inter personal midterm ch 5

turning points

any event or occurance that cuases a change in a relationship.

changes in family or social networks

changes in household- new step parents, siblings, ect. interference from a romantic partner- friends feeling left out bc you spend your time with new partner

events related to commitment and exclusivity

deciding to date only eachother.

Dimensions of self disclosure

depth and breadth, frequency and duration, valence and veracity (according to social penetration theory)- ONION THING

depth and breadth

depth- how personal or deep the communication is. breadth- how many topics the person feels free to discuss. as relationships develop they increase in breadth and then depth. 3 layers of self disclosure- superficial (name, age, ect), social (likes, dislikes, hopes, fears), core (deep stuff)

experimenting stage

exploratory stage. increasing breadth and frequency bu low depth. SMALL TALK. high in breadth and low in depth.

Risks associated with Self Disclosure

fear of exposure or rejection, fear of retalitation or angry attacks, fear of loss of control, fear of losing individuality,

Fear of Retaliation or Angry Attacks

fear that the partner might become angry or use what they dislcosed against them. ex if you confess a one night stand or admit to telling a lie you might think the partner will retaliate or withdraw from the relationship

crisis and conflict

first fight, withdraw from relationship, break ups, time of crisis can change relationship

events related to passion and romance

first kiss, first i love you's, first sex etc. romantic relationship transitions- when a friendship turns into a romantic relationship

frequency and duration

frequency- how often people self disclose, duration- how long people self disclose. "stranger on the plane phenomeon" low in frequency high in depth.

"coming together stages"

initiating stage, experimenting stage, intensifying stage, integrating stage, bonding stage, ordering and timing of stages

activities and special occasions

meeting the family, going on trips together,

First Dates

norms of first dates. how it is becoming more acceptable for women to ask out men. goals= having fun, reducing uncertainty, investigating romantic potential, developing friendship, engaging in sexual activity(leas common)

ordering and timing of stages

not everyone goes through these stages in orderly manner

integrating stage

now have become close. ready to present themselves as a coupe or dyad. not limited to romantic partners - friends can show themselves as a team also. attitudes and opinions may merge. can disclose openly about everything.

cohabitation

often just seen as another stage in a relationship. relationship stability- marital relationships are in general more stable than cohabitation. relational quality- time spent in relationship is abetter predictor of relational quality than if they live together before marraige. communication pattern- couples that live together before marraige report more conflict and violence

initiating stage

orientation stage. exchanging information that is low in depth and breadth by staying at the superficial level of the onion. greeting eachother and exchanging bits of information.

bonding stage

people declare their commitment publically to eachother usually through marraige.

liking-disclosure hypothesis

people will disclose more to people they like ex. you disclose more to your relational partners or friends.

proximety and distance

physical separation and reunions. children moving out of parent's home changes the dynamic of the relationship

fear of losing individuality

ppl fear losing their individuality or identity by being engulfed in a relationship

Fear of Loss of Control

ppl fear that if they do too much self disclosing they will lose control of their thoughts and feelings. ex a guy falls in love with a girl quickly but he doesn't tell her yet bc she might be freaked out and run away. OR the persos is scared the info they disclose will be told to others by the person they tell

intensifying stage

select few individuals. ppl emerge from experiemnting stage feeling special sense of connection and trust. ppl increase depth of self disclosure and start exchanging information on an emotional level. people feel freer to express negative self disclosure.

social penetration theory

self disclosure usually increases gradually as people develop their relationships

Fear of exposure or rejection

the fear that too much self disclosure will expose negative qualities and cause others to think poorly of them, or even reject them.

Valence and veracity

valence- positive/negative "charge" of the self-disclosure (if you share happy things with them or sad/angry things with the person). veracity- how honest or deceptive the self disclosure is, people exaggerating the truth about their qualities to someone they like.

disclosure-liking hypothesis

when a sender discloses to a reciever the reciever will like the sender more

perceptual changes

when attitudes change positively about someone but you arent sure why. or they change negatively and you don't know why

Self Disclosure

when people reveal something about themselves to others