunities to be in the wilderness as a regular part of your life routine These are the sounds of healing that can offset the painful sounds of 18-wheelers, cement mixers, boom boxes, and the like

Consult with a nutritionist 2 Now, let's add a Massive Action Plan (or MAP) to Elvis' result and purpose: Elvis' Massive Action Plan (MAP): 1

Go shopping for healthful foods 4 Set up a new diet plan with healthful foods 3

Jacob and Mme König walk by and greet us with a nod I don't know anyone "in the industry," but as I need to hang up, I promise to think about it

God forbid we have to go up in the same elevator! My boss was just about to hang up, but I decide to continue the conversation

When I moan a little too loudly, he asks me to keep the noise down so as not to wake the children, but I tell him I don't want to, that I want to be able to express my feelings We make love as we haven't done in a long time

God, I love this man! I have multiple orgasms

Ah, I'm glad that's over, I was so tired and don't know how I managed And careful with the moaning, so as not to wake the children

Good night You're the best!

We might run out of salt to dump on the streets this winter to keep the snow from turning into ice and causing accidents, or the sidewalks are always in need of repair Meanwhile, the city's coffers fill

Happiness can wait Everywhere you look there is roadwork and construction that no one can explain

" How awful! A marriage counselor

Have the two of them been talking behind my back? Marriage counseling was the last thing I heard that terrible afternoon at the golf club

And perhaps we should invite friends round more often To run until we drop with exhaustion

Having to talk and entertain people with a fixed smile on my lips, listening to their views on opera and traffic " That would be a complete nightmare!

In this case, I already knew the outcome would be favorable The magic word "journalist," followed by the name of a major newspaper, can open as many doors as it closes

I don't tell anyone—not my husband, not my boss The appointments are made

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I silently insult him and hate him, but I disguise it with a smile and ask if he has any tips for eliminating odors That explains the condom and the particulars that make sure everything stays as it was before we entered the room

He also suggests that I throw away these panties, because the Vaseline will leave a mark He says to take a shower when I get home before hugging my husband

But eating out is a ritual Restaurant food is always the same: too much butter, ostentatious presentation, and—because we live in one of the most expensive cities in the world—an exorbitant price for something that really isn't worth it

He asks if we want the same wine (of course we do) and hands us the menu We are greeted by the headwaiter, who leads us to our usual table even though we haven't been here for some time

I have to write one more to complete the series My boss says my articles with the Cuban shaman—the second of which was published yesterday despite having been written more than a month ago— are a big hit

He asks me to find someone else "in the industry," because there is nothing less interesting than conventional opinions (psychologists, sociologists, et cetera) I explain that the man doesn't want to speak with me anymore

It was a very sad night for me Just yesterday we talked about when everything gets stuck in a rut and how we no longer test our limits

He asks the concierge to set a time " I know

We have a beautiful suite This time we're staying in a better hotel

He calls my name The manager's card is on the table, greeting us and offering us the bottle of champagne that we've already emptied

Lying down beside me, he lights another cigarette and uses the vodka glass as an ashtray, resting it on my belly He goes to the bathroom, throws the condom in the trash, and returns

He caresses me We spend a long time staring at the ceiling, saying nothing

"Is this your vehicle? I get to the street where I parked on autopilot and find a guard in a red and blue uniform scanning my car's license plate with a machine

He continues his work " Yes

After the sound of the doors being unlocked jolts him, he walks up to me and hands me the ticket He realizes the foolishness of what he was about to do, but like me, he's on autopilot

He didn't have to handle any complaints, and I got a little of what I deserve: a punishment We both leave happy

For the Cuban man, the spirits are much more inclined to speak with women than with men, because they better understand a language that is not expressed in words They are much more sensitive to the spiritual and emotional world, and this makes them prone to crises that doctors used to call "hysteria" and today are called "bipolar"—the tendency to go from absolute euphoria to profound sadness several times a day

He doesn't understand my question I try to speak his language: Because of this oversensitivity, might there be the possibility of, say, an evil spirit driving women to do things we don't want?

This makes us lose our balance and we fall to the ground His hands search for something on the nightstand

He finds what he was looking for: a condom A sure sign of a beginner—but we are beginners and we aren't ashamed of it

Time can often make things worse " That depends

He goes on: "The Nigerians don't know this That's what's happening with me, but I came here to interview, not to be interviewed, so I don't say anything

He moans with pleasure His movements increase with intensity

He grabs me by the hair like an animal, a mare, and his pace grows faster Me, with pain

The former tycoon starts talking about money Sooner or later the effects pass, and the despair becomes even greater

He has an enormous need to say he isn't poor, that he can maintain his lifestyle for decades to come I didn't ask anything about it, but he talks anyway

" For women, it feels like a spiritual crime against all those who surround her with affection and support her as a mother and wife For men it is just a "stupid mistake

He has other worries on his mind: political meetings tomorrow, tasks to complete, his busy schedule As I'm lying next to my husband, I imagine Jacob lying next to Marianne

" I suppose that what he is really trying to say is: "What I do is illegal What I do isn't covered by national insurance

He has tanned skin and gray hair, and he's short and wears a suit and tie " I talk for nearly twenty minutes, trying to put him at ease, but the Cuban man spends the whole time studying me

Without thinking, I sit down again and grasp his head so that he can't escape Can't you see that?

He hesitates for a fraction of a second, then responds I give him a long kiss

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The fate of people who think they're so beautiful and powerful as they walk down the red carpet lies in the hands of an underpaid guy from the news department What they're really looking for is visibility, attention, and—every now and then—the opportunity to meet someone and close a business deal

He is the one who places images of people of interest in the paper, leaving a small space for the famous photo with an overview of the party (or cocktail hour, or dinner, or reception) The paginator receives the photos via e-mail and decides who should or shouldn't appear in our small world of traditions and conventions

Affection and self-control became more important So your instincts were developed differently

He is trying to justify what he did " He is talking about himself

Only the nights that fill me with dread No, nothing

The happy images from the past and the things that could have been but weren't The days I can't get excited about

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If our marriage has to end, so be it; it will end on a late autumn day before Christmas, while watching the fireplace and talking like civilized people Whatever happens today will be better for me

He just settles in next to me on the sofa and also watches the fire He comes downstairs, sees the scene I've prepared, and asks nothing

I don't know what to answer, and the man can tell he's dealing with a novice " Okay, I'm lost

He laughs I've been tested and I didn't pass

' " He is not making things any easier Because one day they will look back and hear their own heart say: 'I wasted my life

He laughs Let's suppose what I have to say isn't nonsense, that it is something tangible, genuine, threatening?

I say good-bye with three kisses on the cheek and leave I see his expression of surprise and smile

He looks away, pretending to focus on a stack of papers, and just mumbles a good-bye In the vestibule, I turn to his aide and wave

I pour myself another glass of wine, without waiting for the appetizer and without asking my husband what his day was like And other such pointless topics

He must be wondering what we're doing here He listens politely to everything I've just said

My husband goes to them, but I keep running Despite the beautiful surroundings—the mountains, the seagulls, the Alps in the distance— they have their eyes glued to the screen of that soul-sucking machine

He must think his words have had an effect and are filling my body with the endorphins that fill our blood whenever we do some physical activity with a slight intensity, like when we run or have an orgasm He watches me, surprised and happy

I get ready to refill his glass, but he waves his hand, indicating it was enough He drinks his wine

He nods I make a stupid comment: the temperature today fell below zero

I just want to resolve this problem quickly, before I do any harm to people I love or who are close to me I know the laws and I didn't come here to lie

He nods before replying: "You've spent years accumulating these tensions and now you want to get rid of them overnight His pensive face is bearded and handsome

If he asks me whether or not everything is fine, I'll lie, because I don't want to spoil his happiness I come back to reality and we go downstairs to take a walk through the streets before nightfall

He points out the bench where we sat to have coffee one morning and were approached by a couple of neo-hippie foreigners asking for money But the truth is that the wounds in my heart are taking a long time to heal

Jacob was completely unresponsive, as he'd been imagining I had come there to do something melodramatic But instead I gave him a long kiss

He pushed me away But I continued kissing his mouth and neck as I undid his tie

Then I called his name, telling him I wanted him inside me and to do anything he wanted I continued biting my hand

He pushed my legs up so he could go deeper He penetrated me, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shook me like a savage

I am shocked! One year of treatment, three sessions per week, will reduce this drive by fifty percent

He replies that what is happening is a "transference," a "fantasy," and that real murderers never seek help And what if I kill my husband before then?

Maybe I don't actually love him I'm unable to say that I don't want any more, that I don't love him, or that it was just a fantasy created by my loneliness

He treated me with zero respect, left me stripped of my dignity But I love what he has awakened inside me

For some people, décor matters more than food I could have surprised him and taken him to the Japanese restaurant, but I know he would think it was in bad taste

He tries to show me that he's a wine connoisseur; he talks about "bouquet," "texture," and "legs," the oily drops that fall in rivulets down the side of the glass And now I see that I made the right decision

I decide to tell a lie: I explain that I am having murderous thoughts, thinking about killing my husband in his sleep I don't want to provide details that might put me in a compromising situation, such as my attempt to have a certain woman wrongfully arrested for drug trafficking

He understands completely and thinks it is normal He asks if one of us has a lover, and I say no

Or was it Your invisible and implacable hand that led me to this castle and reminded me of that story? Dear God, of whom I think very little but in whom I trust in times of affliction, did I come here purely by chance?

He was already married, but, undeterred by social conventions, she followed the man she considered the love of her life Mary met Shelley when she was fifteen

And the woman conceived, and she sent and told David, "I am pregnant Then she returned to her house

He was killed and Bathsheba went to live with the king in his palace " Then David ordered that Uriah, a warrior faithful to him, be sent to the battlefront on a dangerous mission

I'm still lying on the worn leather sofa, completely naked I carefully study the walls covered with carved wood panels and beautiful frescoes on the ceiling

He's in a suit and tie, looking anxiously at his watch He is growing nervous

My mind travels to a secret and unfamiliar place Undeterred, he did exactly what he wanted, while I strived, once again, to try to please someone

He's naked, but now I'm the one giving orders This time I'm the dominatrix

And the more energy we use to suffocate our personalities, the more they will push back l C TO l0VE MAKI "ll 47 In CO lHfasr, when we are nor united internally, we exert energy to repress parts of ourselves

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Your body will leave here with the same precision You showed up here in the body you inhabit, precisely on time

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The truth is that you can only come to know God if you're willing to be at peace in the present moment And God is not doing anything different now from what God was doing a thousand years ago

Here, I would like to let you in on a sublime secret that I learned from one of my most influential teachers: You will only come to truly know God when you give up the past and the future in your mind and merge totally into the now, because God is always here now In the Fourth Secret, I discussed how meditation is a way of making conscious contact with God

The appalling bad taste, the absence of huge glass-and-steel towers, the lack of highways, the tree roots that push through the concrete sidewalks and trip you up, the public parks with their mysterious little wooden fences overgrown with weeds because "that's what nature is like I miss all of this when I travel

Here, we still say "Good morning" when we meet a stranger in the street and "Good-bye" when we leave a shop after buying a bottle of mineral water, even if we have no intention of ever going back " In short, a city that is different from others that have been modernized and lost their charm

" I want to say it felt great to discover all his weaknesses, but I just smile and keep eating my croissant Harmless

His eyes light up He also notices the paragliders

The story is told of the enlightened master who always responded to outbursts of criticism, judgment, and ridicule with love, kindness, and peace Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment

His response to the devotee was this question: "If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom does the gift belong? One of his devotees asked him how he could possibly be so kind and peaceful in the face of such disparaging invective

" The concierge laughs Falling from twenty-one meters, or the equivalent of the seventh floor of a building, would have just the same consequences

How could I have been so naïve to think that a measly five hundred meters would make any difference? I laugh to hide my feelings

That's all I need " A marriage counselor!

How could he think he'd forsaken me? The conversation with my husband reminds me of an old saying: there is none so blind as the one who does not want to see

But the city's residents voted in a referendum to keep it Over time, engineers solved the problem and the fountain became unnecessary

How could they make it more visible? The city already had many fountains, and this one was in the middle of a lake

What specific actions do I need to take to make this result happen? 3

How do I schedule projects from Weekly to Daily more efficiently? What is my Massive Action Plan?

Time is nothing but an emotion or feeling: It's a way of looking at a moment, or at life, that produces an emotional state within us " None of these definitions, however, really explain what time is to us

How do you know how long something really takes other than by how it feels? Think about it

13 How did you react to her decision to "destroy" Marianne?

How does Linda define morality? Adultery is a novel that explores the line between morality and immorality

" I rush to the window again and look at the light of one of the streetlamps "Darling, it's snowing!

How had I not noticed before? Yes, it's snowing!

By the end of the novel, do you think that she associates risk with reward? How does the concept of risk taking factor into the protagonist's actions throughout the novel?

How is love defined throughout Adultery? 2

7 Where in the novel do the boundaries between public and private personas become blurred?

How is the scientist/monster dichotomy reflected in the Linda's own personality and actions? Discuss the significance of the novel Frankenstein throughout Adultery

Whose lives will you touch in the process? Ultimately, why do you want to achieve your vision?

How would it feel to achieve the ultimate vision for your life? What is the purpose that would drive you to push through anything that might try to hold you back?

What could you achieve? How wouJd it fed if you appreciated and acknowledged those orner parts?

How would it transform your relationship? What could you enjoy?

How would you do as an achiever going 100 mph? How would you do even at 10 mph?

What a sense of relief, and for just one coin! It's usually easier than not doing so

However, if we really loved him, we would do a lot more for him It's cheap and solves the beggar's problem

Dr Because that is what I doubt, and the crux of my current problems

Hyde Jekyll and Mr

So what do I need to concentrate on? He is married and believes any false move might compromise his career

I AM going to meet my first drug dealer! On undoing his marriage without him realizing it

But this is working now only because I have a goal: to win the heart of a man It dries the skin because of the hard water and chlorine, but it's worth it, because it washes the soul clean

I FINALLY have a date: tomorrow at three o'clock in the restaurant of the Golf Club de Genève in Cologny I'm a cornered tiger with nowhere to run; the only option that remains is to attack

That's what I fall asleep thinking And that can only be a sign of mental illness

I HAVE lunch with a friend Perhaps I really do have a serious problem

We don't show our feelings because people might think we're vulnerable and take advantage of us Nor do we smile at anyone other than our children

I MEET Jacob as arranged Sleep is the best remedy

The only thing that changes us is love Time doesn't change the man

I REMEMBER a sermon written by a young unknown nineteenth-century pastor analyzing the Epistle of Saint Paul to the Corinthians and the various sides that Love reveals as it grows While I was in the air, I understood that my love for life, for the universe, was more powerful than anything

It feels like my soul is slowly leaving my body and heading off to an unknown place, some "safe" place where it doesn't have to put up with me and my night terrors I'm still at the complaining one, but I imagine that soon—in a matter of months, days, or hours—a complete lack of interest will set in that will be very hard to dispel

I WAKE up and perform the usual rituals—brushing my teeth, getting dressed for work, going into the children's bedroom to wake them up, making breakfast for everyone, smiling, and saying how good life is It's as if I weren't sitting in an ugly Japanese restaurant with delicious food, experiencing everything as though it were just a scene in a film I'm watching, without wanting —or being able—to stop it

I have a side that is honest, kind, caring, professional, and capable of keeping my cool at difficult moments, especially during interviews, when some subjects prove aggressive or evade my questions This still doesn't frighten me, but perhaps I need to go ahead and lay down a few rules for my behavior

I am more easily irritated when a salesperson chats with a customer even though there's a line But I am discovering a more spontaneous, impatient, wild side, one that is not confined to the hotel room where I meet with Jacob and one that is beginning to affect my daily routine

Or he will leave again, but I will be left with the feeling that I fought as hard as I could When Marianne is long gone and he is with me, Jacob will thank me for the rest of our lives

I am pursuing something that won't come to me of its own free will I'm a new woman

I did what I shouldn't have What's important is I found around four hundred texts and several photos of an attractive blond woman who is well-off, by the looks of it

I asked him who she was, and he didn't deny it—he said she was the woman he loved I made a scene

" Learning to avoid this kind of thinking is one of my top ten secrets for living a life of inner peace, success, and happiness I have a right to be angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and resentful

I became aware of how powerful this lesson was many years ago while sitting in on a meeting of 12 people who were in a recovery group for alcoholism and drug addiction Anytime you're filled with resentment, you're turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate

I can't wait to make love with my husband, but I must keep calm; if I'm too eager, he'll suspect something is wrong When we go up to bed, I realize that I'm terribly aroused

I begin stroking his chest, and he immediately becomes aroused After I shower, I lie down beside him, take the tablet he's reading from his hands and put it on the bedside table

Then I turn him over and penetrate him with my fingers: first one, then two, three I tie up his hands and feet, and I sit on his face and force him to kiss my vagina until I can't take any more orgasms

I bring them up to my mouth and lick, one at a time, before wiping them on his face He moans with pain and pleasure while I masturbate him with my free hand, feeling the hot liquid run down my fingers

No Is that a good excuse?

I can always claim that I was feeling lonely and wasn't getting the attention I needed, just understanding and tolerance It's awful, because no one forced me to go there

Power My mind struggles to maintain control and explain at least something that I'm feeling, but the power is stronger

I can do anything, even end world suffering The feeling of Eternity gives me a mysterious feeling of power

Completely stupid, but I won't argue I put on the helmet—just like the ones worn by cyclists on the streets of Geneva

I can stop the flight in the first second by landing there and walking back up I look ahead; between us and the chasm is a snow-covered slope

Perhaps the only logic is that of having fun It flies back and forth, rises and falls, its movements obeying some logic I cannot understand

I can't spend my life playing like many of our friends, who have less money but who seem to spend their whole lives traveling or going to restaurants I am not a bird

Why can't I control myself and stop thinking about Jacob? Why don't I go to a psychiatrist and start taking those magic pills?

I can't stand myself any longer After all, he never suggested he wanted anything more than someone to talk to about Saturn and the frustrations that all adults face sooner or later

What will I do with the cocaine I've hidden, the cocaine that could be found at any moment? I no longer want Mme König to find out or even think of divorce, because this way I can have the pleasure of a lover without having to give up everything I've accomplished with hard work and selfcontrol: my children, my husband, my job, and this house

I can't try to resell it; I would be one step away from the Vandoeuvres prison I spent a lot of money on it

I know that's not ethical, but then not everything is Perhaps today I'll come up with an excuse to write an article about psychiatry and social security (the newspaper loves that kind of thing) and find a good psychiatrist to ask for help

I can't vent my frustrations by trying to be Supermom, because my children would resent me for the rest of their lives I don't have an obsession to occupy my mind—for example, dieting or being OCD and finding fault with the cleaning lady who arrives at eight in the morning and leaves at five in the afternoon, having washed and ironed the clothes, and tidied the house, and, sometimes, having even done the shopping, too

My sobbing wanes and I start to think What if he decides that he's had enough, that we've reached our limit and he's tired of living with a woman who started off complaining of depression and now laments being left by her lover?

I can't watch my world collapse and not do anything about it Work awaits, and I can't spend the whole day sitting in this street filled with the homes of happy couples who have Christmas decorations on their doors, with people coming and going without noticing I'm there

I don't answer " My heart starts beating again

I collapse onto the bed, close my eyes, and, before I fall asleep, think: I must be having the kind of crisis that comes after ten years of marriage I simply smile and stroke his face

Do you think I'm interested in you sexually? And why I wanted to know if you were happy

I confess that I was surprised by what you did in my office, and I loved coming in your mouth, but that isn't enough of a reason for why we are here, especially considering we can't do that kind of thing in a public place We're not teenagers anymore

THE BIG day finally arrives when both couples will be together at a reception given by an important local TV presenter All I need is time

I couldn't turn down the invitation because I'd already sent my RSVP We talked about it yesterday in bed at the hotel while Jacob smoked his customary cigarette before getting dressed and leaving

When someone says something I don't agree with, I make a point of responding Now I go to the supermarket only out of necessity, and I've already stopped looking at prices and expiration dates

I defend movies everyone hates and criticize those everyone loves I discuss politics

That I was sick of her distrust and that she could ask anyone about my behavior I said my dignity had been offended

I did what I could, and she merely replied: 'Stop being silly Wasn't she the one who said jealousy was a sign of inferiority?

For a fraction of a second, I considered eating them They were perfect and intact because everyone knew they were poisonous

I didn't eat the mushrooms I wasn't feeling particularly sad or particularly happy; I just wanted to get my parents' attention

I'm tired, so tired, and I can't sleep Where did that come from?

I didn't read it "Married Women More Likely to Suffer from Depression than Single Women," claimed an article published in today's newspaper

I could give it as a gift to the people I know who like it, but my reputation could be affected, or, worse, they might ask if I can get them more I vowed to never use it again

I discovered that although I thought it was love, what I am feeling is merely a crush, destined to end at any moment Achieving my dream of getting Jacob in bed took me to great heights and then brought me back down to reality

Finally, I go to the third appointment, another man in an office that must have cost a fortune to decorate I pay in cash, close the door, and swear never to return to that place, either

I do indeed run the risk of killing my husband Unlike the first two, he listens to me attentively and seems to agree with me

Are they lost forever? Sure, we can always switch to a new machine, but what about the things stored there, the things that took so many years to put in order?

I don't have the slightest control over what is happening It's not fair

He asks for the address of the swingers club and gazes at me, his eyes shining " My husband seems very interested in Marianne's reply and asks her to talk a bit more about the arousal she gets from knowing about the extramarital affairs

I don't know if he's trying to manage the almost unbearable atmosphere at the table or if he is actually interested in trying He says it's about time we tried something different

" These meetings usually take place on the outskirts of town, and traffic is rarely affected And there are people who believe this and fly all the way from their own countries to host what they call "summits

I don't know what happened today, but they closed one of our main roads At most, we catch sight of a few helicopters flying over the city

When we love someone, we're not satisfied with knowing only the person's soul—we also want to understand the person's body Interlaken takes me back to a time when we strolled around the city in the late afternoon—because the rest of the time we were locked up in the hotel, making love and drinking cheap wine

I don't know, but instinct encourages us Is it necessary?

The moment of release is accompanied by pain, but it's always been that way I gradually begin to get a terrible headache, but I know what it is: my blood returning to parts that were blocked by emotions that are finally beginning to dissolve

I don't need to explain what I felt today He doesn't need to explain what he said yesterday

I don't know anyone who's going through quite the same thing If only I had some serious problem

I don't think I need that, because I don't have the symptoms she described Even a friend of mine, who spent years feeling depressed, is now getting treatment

Accept those thoughts, don't try to get rid of them Don't worry

I drive away toxic emotions like pride, disillusion, jealousy, ingratitude, futility " Perfect, that's what I'm doing

" I HAVE to stop by the damn supermarket to buy groceries, feeling frustrated and unloved You fell into a trap she didn't set

I drive dangerously because I can't stop crying, the tears keeping me from seeing the other cars clearly Marianne is right; I'm nothing more than a sexual hobby for the stupid dog sleeping in her bed

" I get up early to make their breakfast and take them on the five-minute walk to school, where they spend all day, allowing me to work and fill my time I have two children who are (as my friends say) my "reason for living

I enjoy my work After school, a Filipino nanny looks after them until my husband and I get home

He says no I thank him for his time, ask if I owe him anything

I explain that because it's a rather unorthodox topic, it took me a long time to get what I needed Back at the newspaper, the editor asks what took me so long

I raise my glass, make a toast, and say there is something troubling my soul The longer I take, the more suffering I'll cause us both

I explain that that's not what I'm referring to He replies that we already talked about this over dinner that night when I opened my heart and told him about my fear of being depressed

The doors have closed and the elevator is gone " Right, I'll try

I explain to my boss that I don't want to be the last one to arrive at the reception I can hang up without fear

It's really good to finally talk about it, but what I have to say runs deeper than that false happiness My sadness has become so routine that no one notices anymore

I feel I'm just being self-obsessed, trying to impress people as if I were a child I don't sleep properly anymore

(The more sources a journalist has, the more respected he or she is The lunch was intended to get me closer to a source

I feel a pang in that dark corner of my soul where depression keeps knocking but I refuse to answer ) My boss says that another reliable source has told him that, even though Jacob König is married, he's having an affair with the wife of another politician

His argument is that the kids will enjoy a little trip, even if we can't go away for the whole weekend because tomorrow I'm working My husband has persuaded me that we need to get out of the city

I feel embarrassed going out like that, especially to visit Nyon, the ancient and glorious city that was once home to the Romans but now has fewer than twenty thousand inhabitants He tells me to wear my jogging pants

I've only really enjoyed making love once in many months, and you know what time I'm talking about I cry alone in the shower for no reason

I feel like I'm wasting my life, that one day I'll look back and regret everything I've done, apart from having married you and having our lovely children I thought perhaps I was going through a midlife crisis, but that isn't enough of an explanation

Others say: to get on in my career " Some say: to start a family

I feel like going to the Mont Blanc Bridge in Geneva with a manifesto printed in letters of gold and handing it to every passing person and car But when I probe deeper and ask again, the automatic response is: to make the world a better place

These implications are startling Amazingly, just being in the energy field of those who meditate raises the serotonin levels of the observers

I find that my meditating not only calms me, but has a soothing effect on my family and those around me The more you achieve peacefulness through meditation, the more your peaceful state impacts those around you

I believe it's Vaseline, or something similar I ask what he's doing, but he doesn't answer, just takes something else from the nightstand and puts it on my anus

I follow his instructions, again feeling like a teenager for whom sex is taboo Then he asks me to masturbate and, very slowly, he enters me

Ever since that day in my office when you came to interview me and we exchanged intimacies "It's been a living hell since you showed up in my life

I gave him oral sex " "Exchanged intimacies" is a figure of speech

No sex, no great romantic affair to bring a little sunshine into the gray Geneva afternoon " So that's it

I get up He just wants a support group, the kind of thing alcoholics and drug addicts have

After all, they were the ones who invited us and who should bear the expense Great

I get up, thank them for dinner, and go to the cloakroom to get my coat I look at my watch and pretend to be greatly surprised; it's already past the time we gave the babysitter!

