112 com exam 3

at this stage of relationship formation, a deep commitment has formed and there is a strong sense that the relationship has it's own identity A- integrating B- bonding C- intensifying D- initiating

A- integrating

most new relationships end at which stage of knapp's stage model? A-experimenting B-initiating C-intensifying D- integrating

A-experimenting

When considering a potential spouse, someone from an individualistic culture such as the United States would likely ask: A- "what's in it for my family" B- "how does my heart feel?" C- "what will others think?" D-"will this marriage last?"

B- "how does my heart feel?"

during which of Knapp's stages of relationship termination do coupled decrease both the quality and frequency of their interactions? A-stagnating B- circumscribing C- termination D-differentiation

B- circumscribing

__________ is the desire to stay in a relationship no matter what happens A- intimacy B-commitment C-passion D- investment

B- commitment

this reflects the resources we put into a relationship A- interdependence B-investment C- commitment D- independence

B-investment

the practice of polygamy is, by definition, an exception to which social expectation about marriage? A- it is permanent B-it is voluntary C-it is exclusive D-it is based on love

C- it is exclusive

which of the following is not one of the health benefits of marriage identified in your textbook? A- married people are less likely to abuse alcohol and drugs B- married people live longer C- married people have better sexual health D- married people tend to be healthier

C- married people have better sexual health

this occurs when one partner expresses a substantially higher level of interest in the relationship than the other: A- inequitable relationship exchange B-codependency C-obsessive relational intrusion D- stalking

C- obsessive relational intrusion

preliminary research has shown that, compared to heterosexual couples, homosexual couples tend to : A- terminate their relationships at the first sign of conflict B- avoid conflict as much as possible C- take conflict less personally D-display more overt hostility during conflict

C- take conflict less personally

in this marriage type, spouses adopt conventional gender roles and tend to avoid conflict: A-traditional B-independent C-separate D- mixed

C-separate

according to Gottman's couple typology, this type of couple handles disagreements in a way that is open, but discussions tend to be competitive rather than cooperative A- conflict- avoidant B-hostile C-volatile D-validating

C-volatile

Gottman has discovered that satisfied couples maintain this ration of positive to negative communication A-8:1 B- 1:1 C- 14:1 D- 5:1

D- 5:1

All of the following are characteristics of an intimate relationship except: A- dialectical tensions B- need for deep commitment C- continuous investment D- minimization of interdependence

D- Minimization of interdependent

why is the discussion of routine, mundane tasks important to consider in long-term romantic relationships? A- most of the communication that takes place in these relationships falls in this category B- how to handle these issues can become a major issue of contention C-the way couples handle these tasks reflects the balance of power in their relationship D- all of these

D- all of these

Jordan want to feel emotionally close to his girlfriend but he also wants to make his own decisions. Which dialectical tension is he experiencing? A- novelty- predictability B- openness- closedness C- revelation- concealment D- autonomy- connectedness

D- autonomy- connectedness

which of the following statements about same-sex partners is true? A- some of them enter into formal relationships known as domestic partnership B- communication in sex-same partnership resembles that in opposite-sex partnership C- satisfaction levels in same- sex partnerships are equal to those in opposite- sex partnerships. D-All of these are true

D-All of these are true

Which of the following statements accurately reflects the idea of "reframing" a conflict? a. Thinking of conflict as a game if you traditionally think of it as a battle. b. Minimizing your responsibility for a conflict. c. Engaging in a cooling off period before you have a conflict discussion.

a. Thinking of conflict as a game if you traditionally think of it as a battle.

A relationship between a person of higher power and a person of lesser power is known as: a. a complementary relationship b. a deficit relationship c. a symmetrical relationship d. a contemporary relationship

a. a complementary relationship

______________ is the ability to manipulate, influence, or control other people or events. Select one: a. power b. fear c. conflict d. coercion

a. power

Research shows that three issues top the list as sources of conflict in romantic relationships. Which of the following is NOT among them? a. relationships with in-laws b. household chores c. finances d. personal criticisms

a. relationships with in-laws

Most relationships have some measure of interdependence; what differentiates them is their degree of interdependence. a. True b. False

a. true

Felix had been angry with his roommate Hector for some time. Hector was always playing his music so loudly that Felix couldn't concentrate, much less have a conversation on the telephone. Despite his anger, he hadn't expressed his feelings to Hector. Which of the following is true of this situation? a. Hector and Felix are engaged in conflict because Felix's anger is sufficient to produce conflict. Incorrect b. Hector and Felix are not engaged in conflict because conflict must be expressed. c. Hector and Felix are engaged in conflict because conflict can exist "under the surface" for some time. d. Hector and Felix are not engaged in conflict because the source of their conflict is not interpersonal.

b. Hector and Felix are not engaged in conflict because conflict must be expressed.

When two points of view are in conflict and share no common ground, we say that those positions are: Select one: a. dialectically opposed Incorrect b. diametrically opposed c. incommensurate d. inconceivable

b. diametrically opposed

You send this type of confirming message when you signal that you agree with what another person is saying: Select one: a. recognition b. endorsement c. acknowledgement d. confirmation

b. endorsement

Dialectical tensions are rare in most intimate relationships a. true b. false

b. false

People in arranged marriages are usually unhappy with their relationship. a. true b. false

b. false

The experimenting stage of relationship development occurs when people meet and interact for the first time. a. true b. false

b. false

the content dimension of a conflict relates to what? Select one: a. The implications of the conflict for the relationship. b. The specific point of contention giving rise to the conflict. c. The strategies people use to manage the conflict. d. The acceptability of the outcome of the conflict.

b.The specific point of contention giving rise to the conflict.

