COMMUNICATION FINAL BOYYY

Expressing feelings is always advisable.

False

Research indicates that in general, the least effective and least satisfying response to the tension generated by relational dialectics is to:

Honor one need and ignore the contradictory one

Jenema is walking in a mall and a homeless person approaches her and asks for money. Jenema keeps walking without speaking to or looking at the person. The relationship between Jenema and the homeless person is

I-It

All of the following are part of the process of human perception EXCEPT:

Imagination

___________ is behavior that increases perceptions of closeness between communicators.

Immediacy

_______________ exists when people in "I-You" or "I-Thou" relationships have different views, interest or goals and feel a need to resolve those differences.

Interpersonal Conflict.

The 3 dimensions of committed romantic relationships are:

Intimacy, commitment, and passion

The _______ is a model of the different types of knowledge that affect self-devopment.

Johari Window

____ models of communication view communication as flowing only in one direction, from sender to receiver.

Linear

___________ refers to words that strongly slant perceptions and thus meanings.

Loaded Language

This orientation to conflict assumes that conflict results in losses for everyone.

Lose-Lose

This type of love was described in class by a photo of the Road Runner. It is characterized by love not being taken seriously - commitment is not the goal of this type of love:

Ludus

_________ occurs because we cannot take in all communication with the same level of mindfulness. This might happen to you when you read a chapter from a textbook, attend a class, talk to a friend about the upcoming election, watch a video lecture and then attend a night class (whew!).

Message Overload

Communication about Communication is called:

Metacommunication

This theory states that people apply economic principles to evaluate their relationships.

Social Exchange Theory

When people share norms about how to use talk and what purpose it serves, a ___________ exists.

Speech Community

According to the text, all of the following could be external pressures on friendship, except:

Stability

Sarah and Nicole have been friends for many years and share a high level of trust. Their friendship is best described as being in the __________ stage.

Stabilized friendship

Mandy believes that there is nothing she can do to change how she feels. She is depressed. Mandy is suffering from which fallacy?

Helplessness

"One day, I won't have to worry about money. One day, I'll make a great salary." These statements illustrate how symbols allow for:

Hypothetical Thought

Your family has a rule that you are not allowed to argue at the dinner table. This is an example of a ______________ rule.

Regulative

Friendships typically begin with:

Role - Limited Interaction

Tabitha wants some alone time becuase she feels she needs to get in touch with herself as an individual. However, her partner wants them to spend as much time together as possible. The tension in this example illustrates the __________ relational dialectic.

autonomy / connection

​Verbal communication and nonverbal communication are similar in all of the following respects EXCEPT:

​both are perceived as equally believable.

Passion is the primary foundation for enduring committed romantic relationships.

False

Attachment styles are:

parenting patterns that teach us who we are and how to approach relationships.

_______________ is the overall feeling or emotional mood between people.

Communication Climate

Which of the following is not characteristic of constructive communication during conflict?

Counterproposals

When we are forced to be around others whose values, attitudes and life-styles conflict with our own, and proximity breeds ill will, we might have this occur:

Environmental Spoiling

These tell us what we have a right to feel or what we are expected to feel in particular situations:

Feeling rules

"Memorial Day parades are patriotic, yet sad events," is an example of a(n) ____ rule.

Framing

When John shows up late for dinner, he must be inconsiderate and not care about being on time. If I show up for dinner late, it is because of things I could not control. This type of thinking is an example of the:

Fundamental Attribution Error

Language that radically dehumanizes members of particluar groups is called:

Hate Speech

What is the difference between listening and hearing? (SHORT ANS)

Hearing is the ability to detect sound. It is an easy process and does not require a lot of work. Listening is the active process of being mindful, selecting, organizing and interpreting communication that we have heard. It is a complex process that requires more work.

In your textbook chapter 7 this week, the "pinch" is mentioned. What does this refer to? (SHORT ANSWER)

In some situations we use Emotional work to make ourselves feel what our culture finds as appropriate. In our textbook "Pinch" describes the moment when we transform ourselves to feel what our cultures deems as appropriate.

When does the book indicate that the reciprocity of Self-Disclosure is most important?

In the early stages of a relationship

Which of these is a reason that we might select certain stimuli around us in the perception process?

It Stands Out Over Others It Meets Our Needs and Motives It is Different or has Changed (ALL THE ABOVE)

Relational Dialectics are:

Opposing forces that are normal in relationships

A common form of covert conflict is ______________, which is acting aggressively while denying feeling or acting aggressive.

Passive Agression

Someone who is more cognitively complex than another applies more of these during the process of human perception.

Personal Constructs

Your book states that typically, people who have been socialized in a masculine speech community will achieve closeness in interpersonal relationships through:

Sharing activities

Joey is a college student who is outstanding academically, plays on the varsity soccer team, volunteers and works part-time tutoring young children. Joey also happens to be gay. When Joey goes home, all his parents focus on is his sexual orientation. We can say that Joey's parents are:

Totalizing

The ________ model of communication highlights the dynamic nature of interpersonal communication. I talked about this in the mini-lecture as being the "best" model of communication out there.

