12 Rules for life--An Antidote to Chaos

Rule 9- Assume a person that you are listening to knows something that you don't

-------------Not advice -------------------- Our memories don't always match our past The present can alter our perspective of the past and so too can the future do so with our present Alcohol make you less self-conscious Miss S--had no identity- she wasnt the main character in her own story--had little to no self-respect--victum of abusers Memory is subjective and not always based on objective reality Memories are for ensuring that bad things don't happen twice Nietzsche's Pale Criminal--the one who does the crime but can't handle the time Example of Advice: Lefty-you're a victim Conservative-you shouldn't have been there and now you must pay the price ------------------Figure it out for yourself------------ Life is very complicated What constitutes consent In order to think, people must talk, write, and listen We are the only creature who has the fore site and creativity to create little worlds--send our avatars out into it and then evaluate it True thinking is having a conversation with yourself-one part playing devils advocate--can't be a straw-man--has to be a conflict--needs to be negotiation and compromise Pay attention to your avatars A person listening is like a manifestation of a crowd--pay attention to how they act- you might need to reevaluate your position You better have good reason for going against the grain---but when you find it, you better hold your ground --------A listening person------ FREE ASSOCIATION---Freud talk about how he would have folks sit on a couch and wouldn't let them see his facial expressions--they would talk openly about what would come to their mind Peterson Goes for a conversationalist side instead---ensures that his intention is to find the best solution for the patient--he stays on high alert-they can see each other's expression Psychotherapist approach--two tell the truth and both listen 1-Put yourself in a proper frame of mind 2-aim for the better 3-recall their responses 4-bring up a previously mentioned conversation-and explain why you think it correlates A true therapist will tell you the truth about what they think ---------------How should you listen--------- Rogers listening experiment--- Fully articulate what it is that the other person is trying to say--they must correct you if need be--one has the floor Listening is dangerous--you run the risk of changing yourself--- The summary will help them to avaiod the situation in the future---articulate what, why, and how to act next time The summary will help you find the value in their argument and will better home your position against them If the conversation is boring then perhaps you aren't listening Listen before you pass judgement and keep in mind that it's difficult to guenienly understand what a person means HOW TO SOME UP THE MORAL OF A STORY--recount the whole story in detail---Identivy the central narrative---and then understand the cause and effect --------------Primate Dominance Hierarchy and maneuvers---- Not all talking is thinking and not all listening will foster transformation Some folks feel intimidated in a conversation so they try to one-up the speaker---so go off on tangents and hijack the original conversation toward something else 1-ridacule the speaker-or anyone with contrary viewpoints 2-using selective evidence 3- turn the conversation ideological and use a priori------Ergo why conservative and liberals always think they're right Must let individuals have the floor, stay quiet--and recount what they said It takes a village to organize a mind We need input from others to see what is socially acceptable Men vs Women for problems 1-Men want the solution and draw conclusions too soon 2-Women want to dissect every piece--listen and to be quetioned A Lecture is another type of conversation --- -Lay out the facts -make it relevant \ -watch the nonverbal cues -spot one and analyze their response (non verbals) -then switch to another person Comedy and Satire is another type of convesation type ---fun and competative -----------Conversation on the way--------- ACTIVE PHILOSOPHY -All express and organize their thoughts -Generally complex -Genuine interest -there's something new to learn -must be living the philosophy -Should be based on how to live and perspective You need to realize that you are nasty brutish, short, weak, unhappy, malevolent, corrupt, and limited----you must accept these things-----this is why you should listen to what your peer has to say--be an active listener and assume there is something that you know that they don't You're responding to the new information that the speaker is lending--paraphrase what they say---you both fish out the underlying meaning and you both come out a new-----This is where two souls meet--Between order and choas--- The Goal is truth and wisdom(the continual search for knowledge)!!!!!

Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them

------------Actually it's not okay---------------- Talk about children--namely boys behaving inappropriately says that Wikipedia is a good place to look for accepted wisdom so why do women molly coddle their sons? he says that the reason may transcend culture and hit a biological reason It's a simple numbers game, women could have at max about 20 babies in her life at max Men could father thousands of children-- Talks about caudleing and neglect--and the boy who his family cared for ----------Everybody Hated Arthritic--- ---------- So the times spent arguing with your kids or parents will add up to months--this eventually leads to resentment Ideologically some folks think that there are no bad children/ individuals but bad abitors of orders/ parents this argument is way too one-sided and leads to unrest these paternal ideas really got on a downhill roll in the 60s--the place of divorce and immorality---talks about the horrors that lie behind the walls that our four fathers constructed there is a difference between tyranny and legitimate order----just like there's a difference between immorality and responsible freedom --------ignoble Savage----- So a lot of the phillophy of the infallible child arose out of the thoughts of Rousue the Mythical divine child---keep in mind Jouque abandoned 5 of his children in orphanages talks about Goodall--how the chimps had the potential to be incredibly brutal-- Hunter-Gatherers are much more violent then folks who live in Western societal structures 5 in every hudred thousand compared to a 1000 in a hundred thousand Perpetual state of waitning to be so he goes on to talk about how children must be molded because they aren't all good attention to children is a measure of value give attention when they do well and negative attention when they do bad children like dogs must be socialized so that they come to understand acceptable behavior neglected children are typically over/ underweight and unfocused/ vague these children long for the acceptance of an adults approval, they don't even fully understand personal space this neediness usually pushes adults away---and will likly push their peers away as well -----------------Parent or Friend-------------- so essentially a parent needs to make the decision early on that respect is much more important than friendship---momentary hate from a child is much better than an hour upon countless hour of the battle between yourself and your kid responsibility and difficult attention to detail is needed when caring for children Creativity is extremely rare and rigid rules elevate it rather than stunt it Boundless and intrinsic creativity---not necessarily the case kids don't know shat kids will take a mile if left to their own devices talks about how his daughter playing on a jungle gym violence is natural--peace is the great mystery why people are anxious is no mystery---being calm is much more the mystery I can take attention from you and dominate you for my own betterment--this is natural toddlers are violent--they do what they do to push the limitations of what they can and cant get away with children must learn that hitting is a subpar social strategy--and that there are more acceptable means children have to learn how to control their impulses--so that when conflicts come they wont have to result in poor strategies Old age and treachery can subdue youth and skill When someone does something you are trying to get them to do you reward them---he patted his son on the head when he finally ate his mush Said Elmo is a disgrace to Jim Henson's legacy parents are too quick to think that crying is thanks to pain or sadness, but they forget that kids also cry because of stategic anger don't cast pearls before swine --------------Discipline and punish----- Rewarding good behavior can be very effective B.F. Skinner rewarding good behavior can be very effective--most famous behavioral psychologist this is how you teach like a true behavioral psychologist 1-Figure out what you want them to do 2-watch the people around you----swoop in when you see them doing something you want 3-deliver a reward(not too little not too much) Unfortunately, for this to work you have to starve your subject- Like positive emotion--negative emotions help us to grow pain is more potent than pleasure and anxiety more potent than hope Positive Emotion--- --Satiation(satisfaction)-good happened --Incentive reward(hope)-good is soon to come Negative Emotion--- -Pain -Anxiety Children can't and shouldn't be sheltered from pain--it's nt to shelter them from pain----but how can you assist them to learn by minimizing their cost Overprotective parents of sleeping beauty--this is a tale of horrible things to come-and the horrible strategy of simply sheltering children from the bad things--leaving children naive, immature and weak---prick a finger on spinning wheel and falls unconscious, those over protected will choose blissful ignorance over facing the truth of life's horrors-------similarly those children who aren't socialized won't be invited to play will retreat to a land of depressed unconsciousness Since children are dependent on their parents, this means that they are subject to them----another reason is in order to swim through the world, children must receive the proper attention from other adults, this means that they must be properly socialized--for future development------they must also be taught to comly with civil society--reward things that will bring about success, and punish things that will lead to suffering later children must behave properly by the age of 4 or it will forever be difficult for them----those who don't are your anti-social types lots of our sanity comes from being able to navigate through social situations Relationships that rely upon exploitation, theft, and is unfair is prone to collapse---must be just and give credit for good/ productive behavior when it's due The question of how to discipline one's children still stands? A lot of this will veary based on the childs temperment(personality type) Agreeable kids Disagreeable Extroversion Openness to exp/ conservitive Countionsciousness Nurotisism orderly/disorderly ----------------Minimum necessary force---------------- Occums razor--don't encumber folks with too many rules, they get frusrated and opt out 1-limit your rules rules with exceptions and parameters 2-use the least amount of force needed to enforce the rules---don't shoot the jay walker you have to ensure that your children are responding in a way in which adults like---this is a way that children are able to use networking to their advantage 1-some forms of misbehavior deserve sanction 2- sanctions may be psychological or physical 3-there are some actions that require swift and brutal sanctions--exspecially if no sanctions may result in the death of the child 5 percent of men are the trouble makers you're not doing them any favor by overlooking their misbehavior---they will only look upon adults with contempt and ignore their authority no means nothing without the threat of consequence when hitting children (or anyone) two things that matter are the context and the magnitude don't avoid the conflict that is necessary to establish peace A-Time out is great B-time out not enough-restrain C-restrain ineffective-put over he knee and swat D-whenever this isn't enough the police may already be involved -------A summary of Principles------------- 1--limit the rules The 2-use minimum necessary force 3- come in pairs 4- parents must understand their own capacity to be deceitful, harsh, vengeful and arrogant 5-a parent must act as a proxy for the real world---how will the rest of society view your actions there are a lot of things that might impair parents--this is why it's good to have someone you love to help pick up the slack not all family units are created equally You have a horrible capacity for resentful behavior--child acts like a bastard, later presents something good and you ignore the child----thats why you need a good partner to give their two cents when you're in the right or wrong -------------The good Child and the responsible parent----- kids that can pay attention, trustworthy, and one's who adults want to be around