We are both interrupted at the same time—me by an aide wanting to introduce me to the winner, she by an acquaintance coming to offer his congratulations " This woman deserves to be drawn and quartered

I give her my card should she ever need to contact me, but she does not reciprocate It was a pleasure to meet her, I say, and am tempted to add that, on another occasion, I'd like to explore what she means by consensual sex with the wife of a friend—off the record, of course—but there's no time

When they draw them, they still know what's going on outside, but we can no longer see their fish mouths moving Privacy is only for the bosses, sitting in their glass aquariums, with curtains that can be occasionally closed

I glance through today's issue even though I already know what it contains—endless reports on foreign dignitary meetings at the United Nations, the usual complaints about the end to banking secrecy, and a few more things that have made it to the front page: "Morbidly Obese Man Banned from Plane," "Wolf Decimates Sheep on Outskirts of City," "Pre-Columbian Fossils Found in Saint-Georges," and, finally, in banner headlines, "Newly Restored Genève Returns to the Lake Looking More Beautiful Than Ever Being a journalist in Geneva, with its 195,000 inhabitants, is the most boring job in the world

It takes me ages to find it in my purse My phone is vibrating

The screen shows it was my friend, the one who was depressed and, thanks to medication, is a happy person again today When I finally find it, the person has already hung up

I remember when I was young a boyfriend asked me to take care of his poodle I read stories of torture and war and see that those who inflict suffering are driven by an unknown monster when they are able to exert power, but turn into docile fathers, servants of the homeland, and excellent husbands when they return home

I had to share the attention of the man I loved with it I hated that dog

I try so hard to be better than the others, both at work and in my personal life, and it's not easy to balance the two Perhaps it's just the stress of work that's making me so tense, especially since it is election time

I have a friend who says he hates weekends because when the stock market is closed he has no way to amuse himself TODAY is Saturday, the eve of the elections

I can feel again, and I can love something I don't possess What seemed impossible this morning has become reality this afternoon

I have my soul back The wind has ceased to bother me and has become instead a blessing, like the caress of a god on my cheek

I was proud of his adventurous spirit, his desire to conquer the impossible and always demand more and more of his body My husband was going to run that crazy marathon that has most of its route in the mountains

I have no idea how Interlaken is in the winter, but from my window it now seems more empty, more removed He wasn't the only person crazy enough to do it; people came from all over the world, filling the hotels and socializing in the many bars and restaurants of this small town of five thousand inhabitants

And we think this a great idea Where everything will be absolutely, utterly planned and organized

I have the drugs, duly tested (followed by my vow never to do that again, because it felt great) I create a fake e-mail account

You know why? "I controlled the jealousy I feel because of you, and I'm happy with that

I have to fight for our marriage, for our union, in ways that have nothing to do with our children Because I always have to show I'm worthy of your love

The latter is in a beautiful building from the early twentieth century where psychiatrists, nurses, psychologists, and psychotherapists from all over Europe graduate Over there are institutions that, seemingly disconnected, are complementary if you stop to think about it: the hospital ward for the elderly and a mental hospital

I have to read the sign beside it to figure out what it is I walk by something that, strangely, looks like the beacons one finds at the end of an airport runway

She assures me that it's an excellent place, although quite some way from where I work She suggests meeting at a Japanese restaurant I've never heard of, which is odd, because I adore Japanese food

I have to take two buses and ask someone the way to the gallery, home to this supposedly "excellent" restaurant It takes ages to get there

Tourists get closer and take photos that will come out poorly lit I walk to the pier and eat my ice cream while looking at the symbol of Geneva, its jet of water shooting up in the sky and creating a curtain of droplets before me

I have visited many monuments around the world, many of mighty men whose names are long forgotten, but who will remain eternally mounted on their beautiful horses Wouldn't it be easier to just buy a postcard?

We run along the track for fifteen minutes It must be nearing its ninth day, when it will disappear and take with it the blue sky and the good weather

I haven't exercised in ages We've left Nyon behind us and had better head back

I, on the other hand, try not to think about anything, keeping my reactions set to automatic My friend is thrilled

I haven't yet reached that stage Apathy

All my efforts to resist fell apart the moment I saw him sitting alone at a table in the corner with a Campari and soda in front of him, and he smiled as soon as he saw me enter What exactly do you want to know?

I hold his icy hands—icy from cold or fear, I don't know We're like teenagers again, only this time we can drink alcohol without breaking any laws

No Am I trying to justify my adultery?

I hope it's like that for everyone who has had this experience I sought Truth and I found it

I think fondly of Jacob and Marianne I'm not talking about the sincerity that demeans those close to you; True Love does not consist of exposing your weaknesses to others, but instead of being unafraid to show when you need help and rejoicing in finding that things are better than what others said

I hope they are happy on this last night of the year, and that all this also brought them closer together Unwittingly, they brought me back to my husband and my family

We walk in front of a cathedral My husband says that I've had too much to drink and should calm down

I imagine Marianne waiting for me in a corner with a dagger, like in the days Geneva was a medieval city and in constant battle with the French Mist covers the city again and makes everything look like we're in a horror movie

" No, I borrowed it from someone because you weren't answering my calls He asks: "Is this your new number?

I imagine he's surrounded by people He laughs

You have to find someone to buy " My dear fellow, despite all your pageantry, your aura of seriousness, and your suite in this luxury hotel; despite this magnificent view, your impeccably tailored suit from London, your smile, and your hair, dyed with utmost care so as to leave just a few white hairs to give the impression of "naturalness"; despite the confidence with which you speak, there is something I understand better than you: going around selling an idea isn't everything

I imagine, my dear former millionaire, that you understand what I'm talking about: you have charts, assistants, presentations ... but what people want are results That goes for business, politics, and love

I urge you to meditate because it will bring you more peace, remove stress, improve your surroundings, and deflect negativity This must be done by you

I include the embracing of silence as one of my top ten secrets for inner peace and success, primarily because it's the only vehicle I know of for making conscious contact with God All of this and more will definitely show up when you meditate regularly

"Anyway, okay, you go and get the children ready Last night we both had a bit too much to drink, and nightclubs really aren't meant for people our age," he says

I pick up my smartphone and check what things I have to do today " He leaves before I can respond

And because whenever I talked about it with you or with other friends, everyone said it was nonsense, that people with real problems don't have time to feel depressed "Because I didn't believe I could be depressed

I insist: Wouldn't an article or a blog help people to better cope with the illness and seek help? " It's true, that's exactly what I said

I feel like this will set me free, even if I have to suffer the consequences I need to have a frank conversation with him tonight and confess everything

I just don't want to think about this now I'm tired of lying—to him, to my boss, to myself

I see an open bar, but would rather walk to unwind I pass a post office and a hairdresser

I just want it to happen I have no interest in understanding what is happening

I can't stop crying I walk away to sit on one of the park benches and wait for my husband

I keep crying He lands, approaches me with a big grin, and says it was a fantastic experience

I ask a few awkward questions, which he deftly dodges I LISTEN to facts about government policy that I didn't even want to know

I keep this thought to myself He's a year younger than me, but he looks five years older

Maybe it's better to call my husband and see if he's okay? Maybe it's a good idea to call and apologize, but I know he won't answer

I know when he's angry and tense, even though he's a master at self-control I know his voice

I am dressed normally, like a person you look at and immediately forget I say that I don't want to interrupt her during her break, so I will wait for her outside her classroom door

I let the receptionist catch a glimpse of the bandages I put under the lenses The only suspicious thing is that I am wearing sunglasses on a cloudy day

If the conversation drags on, I have a foolproof trick: I introduce my husband and say nothing I reciprocate even though I don't know their names

I listen to the answer and repeat, loud and clear: "Honey, don't you remember so-and-so? He introduces himself and asks the other person's name

If he were the CEO of a multinational, he'd be earning a fortune in shareholder bonuses " This man is one of a kind; he thinks of everything

I look back at the trash can I think about continuing the conversation, but he's already walked away

He also fastens himself to the chair The twenty-one-year-old veteran and the ringleader trade opinions about the wind as we get into position

I look behind me and I don't like what I see: a row of colored pieces of fabric stretches across the white snowy ground, each with a person tied to it I can feel his breath on the back of my head

The other children all thought I acted "better than them," and I never made any attempt to deny this I knew there was something wrong with me

I made my mother keep buying me expensive clothes and taking me to school in her pricey foreign car On the contrary

It's lunchtime and people should be at the overpriced restaurants that dot the neighborhood, trying to make an important business deal or wine and dine the tourist who came to the city in search of work We make eye contact, but for once, there are a lot of people passing by

I make eye contact again, and one man asks me to follow him with a simple nod I wait a bit and walk by a third time

Actually, I want him to be really unhappy, because I offered him the best part of me and he suggested I try marriage counseling I no longer care about his happiness

I must? And because of that, I must put that witch in jail, even if my soul lingers in purgatory for centuries

"At the moment I'm trying to force myself to look at the world differently, but it's not working "Of course, I've made a lot of mistakes," he continues

I need help, you see, and that's the only way I can get it When I see someone like you—and I've met a lot of people in the same situation —I try to find out how they're dealing with the problem

I've put on my best dress, even at the risk of dressing to the nines for a laid-back party We're ready to leave

I need to celebrate What does it matter?

It's a real possibility I'm seriously ill

I need to finish the task I've set out to do, but I will, even if the doctor then tells the police—he'll protect me with patient confidentiality, but at the same time expose an injustice Maybe I should get out of here right now and find a doctor

"But do you feel better now? They're just words, describing an ideal world that doesn't exist, not even for the people who wrote them

I need to know who I've become, because I am that person " Of course, but that isn't the problem

Not everyone needs to feel happy all the time It'll pass

I need to learn to deal with the reality of life Besides, no one can be happy all the time

The second: he is telling me, in front of everyone, how important I am to him The first is that he is suspicious of her invitation and is trying to protect me

I never imagined this I reach out my hand and touch his

Yes, I had been on his show with the ex-president of Switzerland to talk about human rights " Darius just invited me to the stage and I hadn't heard

I never imagined this; it hadn't been arranged, and I didn't prepare anything to say But I'm not that important

I live in the safest country in the world, I have no problems to speak of, and I'm a good wife and mother Well, I love my husband, which means that I've no cause to get depressed over living with someone purely for the sake of his money, the children, or to keep up appearances

I never take a false step because I know how easy it is to ruin everything I was brought up as a strict Protestant and intend to pass that education on to my children

" Is she insinuating something? When it's a matter of consensual sex without love, I'm in favor of open relationships

I notice only that she doesn't wear much makeup I can't quite look into the blue beacons that are her eyes

" I'm a little frightened I trust you now

I order another cup of tea and explain exactly what I want But it really isn't my intention to harm this man

A ticket comes out of the machine as if we're in the supermarket I had none of the reactions to which he's accustomed

I press the button on my key and the lights flash, indicating that a door was left open He places it in a plastic envelope (to protect it from the elements) and goes to the windshield to place it behind the wiper

We say good-bye with three kisses on the cheek and each one heads toward his or her destiny There is no more time for displays of affection

I put on a cowl scarf to protect me from the cold and start to walk aimlessly around the hamlet Just like what happened at the golf club, I am unable to drive when I reach my car

I think I've been eating too much sugar, which is bad for your health and for the spiritual body I fill that space with humility, gratitude, understanding, consciousness, and grace

I remember every detail of my lunch with Jacob I leave aside darkness and despair and invoke the forces of good and of light

I've been having problems since the spring And who says I'm in love?

I repeat what I said before: It's just a phase If things were perfectly fine before that, I see no reason why they shouldn't be again

The first time I walk through and reach the other side, where I take a sip of mineral water and complain about the cold to a person I've never seen before Families come and go while the suspicious characters stay put, not bothering one another or reacting, except when a young couple chatting in a foreign language strolls by, or when an executive in a suit walks through the underpass and turns back around immediately to look directly in their eyes

I return and the same men are there She doesn't reply, immersed in her own world

"I can't say I'm unhappy, but I'm increasingly lonely, though no one knows He did nothing to me

I say I have an important commitment and I leave Even when I'm among friends, and the atmosphere and drinks are great, the conversation is lively and I'm smiling, all of a sudden, for no reason, I can't pay attention to the conversation

The phone rings After five months, I would have found a way to ask to come back "for the children," but it would be too late: he would be living with his mistress, a much younger woman, pretty and full of energy, who had begun to make his life fun again

I say I'm at a bus stop and can't hear well, but that everything's fine and soon I'll be at the paper My boss asks after my son

In the middle of my impromptu speech, I see something that absolutely should not happen: Jacob and Marianne König are standing next to my husband I keep my eyes on my husband; everyone who speaks in public has to choose someone to serve as support

I say thank you as quickly as possible All this had to have happened in the less than two minutes it took me to get to the stage and start the speech that, at this point, is already making the waiters circulate and most of the guests look away from the stage in search of something more attractive

I can't stop But they won't bother us

I say that negativity feeds on itself The more I talk, the more I realize that I'm hearing myself and it's helping

All in spite of my mistakes, my decisions that caused others to suffer, and the moments when I thought it didn't exist But one thing will be forever marked on the soul of the universe: my Love

I say that— according to tradition—we have to climb up on the sofa in front of the fireplace and, exactly at midnight, step on the floor with our right foot I LEAVE the window and call out to my children and husband

The maximum here is half an hour "You went over by twenty minutes

I see he's surprised—I'm not pleading with him to stop and saying I'll never do it again, nor did I run to stop him when I saw he was there " I just nod

If I hadn't met him, I'd be a free woman now Why did I have to meet my husband and fall in love?

I should run straight to the nearest mental hospital, because these are not the kinds of things one should think I'm mad

Finally, we arrive at the jetty and look at the water like we're a couple gazing at the Jet d'Eau, the gigantic fountain that reaches up to one hundred forty meters high and has long been the symbol of Geneva We cross by the station of the small train that runs around the lake, as though we were in Disneyland

I sit quietly and force him to break the silence: "Ganja, crystal, acid, or blow? He waits for me to say something, but I worry that my voice will shake in spite of my self-confident pose

" I TAKE my phone and call Jacob's office I think that the Jet d'Eau is the most beautiful monument to love conceived by the art of man, because it is also never the same

I speak with his assistant and let her know I'm going to meet him Sure, I could dial his personal number, but no

Because I am not the only one Because I am seriously ill

I stop Frankenstein has never gone out of print, because everyone sees a bit of themselves in both the scientist and the monster

Soon the leaves will change color and each tree will be different from all the others Now it's the first day of autumn, the loveliest season of the year

I stop in front of the school where I studied On the way to the car park, I decide to take a slightly different route

Jacob spots me at once and immediately looks the other way, searching for someone with whom he can talk about matters that must, I imagine, be extraordinarily dull But the photographers haven't yet arrived; after all, it's Sunday, and the weather is lovely

I take out my digital recorder, a notebook, and a felt-tip pen I need to work, or at least pretend to

What we have learned and the mistakes we made "There are times when we should stop to take a look at the whole picture: our past and our present

I trick myself, telling myself that I made the best choices and had to make a few small sacrifices I was always afraid of those moments

I never get through I SPEND the whole of Monday morning trying to call Jacob's private mobile number

I try ringing again, but still no luck I block his number, on the assumption that he has done the same with mine

Treat them as if they're already responsible, bright, attractive, and honorable Remind them often of their inherent brilliance, their capacity for being responsible, their innate talents, and their fantastic abilities

I'm positive you'll feel great about your interview "You are so terrific

With Jacob, though, at least in the early stages of this reunion, I can still go back in time and be the young girl who isn't afraid of consequences It's odd how whenever we meet up with old school friends, we always think they haven't changed at all, even if the weakest has grown strong, the prettiest has ended up with a monster for a husband, and those who seemed closest have grown apart and not seen one another for years

I try to sleep, but I can't She's only sixteen, and the return of Saturn, which will bring maturity, is still a long way off

WE DID not have the same intentions in that hotel room And only then will I kiss my husband and my children

I was looking for the boy from my adolescence; he wanted the attractive and bold woman who had gone to interview him before the elections I was after a lost romance; he was driven by a hunter's instinct

How can people possibly like that? "I need to spend a bit of time with you as well, alone and without any terrible music blaring in our ears

I was sitting in a corner of the playground that was usually deserted and studying the tiles on the school wall " IT WAS a spring morning

" Both "Are we talking about you or a story for the newspaper?

I was sure of it the moment he asked me to look into his eyes I let down my guard because I know I have no secrets with this man

It could be interesting for the newspaper, whose headline piece of the day was "Chain of Happiness Raises 8 Million Francs for Asian Country The editor-in-chief doesn't want to discuss this

I wasn't able to use anything from my conversation with the shaman that had turned into a treatment session " I write a six-hundred-word article—the most space they would give me—and it's all taken from Internet searches

How would I have reacted? And what if it had been my husband who'd found a mistress?

I would have said that life is unfair, that I'm worthless, and I'm getting old It would have been extreme

It would be even worse if—as happened a few times last month—he put his hand on my thigh, slid it slowly upward and started caressing me " Because then I would have to say that everything's fine

I would have to say that I'm really tired, and he, never for one moment admitting that he was annoyed, would give me a kiss, turn over, and watch the latest news on his tablet, waiting until the next day I can fake orgasms —I often have—but I can't just decide to get wet with excitement

" He orders another glass of gin and drinks it at unprecedented speed My only wish was adventure

I'd like to say that I would have been the happiest woman in the world if he'd gotten his wish I stop drinking because I'm already feeling nauseated; we haven't had anything to eat

The scanned plate has already entered the system I say nothing

I'll have thirty days to pay 100 francs, but I can also challenge the fine and spend 500 francs on lawyers It's been sent to the main office to be processed and will generate a letter with the discreet police seal in the cellophane window of an official envelope

About the human condition with all its contradictions, both dark and redemptive? About the wind rustling the trees?

I'll say, no, it's nostalgic, it describes something forgotten and fragile, as we all are when we pretend we can't see the path to which life has led us without asking our permission We will talk about melancholy, and he'll say that it's a sad word

But it's as if I have a ball and chain around my feet My children will be waiting for their dinner, and my husband—who knows the state I'm in—will soon start to worry

I'm a loser I still can't move

What is the difference between a Result/Outcome and a Purpose? And why do you say RPM is the fastest way to results?

I'm already overwhelmed! How do I schedule projects from Weekly to Daily more efficiently?

He tries to contain the moans, but they are stronger than his self-control He withdraws in a single motion, rips off the condom, turns me over, and comes on my face

I'm frightened and also fascinated by it all He slowly lowers himself on top of me

But no, these men have a reputation to uphold and wouldn't do something like that What if there's nothing there?

I'm going to be late again Looking around, I walk over and grab the manila envelope inside, putting it in my bag and immediately taking a taxi to the newspaper offices

At home, everything carries on as usual; before I was in a terrible state, and now I'm feeling better I CAN'T honestly say that I feel victorious, but at least I've recovered some self-control

I'm going to follow Jacob König's example and talk to my husband about my strange state of mind No one asks me how I am

Or maybe I wanted more—to live with him, to help him grow his career, and to give him the support he no longer seemed to get from his wife and the affection he complained he lacked at one of our first meetings Maybe I just wanted what I got: adventure and joy

I'm hit with a wave of jealousy, but this time there are no tears, just anger To pluck him from his home, the way you pluck a flower from someone else's garden, and plant him on my land, even though I know flowers can't survive being treated that way

If I start to be too affectionate, it may raise suspicions What are these displays of affection?

I'm lost "I can't live without you," he says, returning to his place at the table

It might leave profound and lasting scars It might not be much fun

I'm not going to repress my feelings any longer But it's interesting—especially for a person who, for years now, has been afraid of taking risks and who has begun to be terrified by the possibility that things might change without her being able to control them

" Isn't that what I said? There's no need to go to a doctor

I'm not ill I knew it

I need to change I want to change

I'm not normally like that, but I'm gradually losing touch with myself Today at work I got ridiculously uptight, simply because an intern took longer than usual to find the material I wanted

I just want a civilized ending for one of these "connections But I don't want to prepare a comeback

I'm not used to this, but I know a lot of people who love being in this situation " This is because things that don't end clearly always leave a door open, an unexplored possibility, a chance that everything might still go back to being as it was before

Can the trail that's left behind make a boat go forward? Do you think it's possible for the wake to drive the boat?

I'm sure you agree that the wake is only the trail left behind, and that it's not what drives the boat forward These are rhetorical questions with obvious answers

In my dangerous confessional state, these things are beginning to become much clearer Only he doesn't show it

I'm surrounded by people with the same problems, all of whom are pretending that life is going on as normal I don't feel alone

But I'm always skipping it and have promised to be more disciplined He asks me to skip it

I'm tempted to change my mind, but I mustn't appear too eager or too available Jacob seems resigned

I change channels How many poor people are there, how many unemployed or imprisoned?

I'm terrified my husband might wake up and ask: "What's wrong, babe? I watch a soap or a movie and for a few minutes or hours I forget everything

Here we are in a regular café, nothing special, in Collonges-sous-Salève, a village on our border with France that's located fifteen minutes from my work But I let him continue to try to explain the unexplainable

I'm the only woman, except for the one working the bar, who walks from one end of it to the other, overly madeup and engaging the customers in witty banter The small handful of other patrons are truck drivers and workers from a nearby quarry

Is that what he wants for his future? Does he want to spend the rest of his life haunted by the specter of depression just to be reelected?

I've already done that, and I know we're alone apart from a group of drug dealers on the other side of the park, behind the restaurant He looks around to see if anyone is listening

More than thinking, I experience the presence of God in most of my waking moments — Virginia Woolf OceanofPDF.com Introduction There's never a day that goes by that I don't think about God

I've come to know the peace of Spirit in my life, and because of this knowing, all of my concerns, problems, accomplishments, and accumulations diminish in importance It's a feeling of contentment and satisfaction that's beyond anything that I might convey in a book

He suggests that he is "unhappily married," and goes into an exhaustive explanation of how powerful he is, just like all men of a certain age once they've hit the wine I know that he's mostly seeing how the land lies, that he wants to know precisely where he's putting his feet and how far he can go

I've had to give up everything that I used to enjoy—like going dancing with you, for example "In the last two years I've had a few months of happiness, a few of difficulties, but most are just a matter of hanging in there and trying to please everyone in order to be reelected

I need to forget the spark that dazzled me at 1:55 and realize that he just wants to use me That there are rumors about him and his wife, that they have an open marriage

I, too, need someone to sleep with This doesn't bother me, as long as things are clear

) How to Go about Changing Your Mind Can you accept the idea that it's your belief in your separation from God that creates the attitude that you label a problem? (I've written an entire book on this subject called There Is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem [Harper Collins, 2001]

If God is everywhere, there is no place that God is not; therefore, you have God with you at all times Can you explore this idea that what you're calling problems are all simply illusions, or mistakes of your intellect?

The eagle begins to turn toward the valley I have nothing and I am everything

If anyone could see me right now, they wouldn't know who I am, because I am light, space, and time With open arms I mimic the movement of its wings

The first is in traffic As discreet as the Swiss are, there are two situations when they become unrecognizable

If someone changes lanes, even with a turn signal flashing, he will always get a dirty look in the rearview mirror If someone lingers a fraction of a second to start his car after the light turns green, we immediately start to honk

I say thank you and hang up I let her know I'll be there in twenty minutes

If someone were to find out, he could go to jail JACOB asks me to get dressed quickly—after all, his office is a public place, paid for by government money

Along the extra mile, you'll never find anyone engaging in such absurdities A news report, an economic downturn, a rude stranger, a fashion miscue, someone cursing, a sneeze, a black cloud, any cloud, an absence of clouds—just about anything will do if you're looking for an occasion to be offended

If something takes place and you disapprove, by all means state what you feel from your heart; and if possible, work to eliminate it and then let it go Become a person who refuses to be offended by any one, any thing, or any set of circumstances

This is what got you there in the first place! Resentments give you an excuse to return to your old ways

If the contestant answers 15 multiple-choice questions, he or she wins a million dollars Why Resentments Are There You may be familiar with a popular television show called Who Wants to Be a Millionaire?

At this point, the person is guaranteed to leave with something Starting with a $100 question, the person in the "hot seat" answers five questions until reaching the $1,000 level

If the contestant reaches $32,000, again, there is a guarantee of leaving with that amount Then the questions increase in difficulty

" My eyes well up with tears My love for you is stronger than anything, and I would never stop you from being happy

If this is just a conversation about jealousy or if he's giving me a message So far I'm not sure what he's really saying

Common Mistakes Don't expect to be perfect! Remember to celebrate your wins along the way

If you are having challenges, however, it may be because you are falling into one of the common pitfalls outlined below Remember, planning your life is an art, not a science

Consistendy improve and nurture your relationship with yourself and others! Give them what they really need: Get addicted to finding new ways of giving pleasure

If you can realize that pain is nor in me facts hue rather in the perception of the FactS or the meaning you give something ( RA LY V KI "TO LOV MAKI"C 49 Problem-Solving Get addicted to meeting your partner's needs, and become an expert problem-solver

To release attachments, you have to make a shift in how you view yourself The open mind resists these attachments and consequently experiences inner peace and success

If you can tame your ego sufficiently, you'll call upon your spirit to be the guiding force in your life If your primary identification is with your body and your possessions, your ego is the dominant force in your life

I've just related details about this TV program to present the idea of the two levels that you must achieve in order to have a chance at the highest "milliondollar" level of awareness So, there are two crucial levels to attain: the $1,000 level, which is achieved by answering five relatively simple questions; and the $32,000 level, which involves five increasingly difficult questions

If you don't do so, you go home with nothing The $1,000 level is one in which you learn to leave blame behind in your life

Drug addictions disappear when young people are confronted with climbing a mountain or canoeing across a lake Sending troubled teens to the wilderness to care for animals and commune with nature almost always brings them peace and serenity

If you ever suffer from insomnia, walk barefoot on the grass for ten minutes before getting into bed People who have been diagnosed with terminal illnesses often find that months in a cabin in the isolated wilderness, meditating and communing with God, is the exact therapy they need, and sometimes the source of miraculous spontaneous remissions

Winning and being number one seem to be the most important things you can do when you live at the level of ego consciousness This attitude puts you into a state of competing for your share as if your job is to get there first

If you have more than others, you feel better about yourself You spend a lot of your time measuring your success on the basis of how you stack up against others

Including the items you've leveraged when you dial in duration times Brevity is power!

If you leverage the action item "File RPM Project Plans" to John Smith, it might take you 10 minutes to explain to him what to do and to follow up to make sure he completes it, but it might take John Smith 30 minutes to actually complete the action item This is one of the fastest way to cause yourself to feel overwhelmed!

One of the lessons I continue to learn and practice is that the universe responds with the same energy that we send out Then work on your personal program of self-love, self-respect, and self-empowerment, and create a huge inventory of what you wish to give away

If you run into anger a lot, explore the angry thoughts you have inside you If you attract a lot of people who wish to take advantage of you, you need to consider what you're doing to attract victimizers into your life

When someone squeezes you, in some way puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical; and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety, it's because that is what's inside The same logic applies to you

If you want to move into the realm of purpose by giving and serving others, ask yourself, "What do I have inside? The irony is that you can't give away what you don't have because you're always giving what you do have

doctor's appointment, meetings, etc e

If you want, you can even schedule time when you sleep, do your morning routine, etc )

Remember, RPM is a visual chunking system Pitfall Solution Writing very long Action items

If your Actions are too long, you won't be able to see your RPM blocks as individual units, and the Actions will look more complex than they actually are Part of its power is this visual organization

The mind is a powerful tool in creating health Give someone a sugar pill and convince them that it's an anti-arthritic drug, and that person's body will react to the placebo with the increased production of anti-arthritic energies

If your thoughts are focused on what you want to attract in your life, and you maintain that thought with the passion of an absolute intention, you'll eventually act upon that intention, because the ancestor to every single action is a thought It also creates divine relationships, abundance, harmony in business—and even parking places!

He is a member of the Brazilian Academy of Letters and has received the Chevalier de l'Ordre National de la Légion d'Honneur Translated into 80 languages, his books have sold more than 165 million copies in more than 170 countries

In 2007 he was named a United Nations Messenger of Peace

It's not as if I'm welcoming him to bed with open arms and legs Where did he get such a crazy idea?

