Interpersonal Communications - Chapter 10
Nature of Friendship - Acceptance
Each of has shortcomings. We expect friends to accept us in spite of while showing our authentic selves all the time.
External Pressures - Personal Changes
Experiences and Major Transitions (Moving, College friends vs high school friends, Having kids)
Nature of Friendship - Willingness To Invest
Friendships grow out of personal investments
External Pressures - Geographic Distance
How much people care about continuing to be friends. Dependent on socioeconomic class (Tools to call, email, text, or visit)
Guidelines - Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
The build up. Exercise control over perceptions and the weight attached to them
Growth Stage - Initial Meeting
The first stage of interaction and possibly friendship.
Guidelines - Communicate Honestly
The key to support is to care enough about a person to look our for their general welfare and with that sometimes involves being truthful and honest even when you know they don't want to hear it
Nature of Friendship - Closeness through Doing
To create and express closeness is by sharing activities. Friends enjoy doing things together and doing things for one another
Deterioration Stages - Stage 4
To revive a friendship friends must be committed to rebuilding trust and closeness
Social Media & Friendships - 2
Disclosure of one's self occurs faster online vs F2F
Nature of Friendship - Support
Through mindful listening, availability, and validating their worth
Pressure On Friendships - Internal Tensions
Are relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions
Guidelines - Engage in Dual Perspective
Ask questions. Explain, or translate our own feelings and needs so the friend understands what would feel supportive to us
External Pressures - Friends of The Road
Change as we move along the road of life
Nature of Friendship - Emotional Closeness
Closeness through dialogue or closeness through doing
Nature of Friendship - Trust
Confidence that others will be dependable. Second, trust is rooted in the belief that a friend cares about us and our welfare
Nature of Friendship - Closeness through Dialogue
Intimate Conversations can lead to friends building a deep sense of connection
Guidelines - Grow from Differences
Most of us chose friends who are like us however, if we limit our friendships to people like us we could potentially miss out on the diversity that could extend our friends where learning from each other and shared experiences can help us reach self-actualization in growing self
Social Media & Friendships - 1
Online Friendship are not as rich and close as F2F
Pressure on Friendships - Relational Dialectics
Opposing human needs that create tension and propel change in close relationship
Growth Stage - Assumption of Continuity
People may or may not vocalize they are friends but continue to associate due to the desire to build on the established relationship
External Pressures - Friends of The Heart
Remain close regardless of distance and circumstances
Deterioration Stages - Stage 3
We are more willing to forgive a friend if we can attribute temporary factors beyond our friends control as opposed to someone who intentionally hurt us
External Pressures - Competing Demands
We sometimes neglect established friendships because of other relationships (Work, Romantic, Family) To avoid hurting friends we should communicate when our focus is elsewhere
Deterioration Stages - Stage 1
When one or both friendships stop investing in a friends ship, the value you of the relationship will likely decrease
Deterioration Stages - Stage 2
When serious violations are committed then the communication changes in predictable ways primarily the quantity and quality
Growth Stage - Relationship Rules
unspoken understandings that regulate how people act. (5 mins vs 40 mins late is a known violation)