6---Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world

---------A Religious Problem--------- Talks about colubine shooters and what they were and their problem as being one on a deeply religious level. they wanter to erraticate humanity--they were enimies of being and thought it'd be better if we hadn't existed at all Johann Wolfgang's the play Faust---the Devil in the play is the enemy of everything

11-Do not bother children when they are skateboarding

------Danger and mastery-------- The kids skateboarding wanted to triumph over danger---they were striving for competence, and competence is the best protection from danger When playgrounds are too safe-children do unorthodox things to make them dangerous again--folks like to optimize their danger- not to necessarily avoid it we like pushing ourselves today so that we can take on the harder chalenge tomorrow Those who are overprotected when faced with sometime dangerous and exciting--the good looking shy fella falling short at a party with a pretty girl -----------Success and Resentment----------Nietzshe thought that every action hides its negative Those who advocate for quity are those who want to be tyrants Orwell said the high class Brit Socialist didn't really care about the worker-they just resented the rich--they discised their jealousy with with self richousness If you can't infer why someone did something-look at the consequences, and infer motivation---JUNG People wanting to make "things better" usually aren't concerned with changing people--this is a sign of cruel intentions when they didn't alter themselves first He sees the skateboarders as anti human spirit --------More about Chris------ So he's going on about a Native child that he was friends with and how he was quick to anger, but cried and went away after Jordan appoligized Chris was a friend of Jordan---he as a teen saw masculinity as desructive and blamed it for the worlds troubles--he came and lived with him years later--he had came resentful towards women too---he was also self destructive, unemployed and resenfult to everyone-----he had a smell about him-a murderous and nasty smell of Cane--the smellof the unemployable---he everntually wrote some short stories and killed himself Chris had become anti-human -------------Self-Appointed Judes of the Human race----- The world is harder on us than we are on it--therefore we should cut ourselves some slack The Ted Ed Professor and the Columbine shooters we all judges of the human race-- Human are incredible--we have no peers, and there my truly not be a limit to our potential Those who hate humanity, are the ones who see themselves as heroes when they go about destroying it Why is it the people who speak out against prejudice are also the ones who think we should role back humanity Young men are betrayed at university and High-school, by those who say they are the thieving benefactors of an oppressive system women make up 50% of 2/3's of the disciplines Boy are more independent and Disobedient than women Boys are interested in things and girls people Boys want to escape and establish their own authority--this is why schools don't work well for boys Think of fights and games between boys and girls--boy wins he's a jerk, girl wins he's a pussy Boy's can only play games that hierarchically male(boys vs Boys)--fighting, math, science---- Girls don't value en who are good at female games The humanities are becoming a female game--this is why women are leaving them in 15 years there may be very few men in Universities this is not good for men or women ---------Career and Marriage----- 27% of men say they never want to get married---only 8% of women said so --according to Pew 80% of women desire a fella at the high end of the econ scale only 15% of equity law partners are women The market defines sucess, not the men who work in it The hollowing out of the middle class is in part do to the decline of high paying manufacturing jobs and because women marry up and over on the economic ladder 1 out of 6 men in the U.S. are without gainful employment Children in a father absent harm are 4 times more likely to be poor Childrn of single parent homes are twice as likely to commit suicide and are more prone to drugs, alcohol. the children of non biologial parent homes are also more likely to develop mental illness There are whole fields of studies in universities aimed at demonizing men and Western culture -----------The Patriarchy: Help or Hindrance---------- Culture has always been oppressive and inherently conforming--it's like a ghost of our past meant to keep us in line---but that doesn't negate from the fact that where it takes with one hand it gives more with the other------our political system, our economic system, Technology, lifespan, and freedom---it's us to be the gadfly- the pinochio that rescues his father from the belly of the whale -any hierarchy creates winners and losers 1.) the collective pursuit of a valued goal produces winners and losers 2.) The pursuit of goals gives life its meaning however, it should not so easily be forgotten that our complex society has many avenues that will lead to success Wemon had all of the disadvantages as men--they both had it extremely hard--women had the additional problem of monthly menstruation, unwanted pregnancy, and high probability of dying during child birth and the physical disadvantage to men in strength The legal system is set up to tak into account the disadvantage women had to men Clorafrom-1853 Tampax-1930's Birthcontrol pill ----------Postmodernism ad the Long arm of Marx------- Max Horkheimer--Critical theory in Frankfort--social actisim--said the west is inequality, domination and exploitation---- Jacuqe Derrida created post modernism Samphan killed millions in Cambodia -------Lest we forget: Ideas have consequences-------- The soviets got by with a lot of their atrocities thanks to the fact that the serfs had land redistributed and thanks to the industrialization---lots of folks supported the Republican Socialist in the Spanish Civil War-Orwell and Hemmingway--6 million died of starvation in Ukraine in 1930 30k Kulaks shot on the Spot 100Krip to sheds by their neighbors Orwel knew what was going on under stalin but French intellectuals wouldn't buy it Jean-Paul Sart supported the Soviet until 68 the Gulag Archecelico totally demolished the Soviets Moral Credibility Mistreatment of political prisoners endless lies by everyone state spies everywhere inauthentic lives of its people Corrupt legal systems Gulags mass murder Derriida-intellectual sleight of hand now it's powerful vs the oppressed They are power groups who ain by omitting literally everyone else you are not you--you are your group Politicians rule those who aren't politicians Language is oppressive too Derrida basically believed that everything is interpretation--subjectivity--esetialtialy there are no facts-- that just support an oppressive system he thinks that power heriarchies are everything Jordon--Calls Derrida a philosophical little boy and that-"just because power is apart of Dominace hierarchies-they aren't the only thing that drives human motivation---- "Beware of single cause interpretations, and of everyone who purvey them" There are billions of wrong answers and a very minoot number of right one's Peterson--Free for all capitalism lifts all boats diversity, pop size, culture, hist and geographic area, make comparison difficult Government should be the artiberter for a small set of necessary rules Enequity of goods to go to some tends to happen-but we don't have a deffinative way of dealing with that why are we funding leftist who seek to tear down our society? We can't let univerisities be slave of private corps though Nature is the main oppressor of women, not men Competency is the prime determinate of sucess-not power Competence =IQ and Conscientiousness(Industriousness and orderliness) -----this is the prime formula for long term sucess in the West Openess to expience is another longterm predictor--this has to do with verbal intelligence and creativity--this is where your entreprenuers come in Personality and cognitive test can raise odds of highering someone good from 50/:50 to 85:15 we shouldn't teach our children to believe in the idea of patriarichal nonsense The postmodernist think that all there are are groups, power, and inequality---and that all inequality is evil They think that logic and science is apart of the oppressive patriarchy At the end of the day group identity can be fractionalized all the way down to the individual-everyone is unique stop telling mistruths you know to be mistruths what would it cost to reeducate everyone in a fashion where in which Choice has no place in ideological pictures---with enough pressure we might be able to change folks a bit from their natural dispossition if we start early on--standard deviatio of IQ differance between those who grow ip in homes of poor and rich people --------------Boys into Girls----------- Social constructivist wish to make a world where boys are mor like girls that aggression in boys are making them less able to appeciate astetis, kindness and nuturance Aggression is inate in humans-especiallt males--aggression and sex drive make up the trunk of what it is to be a be 5 pecent of two year old boys are extreamly violent in temperment--- boys must be sociallized by the age of 4--if not they are a doomed to a life of outcastdom -------Compassion as a vice------ some men and women are too agreeable--this puts them in a very poor position--especially if they are also high in trait neuroticism---- these folks won't speak up and are prone to subjugation-- which will oftentimes make them resentful two reasons for resentful behavior---either you're being a baby--or you are being taken for a ride on the tyranny train you have to hold your courage and your strength and fight for what you want---come to the table with your guns loaded(specific and legitamate reasons for issue-- the rule of 3)----stand fast against their counter arguments and emotions---respect or termination, beats the hell out of subjigation---articulate clearly your demands--make the request as small and reasonable as possible come to the table with a problem and solution being easily swayed means a lack f autonomy--slve to another- this lack of independence means less adventure less adventure mean- more scare and reliant on the strength(tyranny) of others them being led down a bad path--more nerotic--means less happy, less independent, more resentful and overall a more unhppy lif---you must hold your courge and your strenth and fight for what you want Essentially he brings up the story of Hansel and gretle and the protective nurturiing aold edepole woman--who sseks to faten you up and make you save, but then devoursour your spirit Women are creation but they are also chaos and that which makes men self-conscious--They are the pretective mother but the dragon that will destroy you--it luweres you into the nuturing womb of the underworld too mush nurturing destroys the developing soul The feminine is also culture--that which seaks to judge you-- The soul of folks is masuline--it is independent-it seeks to strive and climb and fight- it's jack brisco-strong and silent-venturers into to the jungle to rescue anne from a horrible beast----there are those that call this toxic the Princess in sleeping beauty is essentially asleep-and her parents to protect her from maleficence Incredulous is unbelievable wakefulness, clarity, wakefulness and tough-minded independence of the prince rescues her--this can be seen as a man--but it can also be seen as masculinity of the consciousness coming forth to bring the woman into adulthood masulinity i assertivness, less agreeable and less suseptible to emothional pain or anxiey--true in scandinavia Says that Ariel from the little mermid is more masculine--in the longing for independnce and the disire the get what she wants Triton represents culture and order--but also the conservative tyranny ursula is chaos takes away ariels abiltity to speak--Logos to speak the profound word She forms a masculine Consciousnessand stands up to the terror of the world---and in part rescues her fathers souls--the spirit of culture from the depths Your mother can't protect you from everything--in doing so she will consume you don't be agreeable or nerotic--this will leave you resentful ----toughen up you weasel------ The joking commroddery on a worksite is part of what makes the job tolerabe--- Code of behavior Do: your work pull your weight pay attention Don't: be a slave to stupid rules suck up be a snitch be a girlie man a dependend ever hassement is a tst of whether you're tough, reliable, entertaining and competant Men dont want to feel sorry for you Mac has a what Adler/Fread calls a Compensatory Fantasy--is an illumination of a path forward--is looking at or imagining a distant goal and strategizing/ action in a manner that would lead to it's an achievement Women don't want a dependent man--lots of lower class women won't marry becuse they tend to have children, and taking on a lower class man tends to mean she's taing on a man-child An awake man wants an awake woman and visevers Bullies behave as a checkmen for a line of bullshit that can't be tollerated--the world would get overrun by pussies if we didn't have nelson Muntz---he's not an illredable character-deffinately has some downs but there's deffinately some desincy there 50 shades--when soft man are all that are around-women will unconsciously crave danger on dominance- when softness becomes the only acceptable virtue-then folks will become uncounsciuly lurered town fascism Iron man and Fight club--both examples of this fasination Sor the most part both men and women want strong men(can't just be that in public--but live it in private) Some women don't ant real men because they want to dominate them and so that can feel the plesure of self pitty----this earns social points Boys are disagreeable-and reckless- they love testing the limits of what is okay and too dangerous--more prone to injury--this borderlines anti-social behavior--Wess Sexton they test authority to see if there's any authority there anyways women who are helthy competant, intelligent, self confident, with high icomes want men who are their better You can't do that, it's too dangerous, or it'll kill you---this way of thinking is anti consciosness and anti human--you hav to tell it to piss--rescue your father from the underworld Don't bpther children when they're skate boarding

