Interpersonal Comm Final (Ch. 1-4; 9-12)

All of the following are included in the five principles of interpersonal conflict EXCEPT:

Conflict is typically destructive for individuals and relationships

Conflict is inherently negative

False

Direct definitions, self-fulfilling prophecies, attachment styles, and identity scripts are all ways that the generalized other influences our self-concept

False

In the U.S., the percentage of love focuses on passionate feelings over other qualities

False

Most friendships end abruptly rather than slowly deteriorating

False

The language we choose to describe our relationships has little effect on how we feel about those relationships.

False

Unlike other relationships, dual perspective is unimportant in communication between friends

False

That feeling of closeness, connection, tenderness are associated with which dimension of love?

Intimacy?

Americans have historically seen raising children as a primary objective of marriage, but it is no longer seen as the only goal of marriage

True

An individual's style of loving can be influenced by the love style of her or his partner

True

An individual's style of loving can be influenced by the love style of his or her partner

True

Qualities that set committed relationships apart from other close relationships include:

assumed permanence

All of the following are part of the process of human perception EXCEPT

imagination

The tendency to overestimate the internal causes and underestimate external causes of others' undesirable behaviors is part of:

the fundamental attribution error

According to research discussed in Chapter 1, for intimates, talking about a vision of a shared future is

the most powerful tie that links people

The most active and interpersonally constructive response to relational conflict is the ______ response

voice

All of the following are guidelines for improving perception and communication EXCEPT:

​Focus on inferences rather than facts

"Friends of the heart" are friends

who stay friends in spite of time and distance

Manjeet notices that she is the only person who has not spoken in a group conversation. She reminds herself to be involved and to show she's interested in the group's talk, so she speaks up. Manjeet's noticing and changing her communication to be more effective in the situations is an example of:

Monitoring

In African American families headed by single women, daughters frequently exhibit greater self-reliance and self-esteem than their Caucasian counterparts

True

In Korea, people are more likely than Westerners to perceive the ages of people with whom they communicate because age is an important aspect of identity in Korean culture

True

In friendships, it is best to let go of minor irritations

True

Interpersonal communication is both selective and systemic

True

It is important to gain access to information in our blind and unknown areas. One way to do this is to expand our experiences by entering unfamiliar situations, trying novel things, and experimenting with new kinds of communication.

True

Perception is an active process

True

Physiological noise is distraction caused by hunger, fatigue, headaches, medications and other factors that affect how we feel and talk.

True

Research has shown that forgiveness is a major influence on how or whether relationships progress

True

Researchers have shown that many people who engage in violence against romantic partners lack the communicative skills to constructively manage emotions and conflicts

True

Sexual orientation doesn't seem to be a major influence on how people see and deal with conflict:

True

Regulative rules do not vary across cultures and social groups, so what is acceptable in one context is typically acceptable anywhere

False

Researchers found that people who are highly anxious about attachments are less likely to have relationship problems in collectivist cultures

False

Since there are no formal standards for friendships, there are also no consistent ideas for what counts as a friend or patterns of interaction between friends

False

The likelihood of sustaining a long-distance friendship depends in part on socioeconomic class

False

The majority of our interactions involve I-It communication

False

The meanings we assign to behavior in romantic relationships are entirely individualistic

False

Which technique involves reminding ourselves that our evaluations of people apply only to specific times and circumstances?

Indexing

Considering the typical life cycle of families with children, the fifth stage is usually:

Launching children

If a coworker tells you that your new boss is patient and hardworking, you will be more likely to overlook these qualities in your new boss.

False

Intimate friends tend to be friends of the road

False

It is best to address conflict right away, even if one person is tired or you're in a public setting

False

Lack of conflict is the biggest indicator of a healthy relationship

False

Men and boys are more likely to use social media as a venue for self-development

False

People rarely cooperate in helping one another maintain face

False

Race is no longer a consequential aspect of identity in America today

False

The majority of Mediterranean cultures regard lively conflict as normal, valuable part of everyday life

true

Beginning in the late 1700s or early 1800s, most people in the U.S. picked mates based on love and companionship

True

Marriage is occurring later in life than it used to

True

Men tend to prefer offering advice about problems while women tend to prefer offering empathy before trying to help solve the problem

True

Misunderstandings between friends arise out of our interpretations of others' behaviors, not the behaviors themselves

True

New acquaintances tend to rely on general scripts and stereotypes in their interactions

True

One advantage to conflict in digital environments is that it is easy to step back and choose to resolve when we have cooled off

True

The term conformity orientation refers to the extent of which family members are expected to share the same beliefs

True

While not the basis of most female-female friendships, women do engage in instrumental activities such as doing favors with their friends

True

the likelihood of meeting the needs Maslow discussed depends on our ability to participate effectively in a very diverse social world

True

________ language tends to be accusatory and abstract

You

Three primary styles of love are:

eros, storge, and ludos

self-actualization is the need that humans generally try to address first

false

A stereotype is an unscientific generalization applied to a person or situation

False

Stereotyping and totalizing are essentially the same process

False

The I and ME aspects of self are opposing forces

False

Which kind of love sees love as a game?

