CHAPTER 7: UNDERSTANDING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

In which stage of Knapp's developmental model is the relationship generally pleasant and uncritical and the commitments minimal?

Experimenting

Which of the following best explains why opposites attract?

They are complementary- each partner's characteristics satisfy the others needs

Marissa and Valerie are both in physical chemistry class together. They are very different from each other. They have been running eight miles together every weekend for the past 10 weeks. During this time they have also grown closer together. What can you infer from the information given?

They value quality time together

Which statement best characterizes appearance as a factor of attraction?

??????? People are more likely to show romantic interest in people they consider physically attractive. ???????

What is the degree to which people like or appreciate one another?

Affinity

Derrick doesn't disclose much to Irene, although she'd like him to disclose more. He does help her by working on her car when it has problems. He wants her to know he's there for her. They are both frustrated because they each desire more intimacy with each other. What might best help Derrick achieve such intimacy?

Affirming words

Esperanza tells her new acquaintance Marcus that he is the funniest person she knows. Although she does not believe that he is the funniest person she knows, she likes Marcus and is being nice. What type of deception is she likely using?Esperanza tells her new acquaintance Marcus that he is the funniest person she knows. Although she does not believe that he is the funniest person she knows, she likes Marcus and is being nice. What type of deception is she likely using?

Altruistic lie

Ben and Marianne have been dating for over a year now, but things have changed in the last few months. They don't talk very often anymore. Marianne asks Ben if he'd like to go to dinner and he replies "I would, but I have a lot to do around the house." In truth he doesn't really have all that much to do. What stage of Knapp's developmental model are they most likely in?

Avoiding

Patrice is giving a speech in front of her class. She keeps shifting nervously back and forth. Patrice is not aware that she is shifting, but her classmates are. According to the Johari Window, which window or area would this fall under?

Blind

The social penetration model is used to describe which two dimensions of communication?

Breadth and Depth

Determine which stage of Knapp's developmental model Kim and Brad are in based on the following clues: It might seem like a good thing, but they are arguing less than they once did. They just don't have the energy to get into it anymore. While they still spend time together, their communication lacks the quality it once had.

Circumsribing

In which culture are public displays of affection considered taboo?

Collectivist Cultures (Like Japan and Taiwan)

Liam cares deeply for his wife, Karen. Liam tells Karen in a matter-of-fact tone, "You need to pay off your credit card immediately to avoid late charges." He adds in a sincere and caring tone, "You're such a wonderful and responsible person and I'd hate to see your credit take a hit!" What kind of relational message is Liam likely expressing towards Karen?

Control

___________is the amount of influence communicators seek.

Control

Communicators seek important but inherently incompatible goals throughout virtually all of their relationships. The conflicts that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously are called ________

Dialectical Tensions

Which best describes similarity as an influential factor of attraction?

Disclosure

What has two or more equally plausible meaningsWhat has two or more equally plausible meanings

Equivocal Language

In the developmental model, which stage of conversation development is the one in which people get acquainted by making "small talk"?

Experimenting

You tell a friend, "You must be busy. I'd better let you go," because you want out of the conversation. What type of lie did you use?

Face-saving hint

Which type of gender-related self-disclosure tends to produce the greatest amount and depth of information exchanged?

Female-Female

Which statement is most accurate in regards to male and female intimacy?

Females feel closer when they talk and males feel closer when they do things together

Suzanne really likes Claire but she never shows it outwardly. This is an example of _______

High affinity/ low immediacy

describes the degree of interest and attraction we feel toward and communicate to others

Immedialy

Asif was having difficulty starting a conversation with Janie in person. He found making contact with her via the Internet helpful in starting a conversation with her. According to the developmental model, which stage is Asif at?

Initiating

In which stage of the developmental model might using the Internet be especially beneficial for shy people?

Initiating

In which stage of Knapp's developmental model do parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit?

Integrating

Which quality of intimacy includes engaging another person in an exchange of important ideas?

Intellectual Sharing

In which stage of Knapp's developmental model does a truly interpersonal relationship begin to develop?

Intensifying

In what country mentioned in the book are public displays of affection considered taboo?

Japan

Which is the most true of love languages?

People attach different values to each one

Kate marries the attractive and quite muscular Tim. They connect on many levels. Based on the reading, what will most likely happen?

Physical features will become less important

What occurs when people treat one another as unique individuals, regardless of the context in which the interaction occurs or the number of people involved.

Qualitatively interpersonal communication

How do qualitatively interpersonal communication and contextually interpersonal communication compare?

Qualitatively interpersonal communication isn't always with only two people while contextually interpersonal communication is

Heather gets the impression that Lindsey likes her. Based on her impression, Heather seeks Lindsey's friendship. What best explains this type of attraction?

Reciprocal Attraction

What is the degree to which we admire others and hold them in esteem

Respect

LaDrake been in a relationship with Mina for over a year. He often discloses very personal information to her, stuff he doesn't tell anyone else. Mina has recently been asking about some problems LaDrake had when he was younger. He values being able to talk with her about almost anything but would rather not talk about this portion of his life. He's a much different person now. Although it makes him a bit uncomfortable, he decides to tell Mina some select details about his past. Which best describes how he managed the dialectical tensions?

Segmentation

The Johari Window helps represent how __________ operates.

Self-disclosure

What is the process of deliberately revealing information about oneself that is significant and that would not be normally known by others

Self-disclosure

Susan tells Jill that she played softball when she was young, something Jill didn't know. Bobby accidentally tells Dedrick some highly personal news about his arrest last week, something Dedrick didn't know. What best describes how the two statements compare?

Self-disclosure has to be significant, delibrate, and something not normally known by others (neither would be self-disclosure)

We often seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater than or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with them. This describes the ______

Social Exchange Theory

One quality of online communication is its potential to convey ________

Social support

Which of the following best describes a characteristic of effective self-disclosure?

Usually: occurs in dyads, symmetrical, incrementally, and scarce

What does the book say concerning disclosure?

Women are more likely than men/ that's not the only way men feel close

Which statement best describes intimacy?

being close to another person

Which of the following is an example of metacommunication?

communication about communication

Carlos usually spends a lot of time surfing. He values the time he has in the ocean alone with his thoughts and the waves. It's something he really feels like he needs. He recently met a very exciting woman named Amy. He's been spending a lot of his time with Amy. He enjoys the always-thrilling time they spend together, but he wishes he could surf more like he used to. He feels like surfing is a part of his identity that is now missing. What type of tension is he most likely feeling?

connection-autonomy dialectic

Recent research shows that women often build friendships through shared positive feelings, whereas men often build friendships through ________

doing things together

David tells Kelly a lot about his past, his feelings, and current interests. He usually isn't too revealing about these subjects, but sometimes he will go into some great detail about aspects of his past. Kelly discloses to David in a similar way. Considering the social penetration model, what best characterizes their level of intimacy?

intimate (depth)

Your partner tells you, "You look nice in that outfit." The implication that he or she likes you and is proud of the way you look is the of the message.

message