Rule 10: Be Precise in your speech

----why Is my Laptop Obsolete------ so things become obsolete---thanks to our perceptions and to the overall complexity of the world As we know your computer is relient on a line line of electrical grids and servers--networking, web development, and servers So this is practically impossible in the third world--their tech doesn't work and they have no trust Laptop is like a leaf on a tree-if and when disconected it will crumble and die ------Tools, obstacles, and extensions into the world So humans don't just see the world as object---but as an objects utility and and an objects ability to cause harm we see people in their here and now rather than their molecular structures who they were or who they'll be This is why we must set our aim Tools essentially become extensions of the self--they are apart of us-we become possessive--without our input the tools are essentially useless Is a person less integral to you than an arm or a leg?---think about it this way, you your rather lose your father or your leg? So essentially we become as one when we go to a sporting event and root for our teams--without rehersal we all cheer when something good happens we become part of the group this is similar to patriotism--men are willin to die in order to maintain an idea of a "group" ------The world is simple only when it behaves-------- The world is extremely complicated---kind of talks about the notion of everything working behind the scenes and how everything works with ease---when it doesn't we are stricken with anxiety--it's usually not until the car stops working that we analyze it' parts The limitation of our perception and knowledge revels itself when when the more complicated world drifts into our over complicated world and when we are unfit to deal with it---ergo our inadequacies ------You and I are simple only when the world behaves---- cheating husband--he changes in her mind--who is he really? i thought he was loving and devoted---- but then again she also has to change thanks to the fact the she's no longer what she thought that she was we all have a casually drafted matrix of things we know, but we hate to recognize how thin it really is ----------What do we see when we don't know what we're looking at----- When don't see the world and useful objects or usual obstacles when the world is falling apart Bird Box--the world is falling apart-people are killing themselves left and right no one has any clue what to do--so they institutionally run-in order to get away--they turn to there bodies when their minds can't comprehend the hell on earth that has come forth Chaos enters the world of the real--that of when we discover was only a dream-we freeze-we get emotional-then we quickly analze the chaos--we prepare for the best or for the the worse- The wife that is cheated on is currently iin a state--where she'll revael everything to strangers-talk only to herself-cry and feel sad that her marriage is falling apart but then rejoce in the fact that she will find new freedom \ She is now in the underworld-the place where all fears and horrors reside--rascent horror ready to spring-forward when it will The tale of billy Bixbee and the dragon--how it is small and ignored--but then grows to gigantic proportions and springs forth to cause havoc---why did the dragon get so big? it wanted to be noticed--simply not admitting a problem doesn't exist will not get rid of it--it feeds off of you ignoring it in the absence of tradition there exist only three difficult options for dealing with the dragon--to be a slave, to be a tyrant, and to be a happy-the happy abandon responsibility and make things worse You have to bring the problem forth--regardless of the backlash--you are no paragon of patience-and the problem will only ferment over time Truth will bring about trouble--and you will probably suffer initially, but it could be worse--and you don't tell the truth in order to hurt or to destroy- that's not truth Life is indistinguishable from continual maintenance Maybe respect silently turned into contempt--maybe love turned into hate without mediation Maybe the husban and wife acted as they did out of spite--or resentment All we have to do to ensure that something like this doesn't happen is absolutely nothing-remember Burke Why refuse to investigate reality when you could become a master of it--why Lose when winning was an option Face was you fear, before it grows and leaves you nowhere left to stand BE PRECISE IN YOUR SPEECH When you refuse to specify sucess-you refuse to specify failure--this lead you to make poor decisions, but you can't fool yourself, you will continually feel rotten and broken How much better could her situation had been if she had faced the problem initially If we only speak carefully and presicly we can put things in their proper place, we can set a new goal, and we can start moving towards it --------The Construction of the Soul and World------ Dragons hoard gold--defeating them-facing that things you don't want to, may revel that which must be exposed Start with im unhappy--not just i have a right to be unhappy----consider both in the beginning--you might just be a whinny brat We are shaped and informed by what we volutarily encounter It is our communicative explortion that degenerates and regenerates the world We have to specify the nature of the chaos that we are facing- it is what man does--not doing so will result in hell -----------wheat from Chaff----- Precision may leave something horrible in tact, but it can also chase away all the other terrible things When you refuse to look, a squirrel might just be a dragon when you refuse to look--when you look it might be bad, but typically the idea pales in comparison to the real thing Search for the correct words, and speak carefully Careful thought and language can bring about a better world from the more horrible options you must reduce their complexity and live with them without specifing, one argument turns into every argument This specifically is what i'm mad about--this is what i want you do and why i t'll make things better You can have what you want but you hve to figure out what it is you must figure out where you ARE and where you want to go Pay attention and note your errors Be presise in your speech

