Intro to Human communication FINAL
Patterns of communication in Families
- Conversation vs conformity
Styles of love
- Eros: passionate - Ludus: game playing - Storge: friendship based - Pragma: practical - Mania: possessive, dependent - Agape: selfless, all-giving
deteroration of friendship
-Gradual waning - Arupt ending -Serious violation of friendship rules
Maintaining friendship levels
-Make time to connect. ... -Set and respect boundaries. ... -Communicate mindfully. ... -Be open to feedback. ... -Keep them accountable. ... -Get to know them personally. ... -Give them space. -Build trust.
Principles of Conflict
-Overt vs Conflict -Outcomes of conflict -Lose-Lose - Win-Lose - Win-Win
friendship defined
-Willingness to invest -emotional closeness -acceptance -trust -support
Life Cycle of a family
-establishing a family -englarging a family -developing a family -Encouraging independence -Launching children -Post Launching of children - Retirement
Managing conflict
-interpersonal conflict interdependence -expressed disagreement -perceived incompatible goals -The felt need for restriction
Friendship development stages
-meeting -fledging friendship -private rules for interacting develop -assumption of the relationship's continuity -high level of trust -stabilized friendship
Confirmation
1. recognition, 2. acknowledgment, 3. Endorsement
Unproductive Conflict Communication
Early Stages -fails to confirm -cross-complaining Middle stages -Kitchen sinking Later stages -counter -proposals -meta communication -poor listening -defensive, negative climate
How dialectal tensions affect everyday communications
Evaluation vs. descriptions certainty vs provisionalism Strategy vs spontaneity control vs problem orientation Neutrality vs. Empathy Superiority vs Equality
Pressures on friendship
Internal tensions, external pressures
Translating confirmation into features satisfying realtionship
Investment, commitment, trust, self-disclosure
Constructive Conflict communication
The Early Stages -acknowledge other's concerns and feelings -supportive climate The Middle Stages -agenda building -bracketing -clarify and check perceptions The Later Stages -contracting not countering
intrapsyhic processes
affect cognition
key to conflict management
communication
Conformity
compliance with standards, rules, or laws.
Dyadic processes
discussing and negotiating the conflict
Responses to conflict
exit, neglect, loyalty, voice
Consenual - HH(hint)
high conversation, high conformity
Pluralistic- HL(hint)
high conversation, low conformity
Perception
how others see you
Grave-dressing processes
in which partners put the relationship to rest and individually assign meaning to it
protective- LH (hint)
low conversation, high conformity
Laissez-faire- LL(hint)
low conversational and low conformity
Ineffective expressions of emotions
not communicating
Langauge
our spoken, written, or signed words and the ways we combine them to communicate meaning
Dimensions of Romantic Relationships
passion, commitment, intimacy
resurrection processes phase
people start to visualize their future without the relationship
committed romantic relationships
relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other's lives
social support
relationships with people and groups that can provide us with emotional comfort and personal and financial resources
Negotiating Dialectical Tensions
selection, neutralization, separation, and reframing
Emotions
signals that tell your mind and body how to react
Feeling rules
socially constructed norms regarding the expression and display of emotions
Emotional Intelligence (EI)
the ability to detect and to manage emotional cues and information
communication climate
the emotional tone of a relationship
Emotion work
the process of evoking, suppressing, or otherwise managing feelings to create a publicly observable display of emotion
Physiology
the study of how the body and its parts work or function
Cultural Influences
the values, beliefs, and practices shared by people that have a common background
Diverse Family Types
traditional, independent, separate
Reasons to NOT share emotions
1. Self-protection 2. Protecting others 3. Social and professional roles 4. cultural and social expectations
Comfort with relational dialectics
Autonomy vs. connection Novelty vs predictability Openness vs. closeness
The development of romantic relationships
Growth, Navigation, Deterioration
Framing rules
emotional meaning of situations
Elements of family communication
words, thoughts, emotions