Interpersonal Communications - Chapter 10

Nature of Friendship - Acceptance

Each of has shortcomings. We expect friends to accept us in spite of while showing our authentic selves all the time.

External Pressures - Personal Changes

Experiences and Major Transitions (Moving, College friends vs high school friends, Having kids)

Nature of Friendship - Willingness To Invest

Friendships grow out of personal investments

External Pressures - Geographic Distance

How much people care about continuing to be friends. Dependent on socioeconomic class (Tools to call, email, text, or visit)

Guidelines - Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

The build up. Exercise control over perceptions and the weight attached to them

Growth Stage - Initial Meeting

The first stage of interaction and possibly friendship.

Guidelines - Communicate Honestly

The key to support is to care enough about a person to look our for their general welfare and with that sometimes involves being truthful and honest even when you know they don't want to hear it

Nature of Friendship - Closeness through Doing

To create and express closeness is by sharing activities. Friends enjoy doing things together and doing things for one another

Deterioration Stages - Stage 4

To revive a friendship friends must be committed to rebuilding trust and closeness

Social Media & Friendships - 2

Disclosure of one's self occurs faster online vs F2F

Nature of Friendship - Support

Through mindful listening, availability, and validating their worth

Pressure On Friendships - Internal Tensions

Are relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions

Guidelines - Engage in Dual Perspective

Ask questions. Explain, or translate our own feelings and needs so the friend understands what would feel supportive to us

External Pressures - Friends of The Road

Change as we move along the road of life

Nature of Friendship - Emotional Closeness

Closeness through dialogue or closeness through doing

Nature of Friendship - Trust

Confidence that others will be dependable. Second, trust is rooted in the belief that a friend cares about us and our welfare

Nature of Friendship - Closeness through Dialogue

Intimate Conversations can lead to friends building a deep sense of connection

Guidelines - Grow from Differences

Most of us chose friends who are like us however, if we limit our friendships to people like us we could potentially miss out on the diversity that could extend our friends where learning from each other and shared experiences can help us reach self-actualization in growing self

Social Media & Friendships - 1

Online Friendship are not as rich and close as F2F

Pressure on Friendships - Relational Dialectics

Opposing human needs that create tension and propel change in close relationship

Growth Stage - Assumption of Continuity

People may or may not vocalize they are friends but continue to associate due to the desire to build on the established relationship

External Pressures - Friends of The Heart

Remain close regardless of distance and circumstances

Deterioration Stages - Stage 3

We are more willing to forgive a friend if we can attribute temporary factors beyond our friends control as opposed to someone who intentionally hurt us

External Pressures - Competing Demands

We sometimes neglect established friendships because of other relationships (Work, Romantic, Family) To avoid hurting friends we should communicate when our focus is elsewhere

Deterioration Stages - Stage 1

When one or both friendships stop investing in a friends ship, the value you of the relationship will likely decrease

Deterioration Stages - Stage 2

When serious violations are committed then the communication changes in predictable ways primarily the quantity and quality

Growth Stage - Relationship Rules

unspoken understandings that regulate how people act. (5 mins vs 40 mins late is a known violation)