Stand up straight with your shoulders back Chaos is the natural state of the world Entropothy will set in Must bring about order Cliches 1-Dominance confidence--avoid lower status-can take meaningful actions---positive feedback loop--fol 2-People don't take their medicine People care for their pets exercise and take good care of yourself-you have a divine light within you, you don't belong to yourself--you belong to God--part of your job is to build up the world--do this for your family and yourself-it is your destiny 3- Make friends with people who want the best for you---abandon folks who always try to out do your stories-or that insist you have to be irresponsible- it's easier to go down than it is to rie up don't be a hermit--heallty influence/ toxic ones 4-Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today--------Value is usually used to judge someone to someone or something else---we naturally do this--ergo hoosing your friends---however, when you determine your selfworth in comparison to others- you're bound to become resentful, angry and self-loathing---you must try to imroove yourself everyday--these small little increments will edd up eventually 5-Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them Permissive(little children rule the roost) and authoritarian aren't good parenting systems----one thing that one must keep in mind that when a child is doing something that you dislike-they are likely doing something that someone else dislikes-this will lead to those folks being far less likely to to expose your children to the secrets of growth---after all folks are walking wisdom factories-however, when a child is insufferable, any person with little patience is bound to turn tail and run---again those who aren't connected to a network will more than likely join the lower socioeconomic class-these people live shorter/less happy existences----those ending your lineage isolated and with problems----must remember your own capacity for resentful behavior-- these things add up (time does that). when fractions worth of time are spent disliking your child, this isn't good for you or them 6-Set your house in order before you criticize the world---you can't live perfectly---you must be introspective and analyze all the choices you make objectively---you need to stop doing things that are objectively bad for you--you eat too much, you wake up at odd hours, procrastinate, are scared too often, and drink too much don't blame others for the worlds problems if every man swept his porch the world would be clean 7-do that which is meaningful, not what is expedient Everyone endures suffering--life isn't supposed to be happy, it's supposed to be meaning full---long term goals--over short term pleasure---a lot of my suffering would be alieviated if i took better care of myself and stopped consuming garbage 8-Tell the Truth, or at least don't lie Social trust is needed--the 1-Keep promises and contract 2-Personal truth and expiriences 3-Accurate desciptions and understanding reality to not hit the target is a sin tell your own truth--needs to be supported by objective reasoning 9-assume the person you are listening to might know something you don't Truth-must be able to withstand scutany, emerge stronger with time, and be modified-----in comparison to the great sea of man's knowledge-you simply don't and can't know it all-for one that's why you need other people in your network and why you must pay attention---i know that I know nothing--be humble It it was so true-then it shouldn't have to be proclaimed--but then agian in a world of senseless bureaucracy, me checking under everything for bats and rats, and idiots in Atlas Shrugged--then perhaps truth isn't so common sense 10-Be precise in your speech---this is the one where he's talking about the woman's husband cheating on her--plunged into chaos Problems are already difficult enough to solve without you bringing stuff of the past---what is causing the problem right now---Faith means complete trust--not necessarily believe without evidence---- Be able to explain that whih you do not understand--clearyly define the problem- 11-Do not bother children when they are skateboarding--Helicopter parents are in perpetual fear that something horrible will happen to their children--however, when you protect your kids from everything----kids must learn how to navigate social situations and to make a calculated risk----the skateboarding is a metaphor--its right good fun but it's also an activity that forces children to test their limits, resilence, to improve with time and to learn from your mistaks--to handle fears--those who face them early on will probably be less scared of risk--increased confidence may be enough to bridge the gap betwees failure and sucess---people choose those who can control their fears not those who are dominated by it 12--Pet a cat when you come across it on the street---appreciate all of the wonderful and good things that you come across i your day to day--we have the internet, running water family and friends--appreciate the little things--they truly do add up

Opens up the book talking about lobsters and songbirds discusses the nero-pathways of lobsters and how their brains of relatively easy to study-- they dwell on the ocean floor and have to compete for dominance BIRDS AND TERRITORY Songbirds do the same- their songs are cries of sovereignty to fellow birds -child hood tales of bird houses, sticks, ski trips, tape recorders, and fighting off the larger birds Both of these species are concerned with the concept of dominance and control over territory Discusses Pecking order and how your position within the hierarchy is the difference between life and death for chickens--especially when it comes to getting mates and avoiding predators People in the tired world die of disease first and in a greater number Discusses how two songbirds could take to a fight, but that even in winning another bird may come around and kill the wounded winner CONFLICT and TERRITORY Giving in to dominate members is commonplace in the animal kingdom ---helps to maximize their potential-- Dispute Resolution Level 1 --run across another lobster-instinctually they wave their claws and bounce around like a lobster, and spray jets under their eyes that broadcast age, and other hormones that are meant to display its level of dominance one retreats-no fight Dispute Resolution Level 2 same ritual but similar size except claws are down and charges--this happens for a few rounds and then one retreat Dispute resolution 3--actual combat amongst the two lobsters--one will get flipped and will give up--and runs away Dispute resolution 4--neither one is giving up and one usually ends up dying After a defeat the Lobester will hobble away and won't fight any other lobster--they tend to grow another brain--a brain that commands the once dominate the brain he will be a low brow loser where at one time was a winner -------------The Neurochemistry of defeat and victory ------------- Neurons and chemicals Serotonin and octopamine winners stretch itself out and struts--Prozac can boost a lobsters mood opposite for the other chemical--heightened tail-flick reflex too--so it's easier to escape --------The Principle of unequal distribution-------- winner take all kind of world- the lobster is much more likely to lose again--- the top 85 people are richer than the bottom half of the world's population Price's Law/ Pareto Distribution/Mathew Principle--those who have all more will be given those who have little-all will be taken is discussed--l shaped graph with the number of people on the left-hand side and production of resources on the horizontal 90 percent of the language is done by just using 500 words ------ALL THE GIRLS------ Like lobsters human women also use the dominance hierachy to determine who they will mate with they find the stud--this, after all, is easier then probing each man Lobster isn't all that good at switching from the fighter to the mate--this is why he will begin of the courting in an aggressive manner--however, in time the female will eventually tame him--this is the beauty and the beast story essentially-----again men control the world, yet women control men All the lobster females end up going to him for copulation---something that can't be overstated is the fact that this dominance hierarchy exists in such primative creatures-- it transcends petty things and can't be brushed off as though it isn't a factor --------THE NATURE OF NATURE______________ So he goes onto say that Biology is relatively conservative bats, humans, and wales have the same number of bones in their extremities---say that we change in thanks to gradual adaptations and 'NAtural Selection" Says that we really don't get nature all that well Discuesses order and chaos--how they are iternal and interchangable-- nothing can be so good that it can't fail --just like there is anything that can be so wrecked that it can't be saved nature is staic yet also dynamic Fitness is the likeliness that a species will breed dynamic-no one standing still can triumph--alice in Wonderland--you'll have to keep running just to stay in the same place Because nature is constantly changing--you can't just think of the world as a fixed destination--but more like a dance--the jack-one that is prepared to focus his enegies at a moments notice to a new enviornment might just be the one its order, nested in chaos--nested in order--nested in chaos-nested in a higher order He goes on to talk about how the domince hierarchy is basically some eternal force that is old as time Those with higher seritonin levels live longer and will achieve all of the spoils ---this isn't mentioned but i think it might be worth talking about- so Frank Kenedy is a loser winner/ smart but portrayed as an idiot in the tale-even his modest winning are lost by him and eventually he is a killed-in defense of someone totally indiffernt to him-- -------TOP andBOTTOM-- So deep within us he says that there is some sort of deep rooted calculator for the sake of arguement it's 1 to 10 1's have all of the spoils 10's have next to nothing---some losers all the time--why do we all treat bubba so poorly-----people exploit you- folks take advantage of you, you will likely fall prey to physcopaths-what little wealth you obtain--you will likly lose--you will die young and will probably become a drug addict Those at the bottom are always on gaurd- this is why they act so valuable to the smallest things and people will adjust the way they -----this is all reducing seratonin This hyper attentiveness-will make you more geared toward short term pleasure This is what we call stress it's like having your feet on the gas and eventually this life style will shut down your immune system and kill you When you inhabit the top ring you don't have to worry much about change because with every new thing comes new opportunity--some people live in this higher state at all times--your seritonine is high--they don't grasp at the crums--they can delay gratification becuase the future is theirs --------Malfunction--------- There are things that can mak you drop on the rings-poor sleep and eating habbits--your body is an orchstra---chaos has its ways of creaping in---you must ensure stable and reliable habits in order to maintain your balance Your cadian rythyms are dependent on you waking up at the same time every morning--thses control you mood So he thinks that uppon waking--one needs to eat alot of fats/ Protien--no sugurs or carbs--otherwise you will have a blood sugar spike, followed by a dip--if you are already stressed in your life you will secrete a lot of insilin-if they partake in demanding activity-even more so if they fast and then eat sugar--all of it will be sucked by the excess inulin===hyperglycemic and phychologically instable------your phychological conditions can be tamed effectivly by getting on a good sleep scheduale and eating a breakfast high in fats and protien Talks about destructive feedback loops---sort of a snowball effect alcoholics get tipped--get a rush--have to keep drinking more----> wakes up hurting --.drinks more---> this cyle will eventuall destroy him Your anxiety system says that you should run from it----every time you run away from it, your soverignty gets smaller and the world that can kill you gets even bigger Deadly cycle that amplifies is the positive feedback loop So folks who were bullied as children and typically have avoidance complexes as adults--they are shy- they look away from eye contact and they back down--this attracts even more negative attention--and adult bullies/ manipulators --but keep in mind there are those who don't need to go through this, they've achieved a gret deal in their lives that they are beyond the bully- they just haven't accepted it themselves --------RISING UP------ Lot's of times people are bullied becaue they refuse to stand up and push back----lots of time these folks are also the ones who reavnt in a sad way to negative emotion----it's also folks who are compationate/ self sacrifising ==naive/ explaitable If you stand up and say no-early on in the oppression cycle--then the bully will have little space to work--this is where you have to keep them those who have swords but keep them sheived will inhert the earth if you don't lay out a territorial response--you are vulnerable to exploitation Pansys use these axioms: people are good people don't like hurting others the use of force is wrong these axioms get folks killed when truly malevolent folk come along Bulies are attracted to this stuff because these people are the easies to exploit---ergo- Jake Harper No one likes to be pushed around--but they usually put up with it for too long Steps: see what you don't like -get angry at it -recognise something needs to be said in objection -do something physical -this is what holds tyranny at bay Tyranny can't be left to fester---iggnoring it is just as bad a commiting it-----BURKE--the only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing People have post tramatic stress when they realize what they can do---they horrible things they thought were reserved for the worst of folks When sheltered men face true malelence--they shreek like mice among cats men must understand thier capacity for evil--this is when they learn that they can can use it to push back aginst oppression "there is little differance in one's capacity to do ill and their capacity for strenght" if you shrump around like an olk lobster--then that is how people will precieve you--and your brain will asign to you a lower dominace hierachy--> thus ensuring that you produce less seritonine--> thus making you more susepatible anxiety/ disease--> thus meaning you are less likely to stand up for yourself--> and less likely to live well--> you wont have a good mate--> you won't have a good job--> you will develope cancer and you'll die----> don't be a defeated lobster THOSE WHO START TO HAVE WILL USUALLY GET MORE AND MORE Body expressions are a good place to start if you slump over and look defated, people will treat you as so Standing up straight is not just physical--it's spiritual--it's a statement to men and the world that here is one who contends with that in which he faces, and that he'll be too much trouble to deal with if you do so--it signals to your nervous system that in the next step lies a high benifit and that we are capable of dealing with the cost--------- gold over/ dragon transforming chaos into order it means acceptible the self consciousness vulnerability of living it is Moses taking his people to freedom---it's a knight without armer in a savaage land--it's seeing tyanical order--casting it into chaos so that one can find a new order Dare to be dangerous--speak your mind--and for God's sake have some courage let the serotonin flow People will start to see you as a contenter---> you'll be less anxious--> you'll be able to PAY ATTENTION better---> people will want to talk to you---> more oppertunities will open up---> and when the good happens to you When man is strenthened and emboldend he can look forthrightly into the world----> you will withstand trails life has to offer----> then you can march toward your rightful destiny---> this will keep the mortal fears oflife at bay because even they fear your power you can accept the terrible burdens of the world and find joy With the 350 years of practical wisdom, stand up straight with your sholders back

