Chapter 7

self-talk

is communication with ourselves

Guidelines to communicating emotion

Identify emotions chose whether and how to express emotions own your feelings monitor your self-talk adopt a rational emotive approach to feelings respond sensitively when others communicate emotions

Step 1 to rational emotive approach to feelings

Step 1 monitor emotional reactions

Step 2 to rational emotive approach to feelings

Step 2 identify commonalities in evens and experiences to which you respond emotionally

Step 3 to rational-emotive approach to feelings

Step 3 tune into your self-talk to dispute fallacies

Step 4 to rational-emotive approach to feelings

Step 4 using self-talk to dispute fallacies

organismic view of emotions

The theory that external phenomena cause physiological changes that lead us to experience emotions. Also called the James-Lange view of emotions.

cognitive labeling view of emotions

The theory that our feelings are shaped by the labels we apply to our physiological responses.

interactive view of emotions

The theory that social rules and understandings shape what people feel and how they express and withhold feelings.

perceptual view of emotions

The theory that subjective perceptions shape the meanings of external phenomena and the emotions we associate with them. Also called appraisal theory.

framing rules

define the emotional meaning of situations

feelings rules

tell us what we have a right to feel or what we are expected to feel in particular situations

emotional intelligence

the abililty to recognize feelings to judge when feelings are appropriate in which situation and when to communicate those feelings effectively

emotion work

the effort we invest to make ourselves feel what our culture defines as appropriate and not to feel what our culture defines as inappropriate in particular situations , expression of an emotion, often because of a role requirement, that a person does not really feel

rational emotive approach to feelings

using rational thinking to challenge and change debilitating emotions that undermine self-concept and self-esteem