Love and Intimacy- Exam 2

Ludus

Game playing, fun "conquests"

Liking

Intimacy alone

Females are more

emotional

Passionate love length

generally short lived, will either die out or turn into another type of love

Some people consider physical beauty an indicator of

health

Opposites Attract

interpersonal 1. Controlling 2. Submissive

Companionate love is seen as

less intense than passionate love

Examples of similarity

level of physical attractiveness, age, educational status, and religious affiliation, race and ethnicity

Who places greater emphasis on physical attractiveness?

men

Agape

altruistic, not expecting anything in return

An example of empty love

Commitment alone; marriage with kids that you want to end

Proximity might become

obsolete with new technology

What is Love?

can be physical, emotional, behavioral (all different things to different people)

Factors that influence attraction

chemistry, proximity, similarity, reciprocity, physical attractiveness

empty love

commitment alone

Companionate love involves

communication with enhances sexual pleasure at strengthens the overall bond

Storge

companionate, slow, friendship

Oxytocin

cuddling

Adult attachments are influenced by

individual's attachment to caregivers in infancy

Reciprocity is only good for

individuals who are in good emotional health

Passionate love is characterized by

intense feelings and physiological arousal (heart racing, palms sweating)

Compnaionate love

intimacy and commitment

Romantic love

intimacy and passion

Consummate love

intimacy, passion and commitment

Proximity

mere exposure effect (familiarity breeds liking or loving)

Communication can have a

more gratifying sexual experience than passionate

Some people perceive physical attractiveness individuals as

more likable, interesting, sensitive, poised, happy, sexy, competency, socially skilled; also that they have more to offer in terms of desirable personal qualities

Endorphins

natural pain killers

Neurotransmitters

norepinephrine, dopamine, phenylethylamine (PEA) = increased levels when attracted

Brain chemicals

norepinephrine, dopamine, phenylethylamine (PEA), endorphins, oxytocin

Secure Attachment

slightly upset when mothers left room but appeared to feel safe and certain their mothers would return and when their mothers return they sought contact and often continued exploring the environment

Passionate love is a

state of extreme absorption in another person (where you don't see other person's faults)

Avoidant insecure attachment

tended to avoid mothers and did not seek out comfort or contact

Commitment

the cognitive component; builds up medium and plateaus high

Intimacy

the emotional component (not overnight); builds up slowly and continues getting higher

Passion

the motivational component; high levels quickly then plateaus

Reciprocity

the principle that when an individual is the recipient of expressions of liking or loving he/she tends to respond in kind

As a relationship develops

there is a decrease in need of physical attractiveness

Some people are attracted to physical attractive people because

they feel it offers them status by association

Companionate Love is a

type of love characterized by friendly affection and deep attachment based on extensive familiarity with the loved one

Mary Ainsworth

used laboratory procedure labeled "strange situation" and assessed 12-18 month old infants' behavior

Similarity

share common beliefs, values, attitudes, interests, and intellectual abilities

Greater proximity often reflects

shared interests

Reciprocity increases

self esteem and sense of belonging

Three styles of attachement

1. Secure attachment 2. Anxious ambivalent insecure attachment 3. Avoidant insecure attachment

lee's six styles of loving

1. eros 2. ludus 3. mania 4. storge 5. Agape 6. Pragma

Relationship duration of securely attached adults

10 years

relationship duration of anxious ambivalent adults

5 years

relationship duration of avoidant adults

6 years

Theories of Love

Passionate love, companionate love, sternburg triangular theory of love, lee's style of love

Pragma

Pragmatic, good fit, business

Eros

Romantic, passionate

Anxious-Ambivalent Insecure attachment

Severely distressed when mothers left room and did not seem reassured or happy when they returned- in some cases, rejected conform

Men are more

sexual satisfaction

Attachment

an intense emotional tie between 2 individuals

Infatuation

passion alone

fatuous love

passion and commitment

Sternberg's Traingular Theory of Love has three components

passion, intimacy, commitment

Physical attractiveness

plays dominant role in attracting lovers to each other

Mania

possessive, obsessive

Passionate love is also known as

romantic love