Transactional

A Personal Construct is a "mental yardstick" we use to measure a person or situation along a bipolar dimension of judgment.

True

According to Goleman (1995a, 1995b, 1998; Goleman et al., 2002), people who have high emotional intelligence quotients (EQs) are more likely than people with lower EQs to create satisfying relationships, to be comfortable with themselves, and to work effectively with others.

True

Americans have historically seen raising children as a primary objective of marriage, but it is no longer seen as the only goal of marriage.​

True

Games involve cooperation between players

True

Interpersonal Conflict only exists if disagreements or tensions are expressed.

True

Nonverbal Communication tends to be perceived as more believable than verbal communication.

True

Words are Symbols.

Trueee

Which of the following is TRUE about (relationship) investments?

We can't retrieve our investments if the relationship ends

According to the text, all of the following could be internal pressures on friendship, except:

Years of commitment

Nonverbal communication includes:

all aspects of communication other than words

What is an attribution?

an explanation of why something happened or why someone acts a certain way

Edmund is very attentive and supportive of his son Mike when he is sober, but when Edmund drinks, he often ignores his son and sometimes verbally abuses him. Mike never knows which way his father will act. If the father is Mike's primary care giver, Mike is likely to develop which attachment style?

anxious-ambivalent

An example of psychological noise is

being preoccupied with a problem

Britney and Kevin have been dating for over five years. They constantly talk about how many kids they want and where they will live in the future. This is an example of how interpersonal _______________.

communication develops and sustains relationships

All of the following are reasons why we may not express emotions except:

communication problems

"You are are a very smart girl," Tammy tells her daughter. Tammy's statement is an example of a(n):

direct definition.

An example of physiological noise is:

fatigue

The perspectives of the ______ other reflect the views generally held by others in a society.

generalized

When we listen like this, we attend only to the content level and overlook what's being communicated on the relationship level.

literal listening.

The ___ view of emotions posits this model: stimulus > physiological response> emotion.

organismic view

Broadly held social views in modern Western culture emphasize which of the following as central to personal identity?

race, gender and sexual orientation (all of the above)

What is "I" Language and why would you want to use it?

"I" Language is the type of communication that allows the speaker to take responsibility for their emotions. You would want to use I language to really know what we are feeling, rather than the other person.

Suzie is in an argument with Fred. Suzie adds to her original complaint by recalling all sorts of other real or imagined slights from John. He may reciprocate by hauling out his entire laundry list of gripes. This is an example of what?

"Kitchen Sinking"

You tell a friend that you have two tests and a paper due next week, and your friend says, "You think that's bad? Listen to this; I have two tests, three papers and an oral report all due in the next two weeks!" This is an example of which common game?

"Mine is Worse than Yours"

All families follow the same seven stages of development.​

False

1. Refers to how we use and perceive time 2. Refers to space and how we use it 3. Refers to body position and body motions including facial expressions 4. Communication that is vocal but does not use words 5. Elements of setting that affect how we feel and act 6. Personal objects we use to announce our identities 7. Sense of touch

1. Chronemics 2. Proxemics 3. Kinesics 4. Paralanguage 5.Environmental Factors 6. Artifacts 7. Kinesics

This psychologist first described a hierarchy of human needs.

Abraham Maslow

As soon as Barton finishes speaking, Matt jumps in and says, "Ha! I knew that's what you'd think and I can tear holes in your reasoning." He then proceeds to refute much of what Barton said. Matt has engaged in:

Ambushing

What do we mean when we say that conflict can be expressed overtly or covertly? What is overt conflict? What is covert conflict? (SHORT ANS)

Conflict may be expressed overtly or covertly. Overt conflict is out in the open and more explicit. This type of conflict exists when people deal with their differences in a direct and straight forward manner. Covert conflict is conflict that is expressed indirectly. This is when feelings and disagreements are not openly discussed. A form of covert conflict is passive aggression.

As after taking cooking lessons, Thelma bakes a cake for her friend Louise's birthday. When Louise sees the cake, she says, "Wow, that's so sweet. My mom always made a special cake for my birthday, and she would decorate it so elaborately." Thelma replies, "Well I'm sorry that I didn't decorate the cake extravagantly. I guess I still have a lot to learn about cooking." Thelma's response illustrates

Defensive Listening

This type of love is a powerful passionate love, it happens suddenly and typically has dramatic highs and lows

Eros

This stage of the family life cycle describes couples who settle into a marriage or a cohabiting relationship.

Establishing a Family

The _________ response to conflict involves physically leaving a conflict or psychologically withdrawing.

Exit

​Conflict is inherently negative.

