Chapter 8: Love

Latent Intimacy is likely to...

increase initially then plateau as the relationship develops

While Manifest Intimacy is likely to...

increases at the beginning of the relationship then declines over time

Latent Intimacy

internal feelings of closeness and interpersonal warmth, which are not directly observable by others.

Passion

"Hot" component of love that consists of motivation and arousal. However, it is not limited to sexual arousal: Friends can experience excitement though activities or by just being together. Also includes motivational needs for affiliation, control, and self-actualization. Passion is also relatively unstable as relationships progress, with passion levels often fluctuating greatly during the course of a relationship. Passion and romance tend to be high during the initial stages of a relationship but then level off as the relationship becomes more predictable and less arousing Highly committed couples are likely to cycle back and forth in terms of passion

Different types of love

1. Infatuation 2. Empty Love 3. Romantic Love 4. Friendship Love 5. Consummate Love 6. Non-Love

Love Triangle Components

Intimacy Passion Commitment

Friendship Love

Intimacy + Commitment Love for family members and friends fits this description, as does love between romantic partners who have been together for a long time or consider themselves to be best friends more than lovers.

Intimacy

Intimacy is based on feelings of emotional connection and closeness Called the "warm" part of love Seen as most foundational to both love and liking. Liking is defined by intimacy alone

Empty Love

Only Commitment they have commitment but relatively low levels of intimacy and passion. Some long-term relationships fall into this category. For instance, if partners no longer feel attached to each other but stay together for religious reasons or because of the children, their love might be characterized as empty.

Romantic Love

Passion + Intimacy This type of love often characterizes initial stages of dating relationships, when two people are sexually attracted to each other and feel an intimate connection but have not yet fully committed themselves to the relationship.

Commitment

This component refers to the decision to love someone and the commitment to maintain that love. Because commitment is based on cognition and decision making, suggesting that commitment involves being there for someone over the long haul. commitment is most stable over time. In long-term relationships, commitment typically builds gradually and then stabilizes

Romantic Love + Friendship Love

When these two types of love are experienced together so that a relationship contains high levels of intimacy, passion, and commitment, people achieve consummate love.

Infatuation

only passion *not long lasting Infatuated individuals idealize the objects of their affection and imagine that their lives would be wonderful if they could develop a relationship with that person. Some researchers also argue that infatuation is blind because people downplay dissimilarities and other potential problems when they are infatuated with someone Because infatuation is based on the "hot" component of the love triangle, it is not surprising that infatuated individuals often fall in and out of love quickly, as their passion heats up and then cools down.

Manifest Intimacy

refers to how people communicate affection and closeness to someone, such as disclosing intimate feelings to a partner or spending extra time together.