EXDM 300 Exam 4

repeated, coordinated, significant

"If family members can come and go from a ritual,__________________."

When we think of children and the gifts of nature, what is the third, more bountiful understanding of nature?

According to Paul, why do children want to play inside?

"The natural drift of daily life in contemporary America is toward slowly diminishing _________, _________, and ____________.

connection, meaning, and community

"As one scientist puts it, we can now assume that just as children need good nutrition and adequate sleep, __________."

contact with nature

What is the heart of community?

counting on one another's presence and support

What is the "every-other-time" ritual?

couples take turns initiating date ideas

Technology is about ______, _______, and ________, thereby ________.

cutting costs, expanding reach, and streamlining management, thereby improving overall performance

What is the third challenge of planning a family vacation?

decide duties and responsibilities of each family member beforehand

What may be the first order of business for Intentional families?

diminishing use of television in the home

What is John Freeman's recommendation on how to keep certain hours of the day screen-free?

do not check your email first thing in the morning or late at night

Describe the opposite of an intentional family.

entropic family: rituals lise their spark and then degenerate

True/False - According to Miyazaki, urban walks produce the same physiological benefits as walks in the forest.

false, walks in the forest produced a 12% learger decrease in cortisol levels

"Courting couples generally are _______________ than married couples."

far more intentional than married couples

What is the first and most obvious way to minimize a crowd?

find friend / family and have a conversation

What is the easiest way to start or upgrade family rituals?

find out things you already enjoy and find ways to make it more meaningful

What does McLuhan's principle of "Lower the Inner Thermostat" mean?

find ways to disconnect from technology in small but meaningful ways

What does the Japanese term shinrin yoku mean in English?

forest bathing

Why did the author's son feel he had missed out on something important?

he didn't go outside as often or explore unsupervised

What sort of rituals do religious communities have the resources to create?

help families affirm their bonds and heal from losses and life transitions

What are the steps couples can make to improve their anniversary ritual?

talk about it frequently (with spouse and others),plan special date or trip, talk about history or future w/ spouse

transition phase- switch from everyday cares to ritual enactment phase-actual rituals, purpose to give family a sense of mutual enjoyment and an exit phase-how you leave ritual space

What enhances the likelihood of a smooth transition to an intentional family meal?

adults go outside, kids stay inside

What is a habit one mother describes that explains why children are so distracted?

electricity is inside, nature is boring

What is the mantra among parents, grandparents, and other adults across the country?

weight of tradition and preserving independence

What is the most immediate challenge you will face with recommending new or different family rituals?

it looses its What are the keys to making a going-out activity a genuine ritual?

- on a regular basis - members know their roles and place in the activity - there is some feeling of connection

What are the key planning principles for family vacations (3 things)?

1. Discuss and consult with all family members 2. Pick destinations that kill 2 birds with 1 stone 3. Plan out trips for future so everyone gets a chance to experience favorite spots

What are the follow-up question you can ask regarding the areas of improvement you desire in your family rituals?

1.is a ritual missing where you would like one to be? 2. Where current ritual is lacking? 3. Is there too much responsibility on one member of the family? 4.balance between individual and family time?

1. Make something happen one time without major comment

2. Ask how others liked the new activity 3. Negotiate the specifics of the new ritual

When did family vacations become popular to more than just the very wealthy?

20th century

What is the average vacation length for Americans?

4.7 nights

"______% of all families with children attend a religious service...on a typical weekend."

41%

What was the approximate number of mobile phones in the world at the beginning of the century? What is it today?

500 million to 5 billion

Forests cover what percentage of the country's landmass?

68%

Why would a couple that lives together and sleeps together every night need to go on dates?

because they live together there is less meaningful time together

What are the most widely available sources of family rituals of community?

church

Explain Shakespeare's principle "Old tools of ease overload."

Don't assume that the newest tools are the best choice for a given task

In Tokyo, rush hour is so crowded that white-gloved workers help shove people onto the trains, leading to another unique term, tsukin jigoku, which means:

commuting hell

How did Seneca find inner distance?

Focusing on one idea or person and tuning out the rest of the world

false, at least the third

How does eating out become a ritual (3 things)?

In a high-tech research firm survey, what are the four different types included in the taxonomy of human connectedness?

Hyperconnected, Increasingly Connected, Passie Online, Barebones Users

predictability

In addition to the distractions of television and newspapers, what can interrupt conversation during a family dinner?

1. Highly ritualized family meals tend to be more satisfying 2. Flexibility is needed to keep these rituals from becoming oppressive 3. Even intentional families sometimes slip up

Intentional Families find a way to use meals to do what? What are the payoffs?

children lack curiosity

What did the fifth-grader who wanted to be a poet say about being in the woods?

Of the three reporters that were given a series of tourist challenges in Moscow, which one was most successful and won the overall challenge? Why did they win?

The low-tech contestant won because they relied on the kindness of strangers

feed their souls and bodies, Improved family connections

True/False: A ritual becomes a ritual by the second time you do something.

relatives will think you are trying to control the family unilaterally

What are some guidelines to consider when talking to your family members about changing rituals?

have their headphones in, they can't make their own entertainment

What are some of the barriers to going outside?

cell phones

What are the three lessons the Robinsons' dinner ritual experience demonstrates?

a dull routine or even a source of disenchantment

What are the three phases of family rituals?

create experience before proposing change

What are the three steps of using the indirect method to initiate ritual change?

"It is important to be _________ about becoming a more _________ Family." Intentional, intentional

What are the two reasons family rituals are difficult to institute or modify?

"If you are intentional about creating family rituals of religious community, you will ___________."