In a healthy relationship, this is even more important for a couple's stability than making plans for the future or talking about the children It has been a while since we had an intense sexual relationship

Let it all come and go as it will Simply have a mind that is open to everything but attached to nothing

In all of your relationships, if you can love someone enough to allow them to be exactly what they choose to be—without any expecta- tions or attachments from you—you'll know true peace in your lifetime Enjoy it all, but never make your happiness or success dependent on an attachment to any thing, any place, and particularly, any person

Have within you an imaginary candle flame that burns brightly regardless of what goes before you As Michelangelo suggested, the greater danger is not that your hopes are too high and you fail to reach them; it's that they're too low and you do

In every single case of a person experiencing a spontaneous healing or overcoming something that was considered to be impossible, the individual went through a complete reversal of personality Let this inner flame represent for you the idea that you're capable of manifesting miracles in your life

The RPM Philosophy Anthony Robbins' Rapid Planning Method (RPM) is a proven system for taking anything you can envision and making it real Because you deserve to experience an extraordinary quality of life!

In fact, the most important result that will come out of your using this life management software is that it will literally train you to think in an entirely new way, causing you to focus on what's truly most important to you in life At its core, RPM is a system of thinking

— William James Nothing is, unless our thinking makes it so OceanofPDF.com The Tenth Secret Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create that fact

In fact, there's a simple muscle test you can do to try out any thought that you're having in the present moment — William Shakespeare Wisdom is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken Yon 10 The Tenth Secret Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You Every single thought you have can be assessed in terms of whether it strengthens or weakens you

Next to the photo is the headline: "Deputy Reports Blackmail Attempt He looks thoughtful, reflective

In fact, while I was at my meeting with Jacob, the editor-in-chief rang to say that I could cancel because they had received a communiqué from the Ministry of Finance and were working on the case " I didn't write the article

In general, most people have eight to 10 Personal Categories of Improvement Some people might have 10 or 12 areas of their personal lives that they want to focus on whereas others may have only four to six areas

I took a few classes in psychology when I was studying journalism My life is like a film endlessly repeating the same scene

In my life, I've gone straight from self-confidence to confession In one of them, the professor—a very interesting man, both in class and in bed —said that all interviewees go through five stages: defensiveness, selfpromotion, self-confidence, confession, and an attempt to put things right

That's it The only difference is that the metal cocoon feels like a shield and gives us the feeling that we're protected

In my meager understanding of the laws of aerodynamics, I suppose so That's it?

And four, if he responds evasively, reformulate the question and ask it again That way, he'll feel that if he doesn't answer it, we won't give him the space he's hoping for and he will have wasted his time

In ninetynine percent of the cases, the interviewee falls into the trap He'll say it's of no interest, but you must get some answer, at least one statement

In short, what the group dictates becomes your identification card as a human being Members of gangs or societies will behave in horrid ways, spurred on by a group or clan mentality

In order to resolve a struggle that results from group consciousness, you have to change your mind or continue to have the problem haunt you Remember that you can't solve any problem with the same mind that created it

This presence is everywhere; therefore, it must also be in you! A presence that grows the grass and grows your fingernails all at the same time

In some inexplicable way, you're already connected to all that you'd like to attract into your life by the presence of this universal, all-powerful Spirit called God And if it's everywhere, it must be in all that you perceive to be missing from your life

Walk all around your car, appreciating the lines of it Run your hands over the seats, and grip the steering wheel

In some way, somehow, this is your car Take your car for a test drive, and visualize that you're entitled to drive this car, that you're inspired by it's beauty, and that it's going to find a way into your life

With stunningly rendered prose and nuanced character portraits, Adultery is an accomplished novel that explores the moral and psychological questions that make people tick Seized by desires of passionate affair, she goes down a path that she never dreamed she would take, destabilizing the comfortable life she has created for herself and her family—and ultimately, forcing herself to confront her demons

In the beginning of the novel, Linda describes herself as risk-averse QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION 1

Six months ago, we bought a new washing machine and had to change the plumbing in the laundry room This challenge is my salvation

In the end, it looked far prettier than the kitchen We had to change the flooring, too, and paint the walls

We all need a compelling vision for our lives - a vision that is so powerful, we are driven to do whatever it takes to drive through the inevitable obstacles to achieve it The one trait that any successful and fulfilled person has cultivated - whether they are great writers, business people, teachers, musicians, educators, artists, parents, politicians, or athletes - is their passion and enthusiasm for life

In the end, what makes us truly happy is not so much what we have achieved in our lives, but who we have become in the process Having a compelling vision for our lives is what gives us a sense of absolute fulfillment and joy and causes us to remember that we are in pursuit of something greater than the current moment

Nothing beats that moment of revelation when shyness loses ground to boldness, and quiet moans turn into squeals and swearing There is no set time for it to take place, no rules to follow

In these moments, the same old questions arise: "Am I squeezing too hard? Yes, swearing—I have an overwhelming need to hear forbidden and "dirty" things when I've got a man inside me

In this section, we're going to walk you through the steps you can take in order to create this life plan And how do you think it will affect your planning if each week you are first reviewing what's important overall in your life?

This occurs because our minds are still living in caveman times, when snakes and spiders were lethal "Have you noticed how human beings are more frightened by spiders and snakes than by automobiles despite the fact that deaths from traffic accidents are much more frequent?

In those times he went hunting, and nature taught him that preservation of the species is a priority; you must get as many women pregnant as possible The same thing happens with a man's need to have multiple women

These kinds of expectations lead you to say, "I'm sure you'll have everything ready this afternoon," rather than, "You're always late with everything, and I wish you would get on the ball Furthermore, you act toward everyone else as if they, too, are all that they are capable of becoming

In your family, particularly with your children, it's important to always have this little thought in mind: Catch them doing things right " When you treat others in this way, they also fulfill the destiny that you've reminded them is there for them

Consider this observation in A Course in Miracles: "Infinite patience produces immediate results How?

Infinite patience implies an absolute certainty that what you'd like to manifest will indeed show up, in perfect order, and exactly on time " It sounds like a paradox, doesn't it?

Maybe it's just the effect of the bottle of champagne, coupled with the two glasses of aquavit He gets irritated with me, too

Interlaken sure is strange without the marathon, I say His irritation calms me and puts me more at ease; I am walking alongside a human being, with emotions and feelings

I wonder if my boss is right I chant a mantra along with the other pupils

Is he being blackmailed? Is Jacob being unfaithful to his wife?

How many Actions should I have in a typical RPM Block? How many RPM Blocks should I have?

Is it the "Rapid Planning Method" or "Results-Focused, Purpose-Driven, Massive Action Plan? What does RPM really stand for?

How many Actions should I have in a typical RPM Block? How many RPM Blocks should I have?

Is it the "Rapid Planning Method" or "Results-Focused, Purpose-Driven, Massive Action Plan? While there is no absolute, as a general rule most people have: Six to eight RPM Blocks in their Daily Plans Eight to twelve RPM Blocks in their Weekly Plans Eight to twelve RPM Blocks in their Project Plans (although this tends to vary more widely depending on the scope of the project) Four to Six Actions in their RPM Blocks (fewer than three Actions is not really enough for a complete RPM block - if this is the case, look for other ways to chunk your actions together into a related Result/Outcome) What does RPM really stand for?

5 " Are there points where you feel that she is losing touch with reality or giving in to delusional thinking?

Is it the illicitness of their affair that excites her, or does she have a genuine appreciation for his personality? Why is Jacob so attractive to Linda?

" I was then dispatched to a nearby neighborhood (which considers itself a "city" and even has a prefecture) whose grocery store was caught selling food that's past its sell-by date I explained that the meeting had already taken place, that it had happened more quickly than I'd expected and without any need for the "usual tactics

It also made the front page, but without the banner headlines I talked to the owner of the store, to neighbors and friends of neighbors, something I'm sure our readers found made for a more interesting article than some political scandal

The security guard suggested that—I weigh my words carefully—God was able to use the shaman as a channel to end a serious depression problem The doctors I "interviewed" say that healing takes a long time

It does not come from outside "We are the ones who create the messes in our heads

A few more steps, a few more fallen barriers When we deny our destiny because it's leading us toward happiness, and all we want is security

It doesn't even occur to me to try to control anything, only to experience this afternoon that will never be repeated More light floods into my heart

It is by questioning our limitations that our greatest strengths are unveiled All human progress is preceded by new questions

It is by questioning our capacity as human beings that this capacity expands It is by questioning conventional wisdom that new truths are unearthed

It is by questioning our limitations that our greatest strengths are unveiled All human progress is preceded by new questions

You are the creator and selector of your thoughts Your mind is yours to control

It is your God-given inheritance, your corner of freedom that no one can take away You can change them at will

I know my relationship with Jacob has no future and I've turned my back on the man with whom I've built a life I am going through an extremely tough time

It isn't and it never has been Whoever says "love is enough" is lying

There are two or three photographers in the lobby The elevator doors open

It looks like the eternal cloud decided to cooperate with Darius and lifted its gray cloak; we can see the sea of lights below We proceed to the main hall, which has a 360-degree view of the city

" No Let's rent a movie and enjoy the rest of the night together

It might seem suspicious to leave the party before the ceremony ends We'll stay a little longer, because Jacob and Mme König are here

It is by questioning our capacity as human beings that this capacity expands It is by questioning conventional wisdom that new truths are unearthed

It only makes sense then, that the way we help you train yourself to do this is by giving you specific questions to ask The Three Questions of the RPM System You now know that there are three things you must train yourself to focus on when using the RPM system

I ask if she has anything to say She doubtless chose his pale blue shirt and gray tie, his beautifully cut flannel jacket, and the watch he's wearing—not too expensive, to avoid appearing ostentatious, but not too cheap, either, to show a proper respect for one of the country's main industries

It seems to me that she's provoking me, and so I decide to pay her back in kind She replies that as an assistant professor of philosophy at the University of Geneva, she would be delighted to comment, but as the wife of a reelected politician, that would be absurd

You'll see how many hours of work you've committed for each day, which days may be overloaded and which days may be a bit light By deciding which days you are going to work on these specific Results/Outcomes and Must actions, and then committing a certain number of hours to work on them each day, you will be able to see the big picture

It will also ensure that you allow enough time each day to focus on and achieve what's most important, not letting various interruptions throughout your day take over This will help you balance your week before you actually start to create your daily schedule

Admittedly, this doesn't mean very much in Switzerland, because as we all know, the president changes every year and is elected by the Federal Council If he continues on his brilliant path, he will one day be president of the republic

It will open doors, bring invitations to conferences in far-flung places But who wouldn't like to say that her husband was president of Switzerland, otherwise known as the Swiss Confederation?

Nor do I believe that sex is the primary motive "If married people, for whatever reason, decide to look for another partner, this does not necessarily mean that the couple's relationship is not doing well

It's a combination of factors It has more to do with boredom, with a lack of passion for life, with a shortage of challenges

You'll find yourself feeling purposeful if you can find a way to always be in the service of others Therefore, the only thing you can do with your life is give it away

It's about taking the focus off of you and your self-interest, and serving others in some way Purpose is about serving

Scream," he orders Say you've never done this

It's almost the truth—I've done it four or five times and never liked it Once again I obey him

We're protected by doctor-patient confidentiality No one uses drugs just once

It's better if we speak openly, before making your next appointment I'll lose my medical license if I mention anything about this

He didn't owe anyone an explanation All David needed to do was order his men to bring him that woman

It's different in my case And when trouble arose, he sent her husband to the battlefront

I need a better argument I need to convince myself

It's extremely heavy This is a better argument; the airplane is made of metal

" For lots of people, yes "But isn't that what matters most?

It's getting worse every day But it isn't enough for me

I think about it twenty-four hours a day—while I'm walking down the street, or cooking, or spending precious moments of my life listening to things that, rather than offer distraction, push me even deeper into the abyss where I'm plummeting I end up relating everything I hear or read to my emotional situation, even this boring interview with this annoying caricature

It's great to interview people like this "Optimism is contagious ..." The former tycoon cannot stop talking, certain that he will convert me and that I'll publish this in the newspaper and his redemption will begin

It's a wind we know well here; it can blow for three, six, or even nine days It's still windy

It's high time these clouds went away In France—a more romantic country than Switzerland —it's known as the mistral and it always brings bright, cold weather

IN JUST one hour the year will come to an end The world is perfect

It's just as well; I've seen fireworks my whole life and they no longer give me the same thrill as they did when I was a child The city decided on significant spending cuts for Geneva's traditional New Year's Eve celebrations, so we will have fewer fireworks

"You're not thinking of doing that, are you? My husband is surprised by my new interest

It's just research for the newspaper " Of course not!

I learned that with my dad when I was a teenager: we hiked the Matterhorn and I stopped every minute to take pictures until he fumed: "Do you think all this beauty and grandeur can fit in a little square of film? And even if I can overcome my panic, I'd be more worried about filming than admiring the scenery

It's more important than trying to show people what you're experiencing Record things in your heart

But have you? The wake is just what it is, and nothing more—a trail that you've left behind

It's my experience that most people live their life in the wake by hanging on to personal histories to justify their selfdefeating behaviors, and the scarcity in their lives Being a Victim of Your Personal History For well over a quarter century now, I've worked with people to help them access higher levels of awareness

I wonder if the person who made it was one of the patients, but I discover when I keep reading that the work is by a famous sculptor It's a sculpture called Passage 2000, a "visual song" comprising ten bars from railway crossings, all equipped with red lights

It's my lunch hour—my only free time during the day, and when the most interesting things in my life always seem to happen—like meetings with friends, politicians, sources, and drug dealers Let's respect art, but don't give me this about artists being normal

The secret is to find the appropriate balance between appreciating where you are and taking your life to the next level One of the beautiful things about the human spirit is that no matter what level we've already achieve in our lives, we are constantly striving to become more

It's now time to take that dissatisfaction and turn it in to drive to create what you desire and deserve in all the areas of your life that are important to you Dissatisfaction is the first step to fulfillment

What do you want to feel or experience more of in your life now? What kind of person are you now?

It's one thing to define your ultimate vision, ultimate purpose, and identity, but it's another thing to make sure that you are consistently living these things every day Your Code of Conduct Your Code of Conduct is the collection of standards that you hold yourself to each day no matter what happens

How long before my husband suspected something? If there is one reason to be happy about what happened, it's that I was tired of living a lie

It's possible, but I have no way of knowing Can men tell when their wives fake an orgasm?

MY LUNCH with Jacob König goes exactly as I imagine You're wasting your time

It's still expensive, but the food is awful We meet at La Perle du Lac, an expensive restaurant on the lakeshore that used to be good but is now owned by the city

Why are we always trying to repeat the same pattern? To put him at his ease, I start talking about nature, about trees, and about how lovely it is to realize that everything is constantly changing

It's unnatural It's not possible

A true crime A woman does it because she doesn't have enough dignity; in addition to handing over her body, she always ends up handing over a bit of her heart

It's worse than robbing a bank, because if one day she is discovered (and she always is), she will cause irreparable damage to her family A theft

Once again I shifted, making him withdraw My eyes locked on him, listening to him repeat my name with each movement; I realized he wasn't wearing a condom and was going to come

Jacob did exactly as I said, while I masturbated and came, too I asked him to come on my face, in my mouth, and tell me he loved me

I'm astonished to see them emerge now with such precision I continue talking about the various thoughts that occurred to me while I was walking, the words for which I had no control

Jacob gives a conventional answer and then I move on to the next subject: Why is it so difficult to accept that people are different? I talk about pets and ask if he understands why people like them so much

I see him arrive There is no better time to dance again, to make the most of every crumb of sunlight and warm body and soul with its rays before it falls asleep and becomes only a dim lightbulb in the skies

Jacob has seen me now and waves He looks for me in the restaurant and on the terrace, finally going over to the waiter at the bar, who points in my direction

The fondue is excellent, the staff strives to speak every language possible, and it's located in the heart of the old city ... but for someone who lives in Geneva, it is definitely nothing new Marianne chooses the restaurant at Hotel Les Armures, which shows a certain lack of originality, as that's where everyone usually takes their foreign visitors

Jacob is outside, enduring the cold in the name of his nicotine addiction We arrive after the Königs

I fall asleep and then awake again a few minutes later After all, if they're in the elevator of a hotel in the same city where they live, they're just as guilty as I am

Jekyll allowed his to come to the surface Victor Frankenstein created his monster, and Dr

I am losing control of a monster that I can't put back into its cage I am a potential killer

Just once, I reply Finally, with great care, he asks if I use drugs

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If I masturbate beforehand, then I'm ready and everything's normal again If I reject him two nights in a row, he might go looking for a mistress, and I really don't want to lose him

Keeping the same fire burning after ten years of marriage seems a complete impossibility to me "Normal" means that nothing will ever be as it was in the days when we were still a mystery to each other

When the reign of terror began, they would go down to the guillotine square bright and early, guarding their front-row seats and knitting as they waited on those who had been condemned to die " Yes, like those hardworking women who wanted justice and bread for the poor, and who fought to free France from the excesses committed by Louis XVI

Knitting to pass the time between one severed head and the next Possible mothers, who spent the rest of their day looking after their children and husbands

What is your passion? This has always been my passion, even as a young boy

Know this for certain: Whatever it may be, you can make a living doing it and simultaneously provide a service for others What stirs your soul and makes you feel like you're totally in harmony with why you showed up here in the first place?

These are the times when your right brain is right If you are feeling fearful, scared, lonely; or on the other hand, thrilled, loving, and ecstatic, these will be the dominant forces you'll act upon

Listening to Your Right Brain There's an intuitive, invisible presence that's always with you Your right brain will always lead you passionately to your purpose

Blocks If so, you may be over-chunking, which creates too many RPM RPM Blocks

Look at your RPM Blocks As a general rule, you should have at least three Actions in an RPM Block; more often, you'll have five Actions per RPM Block

The husband spends hours away from home, wrapped up in work, and the wife dedicates more time than necessary to taking care of the children Finally, the time comes to resign ourselves to the monotony

Love alone is not enough We are at this stage, and I am willing to do anything to change it

" I want to fall in love with him again When we get back home I'll tell you the story

Love can withstand this, but for lust, it's fatal I never stopped loving him—I've always loved him and always will—but our life together is verging on monotony

Love for what you do Love for yourself

Love for your planet Love for others

"Our body is made almost entirely of water, through which electrical discharges pass, communicating information I once asked Denise, a Swiss scientist, what she thought of the Jet d'Eau

Love is always changing One such piece of information is called love, and it can interfere with the entire organism

Lying to yourself-or even "slightly exaggerating" the truth- might feel good for the moment, but ultimately denigrates the quality of your life It's only by giving yourself the gift of self-honesty that you can truly take your life to the next level

But it wasn't true And yet I tried to convince myself I was only looking for sex and some adventure

Madly in love Today I realize that yes, I was in love, despite having denied it on all my sleepless nights and empty days

Notice when your thoughts drift into the lower energy of ridicule or hate or guilt, and change the thought at that very moment if at all possible You'll begin to receive this energy back and ultimately be able to send thoughts of love and joy to everyone and everything in your world

Make a pact to remind yourself often of this secret of not being able to give away anything that you don't have If you're unable to change the thought, then at least love yourself for what you did do—that is, for noticing

"You're acting funny today, Mom The children notice at once

My husband gets home and, as usual, he kisses me, asks what kind of day I've had and what we're having for supper " I feel like saying: Yes, I did something I shouldn't have done and yet I don't feel the tiniest bit guilty, just afraid of being found out

They thought they were so special and so important that they decided to make a bet: they would return to that same place within a year, each with a book he had written describing the human condition Perhaps they read poems to one another and praised one another's work

Mary was present during that conversation Obviously, after the initial enthusiasm and conversation about how the human being is a complete aberration, they forgot about the bet

If it were, 99 Is that a good enough answer?

Maybe it's because I am tired of complaining 9 percent of people would be conspiring to destroy one another right now

He married, changed, and sends a message inviting me for coffee But most of all, where is the teenage boyfriend I met back when anything was possible?

Maybe then I'd be more interested Couldn't he be more creative and suggest a nudist run in Chamonix?

The volume gets turned up and up, trying to get you to follow your dream " Then your right-brain invisible companion (your death) speaks even louder

Meanwhile, the music inside of you fades almost to a point of being inaudible Listening exclusively to your left brain will turn you ultimately into a pretender, or even worse, a commuter—getting up every morning going with the crowd, doing that job that brings in the money and pays the bills; and getting up the next morning and doing it all over again, as a well-known song implies

Might this increase not only your effectiveness, but your fulfillment? * If you don't work full-time, can you still treat your home like a business just as Danielle has done above?

You don't have to be angry to right a wrong or work toward a better world " Anger is often justified as normal, but it will always make you weak; and as this principle reminds you, wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you

Moments of frustration won't trigger anger; they'll help you be more aware, and then they'll spur you on to a solution When you become more peaceful, you will only have peace to give away

Not being offended will mean eliminating all variations of the following sentence from your repertoire of available thoughts: "If only you were more like me, then I wouldn't have to be upset right now Your resentments literally send God out of your life while you're busy being offended

Most likely, they will never be just like you " You are the way you are, and so are those around you

This is an ongoing focus in your life and likely extends throughout a quarter, year, or longer and has several projects associated to it Categories of Improvement If there is an area of your life (personal or professional) that requires consistent focus and improvement, then it's a Category of Improvement

Most likely, this will require more than a week or even months to accomplish Projects If there are multiple results or outcomes required in order to achieve the result you're ultimately after, then it's a project

And, another word for priority is "importance The reason for this is that the RPM system is always based on having you focus first on what's most important to you

Most often, however, the priorities usually end up coinciding with the order in which you need to achieve them " It's very possible that the item you will probably complete last on your list (because sequentially you may need to do some of the other things first) is actually your highest priority and it's important to remember that when you are working on your plan

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Mr Anderson wrote an inspiring book many years ago called Three Magic Words

"Yes," I told myself, because the money he left behind would be enough to support several generations Would I be capable of facing the world alone if my husband died?

My beloved husband And if I died, who would look after my children?

That way I can walk around aimlessly I get out of the car and pay for more parking time than necessary

My boss believes it; after all, the Swiss don't lie I call in to work and give a lame excuse: one of the kids had diarrhea and I need to take him to the doctor

Jacob thinks I need marriage counseling I know the hole well—I have lived with it for months—but I don't know how to escape its hold over me

My children notice a change in my behavior, but ask nothing My boss considers me an excellent journalist

I'll be able to decide what goes on the front page: Should it be the problem of the sheepeating wolf, the exodus of foreign bankers to Dubai and Singapore, or the ridiculous lack of properties for rent? " And if I'm promoted?

My colleagues are doing the same thing, desperate to find some bit of news that will stop our plummeting sales figures What a thrilling way to spend the next five years ... I go back to my desk, make a few unimportant phone calls, and read everything of interest on various websites

We're not shamans who magically drive out evil spirits That does not exist in psychiatry or psychoanalysis

My days of seeking psychiatric help are over " Of course, he is being ironic, but he has just given me an excellent idea

"You seem happier today IT'S THE same scene today as it is every morning: my husband reads the daily news on his iPad; the children sit ready for school; the sun streams through the window; and I pretend to be worried when I'm actually scared to death one of them suspects something

My experience yesterday was a risk for everyone, especially for me " I seem happier, and I am, but I shouldn't be

Ha, ha, ha I think better when I'm moving, especially when I run, as proven in Nyon, but I doubt very much that we'll do any running

My family asked if we were celebrating something special, and I said that we were: the fact that we were together and could enjoy a quiet dinner in one another's company Tonight for dinner we had a cheese fondue that we Swiss call raclette, accompanied by thin slices of raw bison meat and traditional rösti potatoes with cream

My list of clients grew and grew What started out as a temporary job became a permanent decision: a need to help

My father insisted that it was time for me to give it all up and go and work in the law practice of a friend of his, but I was just too excited by each new case I won My reputation spread throughout the city

A little? And each time I fake an orgasm, I die a little inside

My friends tell me how lucky I am, because I lie to them and tell them that we often make love, just as they lie to me when they say that they don't know how their husbands can still be so interested in sex I think I'm dying more quickly than I thought

I'm flying, free in space and silence as we follow the wind, sailing in circles Down below is the valley linking the two lakes, and the town between them

My hands relax, I let go of the straps, and I open my arms like a bird The mountains surrounding us no longer seem so high or threatening, but friendly, dressed in white, with the sun glistening all around

"Don't stop, keep running " encourages my husband, jogging in place so as not to lose his rhythm

My heart is pounding; it's the fault of all those sleepless nights " I bend forward, resting my hands on my knees

I tell him my story Someone who sells addictive and possibly deadly products is trying to put me on the right path!

My husband and I have the same kind of smartphone, and two months ago I grabbed his by accident I've been married for ten years, I have two wonderful children

I turn out the light and decide to sing them to sleep with a traditional song from a village in the Alps, stroking their hair as I do so " Oh, dear, I should have chosen another story

My husband brings me some Valium They soon fall asleep

I can't spend my life trying to please other people It doesn't really matter what Jacob König thinks

My husband comes downstairs dressed for a party and asks how long it will take me to get ready I finish my glass of wine and refill it, and for the first time in many months, I feel something other than apathy or a sense of futility

But at least they're learning that intelligent life exists beyond video games " I have to keep the children under control the entire time; they want to touch everything, from valuable crystal vases to fancy toys from the turn of the nineteenth century

My husband knows their interest in the toy will last only until we get home One of them asks me if we can buy a metal clown with a movable mouth and limbs

I should be meeting Jacob before the end of the week—at least that's what he promised, and I doubt he would have the courage to change his mind I'VE BEEN sleeping better

My husband thinks that the Saturday we spent in Nyon did me good He sounded nervous during our telephone conversation on Monday

Darius takes the stage and begins to share his experiences with all the important people he interviewed during his program's ten-year span There, with a little luck, one or another might be recognized among the anonymous people who consider themselves very important

My internal radar already detected Jacob and Mme König I'm able to relax a bit and go to one of the windows with my husband

But no one believes in guardian spirits anymore All you have to do is ask the aid of the guardian spirit who enters your soul and helps tidy the house

My job is to bring them closer to those in need and wait for them to do their work They are there watching us, dying to help, but no one calls on them

I can't go on like this for more than an hour A terrified person can never see reality, preferring to hide in their fantasies

My job is waiting, and it might help me I have to pull myself together

It isn't love (or is it? A man

My love belongs to me and I'm free to offer it to whomever I choose, even if it's unrequited ), but that doesn't matter

" We've been interrupted once already "Excuse me, sir

My newspaper is the most important in French-speaking Switzerland and this interview could prove crucial for the upcoming elections He politely asks his assistant to postpone his next appointment

That may be true, but I just can't sleep anymore, and it isn't because of the heat The horizon seems farther away, beyond the clouds and the walls of our house

Naturally, I seek consolation in other people's suffering When night comes and no one is watching, I feel afraid of everything: life, death, love or the lack of it; the fact that all novelties quickly become habits; the feeling that I'm wasting the best years of my life in a pattern that will be repeated over and over until I die; and sheer panic at facing the unknown, however exciting and adventurous that might be

This morning, when I was drinking a cup of coffee, I looked at the gentle light outside and remembered that walk, asking myself for the last time: Am I trying to create a real problem to drive away my imaginary ones? I'm vulnerable, but I don't regret that

No Am I really in love or have I simply transformed all the last month's unpleasant feelings into a fantasy?

