Chapter 12 Previous exam q's

Which of the following statements best reflects Sternberg's decision/commitment component of love?

"I am ready to commit myself to this relationship. I want to spend my life with my partner"

Which of the following statements best reflects Sternberg's passion component of love?

"I am so physically attracted to my partner. We have great chemistry"

Which of the following statements illustrates the emotional indifference component of disengagement?

"I feel nothing for her anymore"

Which of the following statements best reflects Sternberg's intimacy component of love?

"I feel so close to my partner. We have such a wonderful, warm bond"

Which of the following statements best reflects storge?

"Our friendship gradually turned into love over time"

Which of the following statements illustrates behavioral distancing?

"She can go to the party by herself—I'm not interested"

Which of the following statements illustrates the cognitive disconnection aspect of disengagement?

"She's so unresponsive and uninvolved—it's like we've become strangers"

Hans is an agapic lover. Which of these statements is he most likely to make to his partner?

"The most important thing to me is your happiness"

Research reveals that about _____ of the men in polygynous societies have more than one wife.

10 percent

Saul recently joined a dating service. So far, he has received information about four women who might be compatible with him. He has read their personal biographies and "sexual histories" and is ready to ask one of them out on a date. Based on research discussed in your textbook, which one will he probably choose?

Cathy, who has had sex before (but only with her last boyfriend)

Andrew makes 10 contributions and receives 20 benefits in his relationships with each of his four friends. With which of his friends does he have the most equitable relationship?

Dirk, who makes 5 contributions and receives 10 benefits

According to research on attraction, which one of the following people would probably be viewed as most physically attractive?

Eliza, who is normal weight and has a typical WHR

Research on love styles reveals which of the following?

Men tend to score higher on ludus than women

According to the text, the _________ is the most commonly used measure of passionate love.

Passionate Love Scale

A good index that a marriage will be happy and successful is

a lot of shared pleasurable activities

Lee believes that the key to finding mutual love is to find

a person with a love style that is similar to yours

Which of these has been offered as a view of what love is?

a. an addiction b. a disease c. a neurosis d. all of the above

Lynn has very negative self-esteem. It is therefore likely that

a. her parents did not raise her in a loving and supportive manner b. she has trouble accepting her strengths and weaknesses c. she may have difficulty in creating and maintaining a loving relationship d. all of the above

Theorists agree that companionate love is characterized by several basic features, including

a. intimacy and affection b. commitment c. durability d. all of the above

All love theorists agree that

a. only one kind of love exists b. love is interesting but not very important in people's lives c. adult romantic love can be divided into four basic varieties d. None of the above

Research on romantic partner preferences reveals that characteristics related to _____ tend to be highly desired by men and women.

a. physical attractiveness b. intelligence c. honesty and trustworthiness d. all of the above

"Realistic idealism" means that we

accept the partner as he or she is, but have an idealized view of the relationship

Current evidence shows that __________ is most important in maintaining the health of a relationship.

accepting the partner for who he or she really is

According to Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, intimacy is the _____ component that reflects feelings of warmth, closeness, connection, and bondedness in the love relationship.

affective

Lee believed that one particular love style was difficult for most romantic lovers to experience. Which one?

agapic love

A marriage in which the partners were chosen for each other by parents, other relatives, or matchmakers, is known as a(n) __________ marriage.

arranged

The following figures represent the ratio of benefits to contributions for the partners in a relationship. According to equity theory, which of the following relationships is inequitable?

b. 10/5 10/10

A common reason couples give for divorcing is __________.

boredom

Which one of the following conclusions can we draw from research on preferences for chastity?

chastity has declined in importance over time

According to Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, decision/commitment is the _____ component that reflects the decision to love another person and the commitment to maintain that love.

cognitive

Which one of the following statements about companionate and passionate love is correct?

companionate love seems to be relatively more stable and enduring than passionate love

According to Sternberg, many individuals strive to attain one particular type of love—especially in their romantic relationships. Which type?

consummate love

Researchers who study neurotransmitters believe that _____ is involved in passionate love, whereas _____ is involved in companionate love.

dopamine, oxytocin

According to Lee's love theory, the primary style of love that involves intense physical attraction, cognitive preoccupation, and early sexual involvement is known as _____.

eros

When Sean first met Kristi, he felt an intense attraction to her and immediately asked her out on a date. Since then, he has re-arranged his schedule so that he would have more time to spend with her, and he thinks about her constantly. He is happiest when they are together, enjoys the way he feels, and describes himself as "deeply in love." According to Lee's theory of love, Sean is a(n) _____ lover.

erotic

Research on love styles reveals that relationship satisfaction is higher when partners are _____ and lower when partners are _____.

erotic, ludic

Both Sternberg's model and Lee's model suggest that one style of love is superior or better than another.

false

Equity seems to be relatively unimportant in determining relationship satisfaction.

false

Features of passionate love include mental preoccupation and intense emotions.

false

In a loving relationship, you should not express your doubts, irritations, fears, or anger.

false

Most people do not differentiate between the terms "love" and "in love."

false

Passionate love has always been the primary reason for marriage in cultures around the world.

false

People who are passionately in love engage in sexual activity less often than people who are not in love.

false

With few exceptions, passionate love is found only in modern Western cultures.

