Friendship and love
Rules to maintain relationship
Volunteer help in time of need, trust and confide, show emotional support, not nag, disclose personal feelings and problems
Three types of friendships
Acquaintances, casual friends, close friends
Four stages of friendship
Childhood, adolescence , adult , elderly
Powells five levels of communication
Cliche, exchange facts, ideas and judgements, gut level communication, peak communication
Four main differences between love
Closer identity of interests and sharing of outcomes, more talk of reasons for initial attraction, more likely to formally celebrate anniversaries, more passionate and intimate
Most common types of love
Eros, Agape, Storge
Six categories of love
Eros, Ludis,Storge,Manic, Pragma, Agape
Acquaintances
Friendship where you may have dozens
Casual
Friendship where you volunteer to help, plan to get together
Close friends
Friendship with high intimate communications, more contact, backfires if forced or manipulated
Three basic needs met by friendship
Inclusion , Affection , Control
Mania
Intense , obsessive love
Types of love
Intimacy - Trust and caring Commitment- loyalty +devotion Passion- Excitement sexual passion
Cliche
Level of communication that is scripted to make contact
Peak communication
Level of communication where you disclose most personal thoughts
Gut level communication
Level of communication where you share emotions and feelings, usually good friends
Ludis
Pass time, temporary love
Eros
Passionate love
Friendship
Relationship that exists over time between people who share common history
Rules to establish relationship
Respect privacy and keep confidence. seek to repay debts, favours or compliments, be loyal
Agape
Spiritual idea of love, altruistic, unconditional giving
Pragma
compatibility based love, practical
Exchange facts
level of communication where you exchange non threatening information
Ideas and judgments
level of communication where you have more personal conversations
Inclusion
need for social contact
control
need for stability/ predictability and comfort
Affection
need to give and receive love, support warmth and intimacy
Storge
type of love we have for friends and family
Research
women more cautious entering relationship, men break off first
