Gay Slang

Dental Dam

thin piece of latex that covers the vulva during cunnilingus or the anus during analingus

otter

thinner, hairier gay man

Queen

(usually effeminate) gay man

Power Bottom

Dominant in bed, but receives rather than gives

spaggetti

Someone who is straight until in a sexual situation with the same sex

Bed Death

The stereotypical idea that relationships between two women will eventually lead to a sexless life.

Celesbian

a famous lesbian

closet queen

a gay man who hides his sexuality

gym bunny

a gay man who works out a lot for aesthetic purposes

bear

a gay man with lots of body and facial hair (usually older)

chapstick lesbian

a lesbian that is either a) in between butch and lipstick or b) fluctuates between femininity and masculinity

U-Haul

a lesbian who becomes way too attached too quickly

pillow princess

a lesbian who doesn't participate

Stone Butch

a masculine or "butch" lesbian who prefers not to be sexually touched and whose sexuality is focused on pleasing her partner

Butch Lesbian

a more masculine lesbian, often wearing leather, man spreading and taking the traditionally masculine roles in the relationship (also called stud or diesel)

nibling

a non-binary sibling

non-binary (aka NB)

a person who doesn't identify as strictly feminine or masculine but instead somewhere in the middle or fluctuating

Kinsey Scale

a spectrum on a scale of 0 6 to describe the type of sexual desire within an individual. 0 Completely Heterosexual - 6: Completely Homosexual.

Twunk

a twink but muscular and maybe taller

Lipstick Lesbian

lesbian that has feminine features and enjoys dressing in traditional female attire (also called femme or high femme)

MTF

male to female- born male but see themselves as partly to fully feminine

mcm

man crush monday

bicurious

A curiosity about having sexual relations with a same gender/sex person.

Goldstar Lesbian

A lesbian who has never had a relationship with a man

wcw

Woman Crush Wednesday

chosen family

a group of individuals who deliberately choose one another to play significant roles in each other's lives.

Twink

a younger looking gay man with less body hair, often smaller

baths

bath houses frequented by gay (usually men) to have lots of sex (often orgys)

Tape / taping

binding with (skin toned) medical tape so you can go shirtless or mostly shirtless

FTM

female to male- born female but see themselves as partly to fully masculine

verse/ switch

someone that can either be a top or a bottom depending on their partner, can have a prefereance

daddy

typically an older gay man

Queer

umbrella term for those who do not identify as straight/ cis gender

Queer baiting

when media uses close relationships between people of the same sex to trick queer people into seeing them (ie sherlock)

polyamorous / polysexual

having romantic/ sexual attraction or relationships with more than one person at once

disphoria

the feeling of gender not fitting with sex; can be anywhere from physically painful to uncomfertable

top

the inserting sexual partner, gives rather than receives

gayby

children of gay couples

Dyke

common slang word to refer to a more masculine lesbian. It was originally used as a slur, but after the Vietnam War in the 1970s, lesbians began to reclaim it.

campy

effeminate (gay men)

wolf

falls between the Twink and the Bear

sapphic

of or relating to lesbians or lesbianism

binding

process done by transgender or non-binary people with biologically female bodies to reduce perceived breast size (can cause serious damage to rib cage and chest)

a friend of Dorothy

term (used mostly by gay men in the 80s) to mean someone is gay too

bottom

the receptive sexual partner, receives rather than gives

lavender linguistics

the study of how gay people talk

unicorn

the third person joining an already established relationship, making it polyamurus / polysexual

baby dyke

title given to a woman who has just come out of the closet and started becoming a part of the lesbian community.

Passing

when people recognize you as the gender you identify as

wlw

women who love women (bi/pan/lesbian women)

baby butch

young masculine lesbian

cubs

younger hairy men (like bears but younger)