Coda

PEN OF LIGHT Seek and Ye shall find--ask to seek to truth and strength Fighting with his wife---go to separate rooms--what did I do to contribute to the problem--and then return with the results it's much easier to turn away from truth and to stay willfully blind If you ask yourself a question about yourself and genuinely disire the answer--then it will reveal itself to you

Rule 12---Pet a Cat when you encounter one on the street

States off by talking about his dog---so as to not erect a bias from the audience-- people gave money to those of their group and didn't give hardly any to folk of another group---Henry Tajfel--we are social and anti social creatures Folks like cooperation and comtions--security and oppertunity to rise in status ----suffering and the limitation of Being------ life is suffering--so says religion so essentially if you took away all the limitations of a person--then All that God lacks is limitation-- That most important thing about a pot is the hole the Dues ex machina of Super man--made him boring When authors cheat on their reader the reader's instinct is to throw the book in the fire without suffering and limitation a man isn't A man in FAUST 1 and 2 the authors Devil questions why should one live at all--meaninglessness--war on 'being' How could such a good God allow this to exist being a nialist doesn't help the tradgedy of being--it only takes you from a rough spot to hell itself--neitche thought the best way to escape the tradgedy of being to was to create our new values--but this isn't sufficient--there is simply a value beyond thought and rationalism love isn't always the most rational thing--lots of time we love folks for their limitations and faults(not all faults but some)-- our limitation makes us human -------------Disintegration and pain------- Goes on about Miokayla and her condition it's better to choose freedom and danger over safety---safety might ensure someone lives on but what's living without the quality of life people get off on the horrible, not the secure Must preserve the good in being---aim high for your goals and values-take care of the little things that you can manage----I am a person who suffers however, you can't be in a constant battle-dealing with issues such as these must be handled more like a war rather than a battle--put some aside some time in the morning to deal with your mental dilemmas and then don't touch them again for the rest of the day we can survive the horrors of life but we have got to see the true goodness in being--if you dont then all is lost ----------Dogs again but finally cats-------- Cats are only semi domesticated animals--they are that which judges humans and at times finds approval in them---- enjoy the little things in life--that good cup of coffee when well rested------- REFLECTION: I've been reading this book off and on for the past three months or so, and I'm left a little overwhelmed---Peterson is incredibly articulate and his writings are impressive, but I've gotta say that he tends to go well off into the weed;that being said, it is a good reason for doing so. The topics introduced are really complicated--and it takes i good deal of contemplation. But I think it gives a man the chance to take a step back and realize that they aren't as good as they good be, and that you really need to take a deep look at who you are, what you're actually doing, and that everything matters.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who who someone else is today.

The Internal Critic So back when folks lived in small towns, they could be "good" and respected within their own little domains Me----we'll call this the Aaron Syndrome eminent- famous in your Podunk town No matter how good you are--there's someone out there who makes you look incompetent Failure is the price we all pay for standards-- I'd rather you get your ego driven feelings hurt rather than die in a car accident at its expense Prices Law--so a very small number of folks will win and they will win the majority of that which is won Bub-lots of folks will live at the bottom, and these people are unloved and they will live in poor health Life is a zero-sum game and failure is the default perhaps you should ignore that nihilistic voice in your head that says you're no good, it's in the head of everyone even the hipper successful---it's self-sabotaging Positive illusions-- spouted by modern psychologist are a crock of shit -------------------------------------------Many Good Games----- Those who live in a world where they have no standard of that which is good, or that which is bad, means that they live in a l so the goal is to win at A whole group of games--have to pick up games that match your talents---you're usually playing a lot of games teacher, brother son, friend, weight lifter, and coffee drinker if your winning at everything you do then perhaps you're just not trying anything new perhaps you're putting the lives of some on a pedestal when it's really not appropriate and maybe you're downgrading your own accomplishments guys better than you at his job but his wife is cheating on him So we have to dive deep that we may find the lessons of our culture and then integrate them into our own lives when you're a kid your frame of reference isn't very good, therefore you have to compare yourself to others In order to find yourself---you have to become a stranger and then get to know yourself--- you have to negotiate with yourself and notice yourself to do something--not just try to be your own tyrant Femme Fatale---an attractive and seductive woman, especially one who will ultimately bring disaster to a man who becomes involved with her. the anti-hero--Batman----this guy is attractive Dare to be dangerous---dare to be truthful--dare to articulate yourself-and to justify your life resentment--either you're being a baby or there's tyranny afoot---you are morally Obligated to speak out against it don't let tyrant go without speaking-only gets worse if not challenged-- when should you push back against oppression? the second you start nursing thought of destruction and revenge--don't let these poison you So our inner problems have a voice too--you need to understand what they are conveying to you, but to also retake control Dependence on your parents---> slowly integrated and socialized--become like everyone else--> and then try to individualize It's hard to compare yourself to others--we all have our own abilities, goals, dreams, fears, personalities, and levels of intelligence --------The point of our eyes (or, take Stock) So as people, we naturally aim at things that we want, and then we throw what we have at it-our sports are based around this way of thinking---we focus on or goal--we also have the amazing ability of foresight---this lets us imagine things that aren't even there--> how're this means that we are constantly seeing our current situation and seeing how it's insufficient to face all problems Home inspectors--> they point out both structural problems and cosmetic issues you need an internal inspector---pointing out all of your flaws hurts, but it's necessary The bad part about the future is that it's unknown but it's also freeer to manipulate--the past is stagnated, and the present is in an uproar happiness in life is found in the journey going up hills and the hope and promise of the mission itself---it's not even necessarily in the destination me: so here's the question--do people get overly down when a vacation isn't exactly what they expected? not necessarily, I mean at least when it cmes to me, I never really got all that down about it. we went into the situation hyped up, this hype came from the expectation, but also the anticipation. Step 1: ask yourself---as though you were someone else---whether or not there was something withing your life that's in true need of repair? Step 2: Pretend that you--the person you are negotiation with---is hard to get along with. ask humbly and remind yourself that you are here the set things straight, and ask nicely for their help Step 3: a state that you'll probably mess up more, but that you're actively trying to work on it Step 4: you're gonna have to negotiate with it, if you do this, then we'll go for a coffee or a walk, for a couple of hours of work, we'll take a 30-minute stroll Step 5: and don't break the damn promise Step 6: as yourself what could you do that will set things right with your brother tomorrow Step 7: what snakes could you remove from your garden to increase efficiency --I'm imagining reason and emotion-- You're a bad employee, but an even worse boss--this is why you can't make yourself do anything on command--incompetent tyrant and a do nothing slave Start small---and improve something small--then reward yourself with a coffee-- and then ever so slightly widen the load amount--after a few years, it's hard to say where you'll be at --------------What you want and what you see----------- He's bringing up the Simmons gorilla experiment--watch two teams bouncing ball but the watchers miss the gorilla So only a small part of your retina is high resolution---this is used to do complex things such as distinguishing faces and specific objects 10k cells stacked on each other knowns as the FOVea--this is the small area our Fovea- is saved for important things that we are aiming at we are looking at our destinations and only really take notice of things that block our path of the object--you are essentially blind to everything So let's say that you're currently in a shat storm----> you're aiming for something you want; however, the solution to the problem is right ahead, you just can't see it Your values and goals make up part of that which is seen--and they don't want to die---however, the time has come for some of these to die--so that new can be born it's not that life is necessary all that bad, it's that your value structure needs retooling Ask yourself to only chase that which make your life better without being bitter and resentful, find that thing and pursue it You have to learn how to prioritize your desires---sex, thirst, hunger, learning------this is how they become values The study of right and wrong is both the study of morality and of ethics Religion is the study of good behavior and good vs Evil--the proper behavior is what Plato called the "Good Life"---this is Called OBEDIENCE-- and he says that the enlightenment thinkers thought that this was too strict and that we have to question---he says lets not through the baby out, we have to have something good to aim at Says we need the dogmatic element of a higher order that we must aim at---because you need to be a highly disciplined person Gospel of Thomas--Christ says the kingdom of God is Spread out on the earth but men do not see it It is your actions that express your deepest beliefs---you aren't an atheist in the sense that you aren't an atheist in your actions---you have to watch your actions before you can truly understand what you believe You can't hope to understand all that you value--it's been shaped by your culture, biology, and millions if ot billions of years of evolution Part of the moral backbone of western culture is the Bible--it is the amalgamation of thousand of years--it should be respected ----------------Old Testament God and the New Testament God------ So the God of the old Testament was Like the Lion--where for those who strayed off the path--the straight and arrow--were destined to suffeer graetly Nietze thought that the God of the New Testament was a tragic figure and Europe should be ashamed of drafting him that way Peterson thought that in the World of the Camps--A kind Jepedo like God is hard to fathum--to those who have yet to open their eyes He goes back to the analogy of the guy envying his boss--and how you should drop that and work/aim towards a better life for yourself and your posterity rather than just obtaining a better office---it means to make things better today, tomorrow, and forever The world and yourself is so horrible because you let it get horrible--because you strayed off the path Faith isn't magic---it's the continual struggle against the horrors of living for the Good-- in an attempt to bring about the unachievable You have got to pay attention -------Pay Attention------ The Sumon on the Mount--do not worry how you will survive----aim for the kingdom of God And all the things of necessity will be added to you---don't worry about tomorrow--today has enough troubles as is attend to the day--but aim at the highest good Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who you are today ASK: what's bothering you what could be fixed Are you willing to fix -don't be envious of your boss, maybe his wife is cheating on him -tell the truth -hit low and be patient -negotiate with yourself--no tyrants and no slaves--transactional -attent to the day and aim at the highest good

