Intro to Human communication FINAL

Patterns of communication in Families

- Conversation vs conformity

Styles of love

- Eros: passionate - Ludus: game playing - Storge: friendship based - Pragma: practical - Mania: possessive, dependent - Agape: selfless, all-giving

deteroration of friendship

-Gradual waning - Arupt ending -Serious violation of friendship rules

Maintaining friendship levels

-Make time to connect. ... -Set and respect boundaries. ... -Communicate mindfully. ... -Be open to feedback. ... -Keep them accountable. ... -Get to know them personally. ... -Give them space. -Build trust.

Principles of Conflict

-Overt vs Conflict -Outcomes of conflict -Lose-Lose - Win-Lose - Win-Win

friendship defined

-Willingness to invest -emotional closeness -acceptance -trust -support

Life Cycle of a family

-establishing a family -englarging a family -developing a family -Encouraging independence -Launching children -Post Launching of children - Retirement

Managing conflict

-interpersonal conflict interdependence -expressed disagreement -perceived incompatible goals -The felt need for restriction

Friendship development stages

-meeting -fledging friendship -private rules for interacting develop -assumption of the relationship's continuity -high level of trust -stabilized friendship

Confirmation

1. recognition, 2. acknowledgment, 3. Endorsement

Unproductive Conflict Communication

Early Stages -fails to confirm -cross-complaining Middle stages -Kitchen sinking Later stages -counter -proposals -meta communication -poor listening -defensive, negative climate

How dialectal tensions affect everyday communications

Evaluation vs. descriptions certainty vs provisionalism Strategy vs spontaneity control vs problem orientation Neutrality vs. Empathy Superiority vs Equality

Pressures on friendship

Internal tensions, external pressures

Translating confirmation into features satisfying realtionship

Investment, commitment, trust, self-disclosure

Constructive Conflict communication

The Early Stages -acknowledge other's concerns and feelings -supportive climate The Middle Stages -agenda building -bracketing -clarify and check perceptions The Later Stages -contracting not countering

intrapsyhic processes

affect cognition

key to conflict management

communication

Conformity

compliance with standards, rules, or laws.

Dyadic processes

discussing and negotiating the conflict

Responses to conflict

exit, neglect, loyalty, voice

Consenual - HH(hint)

high conversation, high conformity

Pluralistic- HL(hint)

high conversation, low conformity

Perception

how others see you

Grave-dressing processes

in which partners put the relationship to rest and individually assign meaning to it

protective- LH (hint)

low conversation, high conformity

Laissez-faire- LL(hint)

low conversational and low conformity

Ineffective expressions of emotions

not communicating

Langauge

our spoken, written, or signed words and the ways we combine them to communicate meaning

Dimensions of Romantic Relationships

passion, commitment, intimacy

resurrection processes phase

people start to visualize their future without the relationship

committed romantic relationships

relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other's lives

social support

relationships with people and groups that can provide us with emotional comfort and personal and financial resources

Negotiating Dialectical Tensions

selection, neutralization, separation, and reframing

Emotions

signals that tell your mind and body how to react

Feeling rules

socially constructed norms regarding the expression and display of emotions

Emotional Intelligence (EI)

the ability to detect and to manage emotional cues and information

communication climate

the emotional tone of a relationship

Emotion work

the process of evoking, suppressing, or otherwise managing feelings to create a publicly observable display of emotion

Physiology

the study of how the body and its parts work or function

Cultural Influences

the values, beliefs, and practices shared by people that have a common background

Diverse Family Types

traditional, independent, separate

Reasons to NOT share emotions

1. Self-protection 2. Protecting others 3. Social and professional roles 4. cultural and social expectations

Comfort with relational dialectics

Autonomy vs. connection Novelty vs predictability Openness vs. closeness

The development of romantic relationships

Growth, Navigation, Deterioration

Framing rules

emotional meaning of situations

Elements of family communication

words, thoughts, emotions