Interpersonal Communication Final Spring 2019

Devitalized marriage

Used to be one of the first three but now the relationship has died. Disinterested in the marriage, but not happy

Total marriage

Want to maximize time together but it isn't 24/7

Passion is the primary foundation for enduring romance. True or False?

False

Selective listening is effective because we focus on the most important parts of a message. True or False?

False

The meanings we assign to behavior in romantic relationships are entirely individualistic. True or False?

False

The win-win conflict style is always the best approach. True or False?

False

When friendships deteriorate or suffer serious violations, communication changes in unpredictable ways. True or False?

False

During this stage, each person checks the other to see whether common ground and interests exist.

Friendly relations

Serial monogamy

Getting married and divorced repeatedly.

The sense of touch is:

Haptics

In ____ we communicate attention and interest

Responding

Wanting to get good grades would be placed in which of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs?

Self-actualization

Linnea's parents praise her for earning high marks in her first year in college. Linnea's parents are addressing her ____ needs.

Self-esteem

What is an example of a prototype?

The person who exemplifies a friend to you

What is a statement that is not true when expressing emotions via social media?

The same rules apply when using social media as in face to face communication

Paralanguage is communicated through:

Tone and pitch, rate, pauses ad fisfluencies

Ambushing is listening carefully for the purpose of attacking a speaker. True or False?

True

Both verbal and nonverbal communication may be deliberately controlled or unintentional. True or False?

True

Egocentric people cannot take the perspectives of others. True or False?

True

Geographic distance is the reason the majority of high school friendships dissolve when students begin college. True or False?

True

In the U.S. popular magazines and movies communicate the perspectives of the generalized other. True or False?

True

Research on emotions and concluded that blends of emotion are common. True or False?

True

Selective listening also occurs when we reject communication that makes us uneasy. True or False?

True

We use stereotypes to make predictions about people and situations. True or False?

True

Kinesics

refers to body position and body motions

prototype

the "`best" or "most typical" member of a category

Specific communication behaviors that contribute to unproductive interpersonal conflict does NOT include:

Asking questions for clariffication

The theory of linguistic determinism states...

Language determines what we can perceive and think

The clearest indication that a friendship is in the waning stage is:

Less quality and quantity of communication

Expressing feelings is always advisable. True or False?

False

In the U.S. mothers are more likely than fathers to challenge children and encourage them to achieve more. True or False?

False

Men are more likely than women to use nonverbal behaviors to express how they feel. True or False?

False

Discriminative listening

Listen to give things meaning. Listening to music and getting a feeling from the song based on the notes and the music. Jimmy Buffet, you're on the beach with a drink in your hand.

Comprehensive listening

Listening for meaning. Listening to the words in music and trying to figure out what the singer is saying. Takes work, will wear you out

The likelihood of sustaining a long-distance friendship also depends on other factors, such as socioeconomic class and sex. True or False?

True

____ in interpersonal relationships involves believing in another person's reliability and emotionally relying on that person.

Trust

What is an example about emotions?

We experience emotions holistically

Storge (STORE-gay)

comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship compatibility

Relational culture is best defined as:

private understandings, rules, and meanings that partners create

Friendships generally begin with:

role-limited interaction

What is a comment would likely be made during the invitational stage of romantic relationships?

"Are you a communication studies major?"

Immediately after hearing a message, most people remember less than ___ of what they have heard

35%

Ethnocentrism is one form ___ communication.

Certainty

This refers to how we perceive and use time to define identities and interaction.

Chronemics

What is a way that North Americans do not respond to relational distress?

Cognitive complexity

What are some external pressures on a friendship?

Competing demands, diverse communication styles, and geographic location

Grave-dressing processes

Involves burying the relationship and accepting its end

Surface acting

Involves controlling the outward expression of emotions rather than controlling feelings

"Now I've Got You, You Son of a Bitch"

One-up sets someone up for failure. One-up gets power and authority. Person doesn't drop the class because they need it or stay to prove the professor wrong. One-down person also gets improvement

Ludus

Playful love

People socialized in masculine speech communities tend to achieve closeness in interpersonal relationships primarily through:

Sharing activities

A way of INEFFECTIVELY expressing feelings is...

Speaking in generalities

What is NOT a regulative rule of interpersonal communication?

Speaking is a way to show you care about issues

This kind of communication feels open, honest, and unpremeditated

Spontaniety

Nonverbal communication

all aspects of communication other than words

Three primary styles of love are...

eros, storge, and ludos

Listening

An active, complex process that consists of being mindful, physically receiving messages, selecting and organizing messages, interpreting messages, responding and remembering

What are the three characteristics of symbols used in language?

Arbitrary, ambiguous, and abstract

Multi-generational family

Mom, dad, kids, grandparents, aunts/uncles.

Psuedolistening

Pretending to listen

Men and women tend to differ somewhat in their listening. Men tend to focus their listening on specific content areas of communication, while women tend to focus on...

