CFS 320 Exam 3

Conflict style consists of two partially competing goals: ____________- concern for self and ___________- concern for other

assertivness; cooperativeness

Gottman's conflict types: __________- abhor negative messages and go to any length to keep from engaging in conflicts

conflict avoider

Step-family Typologies: ___________- higher expressiveness, very highest levels of dissension/avoidance

conflictual

_________- everyone in family follows same pattern, has to act or live a certain way

conformity orientation

Types of decision making processes: ____________- discussion until agreement is reached

consensus

_________- family more open to change and talking about different lifestyles

conversation orientation

___________- concern for others

cooperativeness

______________- passive conflict behaviors (burned dinner, not showing up, etc)

covert destructive conflict

___________- asymmetrical pattern of behavior; one partner pressures other through emotional demands and complaints, while the other retreats through withdrawal, avoidance, and passive inaction

demand/withdrawal pattern

__________- bargaining, reasoning, or asking

direct influence

___________ messages- the silent treatment; used to try to take the one-up power position

disconfirming

_______________- both partners have careers and expect to advance

dual-career couple

___________- both employed, but one or both work in careers that do not offer the promise of professional advancement

dual-earner couple

_____________- sub-ordination of personal interests to the values/goals of the family

familism

_____________- reoccurring patterns of behavior that develop as family members interact and create shared meanings and negotiate what behaviors to preform

family roles

Stages of ongoing conflict: ___________- aftermath stage; includes the reactions that follow active conflict and affect future interactions

follow-up stage

Stages of ongoing conflict: __________- one or more family members become frustrated because someone or something blocks them from satisfying a need or concern

frustration awareness stage

Step-family Typologies: ____________- moderately high involvement/expressiveness, moderately low dissension (children think of step-parents as their friends)

functional

Children may _______ power through specialized skills

gain

factors affecting influence strategy use:

gender, family norms, expectations, sex of parents/age of child

_____________- an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties, who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals

interpersonal conflict

_____________- one who specializes in keeping family members connected

kin keeper

_________- allows families to endure over time

kin work

Aspects of interpersonal conflict: __________- one (or more) person's belief about the goals of the other person

perceptions

Types of resources: ______________- refer to a family member's individual characteristics that afford certain kinds of power, such as personality, physical appearance, and role competence

personal resources

Gender organized couple types: ___________- choose to perceive one another as having equal responsibility and equal power in all household/child rearing tasks

post-gender

___________- ability (potential or actual) to change the behavior of other family members

power

__________- power emanates from resources that are used by family members as they attempt to exert control in specific situations

power bases

_________- how power is used in family interactions

power processes

Stages of ongoing conflict: ____________- present in the absence of conflict but, under pressure or stress, come into play (role expectations, competition over resources, unhealthy dependency, problematic decision making)

prior conditions

Specific Role Functions and Family Responsibilities: ___________- maintaining relational ties and managing the daily lives and needs of all members

providing for kinship maintenance and family management

Specific Role Functions and Family Responsibilities: ____________- aiding in tasks to become self-sufficient

proving for individual development

___________- family members try to group their complaints around a conflicting point

segmentation

Fitzpatrick's couple types: ___________- desire differentiated space, maintain distance from all people (even spouse), avoid conflicts, low togetherness and low autonomy

separates

________- argumentative episodes that focus on a particular issue over time; often arise from violated expectations, different perspectives on the relationship, or different value/belief systems

serial argument

_________- those persons you view as important, who provide you with models to develop your own role expectations

significant others

__________- responsibilities from one domain carry over into another domain

spillover

Models of martial power (David Olson) One Spouse Dominant __________- authority shared; joint decision-making __________- authority divided into different areas

syncratic; autonomic

Gottman's conflict types: __________- comfortable with disagreement and lack of harmony; question over roles leads to open conflict

volatile

Gotten says it is important to know ____________________ when using influence

when to consent/give in

Mix types of Fitzpatrick's couple types account for ____% and pure types for ______%

40; 60

_____________- couples move away from intimacy when one member becomes anxious or fearful, leading to conflict and separation; then one partner makes an attempt to patch up differences due to desire for intimacy

Feldman's intimacy-conflic theory

____________- focuses on discovering how a family allocates and manages family responsibilities

McMaster model of family functioning

Types of decision making processes: ___________- some family members consent to a decision not because they agree but because they believe further discussion will be unproductive

accommodation

Stages of ongoing conflict: ___________- conflict occurs in series of verbal/nonverbal messages

active conflict stage

____________- rely heavily on emotions or feelings

affective decisions

Types of resources: _____________- reflect involvement, commitment, nurturing, and the power to give or withhold affection

affective resources

___________- more closely associated with marital satisfaction then decision-making power

agenda-setting power

Step-family Typologies: _________- high dissension, moderate involvement/expressiveness

ambivalent

____________- elements of male+female. can be both; instrumental and expressive

androgynous

_________- one person advocates for one discourse or perspective and another advocates for an opposing discourse

antagonistic discourse

_________- concern for self

assertiveness

Step-family Typologies: ___________- low dissension, high involvement/expressiveness

bonded

_____________- fulfill reciprocal role functions

complementary others

Stages of ongoing conflict: __________- how conflict episodes are managed or solved determines the outcome and whether positive or negative results follow