Rule 3: Make Friends with people who want what's best for you

The Old Hometown Life was really hard growing up in his hometown---winters were deadly--friends were everything ----------My Friend Chris and his Cousin----- Chris--smart--natural enginer But seemed to be neglected in a major way---had a beat up truck---nihilist bumper sticker---hated his dad--didn't take good care of things Ed-was smart---but went down hill---not so angry---but lost---had poor dumb friends they found mary jane and that didn't help ----------Teenage Wasteland------------- Talks about parties and how he wasn't overly nostalgic about them--alcohol, creepy adults, town psychopaths, weapons, too loud, and from time to time idiots got hurt---this is so accurate Weary and leery of responsibility--overly cynical for sports or clubs turned on---dropped out but didn't tune in everyone knew who would leave by the age of 12 educated and college-bound never came back however, it was not for monetary reasons-- everyone had decent money in oil rich alberta in the 70's and 80's --------Some different Friends--and some more the same ----- goes on about Going to College with some new friend---they were on the upward swing--started a student union, fell in love with philosophy and lit, and organized student dances -so essentially it talks about---how your past tens to follo you around in a small town--and how moving to a new place can help you cut a new rut in the chaos of being new took his friends to Edmonton--the first thing his friends wanted to do was buysome pot--some folks get out of town but they never really leave his sister and him mover to Edmonton for grad school--she ended up going abrod and baby sits goilas--probably throws this in there for a contrast Ed became a burnout stoner and he brought another stone bone to the apartment-guy was out of his mind kinda stoned ---Why couldn't Chris, carl, or Ed move on from the places they were in life? Personality + intelligence +illness(physical and mental) + drugs chris killed himself why do folks actively choose things that are not good for them Freud--Repetition Compulsion ---people go back to horrible things because they wish to master them, or because better things don't appear People Create their own worlds with tools--crappy tools means crappy relults those who fail to learn from the past are doomed to repeat it Reasons: -it's partly fate -it's party inability -it's partly unwillingness to learn -motivated refusal to learn --------Rescuing the Damaged------ Young folks like to rescue others--> but you should keep in mind that some at the bottom aren't victims and some truly don't wanna leave the mud some folks choose to suffer because its their excuse to show the world as oppressive It's not easy to distinguish those trying to clime out of the muck and those who are just trying to exploit--not even for those who are in the position Those rescuing are ofter fulled by narcissism and vanity--not only good will/nievity Notes of From the Underground guy's a sick prick--ugly discussing waste fills a girl with hope--plays the unabashed savior--->then smashes her to pieces and for nothing more than the pleasure of doing so A hero is someone positive--it's not just the absence of evil So christ cared to help tax colectors and beggers--but he was the archetypical perfect man and you're just a shmuck so turns out when you stick dip shits with folks who don't care, the team just ends up being the worse for it---the psychological lit is already in on this stuff cynical, arragont, neaurotic, and lazy this is the same story for teenagers "down is a lot easier than up" the reasoning for goodwill: -a good person who wants to do the right thing -want to show off your ability to save-power -draw attention to your goodwill -want to look good by comparison maybe you hang out with crappy folks because it's easier--lets say you all know it--that you all are aiming for the shattyist path posible----all aiming for nialistic studipity---opting in for short term pleasure---all on an unspoken path to despotism don't buy the story that all the awful just fell out of the sky with not responcibility of the "victum" this remooves all of their agency and therefore all power Assume they are crappy first victim later vice/ failure is easy and so is overindulgence--and sin--thats why we do it as experts would---straight is the gate is definately more of a challenge Easy to not care and to put off tomorrow what must get done for life's cheap pleasures some people are so far down that they abuse others to stave off the misery of the fall maybe you're living in hell as a realistic middle finger to the suffessful and decent? maybe as a way to blame the world for it's so-called "injustice" Little slips into the world of vice can snowball you into the chasm Carl Rogers--it's impossible to help someone who is not ready to be helped---the desire to improve is the necessary precondition -those forced to be helped don't heed it-- just a travesty for the clinician trying to help You should leave the bad relationship--->get your act together and then lead by example-----> keep in mind this isn't an abandonment of your responsibilities just to pretend to be noble ------------------A reciprocal Arrangment---------- Good: -friends who you would reconend to your brother -those who seek to make the world a better place -who enpower you-who want what's best for you -those who see your life improove and thus there's is also improoved -wants your upward aim -won't accept your cynism -won't accept your destructiveness -no tyrants -no slaves -praise good -punish bad -every hero is a judge -(not mentioned) brotherly competition -make friends who want the best for you -possitively contributes to the good -tells the truth -aims for the good -actively lifts a load -wreslers order from chaos -neat -Learns activly-and mends mistakes -upholds all promises -wants to win and enter a state high than themselves -long term goals/short term pleasure -Wrok's -loyal -walks by the gate with GOD David Cries out to man "You could be more than your are!!!!!" It's not easy to stand alongside good people--strenth and daring, humility, caring, judgement Uncritical compssion and un warrented pity aren't good Don't: Jealous enablers punish you for support and activly withdraw theirs Cynical nihilistic opt for hedonism procrastinators cripple you for the past you've moved on from don't rejoice in your accomplishments spitefully bring you down to elevate themselves Narcisistic-vain belittlers -apethetic -lives for disorder--is a manifestation of chaos -short term plessure seekers WHAT ARE THE ULTIMATE LESSONS HERE? -some people don't want to be saved -assume some if not all have a direct hand in their own downfall-not a true victim -you can't help folks who don't wanna be helped -you can't yoke a yack -be a model not because of pride or vanity, but because ultimately it's the right thing to do -a bad apple corrupts the good-only as strong as the weakest link -Carl Rogers-a precondition to help is someone's desire to improove--force will not work -get away from the destructive, they will only bring you down--lead by example at a distance -you aren't responsible for the happiness of others

Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)

