SELF LEADERSHIP CH 3
Abraham Maslow quote
"A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be" EX: Blake Mycoskie, founder of TOMS
"Goal"
"the end toward which effort is directed"
Checklist for Self-Goal-Setting
- Conduct a self-analysis to help you establish your purpose and related long-term goals (see the self-goal-setting exercise). - Establish long-term goals for your life and career—for example, what do you want to be doing and where do you want to be in ten years? In twenty years? - Establish short-term goals for your immediate efforts. - Keep your goals specific and concrete. - Make your goals challenging but reasonable for your abilities. - When feasible, let others know about your goals to provide you with added incentive to achieve them."
Mental level of self reward
internal speech and our imagination
Self-observation
involves determining when, why, and under what conditions we use certain behaviors EX: Peyton Manning, Elon Musk
Self-set goals
need to address long-range pursuits and short-run objectives along the way EX: Will Smith building a wall brick by brick
Physical level of self reward
reward ourselves with objects or activities that we desire EX: favorite food, shopping, watching TV
The cement that makes up the foundation for self-imposed control
self-awareness (the information we possess about ourselves)
_, _, and _ suffer if we consistently self-criticize
self-esteem, enthusiasm, and enjoyment in life
Goals are most effective for managing our immediate behavior when they are:
specific and challenging yet achievable
Realistic and achievable goals...
tend to be most effective and motivational
behavior-focused strategies used in isolation may not always be effective, especially when...
the task is not intrinsically motivating and lacks congruence with an individual's values, goals, and personal identity
Undesirable desirables
unappealing but necessary tasks
Using Reminders and Attention Focusers
using physical objects to remind us of, or to focus our attention on, things we need to do EX: making a list of pending tasks
Self-goal setting
what we strive toward, both in our long-term life achievements and on a daily basis, influences our behavior
We have a choice between focusing on _ and thus _ and focusing on _ and thus _
what we've done right, building ourselves up what we've done wrong, getting down on ourselves former is more effective
Increasing Positive Cues
increasing the cues that lead to positive behaviors EX: posted safety record, reminders on sticky notes, paperclip jar, coworkers themselves
Checklist for Self-Punishment
- Identify behaviors that create guilt.Identify your actions that result in self-critical feelings. - Identify your destructive self-punitive tendencies. - Work on reducing or eliminating habitual, destructive patterns of self-punishment. - Try alternative strategies to self-punishment for dealing with your negative behavior, such as the following: -- Identify and remove rewards that support your negative behavior. -- Establish rewards for behaviors that are more desirable than your negative behaviors and that could be substituted for them. - In general, reserve self-punishment for only your very wrong, seriously negative behaviors."
Checklist for Practice
- Identify especially important upcoming challenges. - Note the important components of these future challenges. - Physically practice these key components (for example, practice an important oral presentation, focusing special effort on the key points to be made). - Mentally practice key components while thinking about possible improvements in the performance plan. - Pair your practice with rewards (for example, while mentally going over a future challenge, imagine a positive, rewarding outcome resulting from your actions)."
Checklist for Self-Observation
- Identify the behaviors that you feel are especially important for you either to increase or to reduce. - Keep a record of the frequency and duration of these important behaviors. - Note the conditions that exist when you display these behaviors. - Identify other important factors concerning these behaviors—for example, the time of day or week you tend to display them, and who is present at the time. - When possible, keep a written record of your self-observations, but try to keep the process simple enough that you will not be discouraged from using it."
Checklist for Self-Reward
- Identify what motivates you (for example, objects, thoughts, images). - Identify your behaviors and activities that you believe are especially desirable. - Reward yourself when you successfully complete an activity or engage in desirable behavior. Potential rewards you can use include the following: -- Desired physical objects or activities, such as an expensive dinner, a night out on the town, a cup of coffee or a snack, or time reading a good book -- Enjoyable or praising thoughts, such as thinking to yourself that you performed well and reminding yourself of future benefits you might receive from continued high performance -- Pleasant images, such as imagining yourself in your favorite vacation spot - Develop the habit of being self-praising and self-rewarding for your accomplishments."
Checklist for Using Cues
- Use physical cues to remind you of your important tasks—for example, make lists to guide your daily activities. - Establish cues to focus your attention on important behaviors and tasks—for example, place helpful signs around your work area that focus your thinking in desired ways. - Identify and reduce or eliminate negative cues in your work environment—for example, remove objects you find distracting. - Identify and increase positive cues in your work environment. - Wherever possible, associate and surround yourself with people who cue your desirable behavior.
Practice
- by going over activities before we are called on to perform them when it counts, we can detect problems and make corrections - both physical (verbal practice) and mental levels (go over key points in mind) - can be paired with self-rewards EX: Muhammad Ali
Self-Punishment
- focuses on decreasing undesired rather than increasing desired results - takes place at physical and mental level - research indicates it is not an effective strategy for controlling behavior
Purpose
- key aspect of self goal setting - our reason for being, our aim in life, our reason for getting up in the morning - established our ultimate long-term goals
Self-reward
- one of the most powerful methods we can use to lead ourselves to new achievements - capable of rewarding ourselves at both physical and mental levels
Self-Imposed Behavior-Focused Strategies
- self-observation - self-goal-setting
2 general approaches to strategy
- strategies that alter the world and the way it affects us in a beneficial way (world-altering behavior-focused) - strategies that we directly impose on ourselves to influence our own behavior (self-imposed behavior-focused)
World-Altering Behavior-Focused Strategies
- using reminders and attention focusers - removing negative cues - increasing positive cues
Richard Leider 3 fundamental questions for purpose
- who am I? - what am I meant to do here? - what am I trying to do with my life?
Real-World Self-Leadership Case
Roger Bannister - originally got 4th place in Olympic relay and came back to beat the record of a 4 minute mile
Self-leadership movie examples
Shawshank Redemption, Rudy Ruettiger
Self leader, self-goal setting examples
Wrestler Kyle Dake Taylor Swift
Before we can set the goals we need to reach to achieve our ends, we must first...
engage in the self-analysis necessary to understand what we want out of life
Removing Negative Cues
if we can identify the things in our world that encourage our undesired behaviors, then we can remove or alter those elements EX: moving away from the TV to study
Self-Corcordance
occurs when a person's individual values are congruent with the tasks they must perform
By finding your purpose, you will be better able to _
organize your life and thus experience the pinnacle of happiness and productivity