Solution or non-solution stage

Four horsemen of the apocalypse: _________- focuses on the person's character, not the behavior

criticism

_________- responding to another's complaint or criticism with one of your own, ignoring the person's point

cross-complaining

_________- one partner yells/complains then the other responds

cyclic alternation

_______________- housekeeping, childcare, recreation, managing family finances

daily needs

____________- process by which family members make choices, reach judgments, or arrive at solutions

decision making

_________- situation in which there is no shared framework that can serve the arguers as a common standard point of reference; irresolvable

deep disagreement

Types of decision making processes: ______________- when discussion reaches a halt and one member acts in the absence of a clear decision

defacto

Types of resources: ____________- refer to the monetary control exerted by family members as persons designated to make financial decisions

economic resources

__________________ communication forms the basis for responsible family problem-solving and decision-making

effective and competent

Step-family Typologies: _________- moderately high dissension, moderately low involvement

evasive

Aspects of interpersonal conflict: ___________- all parties must be aware of its existence

expressed struggle

5 categories of McMaster model of family functioning:

gender socialization/sexual needs nurturing/emotional support individual development kinship maintenance/family management basic resources

Gender organized couple types: __________- do not overtly recognize gender s the reason for their division of labor, but use it by default

gender-legacy

Factors affecting decision-making: ________ and illness

health

Phases in decision making:

identification/clarification of the problem alternatives consensus-building decision

___________- often delegated by the person with orchestration power

implementation power

Fitzpatrick's couple types: ____________- accept uncertainty/change, pay little attention to societal traditions, high autonomy, more frequent conflict, flexible sex-roles

independents

__________- hinting, withdrawal

indirect influence

Factors affecting decision-making: ______________- example: adolescent children may not stick around for parents' discussion about buying a new refrigerator

individual investment/resources

______________- occurs then family members use their power to try to change or modify each other's behavior or beliefs

influence

___________- problem-solving about a practical or functional issue (such as who will drive the kids to their activities)

instrumental decisions

Components of the _____________________ to role development- the identity, cultural background, role models of the person who occupies a social position; relationships in which the person interacts; changes each family member experiences throughout life cycle/life stages; effects of members' role performance on family system; extent to which identity is defined/enhanced by the role

interactional approach

__________- roles/behaviors emerge through family interactions

interactional perspective

Aspects of interpersonal conflict: ___________- the outcome of the conflict will affect the family system

interdependent

Often the spouse with the strongest emotional involvement in the relationship is ______ powerful

less

_________- reflect dialectical contradictions, but they do not lead to interpersonal conflict

non antagonistic discourse

Types of resources: _______________- refer to the family's values and to the cultural or societal expectations of where authority lies

normative resources

__________ messages- often used as control tactics; "I don't care what you say"

rejecting

Stages of ongoing conflict: _________- occurs when a reoccurring conflict no longer exists; it no longer affects the family

resolution stage

___________- anything perceived as rewarding to individual or relationship

resources

_________- occurs when competing demands are made on an individual in the fulfillment of his or her multiple roles

role conflict

____________- communication behaviors an individual use to perform a role

role enactment

______________- models and norms that a society/culture provides for how certain family roles should be enacted

role expectations

__________- process whereby family members interact and socially constructed and structure their reality and give meaning to their roles

role negotiation

Gender organized couple types: ____________- use gender as a conscious method of dividing labor and see their roles as different but equal

traditional

Fitzpatrick's couple types: __________- conventional beliefs, resist change/uncertainty, strong sex-typed roles, high interdependence but low autonomy

traditionals

All couple types can have lasting marriages; most important factor is the couple has a __________ ratio of positive to negative messages

5-1

Specific Role Functions and Family Responsibilities: ________________- male and female family roles reflect a co-mingling of social, cultural, and economic forces

Providing gender socialization and sexual needs

Specific Role Functions and Family Responsibilities: ____________- family members provide a sense of mutual admiration, support, and reassurance that helps us cope with difficult circumstances

Providing nurturance and support

Factors affecting decision-making: ____________- families involve children in different ways based on the type of decision being made (restaurant choice, purchase decision)

children

Types of resources: ______________- refer to perceptions of power that family members have to influence their own and others' actions and affect others

cognitive resources

_________- only certain members control family life and make critical decisions that affect family lifestyle

orchestration power

Factors affecting decision-making: __________- societal systems such as schools, corporations, governments

outside influences

___________- aggressive/direct conflict behaviors

overt destructive conflict

Gottman's conflict types: ___________- partners respect one another's point of view on a variety of topics; when they disagree, try to work out a compromise

validating