What are three things that provide children with the necessary foundation from which to gain something of value from their involvement in family religious activities? 1. Parents truly value rfamily rituals of religious community 2. Religious organization makes a good effort to reach out to children and youth 3. Parents have a clear, nondebatable policy regarding family participation

don't introduce proposed change without a discussion of why such as change might be helpful

What does it mean to follow an indirect route when changing family rituals?

Which scents will help us live longer?

What preoccupies Americans with our pull away from nature? The Nature Fix, Epilogue What was the major theme of The Nature Fix? How often does Qing Li recommend we spend in the forest? The access-to-nature movement ideally needs to grow out of: Once people value how important access to parks is for neighborhood well-being, what is the next step? What is the social function of family meals?

How does the author describe his connection with his mother following their phone conversation?

connection was stronger directly following the call then the conversation itself

bond and connect as family

Why do the D'Antonio children have mixed feelings about their family dinners?

the family dinners are non-accommodating, and full of criticism, leading to a negative atmosphere

Without an intentional approach, family meals can become what?

Explain Thoreau's principle of "Walden Zones."

a space without technology (doesn't have to be quiet and boring ex: treehouse, backyard

What does community ritual, like family rituals, require?

a willingness to be present and active no matter ow you are feeling that day

How could the Gutenberg principle be applied to the notebook computer?

airplane mode to shut out distractions

What does the author say the call he made to his mother represents?

all the useful tasks our screens enable each day

Last Child in the Woods, Chapter 1 What does nature do that is different from television?

amplifies time, not steal it

What is a strategy for reducing time online that involves friends and family?

asking them for latest news updates

What is the first step in working with family rituals in order to become a more Intentional Family?

assess your family's current rituals

What are the two principal challenges of family vacations?

how to plan them and how to handle concentrated time together

According to Yoshifumi Miyazaki, why do humans feel most comfortable in nature?

humans evolved in nature

What does the author equate love rituals to in his analogy of fuel tanks and marriages?

if you neglect to fill up your gas tank, your boat will run out of gas and you will drift into entropy

Recent research shows that the steady stress of urban living changes the brain in ways that can:

increase the odds of schizophrenia, anxiety, and mood disorders

What is one reason that South Korea has long ranked among the most connected countries on earth?

it is obsessed with online gaming

"Don't look for happiness, Richie

it'll only make you miserable." This statement reflects the ideals of which family type? Institutional family What is the Psychological Family based on, as opposed to the Institutional Family? Personal achievement and happiness, as opposed to family obligations What kind of new family replaced the old intentional and psychological family, and what new value does it add? Why does the text say we live in the best of time for families? We understand better than ever what makes families work and have the power to shape our family how we want (intentional family)

What is the philosophy of technology we're living by in this digital era?

it's good to be connected, and it's bad to be disconnected

Why is rushing to a movie and coming home right away not considered a date?

lacks concentrated time for a conversation

When did the precipitous decline in community involvement begin?

late 1960's

What is lacking in families who do not ritualize going out?

leadership and cooperation

What is an example that the author gives of how to make "escaping the chaos of digital life" "a kind of game"?

leave phone at home to see how people react when people can't reach you

What does Gutenberg's principle of "technologies of inwardness" mean?

limit tasks to one at a tine

Why are talk rituals important?

meaningful conversation will cease if not made into a ritual

What is an intentional family?

members create a working plan for maintaining and building family ties, and then implement the plan as best they can

What is the difference between men and women's attention to relationships after a few years of marriage?

men tend to work consciously on an intimate relationship when pursuing or salvaging a commitment

"In societies around the world, obtaining the very latest, fastest, most extreme version of connectedness isn't just a core individual goal, it's a _____ _____."

national ambition

What are the two different meanings of the word 'nature'?

natura meaning birth, and nasci meaning to be born

What do we use digital devices for?

nurture relationships, feed our emotional, social, and spiritual hungers, and think creatively and express ourselves

What are the three things a child can find in nature?

offers healing, blank slate, inspires creativity

After all, how do we spend most of our time and energy?

on the practical side of life

Once you have your own village what is an idea of what you can do with it?

organize get-togethers for trading tips about the tools of modern life

What does it mean to have "fictive kin"?

people not related by blood but are nevertheless regarded as family members

What is the Japanese word for 'stress'?

stress

What are the main ingredients in a marital date?

privacy, enjoyment, and conversation

What is the key step to take after you acknowledge that a family ritual is not working?

revisit the needs and values that the ritual was intended to serve

What did Robert Putnam's evidence say about television?

single most important source of decline in civic engagement since the 1960s

How does the term "bowling alone" relate to community rituals?

the decline in community in the United States since the 1960's

What is the increasing divide that this book explores?

the young and the natural world

"Parents, educators, other adults, institutions--the culture itself--may say one thing to children about nature's gifts, but _________________________."

their actions say different messages

What are some examples of Walden Zones in public places?

train car, restaurant, museum, movie theater

What does Franklin's principle of "Positive Rituals" mean?

use rituals based on positive goals to encourage good behavior and take control of your life

What are the first three major principles listed for successful rituals in Intentional Families? "Be intentional about your family life, your rituals, and your life in community. When this feels overwhelming, remember, ___________."

we are all in this together

What are the two essential benefits digital connectedness confers that are demonstrated by the phone call the author made to his mother?

we can get everyday jobs done more easily and nurture our minds, hearts and soul

The author says that many screen tasks have the potential for deeper impact and value, when does he say that potential becomes reality?

when there is time after a practical task to think

Who does the leadership in the Intentional Couple usually fall to when it shifts to one person?

woman

Why would drinking a hot drink be helpful with a couple's talk ritual?

you can't drink it too fast, but it takes a limited amount pf tome to drink before it gets cold