Interpersonal Comm - Exam 3
relational culture
A private world of rules, understandings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create to give meaning to their relationship.
Unproductive Conflict Communication
Early Stages -fails to confirm -cross-complaining (complaint is met by countercomplaint) Middle stages -Kitchen sinking Later stages -counter -proposals -meta communication -poor listening -defensive, negative climate
Constructive conflict communication
The Early Stages -acknowledge other's concerns and feelings -supportive climate The Middle Stages -agenda building -bracketing -clarify and check perceptions The Later Stages -contracting not countering
voice response
addresses conflict directly and attempts to resolve it
conflict management skills
attend to the relationship level of meaning communicate supportively listen mindfully take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and issues check perceptions look for points of agreement look for ways to preserve the other's face imagine how you'll feel in the future
interpersonal conflict can only exist...
between people who depend on each other in the area of conflict
contracting
building a solution through negotiation and the acceptance of parts of proposals
neglect response
denies or minimizes problems, disagreements, anger, tension, or other matters that could lead to overt conflict
what is a family?
different personalities
deterioration
dyadic breakdown intrapsychic phase dyadic phase telling other people seek social support grave dressing (accept death of relationship) resurrection process? (rekindle relationship)
responses to conflict
exit (withdrawal) neglect (denies, minimizes problems) loyalty (stay committed despite differences) voice (address and try to resolve conflict)
conflict responses
exit, neglect, loyalty, voice
conflict must include
expressed disagreement interdependence felt need for resolution
storge
friendship love
types of relationships
gradual progression (some conflicts, working through) rapid escalation (few ups and downs due to high similarity) medium length courtship (hesitations and improvement based) prolonged courtship (major differences)
three stages of relationships
growth, navigation, deterioration
bracketing
identifying and setting aside for later discussion the issues peripheral to a current conflict
growth
individual invitational explorational intensifying revising commitment
development of romantic relationships
individuality invitational communication (person is interested) explorational communication (exchanging information) intensifying communication (partners spend time together) revising communication (come off the honeymoon phase) commitment (deciding to stay committed to the relationship)
pressure on friendships
internal tensions - relational dialects (see previous chpt) - diverse communication styles - sexual attraction External pressures - competing demands - personal changes - geographical differences
the exit response
involves physically walking out or psychologically withdrawing
orientations to conflict
lose-lose: toxic relationships win-lose: one is at an expense win-win: differences are positively resolved
secondary love styles
mania (obsessive love) pragma (longstanding love) agape (unconditional love)
mania
obsessive love
aspects of romantic relationship
passion commitment intimacy
ludus
playful love
pragma
practical love
navigation
relational culture placemaking
development of friendship
role-limited interaction friendly relations moving toward friendship (self-disclosure) nascent friendship (begin to share feelings) stabilized friendship (trust and continuity) waning friendship (lack of investment)
loyalty response
staying committed to a relationship despite differences
kitchen-sinking (unhealthy)
throw in external issues into the argument
marriage types
traditional(couple is close physically and emotionally) independent (couples schedule time together, satisfaction inside and outside marriage) separate (primary satisfaction outside of marriage)
primary love styles
eros storge (stable and committed in their relationships) ludus (view love as a game)
family stages
establishing enlarging developing (raise kids) independence (of child) Launch Post launch reestablishing? retirement
friendship
willingness to invest emotional closeness acceptance trust support