Human Relations Strategies for success CH 3

Levels of Self Disclosure

1- Peak Communication 2-The 'Gut" level 3-Expressing ideas and judgements 4- Reporting facts about others 5-Cliche conversation

Facing fear of self-disclosure

1. Start with the worst possible scenario 2. Prepare yourself to accept worst possible outcome 3. Proceed with a plan

Self-Disclosure

Allows people to know themselves and those around them better

Reasons to avoid self-disclosure

Childhood experiences; shamed or punished; may have been taught to hide strong emotions from others People tend to adapt their behavior to the audience or listener they are communicating with Americans glorify the nice person

Johari Blind Pane

Contains everything other people can see about yourself but you can't see about yourself.

Johari Hidden Pane

Contains information and feeling that you are feeling that you are hiding from other people.

Johari Open Pane

Contains information that you know about yourself and that you have no reason to hide

Johari Window

Diagram of our four panes that shoes you ways of relating to others; the open, blind, hidden, and unknown

Why People withhold information

Feel all powerful and control other's feelings Feel superior to those around them Believe that they are perfect Have everyone's approval Feel safe from people who might challenge them Deny that they have problems Avoid the fear that they aren't loveable and feelings of inadequacy.

Issues that developing fear of self-disclosure

Losing control of a conversation or relationship Becoming trapped or controlled by someone else Facing something unpleasant within yourself Losing self-respect Appearing to be a loser to others Being rejected or belittled

Four outcomes of failing to Self-Disclose

Loss of relationships Slow Down of personal growth Waste time and energy Loss of sense and identity

Johari Unknown Pane

Pane contains everything you don't know about yourself. Repressed childhood memories, or unknown talents and attitudes about specific information

Self-disclosure

The ability to let another person know what is real about your thoughts, desires, and feelings.

Self-awareness

The ability to see yourself realistically, without a great deal of difference between what you are and how you assume others see you Similar as developing a better looking glass self

Awareness Related barriers to effective human relations

Traits of secrecy, dishonesty, or other defenses. Belief that absence of defense mechanism results in rejection and loneliness