Then it takes on gigantic proportions and gets wall-to-wall coverage because there's absolutely nothing else of interest in the newspapers Only two things create a scandal here: corruption and drugs

No Does anyone care if they have lovers, go to brothels, or come out as gay?

The problem is that Elvis focused only on the action item of going for a run instead of establishing a clear picture of what he really wanted A Result or Outcome

No Was the result or outcome he wanted to run ten miles?

I'm Victor Frankenstein and his monster I am not Mary Shelley

No more tears I tried to breathe life into something inanimate, and the result will be the same as in the book: spreading terror and destruction

Love Love, the only thing that will remain when the human race has died out

No one can force himself to love, nor can he force another person My eyes well up with tears of joy

Or, you may fear the biggest one of all: You may fear failure The only way to challenge these absurdities is to go toward what you know you're here for and let success chase after you, as it most assuredly will

No one ever fails at anything The Myth of Failure This may come as a surprise to you, but failure is an illusion

Murderers are much more real It would have been better if I'd been sent to cover some crime or another

No one wants to know about their private lives Compared to representatives of the people anywhere else on the planet, ours are the least interesting and the most insipid

" What do they discuss? Nowadays people share their feelings on the Internet

No one's interested in other people's symptoms, because symptoms are infectious, and you'd suddenly start feeling things you didn't feel before "The side effects of the different medications

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The wind blew, lightning struck, and the sea nearly capsized my boat, but in the end I managed to cross the ocean and reach dry land I cannot say I am going to miss these past 365 days

No relationship should go off in search of that Dry land?

" For a moment, I feel disoriented Have you considered marriage counseling?

No tears Then I get up and walk straight to my car

This is particularly important when the going gets tough and the inevitable challenges come up The Purpose is what will give you all the excitement and drive you need to follow through

Not being specific in your language of Action items You must take the time to complete Purposes that compel you if you want to be fulfilled in the process

We're trying to prove that life is still interesting The conversations seem new, but it's all just a waste of time and energy

Not just Jacob and me, but probably my husband, too Everyone is trying to control their own unhappiness

His name is John Calvin, and Geneva was his field of operations And neither of the two hesitated to use terror to achieve their goals

Not only Catholics who dared to keep their faith, but also scientists who, in search of truth and the cures for diseases, challenged the literal interpretation of the Bible Hundreds of people were sentenced to death and executed not far from here

"Of course they did " And didn't the women also think about preserving the species?

Not to mention having to take care of the offspring, feed it, and protect it from danger like spiders and snakes But while man's commitment to the species lasts, at most, eleven minutes, for the woman, each child means at least nine months of pregnancy

I can claim that this happens to everyone, even if only in their dreams I can tell myself that I need to be defied, confronted, and questioned about what I do

Nothing more But deep down, what happened is very simple: I went to bed with a man because I was dying to do it

Needless to say, someone saw us together " My boss summons me to his office and asks if I managed to get an exclusive out of my lunch with that politician

Nothing that isn't in his official biography No, I didn't

" Please don't ask me that "But what exactly is missing in your life?

Nothing! Because the answer is nothing

This is the 80/20 rule You'll find that most often, a small number of actions make the biggest difference in your ability to achieve your result

Notice how these two principles work in Elvis' Massive Action Plan below 20% of what you do in life usually makes 80% of the difference

His eyes have a vacant look as he gazes back at the past But since no one is looking, he takes another long drag

Now I can easily sleep for eighteen hours at a stretch "When I started out in politics, I used to sleep only about five hours a night, yet I was always full of energy

He was feared, but also loved—and could ignite crowds with that love People who knew him said that, in private, Calvin was a good man, capable of following the words of Jesus and making amazing gestures of humility

Now he is seen as the physician of souls, the great reformer, the one who saved us from Catholic heresy, with its angels, saints, virgins, gold, silver, indulgences, and corruption As history is written by the victors, no one today remembers his atrocities

What are the specific actions you need to take in order to achieve this result? Question 3: What is your Massive Action Plan?

We spend another half an hour together, talking about the city and its inhabitants as if nothing had happened Now with the addition of a stupid, irresponsible gesture that, at least in my case, will only make matters worse

Now, however, we are two complete strangers, trying to keep the conversation going just long enough so that we can each go our separate ways without too much embarrassment We seemed very close when we arrived at the park, and we became one when we kissed

He rolls over and goes to sleep But the conversation has already ended

ONE week later, I do what I promised myself I would never do: see a psychiatrist And I'm left alone with my "strength," staring at the ceiling

There is nothing else to discover, and we try to get as much pleasure as possible from the same things We have our whole lives ahead of us

Of course there is: little toys you can buy at sex shops, swinger clubs, inviting a third person to join, or taking adventurous chances at parties hosted by unconventional friends This is like eating chocolate every day, without changing brands or trying new flavors: it's not a sacrifice, but isn't there anything else?

If God is good, why does He allow suffering and the pain of others? We live in a microscopic part of a gigantic mystery, and we still have no answers to our childhood questions: Is there life on another planet?

Often, for no apparent reason, I feel an immense dread And what's worse: time continues to pass

"There is only space available for jumps at one thousand three hundred and fifty meters The concierge picks up the phone and talks to someone

Oh, good! " More absurd than my earlier fear is the relief I feel now

Several ideas appear and disappear without changing the way I feel I want to serve this Hand

Oh, what a pity the eagle and I must land at the park across from the hotel down below My mind has left my body and blended with nature

And I rejected almost everyone, because I knew that if anyone ever managed to enter my world, they would find nothing of interest The other girls were green with envy, but pretended not to be and were always hanging around and cozying up to me, hoping to pick up any rejects

On my way home, I noticed a few mushrooms that had sprung up after the rain It was best to maintain an air of mystery with a hint of unattainable pleasures

You can always find something in your life to be unhappy about: just look around, find the areas of your life that don't quite meet your expectations and then focus on them and intensify these feelings How you feel about things - and even the meaning you attach to a particular experience - is all dependent upon your focus

On the other hand, if you focus on what is already great about your life (or what could be great), you can always make yourself feel better immediately Before you know it, you're upset!

I'm eager to see how he lives—it will liven up the article We arrange to meet at his house in the village of Veyrier

On the wall are diagrams that look imported from India: the locations of energy centers, the soles of the feet with their meridians We are in the small living room converted into an office in his home

Did you feel sympathy for the character throughout your reading experience? " How did these analogies help to shape your understanding of her mental state?

On this page, Linda claims she feels "comfortable in my madness 4

Note where you are on track and where you might be off track, and modify accordingly Review all your projects

Once Per Year: Review your Driving Force Decide if there are any new Project Plans that you need to create in order to stay on track in each of your categories

I'm a slut, a ***** hired by an executive to screw at a hotel, up for absolutely anything I imagine someone sees us, and this arouses me even more than him kissing my breasts

Once again I am sixteen, when I masturbated several times a day to the thought of him But this feeling doesn't last long

As a society, we are used to just slamming through all the activities that are in front of us To develop a flexible MAP - a massive action plan - that will help you to achieve your result or outcome

The ideal state is to be happy and driven, where you have enough satisfaction to enjoy where you are (who you've become, what your life is like, the process you're in) and feel enough dissatisfaction to want more, to feel the drive to grow and contribute The balance in life is between satisfaction and dissatisfaction and between fulfillment and drive

Once you have completed this section, you will be reviewing it every week before you create your weekly plan to make sure that you are on track My Life This next section is perhaps the most important section in your RPM software because what you are doing is putting the stakes into the ground and deciding what areas of your life you are committed to focusing on and improving on an ongoing basis

Once you have taken the necessary time to create your vision, you won't need to do it again! While it may take you some time to do this, it's important to remember two things: 1

Thanks to my husband's influence, I got the job I have now I've tried to be like that, but I can't

One day, my children will be proud of their mother, and my childhood friends will be more frustrated than ever, because I have managed to build something tangible while they have devoted themselves to looking after the house, the children, and their husband I work, I fill my time, I feel useful and able to justify my existence

the beach, the mountains, a favorite park, an art museum, or even a favorite tree in your back yard) e

2 What we recommend is that you use the system for 30-days, as once you do, you will have not only mastered the use of the system, but you will have formed the habits that will ensure you consistently follow through for a lifetime

One of the most important characteristics of the RPM system is that it works top down Invariably, if someone is having difficulty with the system, it's because they are spending most of their time in their Weekly and Daily plans, or worse yet, they are starting there every week

"1he real war is on the battlefield of our own souls Slep 5: Integrate Your Personalities to Be Your 'Ifue Self Negoliare with your primary personalities [0 embrace and accept your disowned personalities

Or how would it feel jf different parts were connected together and giving you energy rather than taking it? " -Gandhi ~\Z) ~4AK1Nli 10 tOVE MAKING 53 The Real lOU How would it feel if those disowned parts weTe really dominant in your life more often?

We pretend it doesn't matter whether we win or lose, the important thing is to compete Everyone is looking to see the final outcome, as though life were a huge game of chess

Or we go out for dinner or lunch with people who have nothing to do with our lives and spend the whole time talking about things that are of no importance We root for our true feelings to stay opaque and hidden, but then ... ... instead of looking for companionship, we isolate ourselves even more in order to lick our wounds in silence

Did he take her passionately, did she moan with pleasure? I wonder: Did they make love tonight?

Oral sex, sensible advice, that kiss in the park The way I behave with him is always a surprise

The future of the Königs looks bright, while all that lies before me at this precise moment is the road and the prospect of a picnic while wearing a hideous pair of jogging pants Some large company will appoint him to its board

Our children race around, laughing THE FIRST thing we do is visit the Roman museum and then climb a small hill to see some ruins

You have blind allegiance to a company that may be making weapons of destruction, a concept to which you're normally opposed, but you do it anyway because "it's my job Families insist that you adopt their viewpoint, hate whom they hate, and love whom they love

Our inhumanity to our fellow human beings is often justified on the grounds of a group-consciousness mentality " Some policemen and soldiers victimize their fellow human beings by behaving worse than the criminals or so-called enemies they abhor so much

The most stressful moments are those in which we feel we simply have too many pieces to focus on Transforming Stress into Success: The Power of Chunking Chunking: Grouping together information into ideally sized pieces so that they can be used effectively to produce the results you want without stress or overwhelm

Our minds have the ability to take any experience in life and pull it apart into a million pieces - or to tie it all together into one piece In fact, stress is often equated with the word overwhelm, which, according to Webster's College Dictionary, is defined as to overpower with superior force or numbers

Question 2: What is your Purpose? However, when you are first thinking about what it is you truly want to achieve, it sometimes helps to think about your overall outcome and then work to make it specific and measurable

PURPOSE: The compelling reasons why you want to do something-reasons that will give you the necessary drive to follow through on your plan Why do you want to do this?

RESULT OR OUTCOME: To lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching my ideal weight and vitality " Let's take our example of Elvis

PURPOSE: To feel great about myself Now, let's add a compelling purpose to this result

Notice how these two principles work in Elvis' Massive Action Plan below 20% of what you do in life usually makes 80% of the difference

PURPOSE: To feel great about myself RESULT OR OUTCOME: To lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching my ideal weight and vitality

For this reason, I urge you not to divulge your private insights, what you intend to create In fact, ego can inhibit the creative process

Paul said, "That which is seen, hath not come from that which doth appear As St

We wouldn't give him that coin and—who knows? Or we would do nothing

Paul then goes on to compare Love with sacrifice and martyrdom —our sense of guilt at such poverty might awaken real Love in us

If things aren't going well, ask yourself, "Am I treating this relationship as it is, or as I would like it to be? In your relationship to your significant other, whomever that may be, be sure to apply this principle as frequently as you can

Peaceful? " So how do you want it to be?

I watch the people coming and going, all so busy in their own worlds, tiny enough to fit on the screen of the smartphones from which they are unable to unglue their eyes and ears I stop walking and sit on a bench at a random bus stop

People get off and walk quickly, maybe because of the cold Buses come and go

A female candidate came out on top, and Jacob came in an honorable third, which will give him the right to enter government if his party chooses him More than forty-five percent of the electorate voted, which is a record

People have already started to drink, and some make the victory sign, perhaps hoping that tomorrow their picture will appear in the newspaper The main hall is decorated with yellow and green balloons

If you don't understand this, you are condemned to suffer for something that really only exists to make us happy It's in constant movement and never repeats itself

People like that woman, always worried about what others think of their marriage And you know the worst thing?

"I don't have time for that His eyes shine

People will say your articles are ..." "Biased Thanks for the invitation, but, you know, apart from the fact that I'm married, I can't be seen out with a journalist

We call these Areas of Management because they are specific areas of your life that you are going to manage on an ongoing basis To make it simple, we are going to divide your life up into two main areas: your personal life and your professional life

You are suffering because you've spread ma( problem into every area of your life Pervasive Has one problem ever dominated your life so much that it feels like your life is that problem?

Personal Have you ever made "your problem" yourself? 3

Hyde, which Robert Louis Stevenson wrote in three days, follows suit Jekyll and Mr

Physician and researcher Henry Jekyll believes that good and evil coexist in all people The story is set in London in the nineteenth century

For centuries, this was a swamp " MY ENTIRE family and I are at the place where William, Victor Frankenstein's brother, was murdered

Plainpalais is huge, the only spot in the city center with virtually no greenery After Calvin's ruthless hands turned Geneva into a respectable city, the sick were brought here, usually to die of hunger and exposure, and thus keeping the city from being infected by any epidemics

I really regret what happened at dinner last night ... "It wasn't your fault Apparently, I'll have to take the initiative

Please don't invite me to any more things like that That woman is really weird

They ask what the problem is We even manage to distract ourselves for a while with drink and celebration, but the dragon lives on until the people who are close to us see that something is wrong and begin to blame themselves for not making us happy

Please, leave me alone, because I have no more tears to cry or heart left to suffer We say that everything is fine, but it's not ... Everything is awful

Once a year, I go on holiday with the whole family, usually to some farflung paradise with marvelous beaches, where we stay in exotic cities inhabited by very poor people who make us feel richer, more privileged, and more grateful for the blessings life has bestowed upon us I'm a highly regarded journalist at a respectable newspaper that can be found in almost all the news kiosks in Geneva, where we live

Pleased to meet you Ah, but I haven't introduced myself

Polish your descriptions of your Roles? Get going on your life plan?

He's always in the now He doesn't spend his days wishing he were a young beaver again, or ruminating over the fact that his beaver siblings received more attention, or his father beaver ran off with a younger beaver when he was growing up

Practice living in the moment, and refuse to allow any thoughts based on your past to define you We can learn much from God's creatures about enjoying the present moment rather than using it up consumed with guilt over the past or worry about the future

The reason is that a "result" is usually a lot more specific and precise than an outcome NOTE: We will use the words "result" and "outcome" interchangeably throughout this guide and in your RPM software

This exercise is designed to give you an overview of just that: you will determine the areas in your life where you are doing very well, as well as some areas where you might want to be putting more of your focus The Wheel of Life The first step in figuring out where you want to go is to look at where you already are

I try to concentrate on the excellent food, but it has already started to lose its flavor Being riddled with guilt because you have no reason to feel like this when there are so many people in the world who are really suffering

Pretending to be happy, pretending to be sad, pretending to have an orgasm, pretending to be having fun, pretending that you've slept well, pretending that you're alive My friend goes on: "Apathy

" Please help me I have a very personal view of the subject, but that shouldn't be published

Previously severe, he now seems like a kind wise man, who is trying to help me He lights some incense, asks me to sit in front of him with my legs crossed, and then settles into the same position

of AJR Gracious Giver Financial Freedom Creator of the Good Life Wealth Wizard Emotional Well-being Extraordinary Community Leader & Contributor: Force for Good Spiritual Soul Spirit & Soul: Force for God HINT: Remember the Power of Language: Notice how Tony spiced up the names of his Personal Categories of Improvement by using language that inspired him " Home Sweet Home Long-Lasting Friendships Renaissance Man-CANI!

Professional Categories of Improvement You've probably noticed that most people's personal categories are very similar - people usually have categories surrounding their health, finances, family/relationships, emotional well-being, spiritual growth, etc Take a moment to refine your categories so that the titles of them are juicy for you -- use language that causes you to want to spend time in each of these areas of your life!

Most phone numbers are grouped in series of three numbers: 800-555-1212 There are examples of this everywhere in our society: Most people have three names: first, middle, last

Public 123 Main Street Anytown, Anystate 00010 Most web addresses are in chunks of three: www.webaddress.com Most addresses are chunked into three lines - and the third line is even chunked into threes: John Q

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Put out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch Amen

2 once every quarter, six months or once per year at a minimum), you will have established a road map for your entire life

Remember, you are taking time to do what 99% of the population has not done-decide what it is you want from and for your life! This part of the process can be a lot of fun!

If women are unstable enough to go from happiness to sadness ... "Did I use the word 'unstable'? I rephrase it

Quite the contrary I didn't

"The heart of a fool is in his mouth, but the mouth of a wise man is in his heart ing [his fact, you can set each other up co win in your communications

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RESULT OR OUTCOME: To lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching my ideal weight and vitality " Let's take our example of Elvis

Let's take a look at these three questions in more detail Similarly, knowing all the numbers to a combination will not open the lock if they are not in the right order

RESULT: The target you are after; the specific, measurable result or outcome that you want to achieve Question 1: What is the specific Result you are committed to achieving?

RPM will teach you to develop a MAP or an action plan that gives you multiple ways to get something done RPM Planning provides ultimate flexibility recognizing that there is more than one way to achieve a result

RPM Planning taps into the power of synergy Thus, you won't need to cross off every action on your list to achieve the result or outcome you are after

What he really needed was a compelling result or outcome - something like, "To lose 20 pounds and enjoy the process of reaching my ideal weight and vitality There are many ways Elvis could have achieved his result or outcome if he knew what it was

Rather than saying "I want to lose some weight," Elvis has a better chance of hitting his target if he makes it much more precise, specific, and measurable " HINT: Notice that Elvis' result is specific and measurable

Once Per Month: Review all your Results/Outcomes for each of your categories and set new Results/Outcomes for the current month Once Per Week: Complete the Weekly Planning Process to create your plans for your week (and then the night before or morning of, create your RPM Plans for your day)

Record everything you accomplished this month, everything you failed to accomplish, and any Magic Moments you want to remember Review your month

Think about it: if an RPM block, or a project plan was important enough for you to do, then it's worth taking a moment to think about what it is you gained from the process, isn't it? So often people walk through their lives not realizing just how much they are accomplishing, giving, experiencing-how much is really great in their lives if they just take a moment to stop and appreciate it

Remember that, for the Daily Planner, Steps 3 and 4 occur on the same screen (Schedule) Tips for Planning Your Ideal Day The first thing to do: check your Monthly Calendar for an overview of your time

Note the difference between "To become more fit and healthy" and "To sculpt my body into a 125 lb, 18% body fat, energetic, vibrant, strong, and beautiful woman by May 30, 2001 Is there a specific way to measure if you've achieved it?

Remember, sometimes a 5¢ word has a lot more power to move you emotionally than a seemingly more sophisticated 50¢ word " Not using language that moves you emotionally in your Purposes

Then, your weekly and daily plans will contain the fun, the joy, and the fulfillment you not only desire, but that you deserve It's critically important that you begin each week by re-associating to your life plan-what your life is ultimately about, who you are and who you are becoming, the categories of your life, the roles you play, etc

Remember, time is nothing but an emotion or a feeling 3

Does it specify who, what, where, when, and/or how? Is your action item ruthlessly specific?

Remember, unless you commit your time and schedule it, you will not follow through! Step 3: Commit to Block Time Did you even do this section?

He believes it will pass He doesn't complain or make a scene

That's the way things go for a month, two months, a year ... and everyone quietly puts up with it You also know it will pass, but now it's stronger than you

You can be all things at any present moment in your life Transcending labels, particularly those that have been placed on you by others in your past, opens you to the opportunity of soaring in the now in any way that you desire

Replace all that with a knowing that you're not what you've done, what you've been, how others have taught you, or what has been done to you I recommend that you find a way to transform your personal history and remind yourself as you do that you're transforming any and all beliefs that you've used as labels or indicators of your limitations

Go shopping for healthful foods 4 Set up a new diet plan with healthful foods 3

Research ideal gym to join 6 Throw away all the junk food in my house 5

You practice forgiveness for two reasons If you could release them, you would know more peace

Resentment is like venom that continues to pour through your system, doing it's poisonous damage long after being bitten by the snake One is to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with that person; and two, to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment

Then write down the upsides and downsides of each AOS Mitigate: Review the downsides of each option and brainstorm Alternatives, Options and Strategies (AOS) that can eliminate or measurably reduce these downsides

Resolve: Review your refined list of options now, and select the one that you have the most certainty will get the largest number, if not all of your Outcomes, with the most probability of success, and has the most upsides and the least downsides 6

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What am I doing working at this newspaper? She says that in summer it's no problem, but in winter we'll have more people dying of pneumonia than of lung cancer because smokers will all be obliged to smoke outside

SITTING in the lotus position, with incense burning and elevator music playing, I begin my "meditation I know: we love our work and we want to save the world

We separate slowly, and, as he gently strokes my hair, we look deep into each other's eyes Hundreds of years seem to pass during the short time the kiss lasts

Sadness And we find exactly what was there before

Research ideal gym to join 6 Throw away all the junk food in my house 5

Schedule 45 minutes per day to exercise 8 Join my ideal gym 7

Scheduling the most important things first helps insure that they will not be affected by anything new that comes up If you realize that something you've already planned might be a challenge, consider adding a second time to work on it, knowing that it's likely you'll need to change the time

Schedule Specific Time to Complete Your Hour of Power! Giving you room to move things around, gives yourself a much better chance of not only completing your most important Results/Outcomes, but also enjoying the process as well

I need to keep my cool " My God, I've found the right person

Selfhypnosis We could call it a ... "... self-induced trance

Living is making decisions and dealing with the consequences True, I have almost no desire to go through with it now, but I hate to abandon my plans halfway

Sending messages to a man who rejects me is a waste of time and money I haven't done that in a long time, and perhaps that's one of the reasons I'm lying here in the middle of the night and staring at the ceiling again

I'm embarrassed and tense; I need to smoke a cigarette and have a vodka for us to be on equal footing, I think His tongue tastes bitter, like a mixture of cigarettes and vodka

The alcohol burns my throat I push him away gently, go to the minibar, and down a small bottle of gin in one gulp

We try to maintain the same behaviors, and sometimes we succeed—in my case, it lasted until I got pregnant the first time, which happened quickly Then comes marriage

Sex, from now on, is only at night and preferably just before bedtime Until suddenly we realize that things have changed

Find a buddy with whom you can share the process ) as well as in your professional life (so that your coworkers and boss can help ensure that your personal outcomes are consistent with your professional outcomes)

Share the entire RPM Block or Project Plan with your "leveragee" when you leverage an action item to someone You can support each other by: Checking in once a week to make sure you each completed your Weekly Planning Process Reviewing each other's plans Giving each other feedback Encouraging each other Sharing Pathways to Power

"It's urgent" doesn't always open many doors, but in this case I'm sure my chances are good I say no, I need to meet with him right away; it's urgent

She asks if it could be early next week This time the assistant takes two minutes

The bitch knows how to choose her words well " What do we think about a topic that no one talks about at dinner?

She called jealousy a "stupid feeling," intending to leave me more exposed and vulnerable She must have spent the whole day thinking about it

And yet that conversation must have marked her deeply She wasn't invited to participate, first, because she was a woman, and, even worse, because she was very young

She had a subject, she simply needed to develop it and keep the book to herself when she had finished it Why did she not just write something to pass the time?

" How awful, I think, but I don't dare interrupt him Every night her husband came to her and they made love, but he had imposed one condition: Psyche could have all she desired, but she had to trust him completely and could never see his face

She had comfort, affection, joy, and she was in love with the man who visited her every night "The young woman lived happily for a long time

It was sent this morning, very early I'm hesitant to open it, but curiosity is greater than hate

She had no idea that there was something between us, but now she's sure "You blew it

) I doubt that she identified herself as a source (They are normally never taken seriously and are, besides, few and far between in Switzerland

She is a visionary, intelligent enough to wait before having children She is a manipulator who was able to transform something that could have proved devastating to her husband's career into a lesson in marital tolerance and solidarity, as well as a struggle against corruption

I guess you are feeling the same thing, but I'm sure that all Marianne wants is for this fling to end so she can hug you again with the same love and the same security as before There is a long healing process ahead, I say, when I return

She knew what was going on and she closed herself off even more "Yes, but she won't tell me anything

I know journalists aren't supposed to have an opinion about their interviewees, but I think your husband is a brave man to have gone public about that blackmail attempt I did interview him, and, a few days later, we had lunch together

She must know more than she is letting on Marianne—or Mme König, as she introduced herself—pretends to be interested in what I'm saying

"She was pretty annoyed for a few days, but no more than that Didn't his wife threaten divorce?

She pretended to be a bit jealous, just to show that what happened was important, but she's a terrible actress She has great plans for our marriage, and I imagine that fidelity isn't necessarily part of them

I feel very sorry for her Before I move away, however, she grabs my arm and, in front of the aide and the man who has come to congratulate her on her husband's victory, says: "I saw that mutual friend of ours who had lunch with my husband

She pretends that she's confident, but she spends all her time wondering what other people think of her and her work She pretends to be strong, but she's really very fragile

Should I mention it? Would Jacob have told her what happened during our meeting in the Parc des Eaux- Vives?

She probably knows it all by heart, anyway The interview with Léman Bleu has just begun, but she doesn't seem to be interested in listening to what her husband says

I race upstairs, and when I come back down, I see that our Filipino babysitter has arrived and has already spread her books across the living-room table I'd forgotten that we'd agreed to go dancing tonight

She seems to have an aversion to television The children are in bed asleep and shouldn't be any trouble, and so she uses her time to study

I thank him, say I need to check my schedule, and shut the door, never to return Before I leave, he charges me 250 Swiss francs and asks the secretary to make regular appointments for me starting the following week

She takes insurance and is more open to hearing what I have to say The second appointment is with a woman

She chooses the best of everything, without worrying about the cost This morning she'll be at the market in Rue de Rive, where, all week, stalls selling fruit and cheese and meat are set up right outside the Julius Baer Bank and the shop windows of Prada, Gucci, Armani, and other designer brands

She will return home tired, but happy Then she might take her car and drive to Satigny to visit one of the many vineyards that are the pride of the region, to taste some of the new vintages, and to decide on something that will please those who really understand wine—as seems to be the case with her husband

In photos on the Internet she always looks very elegant, whether she's at a social or sporting event She was born into a wealthy family, co-owners of one of the world's largest pharmaceutical companies

She would never, like me, wear jogging pants to Nyon or a Versace dress to a nightclub full of youngsters She's never over- or underdressed for the occasion

Opinion polls in Switzerland don't count for much, because here secrecy of the vote is taken very seriously; however, it seems likely that he'll be reelected While I'm off to a picnic in a small town less than half an hour away, Jacob will be visiting voters, talking to aides and friends, and feeling nervous, perhaps a little stressed, but glad because something is happening in his life

She'll be planning how to receive their friends after the result is officially announced His wife must have spent a sleepless night, but for very different reasons from mine

" We go out into the cold air, not saying much There would be no reason for that

She's always wanting to show off—she must be dying of jealousy over the jerk whose "proper behavior" she controls with an iron fist so he has some future in politics, even though she's really the one who'd like to be campaigning for what is right or wrong I'm angry, anxious, and I volunteer without being prompted that yes, she was talking about me, and that that woman is so neurotic that on election day she also made several insinuations

And at night, she doesn't lie staring at the wall of the vast mansion she has rented, occasionally hiring a male escort to distract her and help her forget that she'll spend the rest of her life without a husband, children, or lovers " She isn't a lonely, powerful female CEO who had to move to Geneva to be close to the World Trade Organization's headquarters, where everyone takes sexual harassment in the workplace so seriously that no one dares to even look at anyone else

She's the complete woman No, Marianne doesn't fit any of those categories

What happens is that ego has entered " When you talk about your emerging manifesting ideas and relate your insights to others, you often feel the need to explain and defend them

Silence is where manifesting occurs, so keep your potential miracles in the treasured silence that you embrace as often as possible Once the ego is present, the manifesting stops

All creativity requires some stillness Those who will supersede us are waiting in the vast void

Silence reduces fatigue and allows you to experience your own creative juices Your sense of inner peace depends on spending some of your life energy in silence to recharge your battery, remove tension and anxiety, reacquaint you with the joy of knowing God, and feel closer to all of humanity

RPM is a Visual Chunking System What makes RPM effective is that it is a Visual Chunking Device - a fancy way of saying that the way the RPM Blocks are organized on the page or screen is critically important to help you maximize the system (3) What is my Massive Action Plan?