Get While the Getting is Good------------------- Life is suffering and one day you will return to the ground In the face of this, some would say hedonistic nihilism---(Wisdom 2:1-11) He says there is a better way our ancestors were acting in a manner that aloud them to survive, but they didn't really watch themselves and ask why this works---some started to do so and created stories that became artificial manifestations of this Thinks that the story of the garden is from our collective Conscience Suffering but we found that through sacrifice we may escape God's wrath Those unwilling to sacrifice will murder -------The Delay of Gratification------- Goes hand in hand with work/ sacrifice and society we are really the only creature that does this------ I won't mess with you or compromise myself so that I may achieve a sound future Understanding is acted out before articulated---think of crawling Sacrifice now for your future self is like bargaining with fate itself----do these horribly hard things and you will be rewarded-----> perhaps people watching your actions and contending with your new weight as a character Larger sacrifises must be made for larger endevours preping for the future is contrary to the way animals think Store food so i won't be hungry later, I have enough for later-I'll share with my friends--they'll share with me later if I have none later Doing favors for your new neighbor---this test their ability to get you back for the favor and to innitiate interaction--this is how we first built our bonds with folks Morals of generosity and honesty came out of this----it's good to be widely know for this, it's useful in groups The successful among us sacrifice for the future the unsuccessful don't Abraham and Issac If your life isn't going well, perhaps it's time to sacrifise that which you value most The monkey and the Jar Sometimes we have to give up that which is dear to us Christ is God--therefor the son of God dying on a Cross means that part of God Died------this is how we can see how we should sacrifise part of what we are Socrates lived for the truth---he died but without fear because he had meaning behind him(and because it was a good way to escape old age) If you live properly and for meaning then you can escape your fear of death One who lives with enough nobility, courage, and follows their conscience can escape any short term fears--God said don't worry for I am with you -----------Death, Toil, and Evil--------- In learning of the vulnerabilities of men and of foresight, mankind also became knowledgeable of good and evil Learning of his own vulnerabilities we learned of the vulnerabilities of others When you are slothful and lose--you can at least take some solice knowing that you could have done better when you were your but off and still lose--that is a pain to the soul Cain kills Able out of revenge aginst the world and God "Evil enters the world with Self-consciousness" Self-Conscious to the horrors of the world--but we are relatively good at handling disaster and cancer But human evil is not always so similar--it's a new dimension that haunts us Cain and Able are archetiple----they are almost like the two sides of every person---one that is good, and the other evil It's also respsentaive of how the evil of man can even kill the one who God took favor with Satin temps christ but this time good wins out ----------------------EVil Confronted------ we can compare Christ in the desert to the Concentration camps Jung--No tree can grow to heaven without roots that stretch to hell Christ is the character who always and wholehearted takes on Evil PTSD--typically cme from what people do, rather than things the do Battlefields are gateways to hell Satan embodies the refusal to sacrifice Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient My Does not live on Bread alone, but on every word from the mouth of GOD The Word of God would kill hunger forever---Personal responsibility maybe, and working Live as Christ lives and you will be hungry no more Deus ex machina is a cheap trick-it cut out independence, courage, destiny, and free will Do not put you Lord God To test--(Matthew) The third temptation was that kingdom of the world---ultimate power-not just the power to escape want, but the ability to rape and murder at will If you give Cain enough power he'll do the most despicable things The power of attention is higher than most values The lesson from the third temptation- is to dispense with perverse desires and immediate gratification The catastrophe of life ampliphise the disier everything immediately ------------Christianity and its Problems------------ So in the Dark ages, there were some--alchemist--who thought that that the blessings of Christianity in its metaphysics wasn't dealing with the problem of suffering--precursors to the scientist So they went out to the material world to try and see if there was a way to escape suffering You can't count out Christianity--it was the first religion who put the soul of the rich and poor on par--and that it is inherently wrong to rule over another without consent First to recognize genuine rights over everyone and that slave owners were degenerates----in a world where domination and slavery this was revolutionary -Public murder for entertainment is wrong -Infanticide is wrong -prositution is wrong -that women were equal in value to men -that unwanted humans are still human -and separated church and state -helped to develop Science we forget too quickly the problems that existed before Christianity--and too quick to jusge the trivial crap Co2 is a lot more trivial when you think of the immense human suffering without the advent of chemical propulsion The difference between moral narrative truth and objective truth Nietzsche thought that Paul and Luther removed Christians from responsibility and that Christians didn't practice what they preach Problems: -Devaluation of the earthly life -Acceptance of the status quo -and the believer abandoning moral burden for his actions These were Dostoevsky criticisms The Brothers Karamazov-Christ comes back--Heals the sick and talks above higher standard--christ Kissed the betraying inquisitor Dostoevsky refused to make strawmen of his atheistic opponents- even in the Brothers Kar--The atheist rationalist can beat the Christian in words; however the Christian The dogma exists, but it shouldn't be forgotten all the morally good things that come along with Christianity Dogmatic structure of Christianity can be good in the beginning-- it's like a father restraining his son and limiting his freedom so that he can eventually achieve a higher level of freedom Nietzsche thought we should create our over values Jung thought this was impossible because we can't simply tell our souls what to believe in----have you tried ordering yourself around-- let's see how far that got ya you must discover your true nature and then find yourself--who you are and whom you can become -------Doubt past mere Nialism---- goes on talking about Descartes--i think therefore I am--said it's similar to Mardock in the sense he is that which is observing and speaking magic words into existence--Again similar to the Christian Logos which brings order into being------Talk about the nature of Ideas and how ideas are in a sense alive and how humans cater to them--ho sometimes ideas need to die and how some other idea shouldtake it's place So essentially Jordan had a struggle-he said he started doubting his faith in christianity--then im socialism. said after reading orwel that it became clear that the socialist didn't care about the rich, they just hated the rich. scared of nucrlear innialiation and still wasn't sure how to distinguish the good from the subjective. Had an A-priori moment where he concluded that the bad or things that suck-like pain are much harder to shew away. Pain is alwful, and a new great value is to avoid suffering --------Meaining as the Higher Good----- This is basically his whole philosophy: -Aim high -Pay attention -Fix what you can -Don't be arrogant -lift a load -have humility for ypur own limitations -Become aware of your own insufficiency---me it's cowardice -Consider your own murderousness -Maybe it's not the world at fault but your own Don't ever lie--ling lead to the deaths of millions Allieviate unesseary suffering the las one must be an axium---he see's this as the means for bringing about the kingdom of God Jung said whatever is at the top of one's moral hierarchy is their God---and that people act out their deepest beliefs Striving for "meaning"--- it emerges when impulses are regulated--it is the interplay between your value structure and what the world could be----and if your value structure is Doing what is meaningful--making the world better for being No faith, courage or sacrifice ever came from what was expedient Doing that which is expedient creates a demons and destroys the life of your future self Doing what is meaningful will bring about the best of worlds

Rule 8: Tell the Truth or at least don't lie

Truth in No Man's Land---------- Talks about his clinicals at the Phych ward--lots of folks discharged during the 60's through the 80's because of legislation--people living found worse lives living on the streets there are really only two options when taking to them--Lie and save face, or to tell the truth Paranoid fella--very logical folks-hyper sensitive to lying-this one was set off by bureaucratic bull crap---Jordan told the truth-regardless(even when he said he was scaring him) -----My Landlord-------- Biker Drunk at 4 in the morning selling a microwave---Jordan told him no- he wasn't going to buy a microwave or toaster from him so that he can get more boos--he said so as truthfully as he could- no deciet, no condesention--Taking the easy way out and and telling the truth are two differnt ways of going through life \ ------Manipulate the world-------- Those who speak politically-your salesmen, and pick up artist--these folks tell lies to get what they want, to take credit for something they didn't do, or to try and please someone---Alfred Adler calls this life lies Lie Lies 1-First that current knowledge is sufficient into the future 2-Second-life would be unbearable if left to its own devices People generally come up with axioms- and unfortunately, they stick to these and consider them truths without a little investigation-----the rational ind tends to fall in love with itself----they bring about more suffering to try and bring about this world view----murderous utopians This is how people become slaves to ideas and to other people--especially when they consider the idea to be an absolute-questioning the idea will bring about reprisals two types of crime commission and omission If you can't reveal yourself to others, you can' reveal yourself to yourself you have to put yourself under adverse situations to unlock all of your genes You weaken your character when you lie Concentration camp guards-kept saying yes when they knew they should say no--eventually no one will have the courage to say no a philosophy that requires falsification brings about a worse world Make tiny changes to fix your mistakes--a game you are playing implies that you're trying to win if your strategy isn't working then switch up your game try not to let your mistakes accumulate If you ignore problems and bureaucratic inefficiency then you are corrupting your own soul Solzhenitsyn-the problem in the soviet union was the fact that everyone lied--they falsified their day to day experience Frankl--said the precursor to social totalitarianism is deceitfulness and people living inauthentic lives Jung said that his patients who had moral problems were plagued by their own untruths so talks about Milton's Paradise lost--he discusess how Satan is a representation of the rational mind-how it tends to fall in love with itself and its own creations--- this leads to the exceptance that an idea can be held as an absolute and that you shouldn't rebel aginst it or inspect yourself after accepting that idea---it is the birth of totaltarianism---leads people to decietfulness deceitfulness--fills mans souls with resent and vengefulness part f Faith is accepting that there are things higher than yourself and that you must put aside the idea that "what you know is sufficient, and that you have to acquire more" ------------The Truth instead--------- you must Aim at something higher than yourself--->keep in mind that you must constantly check to see whether you or your methods are flawed Talks about horras and osiras--The moral is that a culture or state can blindfully be casted down into chaos--and that you must pay attention and pull it from the debths-horras losses his eye (no matter how sound a plan or person they can still be wounded) The logos of christianity--bring order out of chaos--its like the phenix--reture from the debths anew pick yourself up and lift a load Pay attention and you can move toward a goal--and adapt it if need be people's ambitions become their God It is hard to reach peace, conflict may be necessary--it's also the way to escape tyranny You must find a meta truth---such as act diligently toward an articulated and temporary goal. Lying leads to more lies, eventuallly folks become disconected with reality, this leads to resent, they blame the world and say that they diserve revenge-----this is misery itself Truth is the most valuable resource we have---it is the mechanism in which we pull order out of chaos If you are in a dark place start telling the truth---or at least don't lie

