Attachment Styles

Attachment Styles

Parents or primary care givers communicate who we are by how they interact with us, or their Attachment Styles. These patterns determines our communication in future relationships.

Dismissive Attachment Style

is also promoted by caregivers who are disinterested, rejecting, or abusive toward children. Child has an alternative response to fear. Child develops a positive view of him/herself and a defensive/negative view of others and relationships.

Fearful Attachment Style

is cultivated when the caregiver in the first bond communicates in negative, rejecting, or even abusive ways to the child. Child becomes apprehensive about relationships, afraid of subsequent abuse, neglect, or rejection.

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style

is the most complex and is fostered by inconsistent treatment from the caregiver. Child replicates the inconsistencies of previous environment. Becomes obsessed with relationships. They invite and deny affection inconsistently.

Secure Attachment Style

is the most positive. This style develops when the caregiver responds in a consistently attentive and loving way to the child. Child grows up to be outgoing and affectionate. Can handle challenges and disappointments of relationships without losing self esteem.