COMM 445 CH. 3
Implicit egotism
we are attracted to others based on similarities in arbitrary thing like names, birth dates
Reinforcement model
we are attracted to similar others because they reinforce our view of the world as the correct perspective
Matching hypothesis
tendency to be attracted to people who are similar us in physical attractiveness
Qualities of the other
-what they bring to the interaction
Personal qualities
-what we bring to the interaction -our personality, needs, expectations, self-esteem, physical appearance, and level of communication skill
Ignorance is bliss explanation
People are happy with the way their low-skill partner communicates
The more similar others are to us, the more we will be attracted to them T/F?
TRUE (qualities of the pair)
Assimilation effect
The attention that physically attractive people get is transferred over to their friends
Interpersonal communication skills
These contribute to attraction: -warmth -kindness -sociability -competence -assertiveness
Altruistic and dominant men
These men are most appealing to women because of there assertiveness and willingness to do something boring
Subjective norms
attitudes of members of our social circle are the strongest predictor of our own attitudes -the feedback we receive plays a role in who we find attractive
Growth beliefs
based on the belief that impressions of others evolve over time and that people/relationships grow when challenged
Destiny beliefs
based on the idea that first impressions of others are fixed and enduring and that people can not change
Complementarity
better predictor of attraction and liking when linked to behavior or resources (not attitudes and values)
Reinforcement affect model
certain types of environments are more likely to make people feel good -people unconsciously associate the feelings they experience in a particular environment with the individual
Physical attraction
occurs when we are drawn to people's look or appearance
skill as culture explanation
people might consider their poor communication to be effective
Excitation transfer
people mistake the cause of their emotional arousal and attribute excitement to the second stimulus EX: unstable bridge study
Sour grapes explanation
people perceive high-skilled communication out of reach and settle
Differential importance explanation
people with low communication skills don't engage in communication very often and so they don't look for a high-skilled partner
Romeo and juilet effect
predicts that parental interference can strengthen attraction between two people -disapproval from parents causes more love between couple
Task attraction
refers to our desire to work with someone to fulfill instrumental goals EX: people you would like to work on a group project with
Attachment styles
reflect how people view themselves and their relationship with others
Sexual attraction
reflects the desire to engage in sexual activity with someone -typically accompanied with sexual arousal
Social attraction
reflects the feeling that we would like to be friends with someone
Loss-gain effect
reflects what happens to attraction when a person's behavior moves from positive to negative or vice versa -people are attracted to consistency even if negative
Qualities of the pair
similarities and differences between relational partners across a range of characteristics
Perceptions of reward value
the most powerful influence on our attraction to others -relates to our OWN interpersonal needs and preferences -what qualifies as rewarding varies from one person to another
Proximity
the reason why people at work or neighbors develop relationships easily
Halo effect
the tendency to perceive physically attractive people as more sociable
Fatal attraction
the very qualities that draw us to someone eventually contribute to relational breakup
Interaction appearance theory
theory that people believe perceive others as more physically attractive if they have warm, positive interactions with them
Secure individuals
these people are comfortable alone and in a relationship
Fearful avoidant individuals
these people fear intimacy and lack self-confidence
Dismissive individuals
these people people prefer to be alone and are unmotivated to develop/maintain relationships
Preoccupied individuals
these people want intimacy and fear being alone
Attitudinal similarity
when people are similar in attitudes, beliefs, and values -differences between actual and perceived similarity
Qualities of the physical or social environment
where the interaction takes place and feedback from friends and family