Chapter 2: Treat yourself like someone you're responsible for

Why do folks not take their medication? Doctors blame the patient Psychiatrist are one of the exception--they tend to blame themselves for the disconnect between the patient taking and not taking their meds its usually because folks have many other health problems that impair them from taking their meds effectively folks tend to care what happens to their dog more than themselves--Jordan thinks this is BS and wonders why---points to Genesis for the reasoning --------------The Oldest Story--- So Peterson talks about the perspective of men at present if concerned primarily with Objective reality where the past with more concerned with subjectivity---life of man and the cosmos was told more like a story/ Novel rather than an objective description-------Pain, and feeling well are true but they are a lot different than most modern interpretations of truth ------------The Domain of Matter out of What Matters---------- Order chaos Consciousnesses we are all vitims of the first two---the third is the mechanism by which we content with it Chaos is that which is the unknown--that which goes bump in the night--the cancer you suffer from-you sick child-it's your marriage ending Mankind- in a sense is also chaos--we are not consistent-we are always altering ourselves in some way--it's also freedom Order is the opposite--it is the train leaving on time--its the floor on which you stand-its the thin ice we all stand upon--it's also tyranny---in order we can think about thinks in the long term-it is peace-it's also why we refuse to venture out 9/11 the question isn't what fell-it's what is left standing--order turned into absolute chaos real quick-you could feel it in the air Pinocchio venturing to the bottom of the ocean to face the monster order is the shire When things seem wonderful, tragedy has a nack for sneaking in and ruiniing your plan All places carry a hint of chaos and surprise Chaos Reaction: Suprise-run Emotion Deaps thoughts toward a solution ---------------Chaos and OrderPersonalities of Famales and Males------ ---Hyperactive ageny Detector--humans are highly social-this is why we have a tendency to turn the world away from just being objects, and to being akin to people Our personalities are inherently seenas male and femal--stems back all the way to mice having to care for their young Darwin--> nature is that which judges----> women are the on's who select--> ergo humans are also the nature---> ---Conflict: I've always seen myself as an individual---But I've scarcely ever thought of myself as someone who belonged to anyone else---this book is somewhat in conflict with that notion----evolution forced us to rely on others to survive/ reproduce -- a note from youtube-you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness So as the human brain grew--we stoped only seeing things as friends and foes--we also started to se things as objects for utilization and ideas/abstractions We saw objects via a sexual lense(male/ female) The Taoist see things as Yin and Yang---Chaos and order Yang-is Order-it is male-it is consevative-but it is also tyranny---it's God the Father-its the engineer-it's the policeman--but it's also the goosestep and the concentration camp Choas-Feminine--out of Choas order is born--it's childbirth-and the mother grizzly tearing you to peices--it's also the crushing force of sexual selection 85% to 50% of men that single women encounter would be considered a no--men are a lot less selective--been with the worst and the best after all women-long gestration--> highly selective---> men are highly competitive, aggressive and domineering to go against and to satisfy women--freakin paradox The dichotomy between men and women also extends to religious symbols---star of David Religious We've all been to hell once or twice in our lives--just like we've all seen glimpses of heaven Your intellect is a combination of the mind body and soul there are two types of knowing---knowing that is Proscriptive and that which is descriptive ---what is and how it ought to be Mathew--the gate is strate and you must keep to it--few find it metaphysics--so we are not only in a word of abjects-but a meta-reality between heaven and hell In order, t live a meaningful life--one needs to keep shooting for the higher order---there are platoues but most of us don't know the limits of our own bilities--you have to ride the wave between order and chaos--it's the liberal among conservatives and progressive--> it's the spinter going as fast as they can without whiping out or sitting you here this balance in music with a good tempo Order and Chaos essentially make up everything--that which is concerned and that which surrounds us and makes us insecure Order--Life, meaning, and Coscienceness---Choas -------Garden of Eden------ so a redactor wove the old stories of genisis together in order to make the final product So no matter how great Eden's walls--chaos we still able to get in with the leged serpent satan--Chaos is inherently invasive-Order is fleding-- mans heart is no exception, were have evil and chaos within us-- "the worst of all states is man's proclivity for evil" In safety a man has to abandon all things that are intersteing--protect your children from the nightmares and they wont have the tools to face thm alone, one has the becime competant rather then to except protection alone--teach a man to fish Being in relative proximity to choas means that you will have to pay attention to it- and this is apart of being a man talks about how nothing in a story is there by accident alone-- Women are inherently more self-conscience, fearful, and nervous than men However, thanks to the fact that women are the head of sexual selection, they make us self-conscience--via rejection of us and the force of our own responcibility The snake in the garden helped give us vision --------The Naked Ape----- ------ Being naked means to be vulnerable and prone to the judgemnt of others-- -side note: animals can see what we're all about--they know our vunulbal spots are on display Man hid from God The ideal(by definition) judges the unideal men refuse to walk with God/ women because they fear and resent his judgments Resentful men hate women and blame God for making them ugly ------------------------ God's punishment Women will bear children--suffer through it--love stupid and recentful men--and worst of all he'll be over when you will have your kids book side note--over millions of years there was an arms race between the width of female hips and the size pf the baby's head--hips got wide so women couldn't run anymore--infiants have a simy colpsable head--and are in a state of dependance for years after the birth--womens selectivity Man's Punishment- you will be able to predict the future to an extent--you know what's t come-->, therefore, you will know all of the dangers that exist----> this means that you will have to sacrifise the presentfor the future---> this means that you will have to work in order to stave this off and in order to provide for your mate/ posterity---> thisels will be there to greet you ------Peterson: Heaven is what you build: immortality is something you earn---immortatility being children perhaps, perhaps the city of God-- So we are back to the original question about why folks don't take their medicine--it's again because we all have a frontrow seat to our own wickedness----not taking your medicine(not doing that which is inherently "Good" for you) is a way to self punish, be resentful to the nature of being and to say screw off to personal responsibility --------Good and Evil--------- animals do bad things, but in most ways, it's out of necessity We are one of the only beings who have an internal we are the one's who exploit others in the most horrific ways we are the one's who inflicts fuffering for it's own sake it's something that we have the internal sense of right and wrong --but choose to ignore it--shows true evil-its the voluntarism of ignorance So a question that arises is whether we should have existed at all---if you never asked yourself this maybe you haven't lived too long ---------A spark of Divine------ There's something deep inside of you there's something divine about a Is it better to be made good or to be born good Everything after the fall of Adam and Eve became a mission to remedy evil "If you want to take care of yourself, you have to get some respect for yourself If you live an authentic and truthful life, then you can once again walk the gate with God Truth=respect for others and for yourself----> if we took care of our selfs like we were someone that we actually cared about then we could actually start putting the world in order it is not virtuous to be bullied by yourself or by others We have a very altruistic culture---but one should keep in mind that loving your neighbor as much as yourself has nothing to do with being nice-------> the relationship needs to be mutually beneficial The opposite of Rand----> those who harm themselves are also harming others God's divine like of God--the Creator--is within you---> therefore you not only belong to yourself but also to him----> we are but vessels for God's will You are not God, but you are not a nothing either We as humans keep the engine of the world running despite all of out iniquities We hold the world together despite how wounded we are It's a miracle that we all don't just slip into an abise of resent and despair Mankind deserve a little sympathy and thanks---we are structurally weak, and morally corruptible Contempt is only half of the story---the other half is reverence for our strength God is apart of you, therefore you diverse some respect---> we all have our roles to play in this life------> this is also why you are obligated to take care of yourself if none of us cared for our own seleves then the world would be jacked up You must do things that are actually good for you-------good does not equal happy ---- -----Bare Necessities-- 1-must have a job that lies on the border between order and chaos 2-no tyrants and no slave 3-you are not ultimately responsible for others happiness 4--surround yourself with those who empower you 5-keep promises you make to yourself-- 6-you must respect the divine role you have in life 7-tell the truth 8-your leisure should improve you 9--we have to bring heaven about and earn right to its entry 10-start by fixing yourself he whose life has a why, can bear almost any how find your shadow in hell and then go in the opposite direction if you aim for heaven, then one day you may be worthy enough the earn it I want you all to close your eye's and to think about the worst time of your lives----please embrace it, let the pain wash over---> picture yourself there---> not only surrounded by objects but also by the feeling of loss and the knowledge that nothing will ever trully be as they were