Similarly, a Weekly Plan is a group of RPM Blocks related to the Results/Outcomes that are most important for that week At its essence, an day's MAP is simply a group of RPM Blocks related to the Results/Outcomes that are most important for that day

The importance of forgiving yourself cannot be stated strongly enough The thought that makes most people the weakest is shame, which produces humiliation

Similarly, if you use a technique of shame and humiliation on anyone to get them to reform, you're going to create a weakened person who will never become empowered until those shameful and humiliating thoughts are removed If you carry around thoughts of shame about what you've done in the past, you're weakening yourself both physically and emotionally

How do you know how long something really takes other than by how it feels? Think about it

Similarly, when you love what you're doing and you are totally engrossed in it, time can fly by If you are doing something that doesn't fulfill you, then a minute can seem like an eternity, can't it?

Are they trying to destroy my country with a chemical weapon designed to create a sense of profound frustration? " Has someone put something in the water?

So far I haven't said anything Why is it that everyone I talk to feels the same?

I put the dishes in the dishwasher We spend some time watching TV while the children go up to their rooms, lured by the tablets or video games on which they kill terrorists or soldiers depending on the day

So far we've only talked about our daily duties My husband is going to try to put our kids to bed

So how do you create this compelling vision? What creates lasting fulfillment is the knowledge that every day we are growing and expanding as people; that our capacity to love and care is deepening; and that our lives have a special and unique purpose on this planet

I would endure anything, absolutely anything, to always have you by my side I love you

So if that day comes, you are free to leave and seek your happiness But I can't stop you from leaving one day

Remember: It's out of the void, the emptiness, that everything is created You will find your answers in the silence

So it is with healing any thing or any relationship When you write a musical note, the silence from which it comes is just as much a part of the note as is the sound

I take the iPad from the nightstand My husband understood what I was feeling only after we went to a restaurant and I tried to open my soul to him

The answer is 25,550 I multiply 365 by 70

Your Daily Plan is actually the last set of screens that you will use You will enter the block times during which you've committed to make progress on specific Results/Outcomes, and you will enter in the scheduled times for things that must occur at a specific time

So let's now take a look at how to use your Weekly Planner... How to Plan Your Ideal Week REMEMBER: To create your weekly RPM plan, you will follow the same Five Master Steps of Planning You start at the level of your Life Plan (Your Categories & Projects), then your week and then your days

" Your invisible companion on your right shoulder will prod you each and every time you're moving away from your purpose You won't have to fear anything or anyone, and you'll never experience that terror of lying on your deathbed someday, saying, "What if my whole life has been wrong?

So listen—and don't die with that music still in you It makes you aware of your music

He looks around as if we make a highly suspicious couple We pause on the sidewalk outside the restaurant

So that's what he was afraid people might see: the cigarette Then, when he's sure no one is looking, he lights a cigarette

Then we noticed that the living room looked old and faded To avoid an unfortunate contrast, we had to replace the kitchen

So then we went to work on the study So we redecorated the living room, which then looked more inviting than the study we hadn't touched for ten years

We can't leave them locked up with their computers They want something else

So we force ourselves to take them somewhere and do the same things our parents did with us, the same thing our grandparents did with our parents They're too young for that

Moreover, because who you are according to ego is your body and your personality, you're separate from God Your ego also tells you that you're separate from everything that's missing in your life, and so you must spend a great deal of energy chasing after what's missing

So you beg this external force to provide you with special powers to overcome all of those other egos who are trying so hard to snare what is rightfully yours God is outside of you, a force to fear just like all of those external forces attempting to control you

This is good advice and certainly benefits those who choose to listen to and apply this wisdom Most books of this sort, as well as graduation speeches, stress the importance of hard work, dedication, financial planning, relationship strategies, choosing the right career, listening to one's elders, being respectful of the rules, setting realistic goals, living a healthy lifestyle, and being in a state of gratitude

So, I have no advice on goal setting, putting your nose to the grindstone, planning your financial future, listening to us older folks, respecting your culture, and so on It is my experience, however, both as a lifelong teacher and a father of eight children ranging in age from 11 to 33, that this kind of advice by itself leads one to wondering, Is that all there is?

Instead, what I offer you are ten secrets that allow your spirit to guide you In fact, I've almost always listened to my own impulses, paying the price for taking the road "least traveled" and resisting enculturation, so it would be somewhat hypocritical of me to now tell you to do what I say and follow my rules

So, I've written this book in the hopes that it will help you avoid those feelings of inadequacy and help you feel the peace of God that truly defines success In my experience working with a variety of people over several decades, far too many individuals choose to be anonymous members of the pack, therefore suffering from the inner remorse that makes them feel like failures, filled with conflict and resentment and wondering what the meaning of life is

The same is true of your life: when your life is out of balance, you tend to experience more bumps in the road If you are like most people, your car is a little out of balance and it's going to be one heck of a bumpy ride!

So, if you don't like the shape of your wheel, remember that this is a very natural feeling You can still achieve your desired destination, but it's going to take you longer and the ride isn't going to be as smooth or fun!

Or, did I simply have more RPM Blocks than were realistic for me to really accomplish this week? Were my purposes compelling enough to drive me to follow through?

So, taking the time to really associate to these moments, to look at what was really great as well as some things that may have been challenging for you, is what will ensure that you experience a life of meaning and lasting fulfillment In the end our lives are nothing but a series of moments

"Because, ever since we've moved away from God, we live a fragmented existence " And why does this happen?

Society prohibits and creates laws, but this does not solve the problem We try to find oneness, but we don't know the way back; thus, we are in a state of constant dissatisfaction

Some Examples However, what's most important is that you create categories for all of the parts you want to focus on in your personal life

Some people might have 10 or 12 areas of their professional lives that they want to focus on whereas others may have only 4-6 areas HINT: Again, there is no right or wrong number of Categories of Improvement!

Some Examples In general, most people have 8-10 Professional Categories of Improvement, however, what's most important is that you create categories for all of the parts you want to focus on in your professional life

Thus, what you've attracted to you is what you have to give away to others This means that you get back what you put out into the world

Some of the low energy thoughts are anger, hate, shame, guilt, and fear Low energy attracts low energy

You may start to see some patterns that might apply to you Second, take a look at some of the examples we've included for you

Presumably, its absence is normal at my age, but that isn't what terrifies me I think that passion is strictly for the young

Some people say that, as summer approaches, we start to have weird ideas; we feel smaller because we spend more time out in the open air, and that makes us aware of how large the world is Today I am a woman torn between the terror that everything might change and the equal terror that everything might carry on exactly the same for the rest of my days

Very tired And then I would hope against hope that when the next day comes, he'd be tired

Sometimes I have to take the initiative It's not always like that, though

Step II: Own your Roles, Goals, and Resources: 10-15 minutes Next, review the My Life section of your RPM Planner Stop for a moment and think about what these things mean to you in your life

Specifically look at your vision for each of these categories, the roles you play in these areas and the specific Results/Outcomes you have committed to achieve over the next year Read through each of your Personal Categories of Improvement and Professional Categories of Improvement

Because I'm not interested in that We should sit in front of the fire and talk about everything except for jealousy

Spend New Year's Eve in a different city or even a place we've already been? Perhaps it would be good to take a trip together, just the two of us?

I guess he had no choice and will jump two or three minutes after me At the end of the row is my husband, also wearing a bicycle helmet

Start running "We're ready

Step 1: Capture Ideas, Wants, & Needs Step 2: Create Your RPM Master Plan Step 3: Commit to Block Time & Resolve Your Musts Step 4: Schedule Specific Time to Work on Your Results Step 5: Complete, Measure & Celebrate Your Results Before we delve into some specific examples, let's first look at an overview of these five steps Whether you are planning a day, a week, or a project, the Five Master Steps of Planning are the same

Step 1: Capture: your ideas, wants and needs This step of planning is something most people are already familiar with - it's nothing more than quickly brainstorming anything you think you need to do After the overview, we'll walk through the specifics of how to use these five steps to plan your day, your week, and your projects

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Step 2: Meet Your Partners 6 Human Needs Understand and meet each others 6 Human Needs Measure the needs that are being met Check up on them so thar you know your parmer is cared for What are some ways that you can start meeting mOT? Are you giving everything to your partney, t'vm if it puts you in a piau of vulnerability?

How do my weekly plans relate to my daily plans? How can I make sure that I am making progress on all of my Categories of Improvement?

Step 3: COMMIT TO BLOCK TIME & Resolve Your "Musts" In this step, you'll create your weekly time line by committing to blocks of time during specific days of the week that you will work on each RPM Block (or if you want, you can commit time for all of your Must actions in each RPM Block) Once I've completed my plan for my week, how does this translate into my day?

The reason is that you could have the best plan in the world, but if you don't schedule a specific time during which you will take action on this plan and lock it in, chances are it won't happen Step 4: SCHEDULE IT: Imagine & Anticipate the Results & Rewards Step 4 is perhaps the most important step in the Five Master Steps of Planning

Step 5: COMPLETE, MEASURE & CELEBRATE YOUR RESULTS! At the weekly level, you complete your schedule by looking at your weekly plan (your commit section) and locking in the specific days you are going to work on each of your RPM blocks

I go to the window and look at the city outside But these few moments are what justify my existence, because they give me the strength to keep going and bring joy to my days—no matter how much I tried to bring them sorrow

Still, I think this is one of the most romantic New Year's Eves I have ever had, because I was dying and Love revived me The snow they had promised did not fall

Schedule 45 minutes per day to exercise 8 Join my ideal gym 7

Your meditation practice keeps you immune A person who attempts to bring you into their misery cannot succeed without your agreement

Studies have been done to measure the serotonin (a neurotransmitter in your brain that indicates how peaceful and harmonious you feel) levels of those in the vicinity of a large group of meditators Not only can you deflect the negativity of those around you, but your sense of peace will bring others into harmony with you

They concentrate our focus and determine what we feel and do Questions are the laser of human consciousness

Suppose you consistently ask yourself, "Why do these things always happen to me? Think of questions this way: Imagine that your brain is the ultimate computer, and in that computer is the answer to any question you could possibly have

From this place you put yourself in a powerful and proactive scare

Sur whatever you do, don't let yourself fa ll victim [0 "learned helplessness you will be able (Q find solutions, empower your partner and reclaim the sanctity of your relationship

The terror of not knowing what will happen to my children The desire for adventure never fulfilled

Surely I know that Then my thoughts start to circle negative things, always the same, as if there were a devil watching from one corner of the room, ready to leap out and tell me that what I call "happiness" is merely a passing phase, that nothing lasts

Establish a hierarchy by asking yourself, "What's more important for me to feel: _________ or ______? 2

Take one of your values and compare it to every other value on the list by asking this question until you know which is most important: "What's more important for me to feel, _____ or _____? " 3

No, I'm fine right here He asks if we should go back to the hotel because it's cold

Tears of bliss that wash my soul I sit there for half an hour, crying

There's no point asking why life has reserved certain joys or griefs, you just accept them and carry on YOU don't choose your life; it chooses you

That Sunday afternoon, I'm at the party headquarters doing my professional duty We can't choose our lives, but we can decide what to do with the joys or griefs we're given

Jekyll believes he can control Hyde's comings and goings, but soon realizes that he is sorely mistaken; when we release our dark side, it will completely overshadow the best in us Hyde—is revealed

That is how dictators are born The same is true for all individuals

Cooking is the most beautiful and most complete of the arts · Cook

That is my preferred therapy It involves all our five senses, plus one more—the need to give of our best

To attract customers, the manager of one luxury hotel once said, "We have a system that enables credit-card charges to appear as lunch in our restaurant With the one in seven Swiss adults who are having an extramarital affair, according to official statistics, and considering the number of married people in the country, we're talking about four hundred fifty thousand individuals looking for a discreet room where they can meet

That is precisely where I'm headed " The establishment has become a favorite among those willing to cough up 600 Swiss francs for one afternoon

Nothing! On it will be written: I ask all those who hope to one day work for the good of humanity: never forget that even if you deliver up your body to be burned, you gain nothing if you have not Love

That is the one universal language that allows us to speak Chinese or the dialects of India There is nothing more important we can give than the Love reflected in our own lives

· Look up at the sky Read them stories that provide a lesson for them and for me, because stories are ageless

That may seem simple, but it always invigorates me · Drink lots of iced mineral water

I hand over the money discreetly and he points to a trash can I return and he is waiting

That would be a disaster "Please don't leave the goods somewhere where the woman can find it, because she might get confused and wind up ingesting it

His mood has changed again, and now he's singing a song I've never heard—perhaps a traditional song of that region Now I'm the one trying to keep him from skidding and falling

That's a good sign, I say When we approach the church, the bells ring again

I remember my next-door neighbor washing his car and how I judged his life to be "pointless," occupied by useless things I spend an hour thinking about him obsessively

That's what I need to do: relax a little and enjoy life more It's not useless: he probably enjoys himself, taking the opportunity to get some exercise and see life's simple things as blessings, not curses

My mind repeats the moment of that kiss over and over But I can't forget him

That's what always happens And I realize that my unconscious is transforming an imaginary problem into a real one

A woman dressed like you would never bother coming down here "You can tell

That's why I brought you to the edge of the lake You could ask your nephew or a work colleague for leftovers from their personal stash

The longer the list, the more productive I consider my day to be I look down the list of commitments that can't be put off

That's why the list keeps growing, until it makes me so nervous that I decide to scrap the whole thing and start again Many of the tasks are things I promised to do the day before or during the week, but which I haven't yet done

Now that you understand what an RPM Block is and have a sense of where we are going, let's look at the Five Master Steps to Planning And a Project Plan is a group of RPM Blocks related to a specific subject - an Ultimate Result and an Ultimate Purpose you are committed to achieving

The 5 Master Steps of Planning There are three main places where you create your RPM Plans: Your Daily Planner, Your Weekly Planner, and your Project Planner These Five Master Steps will show you how to put it all together - how to walk you through the process of converting your vision into real, scheduled, actionable RPM plans

Your method is different, but you aren't the only spiritual healer in the city There is no shortage of people claiming to be experts in treating patients on the verge of nervous breakdown

The Cuban is reluctant at first, but his vanity and fear of competition finally speak louder Many others, mostly Africans, have contacted us this morning looking to bring visibility to their work, earn money, and meet important people who could protect them in the event of a possible deportation case

Psychiatrists and psychoanalysts are booked solid and can no longer see every patient People are increasingly unpredictable

The Cuban man listens to me without saying a word And no one can wait months or years to treat depression

Deep down we're all the same I look around at those Indian maps, the crystals, the incense

The Cuban man looks at his watch again and says our time is up We make the same mistakes and walk around with the same unanswered questions

5 Because we want to free you from your stress and to give you more choices, freedom, and certainty about what you can achieve and experience in your life

if you are spending the moments of your life doing things that really matter to you There is a big difference in how you experience it if you are walking around stressed vs

The RPM system is designed to help you set up your life so that you experience time in a whole new way-a way that keeps you consistently fulfilled So, while there is no more physical time for any of us, there is a lot more time for what really matters to you

The president of the country changes every year (yes, every year) and is chosen not by the people, but by the Federal Council, a body comprising seven ministers who serve as Switzerland's collective head of state They continue doing what they were elected to do, and as long as they don't blow the national budget, we all live in peace

The Swiss love to make decisions —the color of our trash bags (black came out on top), the right (or not) to carry arms (Switzerland has one of the highest gun-ownership rates in the world), the number of minarets that can be built in the country (four), and whether or not to provide asylum for expatriates (I haven't kept pace with this one, but I imagine the law was approved and is already in force) Every time I walk past the museum, I see endless posters calling for more plebiscites

The best use of your time might be to complete one category per week, taking several weeks to finish There are three pieces to define for each of your categories: Your Ultimate Vision Your Ultimate Purpose Your Roles Most people spend one to three hours completing a vision for each category

The Time of Your Life (Anthony Robbins' ten-day instructional program designed to walk you through the entire RPM system) can help you with this task You will want to review your categories every year and perhaps make some minor changes as well as set new results/outcomes for that year, but once the overall vision for each category is complete, you are finished with it!

I can't imagine speaking or writing without first going to God in silence Going into the quiet and listening will inspire you

The Wilderness Is Therapy Anytime in your life when you're feeling out of sorts in any way, go to nature and find your peace I seek alone time and space to allow my inspiration to emerge

In this silent space, you'll find the peace that you crave in your daily life " The Value of Silence There's a momentary silence in the space between your thoughts that you can become aware of with practice

The average person is said to have 60,000 separate thoughts every day You'll never know that peace if you have no spaces between your thoughts

Then you can make sure, as you create your weekly plans, you are on target in each of your categories You will come back to this vision every week to inspire yourself, keep yourself associated to the reasons this is important, and to use it as a checklist of all the results you are committed to achieving in each category

Similarly, when you love what you're doing and you are totally engrossed in it, time can fly by If you are doing something that doesn't fulfill you, then a minute can seem like an eternity, can't it?

The bottom line is that time is completely driven by emotion It literally ceases to exist

He is a Cuban shaman The man I'm waiting for arrives, interrupting my thoughts

The business world is full of people who behave with extreme generosity one moment and then take out their anger on those weaker I explain that I convinced my editor to do a story on alternative ways of combating stress

The challenge most people face is that they are not conscious about the questions they ask themselves Remember, the process of thinking or evaluating, is nothing more than the process of asking and answering questions

My husband is surprised and speeds up I run more quickly

The children haven't moved We get there in seven minutes instead of ten

I think that if you could sleep properly, then you would gradually regain control of your thoughts I'll say they're for me

The children would love it Perhaps we should exercise more

" Grudgingly, the Cuban man takes on a professorial air In order to resist the temptation to bring her back using magic, I started to study the subject

The conclusion was that men and women have exactly the same desire to cheat as their partner "Researchers from the University of Texas in Austin tried to answer the question so many people pose: Why do men cheat more than women when they know that this behavior is selfdestructive and will cause the people they love to suffer?

For a split second, I feel a little ashamed of my body—I'm no longer the girl from that spring at school I take off my dress and throw it in the corner

The curtains are open and Lake Léman is the only barrier between us and the people in the buildings on the far shore We remain standing

Melancholy I walk to the trees at the far end, determined to enjoy this lovely afternoon to the full

The days will grow shorter, and we don't live in the charmed world of those ice-age porcupines; we can't bear to be wounded by the sharp spines of others, even slightly That is always the first word that comes into my head when autumn arrives, because I know the summer is over

"Ask them if they'd like a glass of water or some coffee," he says I try to get back to the subject of Saturn, but he's already asked for the bill and is talking on his cell phone, saying that he'll be five minutes late

The director of a large pharmaceutical company wants to meet and possibly invest money in the final phase of his campaign to be elected to the Council of States I ask who he was talking to, and he says it was his wife

Swiss people never give their opinion without being asked Of course

The disguise worked, but the plan did not I thank her for her trouble and leave, taking off the sunglasses and bandages

One day I decided to take revenge on that irrational animal, an animal that in no way contributed to the growth of humanity, but whose helplessness aroused love and affection I wanted all his love

The dog whined and barked, but I didn't stop until I got tired I began attacking him in a way that would leave no trace by prodding him with a pin stuck on the end of a broomstick

Just like the drop of water, you too will change form and ultimately return to your source While you're separated in your mind from your source, you lose your divine power, the power of your source

The drop of water, disconnected from it's divine source, symbolizes your ego As long as you feel disconnected from God, you lose the power of your source, which is the unlimited power to create, to be miraculous, and to experience the joy of being alive

Listen for it, for example, in God, Yahweh, Allah, Krishna, Jehovah, Ra, and Ptah This mantra sound is in virtually all names of the Divine

The evening meditation uses the sound of om, the sound of gratitude for all that has manifested in your life By repeating this mantra sound, you make conscious contact with God

After all, we are no longer one person, we have become two or many, each completely different And you hope someone will make the choice for you, throw you out of the house or bed, because it is impossible to go on like this

The fact is that now you are facing a situation that will make one person suffer, or two, or many And since you've never been through this before, you don't know where it will end

Saturn in opposition The need to please everyone

The fact is that we spend most of the time at our cubicle desks, talking on the phone JOURNALISM is not as glamorous as people think—it's not all interviewing famous people, being invited to amazing places, brushing shoulders with power, money, the fascinating world of criminality

Then I realize that words like "optimism" and "hope," which appear in all those self-help books that claim they'll make us more confident and better able to cope with life, are just that: words Because I have to reciprocate

The fact is, I'm tired of having such a happy, perfect life The wise people who pronounce them are perhaps looking for some meaning in their own life and using us as guinea pigs to see how we'll react to the stimulus

" I managed to resist the impulse One of the tasks not on my to-do list this morning was "drive past Jacob König's house

The feelings I had are long over I have enough imaginary problems without adding the real problem of unrequited love

My husband opts for his traditional choice, roast lamb with lentils I read it from beginning to end and choose the same thing as always

The first glass of wine doesn't need to be tasted and meticulously analyzed because we've been married for ten years The waiter comes to tell us about today's chef's specials: we listen politely, grunt appreciatively, then order

your result or outcome) was, "To connect with John Smith so that he feels totally supported and nurtured e

The first step in RPM - deciding on the clear result or outcome you want to achieve - is the most important step in creating your RPM plan " This not only increases your chances of really achieving this, but it gives you a lot more flexibility - you can call John, but you could also drop him a quick note, or send him an e-mail, or have dinner with him one evening

Unlike you, I don't have complete trust in Jacob "As you all know, these unloved women aren't a threat to me

The flesh is weak ..." Jacob laughs nervously and has another sip of wine I know he's already cheated on me a few times

I should have guessed Something for laying down a few books, a bag, and nothing more

The halls, previously silent, begin to show signs of life; people are returning to class I'm frustrated and relieved at the same time

A middle path? Duality of existence?

The image of the armor lasts only a few seconds before it's shattered into a thousand pieces and replaced by the absolute certainty that Jacob likes any pretty woman who comes anywhere near him That sounds as unnatural as keeping my cholesterol level at seventy like my doctor is always telling me I should

Further, since he was already famous, he decided to submit it to a publisher and write the preface himself However, when they returned to England, Shelley read the manuscript and encouraged her to publish it

The initial print run of five hundred copies quickly sold out Mary resisted, but in the end agreed, with one condition: her name should not appear on the cover

The journalist can then agree or not I say that according to the rules of journalism, people should request that something be kept off the record before they speak

The leaf can no longer make its own decisions Asking afterward is like trying to stop a leaf that has fallen into the river and is already traveling wherever the waters choose to take it

I don't want to argue, so I do as he asks I tell him that jogging pants are really something you wear closer to home, where it's obvious that you're intending to exercise, but he insists

The less said, the better I don't want to argue with anyone about anything—not now

My food has no taste In every minute and gesture I feel a weight I can't identify, like an animal who can't quite understand how it got caught in the trap

The light outside seems gray My smile, on the other hand, grows even wider so that no one will suspect, and I swallow my desire to cry

When we give everything, we have nothing more to lose May it always be clear that only True Love can compete with any other Love in this world

The light that always changes, and that is what makes it beautiful and full of surprises—not always those we hope for, but those we can live with And then fear, jealousy, boredom, and monotony disappear, and all that remains is the light from a void that does not frighten us, but brings us closer to one another

I visited countries both rich and poor When I was young, I traveled a lot—it was part of every student's rite of passage

The message of Love is in the way I live my life, and not in my words or my deeds I did not usually speak the local language, but everywhere the silent eloquence of Love helped me make myself understood

Groups provide protection; loners die It must be a quality we inherited from when our ancestors lived in caves

The more clearly we can see the walls of our life, the better Even though we know that the group can't possibly control everything —for example, your hair falling out or a cell in your body that suddenly goes crazy and becomes a tumor—the false sense of security makes us forget this

In other words, you begin to act as an artist in all aspects of your life As an artist, your vision allows you to draw, to visit art museums, to talk with famous artists, and to immerse yourself in the art world

The more you see yourself as what you'd like to become, the more inspired you are In this way, you're getting out in front of yourself and taking charge of your own destiny at the same time that you're cultivating inspiration

Releasing Your Attachments This first secret has two components: (1) a mind that is open to everything, and (2) a mind that is attached to nothing When you need to be right, you're attached to your conditioned reflex of the way things are and always have been; and you assume they will always be

The need to be right, to possess someone or something, to win at all costs, to be viewed by others as superior—these are all attachments Your attachments are the source of all your problems

They thought, for example, that I really ought to know the name Intel because "it's written on every computer They joked about things I didn't understand

The nerds made me feel like a plain-Jane ignoramus, and were more interested in pirating things on the Internet than they were in my breasts or legs " I, of course, had never noticed

But I loved it anyway and wanted it to happen again, as soon as possible It seemed sordid, selfish, sinister

The nervousness gradually disappears Jacob and I meet four times in two weeks

And I start chattering to ease the tension I don't want to stay long, I tell my husband

The next moment we are busy greeting an infinite number of people who treat me as if I were a close friend "We'll leave whenever you want," he interrupts

"Let yourself get carried away by the night from time to time The man is actually delving into my soul, and I can't explain exactly how

The night, with all its charms, is also a path to enlightenment Look up at the stars and try to get drunk on the sense of infinity

Who is this woman I become whenever I'm with Jacob? I seem like another person

The one who was once as steady as a rock and as strong as the wind ruffling the calm waters of Lake Léman My provocative adolescent self

Think of the people you know who give love in response to negative energy that's directed their way It's because I've found that most people who don't enjoy inner peace and success in their lives have failed to master this simple truth

The ones who do are able to because they have love to give away There aren't very many people who respond lovingly in that situation

I do everything automatically, but my every move brings me back to a different world, the one we call the "real" world, the one where I don't want to be at all Someone from the support team comes to collect our outfits and special shoes and hands us our coats

The only thing I can do is ask my husband to leave me alone for a while But I have no choice

If your relationship is lousy, it's because you think of it that way Every relationship that you're in is something that you carry around with you

The only way you can experience another person is in your thoughts The person you're in a relationship with isn't with you in this moment, or when you're at work, or when you're in the bathroom, but your thoughts about that person are always with you

" These questions might seem out of place or bothersome, but they are part of this act of initiation, understanding, and mutual respect " "Should I go faster or slower?

