Love and Intimacy- Exam 2
Ludus
Game playing, fun "conquests"
Liking
Intimacy alone
Females are more
emotional
Passionate love length
generally short lived, will either die out or turn into another type of love
Some people consider physical beauty an indicator of
health
Opposites Attract
interpersonal 1. Controlling 2. Submissive
Companionate love is seen as
less intense than passionate love
Examples of similarity
level of physical attractiveness, age, educational status, and religious affiliation, race and ethnicity
Who places greater emphasis on physical attractiveness?
men
Agape
altruistic, not expecting anything in return
An example of empty love
Commitment alone; marriage with kids that you want to end
Proximity might become
obsolete with new technology
What is Love?
can be physical, emotional, behavioral (all different things to different people)
Factors that influence attraction
chemistry, proximity, similarity, reciprocity, physical attractiveness
empty love
commitment alone
Companionate love involves
communication with enhances sexual pleasure at strengthens the overall bond
Storge
companionate, slow, friendship
Oxytocin
cuddling
Adult attachments are influenced by
individual's attachment to caregivers in infancy
Reciprocity is only good for
individuals who are in good emotional health
Passionate love is characterized by
intense feelings and physiological arousal (heart racing, palms sweating)
Compnaionate love
intimacy and commitment
Romantic love
intimacy and passion
Consummate love
intimacy, passion and commitment
Proximity
mere exposure effect (familiarity breeds liking or loving)
Communication can have a
more gratifying sexual experience than passionate
Some people perceive physical attractiveness individuals as
more likable, interesting, sensitive, poised, happy, sexy, competency, socially skilled; also that they have more to offer in terms of desirable personal qualities
Endorphins
natural pain killers
Neurotransmitters
norepinephrine, dopamine, phenylethylamine (PEA) = increased levels when attracted
Brain chemicals
norepinephrine, dopamine, phenylethylamine (PEA), endorphins, oxytocin
Secure Attachment
slightly upset when mothers left room but appeared to feel safe and certain their mothers would return and when their mothers return they sought contact and often continued exploring the environment
Passionate love is a
state of extreme absorption in another person (where you don't see other person's faults)
Avoidant insecure attachment
tended to avoid mothers and did not seek out comfort or contact
Commitment
the cognitive component; builds up medium and plateaus high
Intimacy
the emotional component (not overnight); builds up slowly and continues getting higher
Passion
the motivational component; high levels quickly then plateaus
Reciprocity
the principle that when an individual is the recipient of expressions of liking or loving he/she tends to respond in kind
As a relationship develops
there is a decrease in need of physical attractiveness
Some people are attracted to physical attractive people because
they feel it offers them status by association
Companionate Love is a
type of love characterized by friendly affection and deep attachment based on extensive familiarity with the loved one
Mary Ainsworth
used laboratory procedure labeled "strange situation" and assessed 12-18 month old infants' behavior
Similarity
share common beliefs, values, attitudes, interests, and intellectual abilities
Greater proximity often reflects
shared interests
Reciprocity increases
self esteem and sense of belonging
Three styles of attachement
1. Secure attachment 2. Anxious ambivalent insecure attachment 3. Avoidant insecure attachment
lee's six styles of loving
1. eros 2. ludus 3. mania 4. storge 5. Agape 6. Pragma
Relationship duration of securely attached adults
10 years
relationship duration of anxious ambivalent adults
5 years
relationship duration of avoidant adults
6 years
Theories of Love
Passionate love, companionate love, sternburg triangular theory of love, lee's style of love
Pragma
Pragmatic, good fit, business
Eros
Romantic, passionate
Anxious-Ambivalent Insecure attachment
Severely distressed when mothers left room and did not seem reassured or happy when they returned- in some cases, rejected conform
Men are more
sexual satisfaction
Attachment
an intense emotional tie between 2 individuals
Infatuation
passion alone
fatuous love
passion and commitment
Sternberg's Traingular Theory of Love has three components
passion, intimacy, commitment
Physical attractiveness
plays dominant role in attracting lovers to each other
Mania
possessive, obsessive
Passionate love is also known as
romantic love