The whole of communication

Verbal and nonverbal communication are not similar in this way:

They are both equally believable

___ models of communication highlight the dynamic nature of interpersonal communication.

Transactional

According to Judi Miller, children begin to understand and follow communication rules as early as 1 to 2 years of age. True or False?

True

Most of us have attitudes about conflict that reflects scripts we learned in our families. True or False?

True

According to Eric Berne, games:

hide the real issues in a conflict

The opposite of strategy is...

spontaneity

Attribution

the process of explaining one's own behavior and the behavior of others

Expressed tension

there is no visible conflict if it is not expressed through disagreement, struggle or discord

Relational dialectics

which are opposing forces or tensions that are continuous and normal in personal relationships

"Mine is Worse than Yours" game

Always has it worse in any situation.

Charlene is always late, because she is so lazy. This is an example of:

Attribution

Fun would be placed in which of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs?

Belonging Needs

The ____ area contains information that others know about us but we don't know about ourselves.

Blind

What is a statement that is true about conflict in relationships?

Conflict is inevitable in all interpersonal relationships

Deborah is surprised when her friend reaches across the table to get a pepper shaker. To herself, Deborah says, "Reaching across the table is rude." Deborah's perception of her friend's behavior is based on a(n) ___ rule.

Constitutive

If a parent says to a 5-year-old child, "Clean your room now", the ____ meaning is that the room is to be cleaned immediately.

Content

Monopolizing

Continuously focusing communication on us instead of listening to the person who is talking

This is the totality of beliefs, values, understandings, practices, and ways of interpreting experiences that are shared by a number of people.

Culture

Management of what we feel inside ourselves is called:

Deep acting

Framing rules

Defines the emotional meaning of situations. Ex: Funerals are sad and respectful occasions.

Specific communication behaviors that contribute to unproductive interpersonal conflict includes:

Disconfirmation, hostile mind-reading, and self-summarazing

Three stages to interpersonal conflict are:

Early, middle, and late

Pat says, "I am so stupid I'll never graduate from college. I just can't learn this chemistry because I am so darned dumb!" Pat's self-communication is an example of:

Engaging in self-sabatoge

The opposite of superiority is...

Equality

This communication confirms the worth of others and our concern for them. An example is "I can understand why you feel that way."

Equality

Reciprocity of self-disclosures is especially important after a relationship has become established. True or False?

False

Research shows that eyewitness testimony is highly reliable. True or False?

False

Romantic relationships do not follow a developmental course like friendly relations do. True or False?

False

The tensions of relational dialects keep relationships stagnant because they increase interpersonal friction and stress. True or False?

False

Women and minorities generally take up more space than men in Western society. True or False?

False

"Blemish" game

Finding fault with everything that someone else does, and never points out the good things that they do.

"Memorial Day parades are patriotic, yet sad, events," is an example of a(n) ____ rule.

Framing

The perspectives of the ___ other reflect the views generally held by others in a society.

Generalized

Blended family

Get married have kids, get divorced, get remarried to a spouse that already has children.

During the ___ phase of romantic relationship deterioration, individuals try to make sense of what the relationship meant, why it didn't work out, what it meant, and how it affected them.

Grave dressing

What is an example of a personal construct?

How a friend measures up on the dimension of intelligent-unintelligent

"When you said my idea was stupid, I felt hurt" is an example of ___ language.

I

Three levels of interpersonal communication are ___, ___, and ___.

I-It, I-You, and I-Thou

Psychologists defined ______ as rules for living and identity.

Identity scripts

Selective listening

Involves focuses only on particular parts of communication

Covenant marriage

Involves pre-marital counseling and can only get divorced if it can be proven that the spouse is cheating, unloving, or abusive, and even then get marriage counseling again.

Dyadic process

Involves the breakdown of established patterns, rules, and rituals that make up the relational culture

As the faculty meeting stretches to three hours, Renee starts to experience listening fatigue, or ___, one listening obstacle.

Lack of effort

How we see ourselves greatly influences our choices in potential romantic partners. True or False?

True

In communication systems all parts of a system interact and affect each other. True or False?

True

Many scholars think that most or all emotions are socially constructed to a substantial degree. True or False?

True

Perceptions are the way humans see the world and they are subjective. True or False?

True

Speech communities are not necessarily defined by geographic locations and boundaries. True or False?

True

Teachers, peers, and family members are all examples of particular others. True or False?

True

Vital marriage

Two people that are together wanting to be together all the time 24/7/365, wants same job and/or same classes

Ambushing

listening carefully for the purpose of attacking a speaker

Intrapsychic processes

one or both partners begin to feel dissatisfied by the relationship

Defensive listening

perceiving personal attacks, criticism, or hostility in communication that is not critical or mean-spirited

"If it weren't for you" game

person in the one-up position will tell the other person how much better their life could be if the lower person wasn't in it (destructive, especially between parent and child)

Commitment

A decision to remain in a relationship (not a feeling)

A key foundation for improving your self-concept is:

Accepting the self-concept as in process

When we listen like this, we attend only to the content level and overlook what's being communicated on the relationship level

Literal listening

Cohabitation

Living together in a romantic relationship but you do not get married legally or religiously

"Kick me"

Maneuvers conversations so the other person is always belittling you.