Ludus

Love would be placed in which level of Maslow's Hierachy of Needs?

Self-esteem

If you show your love for a family member by doing chores without being asked, which love language do you rely on?

Service

According to the book, all of the following are guidelines for interpersonal communication competence EXCEPT:

Encourage your imagination

Which type of family has high conversation orientation and high conformity orientation

Consentual

"When you said my idea was stupid, I felt hurt" is an example of ________ language

I

Jenema is walking in a mall and a homeless person approaches her and asks for money. Jenema keeps walking without speaking to or looking at the person. The relationship between Jenema and the homeless person is:

I-It

Which of the following statements is true about violence and abuse in romantic relationships?

Many people do not report violent or abusive incidents/

Which statement is true of families?

More people are choosing to remain unmarried than ever before

According to a study conducted by Bachen and Illouz(1996), most Americans' prototype of enduring romance reflects media emphasis on acquisition of material goods to support a leisure lifestyle:

True

Couple counselor Aaron Beck(1988) reports that overly general language distorts how partners think about a relationship

True

Couple satisfaction seems especially affected by equity in housework and childcare

True

Disagreement and conflict are strongly disapproved in many Asian cultures

True

Language can change culture by naming things that alter understandings

True

Language can change culture by naming things in way that alter understandings

True

Information that we know about ourselves but choose not to reveal to most others is found in which area of the Johan Window?

hidden

The three secondary styles of love are:

pragma, mania, and agape

Most adults have the same level of cognitive complexity.

False

Corey thinks that people who are outgoing are also friendly, confident, and fun. Corey's assumption that outgoing people are also friendly, confident and fun is an example of _________ at work

Implicit personality theory

A common instance of conflicting punctuation is the demand-withdraw pattern

True

Individuals with _______ attachment styles tend to feel less hope, disclose less, and experience less satisfaction with relationships than people with other attachment styles

fearful

Communication about communication is:

metacommunication

The ________ model of interpersonal communication is most accurate because it emphasizes the multiple roles that people take during the communication process

transactional

Communication does not reflect values and perspectives

False

People with this love style are likely to self-disclose early a relationship, be very sentimental, and fall in love fast

Eros

Bracketing involves interrupting in order to get clarification during conflict

False

In which level of communication do people acknowledge one another as people but don't fully engage each other as unique individuals?

I-You Communication

Prototypes, personal constructs, stereotypes and scripts are cognitive schemes that we use to organize our perception of people and phenomena.

True

Since American culture empgasizes technology and speed, most Americans expect things to happen very quickly

True

Social media allows parents to track and monitor their children in new ways

True

Speech communication are not necessarily defined by geographic location and boundaries.

True

Teachers, peers, and family members are all examples of particular others.

True

A key foundation for improving your self concept is:

accepting the self as in the process and able to change

Edmund is very attentive and supportive to his son Mylan is sober, but when Edmund drinks he often ignores his son and sometimes verbally abuses him. Mylan never knows which way his father will. If the father is Mylan's primary care giver. Mylan is likely to develop which attachment style?

anxious-ambivalent

Monica and Chandler have an argument over whose turn it is to clean their house. In the heat of the argument, Chandler calls Monica a 'slob'. Then, Monica calls Chandler a 'self centered moron'. Later, after they have made up, Chandler tries to apologize to Monica. However, Monica is still hurt and complains that no matter what Chandler says now he must have meant what he said. According to the communication principles, Chandler doesn't realize that:

interpersonal communication is irreversible

In the _____________ phase of romantic relationship deterioration, relational partners may begin to consider alternatives to the relationship

intrapsychic

The _________ stages of constructive conflict is marked by what Gottman calls agenda building

middle

In terms of love styles, all of the following statement are true EXCEPT:

one's love style is permanent throughout life

Which dimension of love involves the intensely positive feelings and fervent desire for the other person

passion

After the first few married years, most couples experience a dip in marital satisfaction:

regardless of whether or not they have children

Devin is surprised when his friend burps and belches after their dinner together. Devin says, "Burping and belching is so rude." Devin's perceptions of his friend's behavior is based on a(n) ________ rule

regulative

Deciding what to pay attention to is part of the _______ process.