false

One of the primary reasons people give for not initiating a relationship with someone they find attractive is

fear of being rejected

C. S. Lewis (1960) developed one of the earliest classification systems for love. According to his theory, _____ is a variety of love that is based on common interests, cooperation, mutual respect, and understanding.

friendship

__________ is one of the most common—and challenging—processes that many couples have to face over time.

habituation

Joe is a very jealous person. He likely

has low self-esteem

An equitable relationship is one in which the partners

have a relatively equal ratio of positive to negative outcomes

According to Sternberg, consummate love relationships are characterized by _____ levels of intimacy, _____ levels of passion, and _____ levels of decision/commitment.

high, high, high

According to Sternberg, romantic love relationships are characterized by _____ levels of intimacy, _____ levels of passion, and _____ levels of decision/commitment.

high, high, low

According to Sternberg, companionate love relationships are characterized by _____ levels of intimacy, _____ levels of passion, and _____ levels of decision/commitment.

high, low, high

Theorists suggest that passionate love consists of a number of basic features, including

idealization of the loved one

One reason why passionate love has received so much attention from scientists and scholars is because

it appears to be a universal human experience

Which of the following describes the manic love style?

jealous and possessive

One day Fabio accidentally read a flirtatious email that his partner received from a coworker. He is now worried that this coworker is falling in love with his partner and may try to steal her away. Fabio is experiencing

jealousy

Research reveals that which emotions are commonly reported by people who are "in love"?

joy

Early love theorists (e.g., James, Ellis) developed their taxonomies of love from which of the following sources?

literature and philosophical discourse

According to Sternberg, empty love relationships are characterized by _____ levels of intimacy, _____ levels of passion, and _____ levels of decision/commitment.

low, low, high

Grace enjoys going out with Doug but has no plans to make their relationship "permanent." She doesn't always tell him the truth about where she's been or the other people in her life, and becomes annoyed when he asks too many questions or expects too much from her. According to Lee's love theory, Grace is a(n) _____ lover.

ludic

According to Lee's love theory, the primary style of love that involves game-playing and a desire to avoid commitment is known as _____.

ludus

When Will met Jada, he immediately began to think of her as his future wife. He calls her every day, worries about whether she's truly committed to their relationship, and becomes extremely jealous whenever another man even glances in her direction. According to Lee's theory, Will has a(n) _____ approach to love.

manic

In all but a small percentage of societies, the predominant form of marriage practiced by both men and women is

monogomy

According to Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, passion is the _____ component that consists of the drives that are involved in sexuality and romantic and physical attraction.

motivational

When going through a breakup, most people have to deal with emotional and social loneliness, dealing with their ex-partner still being around, and

obsessive review

"Love" is to companionate love as "in love" is to ________.

passionate love

Of all the varieties of love that have been identified, which one of the following has received the most attention from researchers?

passionate love

"I think I'd like to move to a place where I could have many husbands." The woman who made this statement prefers which marriage system?

polyandry

"I think I'd like to move to a place where I could have many wives." The man who made this statement prefers which marriage system?

polygamy

Melanie takes a very practical approach to love. She has a list of characteristics that she expects her future spouse to have, and she is very concerned that he reflect well on her family. She will not even consider going out with a man unless he meets these criteria. According to Lee's theory, Melanie has a(n) __________ approach to love.

pragmatic

People tend to emphasize attributes that reflect __________ in their friend and love relationships.

responsiveness

Which of the following describes the agapic love style?

selfless and unconditional

Which one of the following was listed as a key distinguishing feature between the experience of being "in love with" and "loving" another person (Myers & Berscheid, 1997)?

sexual desire

When Sally tells Harry, "I love you, but I'm just not in love with you," what is the distinction she is probably making?

she cares deeply for Harry but is not sexually attracted to him

Which of the following best describes the pragmatic love style?

shopping-list love

People tend to prefer potential partners who possess _____ demographic characteristics, _____ personality traits, and _____ attitudes and interests.

similar, similar, similar

Misty and Charlie first met 10 years ago in high school, and soon became friends. Over time, they gradually realized that their friendship had grown into love. They enjoy each other's company, spend most of their time together, and feel deep affection, trust, and respect for one another. According to Lee's theory, Misty and Charlie are _____ lovers.

storgic

The concept of "breadth of self-disclosure" refers to

the number of areas or topics that partners discuss

A good way to maintain similarity and minimize habituation is to embark on new activities together.

true

Erotic lovers seek to have an exclusive relationship with their partners.

true

For most couples, passion declines over time in their relationship.

true

Ludic lovers avoid commitment and treat love like a game.

true

Many cultures are experiencing a decline in the number of arranged marriages that take place.

true

Most people typically are in love with one person at a time.

true

Scholars have argued for centuries over whether different types of love exist.

true

Self-disclosure is related to partners' feelings of satisfaction, closeness, love, and commitment.

true

Sternberg believes that most of us strive for consummate love in our romantic relationships.

true

Sternberg's model of love says that all the different positive emotions (types of love) that people can have for other individuals can be understood by the combination of just three components.

true

When initially meeting someone, we tend to pay most attention to how that person looks.

true

In general, love theorists agree that adult romantic love is composed at a minimum of _____ varieties.

two