Passive congenial marriage

May share a house/apartment but have separate places to live together. Spend long periods of time apart, like six months, and that is how the couple wants it

Nuclear family

Mom, dad, and the kids. Monogamous pair bonding. Married once to one person. (The goal)

We might make a small self disclosure to signal that we'd like to personalize the relationship or meet outside of contexts that naturally occur.

Moving towards friendship

Because nonverbal communication is ____ selective perception is likely to occur.

Multi-channeled

The ___ response to interpersonal conflict is both destructive and passive.

Neglect

During a student speech, the campus landscapers begin mowing the lawn, making the student's presentation difficult to hear. The audience is experiences ____, one listening obstacle

Noise

What is NOT a valid reason for withholding expression of emotion?

Not owning feelings

Interdependent

Occurs in I-Thou relationships with close friends, family members, and romantic partners. Interpersonal conflict can occur only between people who perceive themselves as interdependent at the time of the conflict

"Yes, but" game

One-up person asks the lower person for help, but all of their ideas are stupid.

This term includes accents, pronunciations, and the complexity of sentences

Paralanguage

Social support

Partners look for friends and family for support

The ____ view of emotions is also called appraisal theory

Perceptual

Chat rooms can be evaluated based on how interesting or boring the conversations are. This statements best represents...

Personal constructs

Kitty's supervisor says, "I'm the boss, so we'll g with my plan for this project." The supervisor's message addresses the ___ dimension of relationship meaning

Power

Eros

Powerful, passionate style of love that blazes to life suddenly and dramatically

Pragma

Pragmatic of practical love

As soon as they news program begins an interview with the president, Dolores quits paying attention and she mumbles to herself, "I already know everything he has to say and I don't want to hear it again." Dolores's ability to listen is being hindered by:

Prejudgment

The counterpoint to control is ___

Problem orientation

This communicates openness to other points of view. We suggest that our minds aren't sealed.

Provisionalism

Salina is angry with her boyfriend, so she refuses to sit near him in the car or to let him get really close to her while they are walking. To communicate her anger, Salina is relying on

Proxemics

According to research reports discussed in the textbook, the greatest influences on interpersonal attraction include:

Proximity

Which an example of an abstract term?

Reading matter

In face-to-face classrooms, students are typically instructed to raise their hands before answering the teacher's question. This requirement is a(n) ___ rule.

Regulative

Committed romantic relationships

Relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other's lives

Conflict habituated marriage

The hallmark of the marriage is conflict. People are arguing all of the time

Mary says, "I would never join a sorority. All the members do is party and go shopping." Mary's statement is an example of a(n):

Stereotype

Of her marriage Myra says, "It wasn't like we ever really fell in love. It was more like we grew together kind of gradually. I think of my husband as my best friend." Myra seems to have which style of loving?

Storge

Verbal communication and nonverbal communication are similar in these ways:

Symbolic, rule-guided, and may be intentional or unintentional

Feeling rules

Tell us what we have a right to feel or what we are expected to feel in particular situations. Ex: Some cultures view feeling and expressing anger as healthy.

Emotional intelligence (EQ)

The ability to recognize feelings, to judge which feelings are appropriate in which situations, and to communicate those feelings effectively

Navigation

The ongoing process of staying committed and living a life together despite ups and downs, and pleasant and unpleasant surprises

Communication climate

The overall feelings or emotional mood between people - warm or cold, accepting or rejecting, safe or anxious

Resurrection process

The two partners move on with their lives without the other as an intimate

Investments

What we put into relationships that we could not retrieve if the relationship were to end (We invest time and money)

Ego boundaries refer to:

Where an individual stops and the rest of the world begins

Zach believes that in conflict situations the goal is to find a solution that all those involved can accept. Zach's orientation to conflict is best described as:

Win-win

One indication that a friendship is in the nascent stage is that participants:

Work out private rules for interacting

Interphasic stage

You begin to focus on the problem. The problem defines the relationship

Appreciative listening

You, the listener, have selected to hear the sounds that you are listening to. Kinda like background noise. (Music)

What is an example of a script?

Your idea about how you should interact with a friend

Hearing

a physiological activity that occurs when sound waves hit our eardrums

Many scholars argue that race:

is a socially constructed category

"Happy to help"

friend that is always there for you. "Good friend" "Happy to help" person is the person who is excellent of keeping track of how much help you owe them and collects it with interest. Really does help.

"Let's you and him fight"

has to involve at least 3 people. One up person causes fight between other two, and then tries to resolve the conflict so the one up person looks like a good guy.