When spouses engage in the demand-withdraw pattern, who is most likely to demand and withdraw? a. Men are most likely to demand; women are most likely to withdraw. b. Women are most likely to demand and most likely to withdraw. c. Women are most likely to demand; men are most likely to withdraw. d. Men are most likely to demand and most likely to withdraw.

c. Women are most likely to demand; men are most likely to withdraw.

People use many strategies for dealing with dialectical tensions. Going back and forth between the two sides of a tension is a characteristic of which strategy? a. balance b. integration c. alternation d. segmentation

c. alternation

All of the following tips are useful for managing a conflict online except: a. clarify comments or statements that aren't clear b. avoid responding right away c. always respond using the same communication medium d. use emoticons to express your emotional state

c. always respond using the same communication medium

This form of power derives from the ability to punish: a. legitimate power b. expert power c. coercive power d. referent power

c. coercive power

Which of the following is NOT one of the common conflict metaphors identified in your textbook? a. conflict is a game b. conflict is a dance c. conflict is a hammer d. conflict is a war

c. conflict is a hammer

Your _____________ is the family that includes your parents and your siblings. a. extended family b. nuclear family c. family of origin d. family of procreation

c. family of origin

When engaged in interpersonal conflict, ______________ is the practice of saving up past grievances and bringing them all up at the same time. a. counter-attacking b. blindsiding c. gunnysacking d. rubber-band balling

c. gunnysacking

When Kim described how her weekend plans fell apart, Dean said, "Not everything goes the way you want; that's life." Bret said, "I'm sorry your plans fell through; you must be disappointed." The difference between Dean and Bret's messages is reflected in which of Gibb's message types? Select one: a. strategy vs. spontaneity b. superiority vs. equality c. neutrality vs. empathy d. control vs. problem orientation

c. neutrality vs. empathy

This strategy for giving non-evaluative feedback involves asking questions that will give you more information about what the person is expecting: Select one: a. priming Incorrect b. offering support c. probing d. paraphrasing

c. probing

When people engage in ________________, they use their words to attack or demean those around them. a. high-dominance conflict b. powerful language c. verbal aggression d. linguistic assault

c. verbal aggression

Frank and Samantha just received a large inheritance when Samantha's grandmother passed away. Samantha said she wanted to use the money to build a room addition onto their house. Frank said he wanted to buy a more fuel-efficient car. Which of the following is true about this situation? a. This is an example of conflict because it involves an expressed struggle. b. This is an example of conflict because it involves scarce resources. c. This is an example of conflict because it involves incompatible goals. d. All of these are true.

d. All of these are true.

Which of the following statements about collectivistic cultures is true? a. In conflict, group priorities are more important than individual priorities. b. Individuals are more likely to avoid conflict altogether. c. Parties involved in a conflict are likely to enlist a mediator to help reach an agreement. d. All of these.

d. All of these.

Elizabeth and Aaron had been married for six months when Elizabeth started to feel dissatisfied in their relationship. Although Aaron was a nice person and fun to be around, he didn't do any of the cooking or cleaning despite the fact that both of them worked full time. Elizabeth's dissatisfaction was likely due to the fact that: a. Aaron exhibited a lack of commitment in his behavior. b. Aaron was enjoying too much interdependence in their relationship. c. Elizabeth was conflicted by her own dialectical tensions between work and home. d. Elizabeth expected an equitable investment in household chores from Aaron.

d. Elizabeth expected an equitable investment in household chores from Aaron

Which of the following is true with respect to interpersonal conflict? Select one: a. It is synonymous with disagreement. b. It involves independent parties. c. It occurs within oneself. d. It involves perceived scarce resources

d. It involves perceived scarce resources

Which of the following is NOT one of the health detriments associated with conflict described in your text? a. reduction in the body's natural killer cells b. hardening of the arteries c. delayed wound healing Incorrect d. calcium deposits in the kidneys

d. calcium deposits in the kidneys

________________ are behaviors that indicate to other people how much we value them. Select one: a. compassionate interactions b. affectionate interactions c. supportive messages d. confirming messages

d. confirming messages

According to Gottman, people engage in this behavior when they insult each other and attack each other's self worth: a. defensiveness b. stonewalling c. criticism d. contempt

d. contempt

From a legal perspective, this is the most heavily regulated relationship in the United States: a. parent-adoptive child relationships b. sibling relationships c. parent-child relationships d. marital relationships

d. marital relationships

Jon recently stopped a conflict with his girlfriend, Ana, and said to her, "You don't know how to have a disagreement without losing your temper and swearing!" Ana replied, "Well at least I want to confront the issues instead of avoiding them!" Jon and Ana's exchange is an example of: a. the relational dimension of conflict b. pseudoconflict c. the content dimension of conflict d. meta-conflict

d. meta-conflict

During conflict episodes, someone playing this family role tends to agree with whatever is said in order to keep others from getting angry: Select one: a. distracter b. computer c. blamer d. placater

d. placater

Which of the following is an example of passive aggression, as it is defined in the text? a. All of these. b. Bonnie doesn't want to go to her neighbor's party, so she takes so long to get ready for it that the party is over by the time she's done. c. Tara is hurt when her brother forgets her birthday, so she deliberately "forgets" his. d. Parker is angry with his mother so he ignores her calls and e-mail messages.

a. All of these.