selection

For individuals socialized in feminine speech communities, closeness in interpersonal relationships is primarily achieved through:

dialogue

After performing a comprehensive job search, job seekers put together a resume, write a cover letter, and then go on job interviews. This situation best exemplifies:

scripts

Janet says, "I didn't get a job offer because the interviewer was biased and it was a nasty day, it had nothing to do with my qualifications." This is an example of:

self-serving bias

Mariko used so much jargon in her presentation that most people in the audience couldn't understand her. This is an example of what kind of noise?

semantic

Reflected appraisal and direct definitions are important in shaping our self concept in childhood, but do not affect us in adulthood

False

Today, as our society struggles with changes in women, men, and families, the ideals of manhood are being revised yet again

True

Charles says, "I would never join a fraternity. All fraternities do is party." Charles' statement is an example of a(n)

stereotypes

All families follow the same seven stages of development

False

Who were the first to use the term "white" to describe a racial group in the that is now the U.S.?

Europeans when they colonized the U.S.

According to Fitzpatrick's(1988) research on relationship types, all couples fit into the categories of traditionals, independents, or separates

False

Communication is considered interpersonal only when it occurs between just two people

False

If friends become sexually attracted to each other, it is best to end the friendship at that point

False

Men don't disclose personal feelings or vulnerabilities to their friends

False

The win-win conflict style is the best approach for every relationship and situation

False

When friendships deteriorate or suffer serious violations, communication changes in unpredictable ways

False

Women are more likely than men to use coercive tactics, both verbal and physical, to avoid discussing problems and to force their resolutions on others.

False

passion is the primary foundation for enduring romance

False

A common instance of conflicting punctuation is the demand-withdraw pattern.

True

A majority of lesbian couples create more egalitarian relationships than do either homosexuals or gay men

True

A personal construct is a 'mental yardstick' we use to measure a person or situation along a bipolar dimension of judgement.

True

All facets of our identities, such as race, ethnicity, gender, and socioeconomic class, interact.

True

The content meaning of an utterance is the literal, denotative meaning

True

The hypothesis that the U.S. is classless has been disproved by the fact that most people seek romantic partners of their own social class or above it

True

We follow communication rules even when we are not consciously aware of them

True

When people become friends, the touchstone of that stage is the assumption of continuity

True

Constructive conflict communication includes:

Agenda building

During an argument about money, Desi says, "Well if you hadn't wrecked the car, it wouldn't need repairs and money wouldn't be a problem." Consuela replies, "Yeah, and if you had been home when you said you'd be, I wouldn't have driven that day." Desi and Consuela are engaging in what conflict pattern?

Cross-complaining

Miguel tries to concentrate during a class lecture, but he can't get his mind off a personal problem. His preoccupation with his personal problem is an example of ______ noise

Psychological

Which of the following is NOT a regulative rule of interpersonal communication?

Speaking is a show you care about more

According to Braithwaite et al., which type of voluntary kin replaces biological and legal family?

Substitute

According to Braithwaite et al., which type of voluntary kin fulfills desires and needs not met by biological and legal family?

Supplemental family

During the ______________ stage, a couple settles into marriage or a cohabiting relationship and works out expectations, interaction patterns, and daily routines for their shared life

establishing a family

Describing his romantic relationship, Bob says, "I fell in love the moment I saw Doreen. It was a classic case of love at first sight, and I still light up whenever I see her" Bob seems to have which style of loving?

eros

Ngoc and Nikole have been friends for many years and share a high level of trust. Their friendship is best described as being in the ______ stage.

stabilized friendship

Darryl thinks, "Marie was happy because she's a cheerful person." Darryl's thought is a(n):

stable and specific attribution

Of her marriage Myra says "It wasn't like we ever really *fell* in love. It was more like we grew together kind of gradually. I think of my husband as my best friend" Myra seems to have which style of loving?

storge

a comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility is:

storge

The most active and interpersonally constructive responsive to relational conflict is the _________ response.

voice

"Friends of the heart" are friends:

who stays friends in spite of time and distance

Zach believes that in conflict situation the goal is to find a solution that all those involved can accept. Zach's orientation to conflict is best described as:

win-win

Clifford Notarius (1996) identified the following three key elements that influence satisfaction in long-term relationships

words, thoughts, and emotions