The opposite would mean silent and dishonest frustration It is very important to talk while building a perfect intimacy

What was the reason for this meeting? I didn't need my female intuition to figure out he was scared

The parliamentary recess will start soon, and he needs to resolve several important issues Don't I understand he has a tight schedule?

"I didn't know you ..." He doesn't need to know anything, I think " Cocaine

The passion is still there, but the flame weakens each day He doesn't need to know how far I was willing to go to fight for him, the man I was madly in love with

Someone took a photo of us in the park and is trying to blackmail me, I lie He's very good at pretending that he's talking about something perfectly legitimate

The people who elected you and thought that the last extramarital affair was a one-off will be disappointed I'll say that it was all your fault, that you grabbed me

When you respect yourself, stumbling allows you to laugh at yourself as an occasional stumbler When you produce a result that others laugh at, you're also stirred to laughter

The poet Rudyard Kipling declared, "If you can meet triumph and disaster, and treat those two imposters just the same ... yours is the earth and everything that's in it When you love and respect yourself, someone's disapproval is not something you fear and avoid

To console himself, he goes to Denny's for a Grand Slam breakfast and decides that exercise is simply not for him The next morning his muscles are so sore he can barely move, and he has a big, fat, ugly blister on his big toe

The problem is that Elvis focused only on the action item of going for a run instead of establishing a clear picture of what he really wanted A Result or Outcome

Will I still get the same result? People often ask, "What if I don't master this system perfectly?

The purpose of your RPM software is simply to help you use the system of thinking we have already taught you: 1 " Of course!

We go back to a more primal personaliry Most of us under stress become a child in survival mode

The quality of your relationship is the quality of your scate moment to moment 2

I get up Finally, I realize that it is time to return to the world for good

The radio is on so no one feels compelled to talk We go to the hotel, get our car, and my husband drives back to Geneva

If you're trying to learn how to catch a football and someone throws it to you and you drop it, you haven't failed Everything you do produces a result

The real question is what you do with the results that you produce You simply produced a result

To have a blast, create an unbelievable story, and leave behind a legacy that grows and inspires my friends and family for generations to come To feel proud and excited about my life and what I can give, share, and experience

The reason this is so important? Your Identity Let's take a moment to define what it is we mean by "your identity:" Your identity is comprised of the beliefs you use to define what makes you unique as a human being

And, the truth is that this system may take you a bit longer to use even once you've mastered it because hopefully you are taking the time to complete all the components You ultimately get to the point where you can not only drive the stick shift car effortlessly, but you can also talk on the phone, listen to the radio, drink your coffee, etc!

The reason we call it the Rapid Planning Method, however, is that when you are using the system consistently, it will absolutely accelerate the pace at which you achieve the results you want most Usually the things in life that have the most meaning and the highest rewards are the things that require a little more effort our part

The Five Master Steps: Planning Your Ideal This is one of the most important processes in the entire RPM system because it's what allows you to learn and grow from your past as well as to really celebrate your wins at the deepest level

The reasons for this are two-fold: 1 Using Project Plans as Pathways to Power The speed at which you create your RPM plans increases geometrically once you begin to use this system

" I no longer see a boyfriend from my adolescence sitting in front of me, but an abyss that I'm blithely walking toward, an abyss from which I have no desire to escape "Shall we meet again?

The red lights in my mind start to flash The thought flashes through my mind that my sleepless nights are about to become even more unbearable now that I really do have a problem: a heart in love

Consequently, ego leads you to believe that there are enemies to be wary of at all times Therefore, ego asserts, you must be wary of others who also want all that they feel they're entitled to

The result is that you have to distrust everyone! Since you're separate from them, you must disdain cooperating with them for fear of being cheated

In order to walk comfortably along the extra mile, you must tame this everdemanding, impossible-to-satisfy ego This is where inner peace is virtually impossible and success eludes you, because you must always be striving to be someplace else

The result is the anguish of not measuring up or fitting in properly Feelings of despair, anger, hatred, bitterness, stress, and depression stem from the ego's anxiety and insistence on living up to an external standard

Why hadn't I noticed this in him? But tormented souls have this incredible ability to recognize and approach one another, thus compounding their grief

The return of Saturn Why did I see only the superficial way he talked about politics or the pedantic way he tasted the wine?

It's just one of those phases we all go through " I'm not sad today

The sadness lasted for a few days or weeks, I can't quite remember I remember when my high-school class organized its farewell party; we laughed for two hours and then, at the end, we all sobbed because we knew we were parting forever

How would you do as an achiever going 100 mph? How would you do even at 10 mph?

When you move beyond ego and make your higher self the dominant force in your life, you'll begin to feel that contentment and inner glow of peace and success that characterizes the extra mile The ego will seldom allow you to rest, and demands more and more because it's terrified that you'll be called a failure

The second level is group consciousness 2

Each of us makes that choice depending on our individual time clock However, they're valuable for anyone who has decided to consciously be on their life path

The secrets apply whether you're just beginning your life path, are nearing the end of it, or are on the path in any way For some, it's early in young adulthood; and for others, it happens in the middle or mature years

The section Step-by- Step With the RPM Life Planner™ provides detailed instructions for using the RPM Life Planner™ to: Create your vision Identify your categories and roles Plan your week Plan your day Plan a project Manage your company (Click an item to go to that "how-to" section Quick Start There are a number of ways to begin using your RPM Life Planner™ software

In the athlete archetype, the focus is exclusively on the physical body and how it looks and performs Here, I'm using the four archetypal stages of athlete, warrior, statesman, and spirit to briefly show what your purpose is in each stage

The statesman archetype emphasizes fulfilling the desires of others by asking, "How may I serve? The warrior archetype wants to compete, defeat, and collect the rewards

To look in your eyes and say it's over As much as that breaks my heart and leaves me emotionally in shambles, I need to end it

The suffering I endured this past week was almost unbearable Never again

The instructor whispers something —he reminds me that I have to run when my feet hit the ground Then it departs— forever—from my life

The thing I had so yearned for before— reaching solid ground—has now turned into the end of something I see the grass in front of me

To start getting you excited about what this system will ultimately mean for your life - in terms of what you contribute to others and most importantly, in the level of personal joy, fulfillment, fun, and success you will experience on a daily basis 4

The time is now to start training you to think in an entirely new way Purpose of this section 1

And like a modern version of Prometheus, the mythological figure who stole fire from the gods in order to help mankind (the author used The Modern Prometheus as her subtitle, but few remember this), he begins to work to try and replicate God's greatest deed Could man create another human being?

The title of the book: Frankenstein Needless to say, despite all the care he takes, the experiment slides out of his control

The drivers working for Geneva's public transport company, TPG, who are tired but happy with their work The increase in the number of voters at the last election for the Council of States

The train that broke down and blocked the line for more than two hours A woman who was run over in a crosswalk

Most likely, this can be done in a day or a week RPM Block If the result you're after requires more than one action, at a minimum, it's an RPM Block

The true test of a well-formed action is that you should be able to give it to a total stranger and they should be able to complete it without any further clarification from you Action Item An action item is one, simple, specific, measurable task that you can take today

He doesn't seem to hear We talked about this at the restaurant, when I opened up to you

The universe has existed for billions of years, and it will continue to exist after you die "... deep down there's a voice telling me: none of this makes sense

Apply the ones that resonate with you, and discard those that don't Read these secrets with an open heart

The violence, hatred, prejudice, and judgment in our world suggests that we have miles to go to reach a world of inner and outer peace When you feel peaceful and successful, you want to extend and export that peace and love

Although I envy every one of those people, I would never have the courage to jump I wonder what the view must be like up there, because the mountains surrounding us are very, very high

The waiter enters with a silver tray, a vase with a rose, coffee (for my husband), tea (for me), croissants, hot toast, rye bread, jams of various flavors, eggs, orange juice, the local newspaper, and everything else that makes us happy The doorbell rings

The wake of your life is nothing more than a trail that's left behind you I'm suggesting that you apply this idea to your life

The wake is not in any logical way responsible for what you're experiencing or failing to experience today Thought of in this way, it's absolutely impossible for that wake to drive you forward

He kneeled and started to go down on me I pushed him away and went to the leather sofa, where I leaned back with my legs spread

The wave of pleasure felt like it would never end When I had the first orgasm, I bit my hand to keep from screaming

" When I'm creating my RPM blocks and I'm prioritizing the individual action items, am I prioritizing them based on which is most important to accomplish, or based on the order I'm going to do them in? " "What is the specific, measurable Result I am committed to achieving?

The way we teach the system is for you to number your actions based on priority rather than order The answer to this question is to some extent based on personal preference!

As I ripped off his clothes, he started sucking on my breasts When he returned I was already nearly naked, wearing just my panties

The whole time, I stopped only once to say: My reputation is at stake, as you can imagine I moaned with pleasure; he covered my mouth with his hand, but I shook my head and continued moaning quietly

We start running They won't budge until they've killed terrorists in games more suited to adults

The wind didn't stop on the third day, nor on the sixth On one side are gardens; on the other, seagulls and sailboats making the most of the mistral

I nearly die of boredom Darius starts calling some of his show's guests to the stage, and they make a short statement about the experience

The women, in turn, look at one another: how they're dressed, what makeup they're wearing, if they're here with husbands or lovers Unaccompanied men start looking around, discreetly seeking single women

Do I need to explain that we shouldn't be frightened and that "if Evil exists, it's to be found in our fears"? What is he thinking as he watches me?

The word is transforming me into a romantic and rejuvenating me with each step I take Melancholy

Women hang out and brag of their husbands' insatiable fire, which is nothing but an outright lie Before long it happens only once a week—if that

Then comes the time for the extramarital affairs Everyone knows this, but no one wants to be left behind

A great wizard took pity on him and turned him into a cat I open to a page at random: A mouse was always depressed because he was afraid of cats

Then he began to fear tigers Then he started to be afraid of dogs, and so the wizard turned him into a dog

My feet hit the ground Of what, exactly?

Then he comes up to me and loosens the chains I run a little, and the instructor controls the paraglider

The winner of the election is waiting for me The aide looks impatient

Then she holds out her hand, which I dutifully shake, and she moves off without another word "But she doesn't have a hope in hell," Marianne concludes

These thoughts don't create a counter-force The most empowering thoughts you can have are those of peace, joy, love, acceptance, and willingness

Then you're in a state of inner bliss where serenity replaces fighting, reverence for all of life substitutes for craving and anxiety, and understanding supplants scorn Powerful, joyful, loving thoughts stem from your willingness to allow the world to be as it is

Then, it will create an answer for you: "They always happens to you because you are a turkey! " Your brain will search its database and take every possible form of input it's ever received - what people have ever said to you; what you've ever said to yourself; and what you've ever read, heard, or seen

I didn't go into any men's shops, either, just in case my husband might grow suspicious of my sudden extreme generosity I avoided toy shops, because I didn't want to spoil my children by giving them a present every day

Then, slowly, the nightmare would begin When I got home and entered the enchanted realm of my domestic world, everything would seem marvelous for a few hours, until everyone went to bed

This is what we will do as we walk you through the steps toward More Fulfillment Simply put, developing your plan for your life is nothing more than the process of asking and answering some specific questions to decide what it is you want from your life, what your life's about, and who you are committed to becoming in the process

As part of this process, before you create your weekly plans, one of the steps is to review your projects to determine what, if anything, you need to work on that week When you are creating your weekly plans, remember that to be effective, you will want to go through the entire Weekly Planning Process (again, this will take you 60-90 minutes each week)

Then, when you complete Step 2 of your weekly plan (Create your RPM Master Plan), you will be including any RPM Blocks related to the projects you want to work on this week When you complete this review, you will write down on your capture section of your weekly plan what portions of specific projects you want to work on (and again, remember to abbreviate your capture: R3 Prjct Finances)

In an endless universe, Mars, our closest neighbor, is the equivalent of moving a billionth of an inch across the page you're reading! But think about it for a moment

There are billions and billions of planets, objects, and stars in our galaxy alone, and there are uncountable billions of galaxies out there We move a little vehicle on a neighbor next door and we're so impressed with ourselves

But those words will help and inspire readers You write because you love to express yourself in words

There are many different models that describe the stages of life If you don't yet know your purpose, you'll continue to seek it throughout the various stages of your life

RPM is a unique philosophy and learning new ways of thinking always take more time And why do you say RPM is the fastest way to results?

There are several things you need to keep in mind Usually, however, if someone is really struggling with this issue it's because they are missing just a couple of key distinctions that will allow them to maximize their results and time using this system

I didn't know he'd grown up with jealousy all around him " I've never heard this explanation

There are two reasons for what my husband just said The bitch manages to make everyone obey her command: let's have dinner, put out your cigarette, talk about the topic I picked

Time tells us, "Don't be fooled, this is reality Apparently, time heals only the good things that we wish to hold on to forever

There is a hole in my soul that drains me of all positive energy, leaving behind only emptiness " That's why the things I read to lift my spirits don't stay with me for very long

Our oldest son asks what "blackmail" means My husband has long since given up reading print media and is consulting his iPad

There is a large photo of Jacob, one of many he must have sent to the press I can't understand why he wants to know until I see the front page

One part of the cycle of life is coming to an end The trees, which seemed so similar before, take on their own personalities and paint the forests in a thousand different shades

There is no better time than the autumn to begin forgetting the things that trouble us, allowing them to fall away like dried leaves Everything will rest for a while and come back to life in the spring, in the form of flowers

"Then came the first child But I had better keep quiet or he'll feel worse

There must be millions of couples with children doing exactly what he suggested " So?

I'm not sure what to do—I've never taken two tranquilizers at once, and am experiencing a lethargy that's nothing like the one loneliness and unhappiness caused It's almost imperceptible, but still something yesterday made him uncomfortable

There's a text from Jacob I leave for work and automatically check my phone

The first level is ego consciousness 1

There's an exceptionally strong belief in your separateness from everyone else, from all that you'd like to attract into your life, and from God In ego consciousness, your primary emphasis is on your personality and your body

We will always act consistent with our view of who we truly are - whether that view is accurate or not Our beliefs about ourselves are among the strongest forces that shape our lives

The Three Levels of Consciousness Throughout your life, you can measure yourself on the following three levels of consciousness Become a mystical being by simply changing your mind from one that created and experienced problems, to one that resolves them

These levels of awareness are presented from lowest to highest Few, if any, ever stay at any one level all of the time

Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you It is perhaps the most healing thing that you can do to remove the low energies of resentment and revenge from your life completely

These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you Your experience of them is nothing more than a thought that you carry around with you

I finish greeting them, and we go to a corner where I complain: Why do people have a habit of asking whether we remember them? " So cynical!

They all consider themselves important enough to be etched in my memory, even though I meet new people every day because of my job There's nothing more embarrassing

They concentrate our focus and determine what we feel and do Questions are the laser of human consciousness

(A fourth guest joined them, but I can't remember his name right now What matters is that one day in 1817, two guests arrived from England: another poet, Percy Bysshe Shelley, and his nineteen-yearold wife, Mary

They doubtless complained about the weather, the rain, the cold, the inhabitants of Geneva, their English compatriots, the lack of tea and whiskey ) They doubtless talked about literature

They know what they want: the Target or Result they are after They consistently focus on three things to produce results in their lives: 1

They know why they want it: the compelling Purpose that gives them the drive to follow through 2

They had to make a choice: either risk extinction or accept their fellow porcupines' spines And again many of them died of cold

They learned to live with the minor wounds inflicted by their relatives, because the most important thing to their survival was that shared warmth Very wisely, they decided to huddle together again

But other than this, I've got nothing else to do but nurture my husband's "romantic dream" and bombard Jacob's phone with my messages of love and hope I'll have to do it on my own

This can work in two ways The conversation with the drug dealer gave me an idea, which I put into practice: every day I send text messages of love and encouragement

This doesn't involve deception, arrogance, or hurting others Extending Inspiration Everywhere Treating yourself in the manner described above can become a habitual way of life

This involves a knowing on your part that success and inner peace are your birthright; that you are a child of God; and as such, you're entitled to a life of joy, love, and happiness This is a silent agreement between you and God in which you discreetly work in harmony with the forces of the universe to make your dreams become a reality

Here, everything is stable, everyone behaves as expected The second concerns the dangerous event of change, whether it's our house, job, or behavior

This country worked hard to reach its "finished" state; we don't want to go back to being "under renovation Please don't try to be different or suddenly reinvent yourself, because you'll be threatening our whole society

I am replacing my missing joy with something more concrete—a man—but that's not the point I can't keep thinking about Jacob

This didn't begin with Jacob's appearance on the scene, and it won't end with his departure If I went to a psychiatrist, he'd tell me that this isn't my problem at all; instead, it's a lack of lithium, low levels of serotonin, and so on

Categories of Improvement To do this, let's first take an honest look at where you stand in some of the areas of your life today

To give you the distinction of adding specific roles to each of the areas of your life as a way of expanding your identity, creating more fun, and changing the emotions you associate to each area 3

To show you how to tap into the seven forces that create vision and momentum in each area of your life 4

"Well, sometimes I also think about killing mine," she tells me with a smile I repeat the same story about wanting to kill my husband

This is a normal impulse "But we both know that if every woman went through with her secret wishes, nearly all children would be fatherless

He still seems nervous Wouldn't it be better to see challenges as a source of knowledge, and not as our enemies?

This is a unique day in my life and should be respected He responds automatically, as if he wants to bring the conversation to a close, but I won't let him

2 You are constantly not only improving your speed at doing your plans, but as the RPM thought process becomes second nature to you, you will be thinking and creating plans at lightning speed

This is because the same kinds of Results/Outcomes tend to show up in your life consistently (especially those related to your categories of improvement) Often you will create a plan - an RPM block, a plan for your categories, or a plan for a project - that you will be able to use again and again

Separated from it's source, that droplet of water will ultimately evaporate and return to it's source Think of a drop of water from the ocean of abundance that's separated from it's source

This is the essence of the secret of always treasuring your divinity The point is that while it's in liquid form, disconnected from it's source, it loses the power of it's source

After so many days of sleeping well, I feel like the dragon has again emerged from the abyss from where it had been exiled At least I was until today

This is the time of year that depresses me the most—and I'm not referring to a hormonal disorder or the absence of certain chemicals in the body AM I the problem or is it the coming of Christmas?

3 Resolving problems related to group consciousness involves moving into the highest level

This level of problem-free consciousness is distinguished by the feeling of connectedness rather than separateness The third level is mystical consciousness

Just slip momentarily into the gap, and notice how peaceful and exquisite you feel in that gap Then do it again with Who and art and in Heaven

This meditation uses the sound of "ahhhh" as a mantra to keep your thoughts from wandering during the morning meditation I teach a meditation, which I describe in detail and guide you through with my voice, in a CD/cassette called Meditations for Manifesting

What do you want to contribute to your own life and the lives of others? What challenges might you be excited to overcome?

What do you want to give, create, be, feel, or share? If you knew you could have it any way you want it, what would you really want for your life?

Remember, "Perfect love casteth out all fear When you're afraid, you've moved away from love

Thus, the dichotomy of hate and fear are at work within you, always weakening you " What you fear, you resent and ultimately begin to hate

Discussions regarding drug usage in Switzerland occur several times in the book 10

What does this contradiction say about Swiss culture? Before going to meet the drug dealer, Linda notes that the Swiss "both prohibit and tolerate" drugs at the same time (this page)

When Mother Teresa was asked to march against the war in Vietnam, she replied, "No, I won't, but when you have a march for peace, I'll be there If you're for love and peace, you'll bring those energies to the presence of violence, and ultimately dissolve the hatred

This was what came out of Jesus of Nazareth while he was being tortured on a cross by a Roman soldier throwing a spear into his side " A Final Word about Forgiveness and Resentment At the root of virtually all spiritual practices is the notion of forgiveness

I don't need biblical justification for adultery or murder David—the great example, the idol for generations, the fearless warrior— not only committed adultery, he also ordered the murder of his rival, betraying his loyalty and goodwill

Those kisses had to wait many years to be repeated, and when it finally happened, it was exactly as I hadn't imagined But I remember this story from my school days—the same school where Jacob and I kissed in the spring

I climb the makeshift stage—it's a staircase linking the two areas of the hall at the top of the TV tower—give Darius a kiss, and start telling an uninteresting story about when I went on the show Jacob wasn't called up, either, because the idea is for the evening to be enjoyable, not filled with political speeches

Those nearest the stage pretend to be interested in what I'm saying The men continue their hunt, and the women continue looking at one another

Because we have everything and they don't Others are happy because they believe that this is exactly what we deserve: loneliness, unhappiness

Those who are sad are comforted But one day those who are blind begin to see

" The "usual tactics" consist of four points: One, ask about something that the interviewee would like to discuss in public "Use the usual tactics

Three, at the end of the interview, when he's convinced he has us nicely under control, ask the one question that really interests us Two, let him talk for as long as possible to make him think that the newspaper is going to give him lots of space

Which type of love do you believe is more transformative in the novel? On this page, Linda contemplates requited versus unrequited love

Throughout the novel, the protagonist attempts to articulate what her unhappiness feels like: "an animal who can't quite understand how it got caught in the trap," a "spongy black hole 3

Perry, Zoë, translator II

Title III

What? "I grew up witnessing terrible displays of jealousy at home," says my husband

To a stranger? He's talking about his private life?

To increase my strength and vitality To increase my sense of control over my life

To become the stud-muffin of my wife's dreams To raise my self-esteem and feel sexy

" How can he understand if I haven't finished explaining? "I understand what you want, but it's really dangerous

To carry out your plan, you would need at least thirty grams of cocaine "You want to set a trap for this woman, but we don't have the kind of merchandise you're asking for

the categories of your life) and organize them in a way such that they are making consistent progress in each of them e

To give you the distinction of adding specific roles to each of the areas of your life as a way of expanding your identity, creating more fun, and changing the emotions you associate to each area 3

To help you understand that it's ridiculous and impossible to create a plan for your time without a clear plan for your life Now that you understand the three fundamental steps of RPM, you are ready to begin setting up your life plan... INTRODUCTION - MORE FULFILLMENT Outcomes/Results for this section 1

To help you understand the specific steps you need to take in order to develop you life plan - specifically, to help you define the areas of life that matter to you most (i 2

To help you, we recommend two things: First, remember that you don't need to do this perfectly! On the professional side, however, people sometimes get a little overwhelmed at first because it can be more difficult to organize your professional life into distinct categories

The other day she asked if I would like to go to a swingers club in Lausanne "She makes these things up

To my horror, I discover that Jacob is enjoying being labeled the "unfaithful male " He's not joking, of course, but everyone laughs, including her

We feel proud to have remained neutral when Europe sent its sons off to fight senseless wars We're pleased that we haven't changed for centuries

To say "we're happy" might not be entirely true We're glad not to have to explain Geneva's somewhat unattractive appearance, with its fin de siècle cafés and elderly ladies strolling about the city

It's been a week since I saw you, but you're still here I'm losing control

To see that I don't stand a chance, that you lied when you said you could see yourself reflected in me, that you consciously allowed me to bring the wound of that unsolicited kiss upon myself If you don't disappear, I'll have to go to your house and have tea with you and your wife, to see with my own eyes how happy you are

To help you understand that this system may take a little longer to master, but that this system will help you experience far greater results and tremendous levels of fulfillment 3

To give you a fundamental skill for reducing stress - the power of "chunking" - that will not only be useful in using the RPM system, but that will support you in many other contexts in life 2

To teach you the 5 Master Steps of Planning, which provide the foundation for planning anything 3

To purchase The Time of Your Life, contact us at [email protected], or click over to www.tonyrobbins.com, and click Visit Tony Robbins At the end of Day 4, Tony walks you through a process that helps you envision each category and define, by answering a series of questions, each of the seven components of your vision

To teach you the mechanics of the RPM system so that you know the practical steps to creating plans for your weeks, days and projects INTRODUCTION - MORE TIME Outcomes/Results for this section 1

I toss and turn in bed, as usual There isn't a single Santa Claus hanging from a chimney, reminding us we should be happy the whole month of December

Tonight we made love My husband sleeps, as usual

Your fearful thoughts are inviting you to stay immobilized Every thought you have in which you're in a state of fear keeps you away from your purpose, and is simultaneously weakening you

Turn fear over to your Senior Partner with these words: "I don't know how to deal with this, but I know I'm connected to You, the miraculous creative force in this universe When you find yourself in a fearful mode, stop right there and invite God onto the scene

2 Outcomes: Write down the specific results you're after, and what has to happen for you to know you've achieved each Outcome (Evidence Procedure) Also write down why you want each Outcome (Purpose), and then prioritize your Outcomes

Two options is a dilemma Options: One option is no choice

We pass by a sign announcing a New Year's Eve party " He stops talking, and we walk in silence

Two or three passersby look at us He kicks it violently

" Be conscious and aware of aJl your body language, your voice tonality, your couch, your looks and your words If you mnnnb" nothing

Understand that when you see a response in your parmer, you have probably helped to tr igger ic We all have unconscious ways that we communicate without even realizing that we are doing so

They all did the same thing: with great solemnity, they sniffed the cork, read the label, allowed the waiter to pour a little into the glass, turned it this way and that, held it up to the light, smelled the wine, rolled it around in their mouth, swallowed, and, finally, gave an approving nod Until I met my husband, all the men I went out with—men who considered themselves "cultivated"— acted as if the choice of wine in a restaurant was their big moment

Unlike the fake, predictable tasters of wine, the nerds were at least real and made no attempt to impress me After witnessing the same scene endless times, I decided to change my group of friends and join the college's nerds and social outcasts

Patience: Love is patient ... Kindness:... and kind They are virtues we hear about every day and that we can practice in every moment

Unselfishness: It does not insist on its own way Generosity: Love does not envy ... Humility:... or boast; it is not arrogant ... Courtesy:... or rude

Lake Léman meets the Rhône River at precisely this point, creating a very strong current And so it is with Geneva

Until an engineer had the idea to put a fountain in place, allowing the excess water to run off A hydroelectric power station was built here to take advantage of the hydraulic power (we're masters at taking advantage of things), but when the workers returned home and closed the valves, the pressure was too great and the turbines ended up bursting

Teachers are always right, after all But no one dared complain

Until one day, this Mr Besides, everyone thought he had some problem at home, and that it would soon be resolved

You look back and see that you also used to think like these people who have become your accusers But it's not about asking permission

Until the day it happens to you You also used to condemn those you knew were adulterers and imagined that if you lived somewhere else, the punishment would be stoning

When I was younger, I experienced the pain of unrequited love, just like any other normal person I do what I have to do efficiently and put as little of myself into it as possible

Until, that is, I came across that horrible writer and his answer to my question Since I married, though, time has stopped

Once Per Quarter: Review all of your Results/Outcomes for each of your Categories of Improvement: Record everything you've accomplished that quarter in this category Record all of your Results/Outcomes for the next month

Update or create a new set of results/outcomes for each category for the next quarter Record all of the results/outcomes that you are either behind on or failed to accomplish this quarter

where you're going to put your emotions, time, and energy), you'll live in reaction to the demands of the moment e

Very few things in life are absolute Mental Focus: What you pay attention to, think about, picture, and say to yourself

Visualize the beautiful automobile that's your dream car and paste it on your bedroom door, as well as on the refrigerator If you're living a life of scarcity, and all of the nice things that many people have are not coming your way, perhaps it's time to change your thinking and act as if what you enjoy having is already here

Visit a showroom, sit in your car, and note the beautiful new-car aroma While you're at it, paste it on the dashboard of the car you're now driving!