FALSE

According to equity theory, people become dissatisfied with relationships if the scales of equality tip in one direction or another for any amount of time.​

False

Every once in a while Amy gets frustrated because her best friend only wants to sit and play video games when he comes over. She likes playing video games, but sometimes wishes they would try something different. This is an example of which relational dialectic?

Novelty / Predictability

In terms of love styles, all of the following statements are true EXCEPT:

One's love style is permanent through life

John doesn't like to talk about a car accident he was in when he was younger that greatly injured his friend. John's wife wishes he would open up and talk about it and since they are married, he should share everything. This is an example of which relational dialectic?

Openness / Closeness

This stage of the family life cycle describes couples after all children have left home and the couple is once again the primary unit.

Post launching of children

A person who has this style of love is most likely to set criteria on an online dating site before even considering going out with a person:

Pragma

The three secondary styles of love are:

Pragma, agape and mania

As soon as the news program begins an interview with the president, Dolores quits paying attention and she mumbles to herself, "I already know everything he has to say and I don't want to hear it again." Dolores's ability to listen is being hindered by:

Prejudgment

Relational culture is best defined as:

Private understandings, rules and meanings that partners create

Sarah and Mark are dating. They had a disagreement on their last date. Mark just picked Sarah up and is chatting about his day when he notices Sarah seems upset. After asking her why she is upset, Sarah confesses that she is still angry about their disagreement from last date. Sarah and Mark had a different understanding of that disagreement's:

Punctuation

While visiting her parents on a break from school, Deena doesn't pay attention to much of what they say. She lets much of their communication just goes in one ear and out the other without her ever listening. However, when her mother mentions going shopping to get some new clothes and good novels for Deena to take back to school, Deena listens attentively. This is an example of ____ , one form of nonlistening.

Selective Listening

This is a predictive generalization applied to a person or situation. Based on the category in which we place someone or something and how that person or thing measures up against the personal constructs we apply, we predict what he, she, or it will do.

Stereotype

Of her marriage, Myra says, "It wasn't like we really ever fell in love. It was more like we grew together kind of gradually. I think of my husband as my best friend." Myra seems to have which style of love?

Storge

Typical effects of this fallacy include: thinking you are responsible for others' feelings and guilt for how others feel.

Taking responsibility for others

The dimensions of trust (that your book discussed) when it comes to friendship are confidence that others will be dependable and:

That they will assume emotional responsibility

Which of the following is an example of a prototype?

The person who best exemplifies a friend to you

What is self-disclosure?

The revelation of personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways

What are the three steps in a perception check?

The three steps in a perception check are: 1. Description- describe what behavior you noticed 2. Interpretation - provide two possible interpretations of that behavior 3. Clarification - ask for clarification about the behavior and interpretations

Nonverbal communication is symbolic

True

The attachment style an infant develops can change over the course of life.​

True

The term conformity orientation refers to the extent to which family members are expected to share the same beliefs. ​

True

This conflict orientation is typically cultivated in cultures that place value on individualism, self-assertion and competition.

Win-Lose

Phychologists define _________ as rules for living and identity. These are usually formed by age 5.

identity scripts

Monica and Chandler have an argument over whose turn it is to do clean their house. In the heat of the argument, Chandler calls Monica a "slob". Then, Monica calls Chandler a "self-centered moron". Later, after they have made up, Chandler tries to apologize to Monica. However, Monica is still hurt and complains that no matter what Chandler says now he must have meant what he said. According to the communication principles, Chandler doesn't realize that:

interpersonal communication is irreversible

Randy says, "I am really bummed out about not getting any job offers." His roommate, Lance, responds, "Sounds as if you're feeling pretty low about the response so far." Lance's communication is an example of:

paraphrasing

Nikki believes that she is lovable and that people are loving and can be trusted. Nikki likely has a _______ attachment style.

secure

Jenna believes that she doesn't have an aptitude for statistics, so she doesn't put much effort into her statistics class. She performs poorly in the class, supporting her initial belief. This is an example of a(n):

self-fulfilling prophecy

We are most likely to engage in emotion work when we:

think what we are feeling is inappropriate.

Your book states that typically, for individuals socialized in feminine speech communities, closeness in interpersonal relationships is primarily achieved through:

​Dialogue.

All of these statements give good advice for communicating in families EXCEPT:

​Focus on the small issues and let the big ones go.

​All of these statements provide good advice for improving nonverbal communication EXCEPT:

​Try to interpret a person's nonverbal communication independent of culture or setting.

Listening skills need to be modified according to the goals, situations, and people to whom we are listening. Using different listening skills when listening for information and for relationship listening is known as:​

​adapting listening appropriately.

Symbols are:​

​arbitrary, ambiguous, and abstract.

Clifford Notarius (1996) identified the following three key elements that influence satisfaction in long-term relationships:​

​words, thoughts, and emotions.