You may fear the unknown Take that risk and you'll discover that you receive more approval when you don't seek it than when you do

Wander in there, asking yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen if this doesn't work out? Take that risk as well

I'll find out soon I can't tell if it was always like this and I never noticed, or if it's especially strange today

Watching the fire soothes me, and although I'm revealing something I expect he already knows, I need all the help I can get While he's upstairs, I light the fireplace for the first time this year

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Reladonships are the juiciest pan of life you can become a master of your life and of your relationships

We all have an innate desire [0 give and grow, and this is what makes us feel aliv~ There is simply nothing that makes us grow more as a person

A short while ago, Earthlings in the space program were moving a tiny vehicle on Mars via remote control The questions are endless

We all marvel at such technological feats Invisible signals took ten minutes to travel through space and arrived to make right turns and instruct a scoop to pick up some Martian real estate to examine

A lot of people will decide to tackle this step by setting aside 2-3 hours per week over the course of 1-2 months to accomplish this And, you don't need to do it in one sitting

We order the usual: fondue and raclette I read between the lines: I'm suspicious of you two and think you must be planning something, but look, I'm clever, much more intelligent than you think

We also order wine, but Jacob doesn't sniff, swirl, taste, and nod—that was just a dumb way of impressing me on the first day My husband says he's tired of eating cheese and picks something different: a sausage that is on the visitor menu

There are times during these months when I feel really good, when I really believe that my life makes perfect sense, that this is the role of human beings on Earth Another evening when, after supper, each person goes about his business—the father helping the children with their homework, the mother cleaning the kitchen, tidying the house, and putting out the money for the maid the next morning

We are an example of happiness to the rest of the street, the city, the canton—or what you might call the state—of the entire country The children feel that their mother is at peace, their father is kinder and more attentive, and the whole house seems to glow with its own light

I bow to my gigantic heart filled with light and power, which can encompass everything that has already happened and what will happen from now until the end of time The rational mind disappears again and I am grateful

We are nearing the ground and reality begins to return For the first time I hear something: dogs barking

" I prepare myself to say something If not for our children, what would be the point of all this?

We arrive at the restaurant where we exchanged our first words of love and have a depressing candlelight dinner in one of the most beautiful and most expensive cities in Switzerland But I have no answer

For example, "To foster a competitive spirit in the jurisdiction in which I work" may not move you as much as saying, "To kick butt, take names, and leave a legacy in this industry! There is no right or wrong answer to what belongs in your Purpose - as long as you use phrases that drive you to want to complete the result

We call this 'Rmmmm' (for Result/MAP) - the sound your car engine makes when it's trying to start but it doesn't have any gas " Not writing purposes at all!

What nonsense! In truth, he's telling me that he's grown up and no longer a schoolboy; that he's learned how to behave and has risen in the world; that he knows about life, wine, politics, women, and ex-girlfriends

We can tell a good wine from a bad one, and that's all there is to it We've been drinking wine all our lives

We don't know what the consequences will be—it's better to leave things alone To me, this is all very risky

We discover by talking with friends that the so-called simultaneous orgasm—where a couple becomes aroused at the same time, caressing the same parts and moaning in unison—is a myth And so the days go by

We are what society demands "We aren't who we want to be

We don't want to disappoint anyone; we have a great need to be loved We are what our parents choose

" I take a sip from my third glass of wine and prepare to make a full confession "What was it you wanted to talk to me about?

We exchange a few more meaningless words, wasting precious minutes of my life on pointless niceties The waiter arrives and stops me just as I'm about to leap into the abyss

We walk holding hands because of the cold—I hate wearing gloves We pass in front of one of the churches as the bells ring, he kisses me and I kiss him back, doing all I can to hide what I feel

We go to the train station We stop at a nice bar and drink a little

I am sixteen again, and he's fifteen IT IS no longer autumn, it is spring

We kiss I've mysteriously regained my soul's virginity (since my body's is lost forever)

He downs his drink in one gulp and stares into space He doesn't answer

We leave the bar and walk back to the hotel He is no longer the perfect husband and, oddly enough, this makes me happy

Every week, a "charity ball" is held And we all know that there is a lot of Charity out there without Love

We leave thinking that the world is a better place because of the amount of money collected for the homeless in Somalia, the refugees from Yemen, or the starving in Ethiopia People pay a fortune to buy a table, take part, and have fun in their jewels and their expensive clothes

We eat in silence I'll be on duty at the newspaper

We make short work of the second bottle of wine The waiter has already been to our table twice to see if we've finished, but we haven't even touched our plates

In other words, with the tax money from two citizens who earn a reasonable but not extraordinary salary, they could make thousands of people happy I went to city hall and uncovered the amount: 115,000 Swiss francs, or what two people—me, and the colleague who works beside me, for example—pay in taxes

We must save our money, because no one knows what the future has in store But no

We don't make love as often as we used to—does he already have someone else? Will he take a mistress when I get old?

We never have jealous spats, and I used to think that was great, but after that spring morning, I began to suspect that perhaps our lack of jealousy meant a complete lack of love on both sides Does he think I've found someone else because I haven't shown much interest in sex for the last three years?

" Remember, who you are is much more important than what you accomplished How has this day added value to my life and the lives of others?

We offer the following as a guideline Scheduling RPM Plan Updates There is no right or wrong schedule for updating your RPM

In one of his letters to the Corinthians (which we were made to learn by heart at school), Paul says: Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal He loved us so much that He sent His only son to explain how Love is the force that moves the sun and all the stars

We often hear what seem to be great ideas to transform the world, but they are words spoken without feeling, empty of Love And we all know why

I ask my husband not to drink anymore, or we'll have to leave the car again, and we're much farther away from home than we were the previous time While we wait for the food and make small talk, we finish the first bottle, which is soon replaced by a second

We open a third bottle of wine The food arrives

I feign an air of nonchalance and go after him Never in my life did I imagine I would be doing this, but this year has been so unusual that I no longer find my behavior strange

We pass tourists taking photos in front of the flower clock, one of the city's landmarks We walk two or three minutes to the Jardin Anglais

I STAND before the chasm with my husband and five or six other people, waiting for my turn The car will be at the hotel doorstep in ten minutes

We put on special thermal outfits and helmets On the way up I thought about my children and the possibility of losing their parents ... Then I realized we wouldn't be jumping together

Most of the people I interviewed said they don't care It's a response to the news that a deputy is being blackmailed by Nigerians

We talk about other recent news items It's not like it is in the United States, they say, and we're proud of that

We're living under pressures that didn't exist before We're mature

We try to have fun on the weekends because that's what everybody does, and when we don't feel like leaving the house, we think there's something wrong with us We need to maintain basic needs like education, healthcare, food

The single women secretly envy us, and the married women know we are starting on a path that is not at all like what we've read about in fairy tales The guests throw rice; we throw the bouquet

We want our partner to remain the person we met at the altar and with whom we exchanged rings And then reality gradually begins to set in, but we don't accept it

The time is now to start training you to think in an entirely new way Purpose of this section 1

We want to maximize your understanding by explaining a couple of core principles that will aid in your overall understanding of the use of this system 2

Thanks to their e-mail service, I know exactly where to go without asking anything at the front desk After a stressful half an hour, I leave my car with the valet and run up to the room

We were both afraid to think too much and back down, so the decision was made without questions or answers From the café on the French border to where I am now, nothing more was needed—no explanations, no vows of love, not even another meeting—for us to be sure that this was what we really wanted

I've just been living in search of what I wanted—what and how to do it, when to stop—and accepting the same from my husband My God, I'd forgotten what this is like, I think

We were no longer completely surrendering to each other It was all wrong

We will always act consistent with our view of who we truly are - whether that view is accurate or not Our beliefs about ourselves are among the strongest forces that shape our lives

We will talk about the possibility of life on other planets and the presence of God, so often forgotten in the lives we lead At first, he'll be on the defensive, wanting to know about that photo taken in the park

We will discuss the eternal struggle between science and religion We will talk about faith, miracles, and meetings that were planned even before we were born

Any breakup is painful, and I can feel this pain in every fiber of my body I know it will eventually die out completely

We will meet again at galas and cocktail parties, at elections and press conferences, but we will never again be the way we were today It's the last time I will see him alone

One day we'll be doing the same thing He is washing his car, and I think: "Look at that, another person just like me and my husband

We'll be retired, and will spend our time washing our cars even if we can perfectly well afford to pay someone else to do it for us Our children will have grown up and moved to another city, or even another country

It takes me less than a minute to find Jacob König's address, as well as information about how much he earns, where he studied, the name of his wife, and where she works As soon as I get to the office, I search through the government's digital archives

We've been there before MY HUSBAND has chosen a restaurant halfway between my office and our house

"Let's leave, then As we all know, there's always someone important in this city, and going on the show is obligatory

We've done our social duty He already saw you

Place a filter over your eyes and ears and allow in only things that won't bring you down, because we have our day-today life to do that " Choose what information you listen to

Well, I do—a lot! Do you think I don't get judged and criticized at work?

" I explain that I have to pick up my children from school, hoping that he sees the large gold wedding ring on my finger declaring: "Look, the past is the past "How about getting together after work?

Well, maybe we can have lunch someday " "Of course

What is my purpose? Why do I want to do this?

What actions must I take in order to achieve this result? 3

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What are parts of you that you've disowned? What; mort challenging> Step 2: Accept Each Personality as Part of Yourself Step 3: Discover and Appreciate YOllc Disowned Personalities 4

What roles do you play? What metaphors do you use to describe yourself?

What are some characteristics you embody (or aspire to embody)? If you were to look up your name in a dictionary, what would it say?

Without it you have more stress, which can cause you to give up when the inevitable challenges arise This is one of the most important parts of the process because without it you lose your emotional drive

What are the specific actions you need to take in order to achieve this result? Question 3: What is your Massive Action Plan?

Why do you want to do this? YOUR REASONS: What is your Purpose?

What are the specific actions you need to take in order to achieve this result? YOUR MAP: What is your Massive Action Plan?

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What are you commined ro doing today ro make your relationship more vibram and loving? 4

Forget your past - who are you now? What is it that you stand for in your life?

What are your standards for your life physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, in your relationships? You have you decided to become?

When you squeeze an orange, you'll always get orange juice to come out This concept is simplified by a description of squeezing an orange

What comes out is what's inside This is true regardless of who does the squeezing, what time of day you squeeze, what instrument you use to squeeze, or what circumstances surround the orange-squeezing

Those without the right contacts to go to a charity ball or those who can't afford such extravagance will pass by a beggar and give him a coin We stop feeling guilty about the cruel display of poverty, but we never ask ourselves where that money is going

What could be easier than tossing a coin at a beggar in the street? Fine

Could it be fear? Why don't I want to hear my own words before I say them to him?

What could be worse than the fear that everything will disappear, including my own soul, and leave me completely alone in this world when I once had everything I needed to be happy? But what could be worse than living a sad, gray life, in which every day is the same?

No one on this planet has even a tiny clue as to how all of this works " The scene of an emerging sprout represents the beginning of life

What created the observer, the consciousness, the observation, and perception itself? What is that creative spark that causes the life to sprout?

To do this, open your Journal screen and answer the following questions: o What did I achieve this week? Once you have measured your plan to determine what you completed, what's still in progress, those items you discovered you didn't need to do, and those items that you want to transfer to the following week, take a moment to really learn from your week and celebrate your results

What did I accomplish that I am proud of? What did I do well?

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What did you have to do? What kind of person did you have to be [0 get Jove from the person you wanted love from rhe most?

If you had no fear of moving forward, what would you do in your life? What does that vision look like?

What do you want to contribute to your own life and the lives of others? What challenges might you be excited to overcome?

What are your standards for your life physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, in your relationships? You have you decided to become?

What do you want to feel or experience more of in your life now? What kind of person are you now?

So often we forget what our real result or outcome is and we start thinking instead that we have to write out a to-do list to make it happen What he really wanted was to lose 20 pounds

What is Time? And to do that, there are a couple of concepts that are important for you to understand before delving into the details of your RPM Planner

Does it work? If that were the case, all you would have to do is go to the person you loved with a huge grin, full of plans and ideas, and know how to present the package

What is really contagious is fear, the constant fear of never finding someone to accompany us to the end of our days No

Taking just five or ten minutes a week can do amazing things for you when you use that time to remember some magic moments you shared with people to think about what you really did accomplish to think about what you're happy about or grateful for Life moves so quickly in the 21st century that you must take all the moments you can to acknowledge where you already are and where you are going

What is the difference between a Result/Outcome and a Purpose? This is what will ultimately determine whether your life feels joyous and fulfilled or stressful and incomplete

What is the essence of who you are? How do you define yourself?

What is your Outcome? Thus, the essence of the RPM system is that it consistently focuses you on three distinct questions: YOUR TARGET: What Result are you committed to achieving?

What do you want to give, create, be, feel, or share? If you knew you could have it any way you want it, what would you really want for your life?

What is your ultimate purpose for your life? Your Ultimate Purpose Write a paragraph, or two, that answers the following questions: Why must you achieve this ultimate vision?

By answering the questions below, you will begin the journey back (O the core of the authentic and unique you: Step 1: Discover Your Primary Personalities 54 I How would it feel to know that by reclaiming me energy of your personalities, you could expand what is already within you and express more of who you really are?

What personalities afC currently running your show? Make a list of the primary personalities that have driven you for most of your life

Where were you 10 years ago? 2

What p~rsonalities UH" in charge? Idemify your primary personalides

What is the essence of who you are? How do you define yourself?

What roles do you play? What metaphors do you use to describe yourself?

Focus is the ultimate power that can change the way we think, the way we feel, and what we do in any moment If you're stressed, it's a result of where you are putting your focus

What we focus on determines the direction in which we move When we change our focus, we change our lives

A revolutionary who deserves to be revered by future generations And today my children study Calvin at school as if he were a great Illuminist, a man with new ideas who "freed" us from the yoke of Catholicism

What went on in that man's head? After the darkness, light

Does it use 5¢ words that give you more juice? Is it emotionally compelling?

What will it give me and others? (Ask yourself: Why do I want this?

Here are some questions you can ask to help elicit your purpose: Why do I want to do this? To that end, sometimes a 5¢ word can be much more powerful than a 50¢ word that sounds important

What will it help me give to others? What will it give me?

The first step is to clarify by answering these questions: Get Resourceful - Before you begin answering the questions below, put yourself into a resourceful state Solutions must lead to Action, so decisions are a critical part

What's the current situation? Describe the current situation and/or challenge, and do so without emotion - just give the facts

What is the challenge? What do you also desire?

What's your vision? What are the consequences of the current situation/challenge and what do they mean to your life?

Whatever you ask yourself consistently, you will get an answer to " Right?

Of lone, nameless children carved in stone, their innocence lost forever during the hours and days they were forced to pose for an artist whose name history has also stamped out Of women holding their crowns or swords to the sky, symbolizing victories that no longer appear even in textbooks

When Eiffel built a steel tower for the World's Fair, he never even dreamed it would wind up becoming the symbol of Paris—over the Louvre, the Arc de Triomphe, and its magnificent gardens With very few exceptions, in the end a city's landmarks aren't its statues, but unexpected things

It's a quarter to six and people are celebrating I managed to convince my boss of this, and now I'm trying to convince myself

When I arrive, the first results are just coming in Contrary to my fevered imaginings, none of the elected candidates will be holding a reception, and so I still won't get a chance to go to the house of Jacob and Marianne König

His personal secretary is already back; she knocked quietly on the door, heard "I'm in a meeting," and didn't insist The lunch hour is over

When I arrived, Jacob greeted me with three pecks on the cheek and pointed formally to the chair in front of his desk Forty minutes have passed since then—along with a few hearings and appointments that have likely been canceled

I can still taste the unpleasant flavor of the lubricant covering the latex, but I'm determined to learn how to do it But I respect his wish

When I finish, he flips me over and asks me to get on all fours I don't let it come across that it's the first time I've ever used one of those things

The really big changes happen over time, and time is something of which I have plenty I know where I'm going and hope that, with the passing of the years, I'll manage to change my family's ways so that we don't end up thinking there's anything special about washing the car

When I get home, I try to look neither happy nor sad At least I hope so

He gives me a lesson in astrology: Saturn takes twenty-nine years to return to the point in the sky where it was at the moment we were born I need to know exactly what it means

When Saturn completes this cycle, it puts an end to any romanticism Until that happens, everything seems possible, our dreams can come true, and any walls hemming us in can still be broken down

"I think I needed that We talk a bit about our drinking spree last night

When a balloon bursts, it startles everyone, but it's nothing more than that: a bursting balloon But don't take what I said too seriously

But despite these comforts, she feels crushingly alone—and bored with the routine of her stable life From the outside, Linda, the protagonist of Adultery, appears to have it all: a career as a respected journalist, a doting husband, loving children, and a beautiful home in Geneva

When a friend from the past comes back into her life, she becomes overwhelmed with impulses and urges that have lain dormant for years As her dissatisfaction spirals into depression, thoughts of radical changes begin to excite her more and more

The king obeyed, and all night the princess waited for her husband to appear, deathly afraid and freezing cold Before daybreak, a serpent would come to meet and marry her

When she awoke, she found herself crowned a queen in a beautiful palace Finally, she slept

What's the difference between an Outcome and a Result? This is an important distinction because the most important thing for you to focus on in the process is what you want for your life before you even begin to plan how you want to spend your time

When we first started teaching the OPA system, however, we began to notice three things: People were having a little bit of difficulty coming up with Outcomes that were very specific and measurable - they were emotional, but tended to be a little more general in nature First, a little background: Originally, the name of the RPM system was OPA, which stood for Outcome-Focused, Purpose-Driven Action Plan

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You define yourself as someone who needs to judge others What you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them

When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know the inner peace I'm writing about here Just as no one can define you with their judgments, neither do you have the privilege of defining others

Even if I were the most successful woman in the world, even if I were more admired and more desired than Marianne König, it would be worth nothing if I had no Love in my heart I understand his words better today

Whenever I interview artists or politicians, social workers or doctors, students or civil servants, I always ask: "What is your objective, your goal? Nothing

He comes after me, grabs me from behind, and kisses the nape of my neck and my ears I don't know if it's the gin or the smoking, but I go to the bathroom and toss the cigarette into the toilet, to be safe

Where are my morals? His body is pressed against mine, and I feel his erection on my back

Instead of continuing down, he starts to rise, using invisible currents of warm air in what once seemed like a homogeneous atmosphere The man behind me must have realized that I'm a different person

Where does it want to go? Ahead of us is an eagle, sailing the same ocean and effortlessly using its wings to control its mysterious flight

He's just risen from the dead and sends me a message inviting me for coffee—as if there weren't so many other interesting things to do in life JACOB!

Where is the man who now holds power, the greatest aphrodisiac in the world? Where is the sophisticated wine taster?

Whoever maintains that wrong is done to heretics and blasphemers in punishing them makes himself an accomplice in their crime and as guilty as they The most famous case was that of Michael Servetus, who discovered pulmonary blood circulation and died at the stake because of it

Wherefore does he demand of us a so extreme severity, if not to show us that due honor is not paid him, so long as we set not his service above every human consideration, so that we spare not kin, nor blood of any, and forget all humanity when the matter is to combat for His glory There is no question here of man's authority; it is God who speaks [...]

Most people have never read it, but almost everyone has heard of it " No one can explain why

While still a child, he sees a lightning bolt strike a tree and wonders if that is the source of life It tells the story of Victor, a Swiss scientist, born in Geneva and brought up by his parents to understand the world through science

He comes in with me and playfully turns the showerhead on my clit We end up sweaty and exhausted, and so I decide to take another shower

While we're drying each other off, I suggest going to a nightclub sometime —another attempt to change my routine at all costs I ask him to stop, saying I'm too tired, that we need to sleep and he'll just get me all excited again

whom did you wane love from the most? When you were growing up

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The knight arrives to rescue us, and life is vindicated once again Those who suffer are saved

Who hasn't felt the urge to drop everything and go in search of their dream? Still, you have to lie and cheat, because this time the circumstances are different

How will that make you feel? What will it give you to achieve this vision in your life?

Whose lives will you touch in the process? Ultimately, why do you want to achieve your vision?

One of the symptoms I've noticed in myself is a kind of psychological nearsightedness Little does he know that's where I discovered what was really troubling me: a lack of passion and adventure

Why could that be? My world, which once seemed so broad and full of possibilities, began to shrink as my need for security grew

However, that isn't what the endorphins are doing for me The hormones' main effects are improving our mood, boosting our immune system, and fending off premature aging, but, above all, they provoke a feeling of euphoria and pleasure

Why do I have to have such wonderful children? They're merely giving me the strength to carry on, to run as far as the horizon and leave everything behind

What is another one of the most important results/outcomes I must produce this week? Then, after you've created your first RPM block, you'll review the remaining items on your capture list and ask yourself the same three questions again: 1

Why do I want to do this? 2

Discuss the scene in which the protagonist and her husband go paragliding (this page) 15

Why do you think she cries after she lands? How does that experience transform her?

What is your Outcome? Thus, the essence of the RPM system is that it consistently focuses you on three distinct questions: YOUR TARGET: What Result are you committed to achieving?

Why do you want to do this? YOUR REASONS: What is your Purpose?

Why am I saying these things? !

Why don't I just behave like I do every morning and play the efficient wife tending to her family's well-being? So he won't suspect anything?

I go back to bed and lie staring up at the ceiling I go to the children's bedrooms to see if everything is all right—it's a bit obsessive, but surely something all parents do now and then

Why don't I just give up yoga once and for all? I don't have the strength to say what I do or don't want to do

Love isn't just a feeling; it's an art I need to fall in love with my husband

Why is the angel turning away and leaving the woman alone in the bed? And like any art, it takes not only inspiration, but also a lot of work

The most important thing is that you stay focused on your result/outcome first and that you stay associated to your compelling purpose The bottom line is that if you prefer to work based on the order in which you need to achieve them, you will still get the same result

Why should I spend the extra time to do this? It seems like RPM takes a lot of time to learn and use

When I'm creating my RPM blocks and I'm prioritizing the individual action items, am I prioritizing them based on which is most important to accomplish, or based on the order I'm going to do them in? " What's the difference between an Outcome and a Result?

Why should I spend the extra time to do this? It seems like RPM takes a lot of time to learn and use

random activity While we want you to understand the details of this system, you have already learned the most important piece - how to think in terms of results vs

Will I still get the same result? People often ask, "What if I don't master this system perfectly?

Lately, my mind has been as rough and tempestuous as the sea Even if it's only a psychological boundary, even if, deep down, we know that death will still enter without asking, it's comforting to pretend that we have everything under control

Will I survive? When I look back now, it's as if I am making a transoceanic voyage on a rudimentary raft, in the middle of the stormy season

When you detach from the outcome, you're at peace, and you'll ultimately see the fruits of your convictions The immediate result you receive from this inner knowing is a sense of peace

With Wand A, you can have any physical thing you desire by simply waving it Suppose you had a choice between two magic wands

Knopf Reading Group Guide Adultery by Paulo Coelho The questions, discussion topics, and reading list that follow are intended to enhance your reading group's discussion of Adultery, international best-selling author Paulo Coelho's gripping, intensely psychological portrait of a marriage on the brink of collapse, and the complex emotions that surface when trust is breached in a relationship A

With keen insight into the psychological motivations that drive behavior, Adultery takes readers on a journey through the spectrum of human emotion ABOUT THIS BOOK Provocative and compelling, Adultery is international best-selling author Paulo Coelho's deeply introspective novel about how one woman confronts her midlife malaise— and the consequences that her decisions have on her personal life and selfesteem

But instead of going to swinger clubs, or sex shops full of gadgets we can't even figure out how to work properly, or to the home of wild friends who keep discovering new things, we decide to ... spend some time without the children Until the day when one of the two realizes they need a break from the routine

With no surprises Plan a romantic getaway

There are many opportunities to access silence Repeating the sound of ahhhh in the morning and om in the evening for approximately 20 minutes creates an opportunity for you to experience inner peace and success, in a way you may have never known before

With the car stopped and my body inactive, frequently the only thing still moving are the thoughts in my mind I try to meditate each time I stop at a red light

Once you've decided upon a clear result or outcome, the second step is to define your purpose How will it make me feel?

" This includes your soul! We need silence to be able to touch souls

Without the spaces, all you would have is one continuous noisy note It's really the space between the notes that makes the music you enjoy so much

But whenever the problem begins to take on noticeable proportions, some celebrity or public figure gets arrested with narcotics by "coincidence So, not wanting to give a bad example to the world, we both prohibit and tolerate them at the same time

Woe to those who refuse to comply with the law! " The case winds up in the media as an example to discourage young people and show the public that the government has everything under control

I try to act as though nothing is wrong "The invitation caught me off guard, too," says Jacob, as soon as my husband is gone

Worried about a potential end to your unhappy marriage (with that stone-cold bitch, I'd like to add)? Are you feeling guilty?

But come in and see with your own eyes, because the barriers protecting my heart fell away as I was walking toward you It's engraved on my heart and will be erased only when God chooses

Yes, I found it hard to accept at first, too, and I understand that you might be reluctant Now, don't tell me you don't know the way, because you've entered several times before, in the past and the present

I should have known I was just one more by the way he took me I should have realized he had other women when he took the condom from the nightstand

Yes, I knew all that Many times I left that damn hotel feeling that way, telling myself I wouldn't see him again—all the while aware that this was just another one of my lies and that if he called, I would always be ready, whenever and wherever he wanted

At the moment, though, all I am doing is existing in this womb, putting up no resistance and letting myself go wherever I'm taken Soon I will be born, and I will turn back into a human being who walks with two feet on the face of the Earth

Yes, I'm free I'm free

" I nod yes "Are you all right?

Yes, he understands I don't know if he understands what I experienced up there

She learns something new every minute She notes that on any similar occasion, she will ask first

Yes, her ambition, because Jacob said that he was unhappy with the life he leads She gets closer and closer to her ambition every minute

I'm still not able to live out my fantasy of tying him up and making him kiss me down below until I can't bear the pleasure, but I'll get there We have both normal and unconventional intercourse

Yesterday, I was with her husband again, and that shows just how insignificant she is in all this LITTLE by little, Marianne loses her importance

" I have to wake up early tomorrow and get to work What's important is "keeping up appearances," which really means "don't let anyone realize that we are extremely wealthy

Yet I still intend to exact some revenge The fact that Jacob has ignored my messages has brought me closer to my husband

I can see it in his eyes: he knows what he's saying because he's already been through it " I feel lighter, as if I've already acquired a different outlook

Yet he loved being by her side, and she also felt good next to him "I met a man who was impotent when he was with his lover

Let us first seek Love, and everything else will be added If he no longer has this bond of Love in his life, any reason to keep on living also disappears

Yet when I look back, there were only a few moments—usually very short—when I was able to find even a poor imitation of what I imagine True Love to be: the birth of my children, when I sat holding hands with my husband and looking at the Alps, or the enormous jet of water in Lake Geneva During these ten years of marriage, I have enjoyed almost every pleasure a woman can have, and had to bear things I did not deserve

Managing your life by Projects Can any of them be chunked or grouped together into a common outcome/result?

You always want to start at the level of your Life Plan and your Categories of Improvement and then work your way down into your Project Plans, Weekly Plans, and Daily Plans Remember that RPM is a top-down planning method

The only difference between you and I," he said, "is that I know it and you doubt it Then after a brief pause, he continued, "And so are you

You are a divine creation—a being of light who showed up here as a human being at the exact moment you were supposed to " You are a piece of God

Then he was afraid of hunters The wizard, who was very patient, used his powers to turn him into a tiger

You are better being what you always were Finally, the wizard gave up and turned him back into a mouse, saying: "Nothing I do will help you, because you never understood your growth

You're not a male or a female, a Democrat or a Republican You're a member of one race, the human race

You are not athletic or magical, mathematical or literary, or any other label You are one with the true oneness, God

There's a universal life force that supports and orchestrates everything — Abraham Maslow Don't Die with Your Music Still in You 2 The Second Secret Dont Die with Your Music Still in You The world you live in is an intelligent system in which every moving part is coordinated by every other moving part

You are one of those moving parts It all works together in perfect harmony

You are consistently completing your Weekly Planning Process You are creating and utilizing Projects to achieve results

You are utilizing the 5 Master Steps of planning in everything you do Phase III: You are consistently utilizing the mechanics of the RPM system

Imagine that—dormant forces that were dead or nonexistent, springing into being and collaborating with you as a result of your becoming inspired and acting as if what you want is already here! The dormant forces that Patanjali described come alive, and you discover that you're a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be

You can also apply this principle to areas other than your chosen vocation By having the courage to declare yourself as already being where you want to be, you will almost force yourself to act in a new, exciting, and spiritual fashion

Very few things in life are absolute Mental Focus: What you pay attention to, think about, picture, and say to yourself

If you're attached to being right or absolutely need something in order to be at peace or to be successful, you'll live a life of striving yet never arriving If you think peaceful thoughts, you'll feel peaceful emotions, and that's what you'll bring to every life situation

You can have an inner vision of what you intend to manifest and still detach yourself from the outcome It's possible to have a burning desire yet not have attachments

One is as though nothing is a miracle The other is as though everything is a miracle OceanofPDF.com The Ninth Secret There are only two ways to live your life

You can never be separate from that which created you — Albert Einstein In the faces of men and women, I see God, — Walt Whitman Treasure Your Divinity 9 The Ninth Secret Treasure Your Divinity You are a divine creation of God

" The author doesn't reveal what the three magic words are until the end of the book, when the reader discovers that the words are You are God Anderson writes about the ability to become a miracle worker and to live up to the ideal of the promise made by Jesus Christ: "Even the least among you can do all that I have done, and even greater things

You can rely on this source if you remind yourself that it includes you at all times Not God in the sense of "above all others and better than everyone else," but in the sense of being eternally connected to your source, the everpresent power of love that never abandons you and never runs dry

If you intended to purchase a new automobile for your parents to show your gratitude to them for putting you through medical school, naturally you'd need to have the funds to do so The Irony of Giving If you wanted to give a dozen oranges to your neighbor as an expression of love, you obviously would need to be in possession of 12 oranges

You can't give happiness away if you feel unhappy Likewise, you can't give love away to others if you don't have any for yourself You can't show respect for others if you lack self-respect

Meditation seems to bring me into contact with a source of soothing energy that makes me feel deeply connected to God But the primary benefit is that after a meditation, I find it almost impossible to be annoyed or negatively impacted by anything

You cannot come to know God through the experiences or testimony of others Making Conscious Contact with God Most organized religions have taken on the task of explaining God to their congregations, including all of the rules that God supposedly has laid out for humankind

Our physical world is a world of dichotomies and combinations of opposites, always divisible You've never seen a person with a front who doesn't have a back; an outside without an inside; a north pole of a magnet without a south pole

You cut silence in half, and all you get is more silence Silence, however, is the one experience you can have that's indivisible

You can only drift off in the now, because now is all you ever get There's an irony to this habit of having your mind drift to other times and other places

You do indeed have a past, but not now! So drifting off is a way of using up your present moments

I'm afraid of things changing, but at the same time I'm dying to experience something different When I finally finish my housework each evening, an endless dialogue starts in my head

You don't notice because you're asleep My thoughts keep repeating themselves uncontrollably

This is the ultimate therapy, and it's much less expensive than paying someone to listen! Take a day each month or week or two to be alone and commune with God

You don't use your ego to manifest Keep Your Silent Communion with God to Yourself Everything that you wish to manifest emerges from Spirit, from the silence

Phase II: You are consistently utilizing your Life Plan as a means to plan your weeks and days Instead of creating "to-do" lists, you are creating RPM Blocks in order to achieve your results

You have created Categories of Improvement for your Personal and Professional life You have established your Ultimate Vision and Purpose

Someone says something to you that you find offensive, and rather than opting for resentment, you are able to depersonalize what you've just heard and respond with kindness This is the start of the uncrowded extra mile where you have only love to give away

You have no need to make others wrong or to retaliate when you've been wronged You would rather be kind than right

I'm questioning myself "No

You have to have faith Nothing happens without effort

Not being offended is a way of saying, "I have control over how I'm going to feel, and I choose to feel peaceful regardless of what I observe going on If you have enough faith in your own beliefs, you'll find that it's impossible to be offended by the beliefs and conduct of others

You judge someone else to be stupid, insensitive, rude, arrogant, inconsiderate, or foolish, and then you find yourself upset and offended by their conduct When you feel offended, you're practicing judgment

That price is death by stoning in some countries, and in others it could be social ostracism or indifference A dream is always risky, for there is a price to pay

You keep lying and people pretend they still believe, but secretly they are jealous, make comments behind your back, say you're the very worst, most threatening thing there is But there is always a price to pay

You can throw the rest of the interview away and use that one statement in an article that isn't about the interviewee, but instead about an important subject featuring journalistic research, official facts, unofficial facts, anonymous sources, et cetera That's all you need

You know how journalism works "If he proves reluctant, tell him we're on his side

Similarities attract We sit looking at them as if they were the most interesting thing in the world until he manages to find the right words: "As you no doubt realized, I asked if you were happy because I recognized myself in you

You may be mentally exhausted, convinced that your nonexistent problems—problems you know are nonexistent—are draining you of all your energy You may not feel the same about me, but that doesn't matter

The only thing that will keep you from playing the music you hear and marching to the unique drumbeat you experience within, is fear I guarantee it

You may fear the disapproval of others According to A Course in Miracles, there are only two basic emotions: one is fear, the other is love

You're not going to starve to death or be tortured if it doesn't work out " The truth is that you will just move beyond it

You may have been conditioned to believe you're inadequate or limited You might fear being successful

On a poster hanging in the room were these words: "In this group, there are no justified resentments All 12 of those people were accustomed to blaming others for their weaknesses, using almost any excuse as a rationale for returning to their self-defeating ways

You may need to consider whom you resent before you can make your own choice about whether this is useful for you " Regardless of what anyone would say to another group member, no matter how confrontational or ugly the accusations, each person was reminded that there are no justified resentments

You may start to see some patterns that might apply to you Second, take a look at some of the examples we've included for you

I can't get up from this bus stop because it's as though there are chains attached to my body More than anything else, it's jealousy that eats away at my thoughts

You mean she likes hearing stories about his infidelities while she's in bed with her husband and doing the same things he did with me? They are heavy and difficult to haul around

To activate the creative forces that lie dormant in your life, you must go to the unseen world, the world beyond your form This is a wonderful way to set into motion the forces that will collaborate with you to make your dreams come true

You might think of it in this way: In form, you receive in-formation Here is where what doesn't exist for you in your world of form will be created

This process is vitally important to your planning for two reasons: You cannot manage what you don't measure We've even given an entire screen in the Journal section of your software just for recording Magic Moments and achievements

You must keep score of your wins By checking in on a daily basis (or at a minimum a weekly basis), you will know where you are on track and where you're not so that you can correct your course a lot more quickly

Let the world know why you're here, and do it with passion You'll never be at peace if you don't get that music out and let it play

You pay your bills, fill out all of the right forms, and live a life of fitting in and doing it by the book Being Passionate Means Taking Risks You may indeed find yourself living a comfortable life when you don't follow your instincts

Whatever universal law that has ever been utilized to manifest a miracle anywhere, any time, and in any person is still on the books A mind that's open to everything means being peaceful, radiating love, practicing forgiveness, being generous, respecting all life, and most important, visualizing yourself as capable of doing anything that you can conceive of in your mind and heart

You possess the same energy, the same God-consciousness, to be a miracle worker—but only if you truly believe and know it within yourself It has never been repealed, and it never will be

You showed up here as a tiny infant capable of an infinite number of potentialities —Robert Frost Have a Mind That is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing 1 The First Secret Have a Mind That Is Open to Everythin and Attached to Nothing Having a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing sounds easy until you think about how much conditioning has taken place in your life, and how many of your current thoughts were influenced by geography, the religious beliefs of your ancestors, the color of your skin, the shape of your eyes, the political orientation of your parents, your size, your gender, the schools that were selected for you, and the vocation of your greatgrandparents, to list only some possibilities

You probably had next to no opportunity to disagree with the cultural and societal arrangements made for your life Many of your choices remain unexplored because of a hopefully well-intentioned conditioning program designed to make you fit the culture of your caretakers

3 What is my purpose?

You will continue this process until two things have occurred: First, your capture list is empty; Second, you are certain you have created RPM blocks for all of the most important results you need to produce that week What actions must I take in order to achieve this result?

If your thoughts are filled with doubt and you have a closed mind, you will of necessity act upon those closed-minded doubts, and you'll see evidence of your thinking virtually everywhere you are Understand that what you think about expands ("As a man thinketh, so is he")

You will experience what Walt Whitman meant when he wrote, "To me, every cubic inch of space is a miracle On the other hand, should you decide (make no mistake about this, it is a choice) to have a mind that's open to everything, then you'll act upon that inner energy, and you'll be the creator as well as the recipient of miracles wherever you are

They know how to make it happen: they have a MAP (Massive Action Plan) that is flexible to get them there 3

A bonus is that you'll find that others are much more attracted to you With that sense of inner peace, you'll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you'll be able to live a life of contentment

You won't know God unless you're at peace, because God is peace A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy

It can also be a lot more fun to create your Life Plan if you are doing it with someone else as your ideas and excitement will feed off each other You can then keep each other on track, share your plans (Pathways to Power), and give each other feedback about what's working and what to improve

You wouldn't go to the gym one time and come out and exclaim "I'm fit for life! Put yourself back in the gym

As such, before your next encounter, see it in those ways Of course you do

You'll find yourself pointing out what you love about that person rather than what they're doing wrong Have expectations that focus on the qualities of inner peace and success

This little fellow is your own death, urging you to get on with what you showed up here for because you have only so many days to get it done, and then your body will be departing from this visit I picture this presence as a nagging little creature who sits on your right shoulder and reminds you when you've lost your sense of purpose

You'll most likely always know when you're off purpose because of your thoughts of frustration Your invisible companion will prod you when you're spending another day doing what somebody else has dictated if it's not a part of your passion in life

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The waiter wishes us "bon appétit" and goes off to fetch the new bottle My husband orders another bottle of wine

You'll say that I need to see a doctor, but I don't Then I begin

Don't worry, I'll lead you there We're the same, you and I

You're a wonderful person and, as I understand, have a lovely family After I have said all this, he delicately takes my hand, smiles, and then sticks in a knife: "We're not teenagers anymore

Labels serve to negate you No Longer Relying on Your Personal History Make an effort to remove all labels that you've placed on yourself

You're not an American, an Italian, or an African You must ultimately live up to the label rather than being the limitless spirit that is your true essence

You can cry all night about the history in that pencil, all that it contains, and all you wish you could erase—or bring back again— but all of your tears can't wash out one word of the past, as the poet/philosopher reminds you Nor all thy piety nor wit can lure it back to cancel half a line, Nor all thy tears wash out one word of it

You're ready to be rid of your personal history and to more fully live in the present moment You want to let go of your personal history that's symbolized by that pencil, but when you walk away from it, no matter how far you walk, you look back and there it is

A Purpose, on the other hand, is the reason why you are doing something A Result/Outcome is a specific, tangible final product, end result, or objective

Your Purpose is the subjective reasons why this is important to you Your reason or purpose is what will cause you to take the necessary action to produce the result

How would it feel to achieve the ultimate vision for your life? What is the purpose that would drive you to push through anything that might try to hold you back?

You can process it in any way that you choose The people who are behaving "badly" in the world are doing what they're supposed to be doing

Your desire to do something about the lowest energies will motivate you to be more loving, more feeling, and more peaceful If you're filled with anger about all of those "problems," you are one more person who contributes to the pollution of anger

It's never going to happen So stop expecting those who are different to be what you think they should be

Your higher sacred self refuses to be anything but peaceful, and sees the world as it is, not as your ego would like it to be It's your ego that demands that the world and all the people in it be as you think they should be

Your ultimate vision for your life 2 Your Driving Force There are six main parts to your Driving Force: 1

Your identity for your life (who you are and what you stand for) 4 Your ultimate purpose for your life 3

Pick a situation and ask yourself if what you know or what you feel is most important to you Your left brain can analyze it, while your right brain lets you feel it

Your intellect can be figuring out exactly how you're supposed to act in a relationship when things are collapsing (or when they're rapturous), and then there are times when what you feel will supersede what you know Generally, what you'll take care of first depends on the situation and circumstances you're in

When we began saying that an outcome is really a specific result that you are committed to achieving, people instantly understood the difference People sometimes were confused by the difference between an Outcome and a Purpose

an outcome, primarily because the word "result" connotes a more definitive resolution People tend to have a stronger level of resolve about going after a result they are committed to vs

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OceanofPDF.com The Fifth Secret Florence Farr once said to me, "If we could say to ourselves, with sincerity, 'The passing moment is as good as any I shall ever know,'we could die upon the instant and be united with God You can rely upon it and enjoy basking in the serenity and inner peace that silence and meditation always bring

— Ogden Nash Give Up Your Personal History 5 The Fifth Secret Give Up Your Personal History When a speedboat zooms across the surface of the water, there's a white foamy froth behind it that's called the wake of the boat " — William Butler Yeats Here lies my past Goodbye I have kissed it; Thank you kids, I wouldn't have missed it

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That is the most difficult thing on the list, but you get used to it · Smile, even if I feel like crying

· Take two showers a day, instead of one Buddhists say that a fixed smile, however false, lights up the soul

OceanofPDF.com The Eighth Secret It is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself Indeed, there are no justified resentments if you wish to walk along the extra mile and enjoy inner peace and success on every step of the path

— Epictetus Treat Yourself As If You Already Are What You'd Like to Be 8 The Eighth secret Treat Yourself As If You Already Are What You'd Like to Be Whatever it is that you envision for yourself—no matter how lofty or impossible it may seem to you right now—I encourage you to begin acting as if what you would like to become is already your reality — Thomas Paine First say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do

In order to fully give and be of service and ultimately feel purposeful, you must be able to say, "Yes," when you ask yourself, "Do I really possess what it is that I wish to give away? " This will bring you back to a realization that it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're able to give

— John S " OceanofPDF.com The Fourth Secret Solitude, in the sense of being often alone, is essential to any depth of meditation or of Character, and solitude in the presence of natural beauty and grandeur is the cradle of thought and aspirations which are not only good for the individual but which society could ill do without

" OceanofPDF.com The Seventh Secret The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts ... take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature Here, you truly understand what Thoreau meant when he said, "There is no remedy for love but to love more

— Mother Teresa There Are No Justified Resentments 7 The Seventh Secret There Are No Justified Resentments You hear people say this all the time: "I have a right to be upset because of the way I've been treated — Marcus Aurelius God does not command that we do great things, only little things with great love

OceanofPDF.com Contents Introduction THE FIRST SECRET Have a Mind That Is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing THE SECOND SECRET Don't Die with Your Music Still in You THE THIRD SECRET You Can't Give Away What You Don't Have THE FOURTH SECRET Embrace Silence THE FIFTH SECRET Give Up Your Personal History THE SIXTH SECRET You Can't Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It THE SEVENTH SECRET There Are No Justified Resentments THE EIGHTH SECRET Treat Yourself As If You Already Are What You'd Like to Be THE NINTH SECRET Treasure Your Divinity THE TENTH SECRET Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You About the Author Take sips of this pure wine being poured 4'4—dc21 2001039224 ISBN 13: 978-1-56170-875-8 ISBN 10: 1-56170-875-5 12 11 10 09 18 17 16 15 1st printing, December 2001 15th printing, January 2009 Printed in China OceanofPDF.com For my daughter Stephanie Louise Dyer— you mean everything to me

— Rumi Arrange whatever pieces come your way Don't mind that you've been given a dirty cup

For a whole week, whenever I left work, I would go and buy something in one of the expensive shops on Rue du Rhône I did my best not to think about the matter anymore

—changing something, discovering something I didn't even know I needed, like some new domestic appliance, although it has to be said, novelties in the world of domestic appliances are few and far between There was nothing I really wanted, but at least I felt that I was— how should I say this?

If you meet all of your partners 6 Human eeds, they will never leave you And the 6 Human Needs give you a simple way to do that

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Being accounrable means: 30 Taking ownership of the resul[5 you're producing Being honest abom your mistakes Always focusing on what's working Always focusing on what you can do bener "Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field Being accountable in a relationship means that each person mUSt take 100% responsibility for the entire relationship

" -Rumi Step 2: Meet Your Partners 6 Human Needs n emember: The 6 Human Needs are responsible for virtually all human nJ,ehaviors and decisions I'Ll meet you there

This doesn't mean that one person is accountable for 50% of the relationship and that the other person is accountable for me other 500/0 and Create Passion CRAl'r MAKING TO LOVE MAKINlJ 29 Step 1: Both People Must Be 100% Accountable The first step of relationship healing is for both people in th e couple to hold themselves accountable for the relationship

" None of that works in an intimate relationship There's no room here for partners to be making excuses or saying that's "not my job

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(2) You won't be loved This is because noching else can consistently bring up your [\AIO greatest fears: (I) 'lbu're not enough

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Use the following exercise to tap into your inner strength by aligning your head and heart: 14 I You can create a Flow State in any moment

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21 The 3 Disciplines of Passion The 5 Disciplines of Love

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8 (I) Spirit (2) Animal AN II0NY & \A\ If eicher one of chese aspeccs of ourselves is lacking, we die

However, in the shon term, {rust is inspired by a variecy of minute-to-m inucc facto rs that you may not be conscious of The challenge for many rc:lationships is mat men and women inspire trust in different and even opposite ways ""li~ ROBSIN~ R Step 4: Inspire li- ust and Respect in Each Other Big picture: lfust is inspired when you feel someone has your best interests at heaT[ and that your imerests are aligned

By seeking to understand your partner and recogniz Because each gender is wired and thinks differently, we otten create unrealistic expectations for our significanc ocher

These arc the needs that we need to meet on a regular basis 9 '0 AI\; HI{ NY & ~A(d ROkl I The 6 Human Needs There are 6 Human Needs that 3fe responsible for vinuaJly all human behaviors and decisions

Certainty no mancr whar: I

And an unwavering presence in a man is what women crave at their core In contrast, when a woman tightens, it creates fear in a man

Discipline #3: Light to Dark Even when a woman seems to be: "crazy" or closed, if a man remains present and scays with her, she will know that she is safe and protccted with him

16 1 What are your patterns-both verbal and non-verbal?

Do I y<lI? How do [ communicate when I'm stressed (both verbally and nQn-verball yl?

10 , E R( The 5 Disciplines of Love I t is possible to create the relationship and [Q have an extraordinary level of [fUSt, passion, connection and sensuality in your life 19 20 A

Here are some key practices thar will set you up ro win But ro do so, both you and your parmer need to build a strong and resilienr base chat can handle absolutely anything

Love is the area where we all have the deepest amoum of fear And ie's also a Ii((le scary

However And it is also where we experience the greatest rewards

However, men are not just hairy women, and women are not just beautiful, complicated men Many people often get frustrated simply because they expect their partner to think and react the same way they do

In faCt, the momem you focus on yourself is when the relationship ends When thinking about your relationship, it's much more importam [0 consider what you do [0 create your partner's positive and negative states

ANTIlO:"JY ~ \At Distort things?

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MuJtiple personalities are part of the magic and beauty of life No two people create the same synergy

K By understanding and appreciating the diverse layers [hac make up both ou rselves and the people around us, life becomes magnified, more fulfilling and much more enjoyable

32 "Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you It will show you a world of things mat you can improve in your relationship

People withhold their love in the hope that their partner will become more responsive " -Henry Ward Beecher ANTtION't & SAlil ROBBI""-l Withholding 'VJhen you're hurt and feel uncertain, it's easy (0 get imo a pancrn of W wi(hho l ding~f deliberately not giving your parmer what they need

\AGI ROBBI Introduction Noching in life is as complex or rewarding as our incimarc relationships 60 lIV-LY· MAKING TO lOVL MAKING 3 4 A"NTHO J" &

Real love is me highest form of giving Regardless of our current relationship status, we have all been through some of the deepest pains and greatest joys while connecting closely to another human being

They are roo scared ro move forward and rake the relationship to the level where they can experi ence a 1110re fulfilling sense of depth 1 Love Can Melt Any Fear Many people feel love for their parmer but are dying for passion

Research studies show that anytime there is tension in your body, [he unconscious part of your brain is running (he show Especially in regard (0 their imimare relationships, most people live in a srace of fear, yet a decision made from fear is always the wrong decision

However in a world riddled with conRiet 45 Overview Every human being, regardless of their race, sex and age, is born with a gift-a spiritual essence, an unguarded hean [hat is pure, beautiful and connected (Q everything

So to survive as well as to know for certain that we would be loved, over rime we have each adapted our behavior this vulnerable and open state is nor sustainable

6 The need ro keep on expanding or growing or you stan to die

The abili ry to give ro something beyond yourself Contribution

2 The abi lity to be safe and comfortable

The ability to feel fully alive by experiencing changeemotional shifts, new ideas and new SiCU3tions Variety

And if you can reclaim that part of you, you can creace, be and love at a level you didn't even know was possible Whatever you don't accept about your partner is very often something you have disowned about yourself

The greatest gift a woman can give to a man is to be completely open Discipline #2: Presence and Openness

Ifyotl don't b~/i~v~ you'V( ~v~r don~ so, ~ith(r think o/som(on( who has or imngin~ yourulfdoing so When I've been stressed but have somehow managed to communicate effectively, what have I done?

The next time I'm stressed, how wiJJ I communicate? 4

Variety, Significance, Love and Connection, Growth and Contribution as children, we need OUf parents ro survive, so we spawned a core set of personalides not only to shield us from OUf externaJ environment but also [0 meet the conditions of our internal environmem---our core human needs of Certainty

This film is a journey into the personalities of Kerry (or "Kez"), a woman who had become detached and depressed because she was nor expressing her true self By gerring back in touch wirh her core, Kez is able to reconnect with her husband while he learns to appreciate rhe deprh and richness mat every part of her represencs Each one of these personaJicies possesses a distinct model of the world that is designed (0 protect us

And on the other side of fear is power, joy, love, fulfillment and freedom e that it's not about what you get out of a relationship that matters; it's what you become

Understand that your partner is also scared, and start to operate from a place of compassion and love-even when it doesn't seem reciprocal Even though part of you is scared to go there, there is another part of you that knows this is the path

( zy MAKIN" TO lOVE MA~IN" 15 5 Steps to Communication Mastery I t's nor difficult to communicate when you're feeling great Low-energy women become more masculine to protect themselves Low-energy men tend to become more pleasing and feminine Lov~ tlu part of your partn~r that thty ar~ not loving in Ih~mu'v~s

We all have characteristic panerns when we get stressed Bur in stressful situations, all ki nds of communicarion breakdowns occur

The idea that we are only one may meet our need for Cenainry AN I tlo)'\,;) ~ SAG t R( RBI N~ we All Have Multiple Personalities We nIL have l11ulriple personalities

We assume that when we meet someone, they are one·dimensional However, (he truth is that we have all created ways to handle the dynamic demands and complexities of our diverse life experiences

Variety The first four needs: Certainty

We literally can't live without them Significance and Love and Connection afC the needs of the personality, and we aJl find a way to meet them in some way

lnstead of criticizing you The state of your relationship is the state you bring [0 it every moment

What are you doing to generate your partner's state? r partner, focus on what you are bringing to the table

Can you think of a time when have you withheld from your parmer? Take a moment to ask yourself: I

When you're stressed or upset, in what ways do you detach or pull away from your partner? 2

"v1AKING 11 The last two needs: Growth and Contribution are the needs ofche spirit RAlY MAKINl, 10 lo\t!

When you're: in a couple, its essential that you're aware of how you're meeting your partners needs And even though most people don't focus on [hem, they're the real secret co lasting happiness

ROkl1 The 3 Disciplines of Passion I ronically, [he more you love someone, me less eroric they become 22 ANIHONY & \AG!

Why? This paradox is very common

RAzy MAKINc Remember (ha( every communication is either a loving response or a cry for help, and your love can melt any fear or pain

Wh~n your head and heart Off working in sync, you always make ,he right tkcision 0 OVE MAKJNt) '3 Finding Your Flow State Flow Sta te: When you are with someone you love and it couldn't be more perfect

as well We know that this beautiful depth of love is possible for you

With Love Our greatest hope is that you wi ll discover a new way [0 love and appreciate your partnerc as well as yourself

stagnam or unfulfilling Although you may have had passion at the beginning when you first met your parmer, it may now feel empty

Yet many of you may have given up on the idea that the ideal is even possible and, as a result, settled for much less At our deepest level, we all crave a meaningful and rich connection with someone else

Everyone has triggers, ~uJnerabi li ties BIN~ Step 5: Heal Your Wounds and Create Passion "'C veryone carries around pains and hurts from the past

You can't make these wounds go away by being harsh or critical fears and things they avoid at all costs

when you are biologically consumed by fear, it is not possible for you (0 make decisions [hat are grounded in love Thus

You have to sh ifr your thinking and realiz Relationships afC essentially the ultimate spiritual workout-the only way you can grow is to face your fear

__________ _ 5 How am I meeting my partners need for Love and Connection on a scale of I ro IO?

___________ __ 6 On a scale of 1 to 10 how much Growth are we experiencing together?

__________ _ 3 How am I meeting my partners need for Variety on a scale of I [oIO?

____________ 4 How am I meeting my parmers need for Significance on a scale of I ro I o?

Sage and I are excited [0 share what we have learned during the magnificent journey of our love affair [Ogether Whether you are looking for a way [0 take your current relationship [0 a new level or you are seeking to attract the love of your life

our rela(ionship has continued to grow, expand and evolve Over the years

The strongest bonds have come from our greatest pains 4

you crea re a space for you to grow and bond together When you let yourself become completely vulnerable [Q another person

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