Interpersonal Comm - Exam 3

relational culture

A private world of rules, understandings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create to give meaning to their relationship.

Unproductive Conflict Communication

Early Stages -fails to confirm -cross-complaining (complaint is met by countercomplaint) Middle stages -Kitchen sinking Later stages -counter -proposals -meta communication -poor listening -defensive, negative climate

Constructive conflict communication

The Early Stages -acknowledge other's concerns and feelings -supportive climate The Middle Stages -agenda building -bracketing -clarify and check perceptions The Later Stages -contracting not countering

voice response

addresses conflict directly and attempts to resolve it

conflict management skills

attend to the relationship level of meaning communicate supportively listen mindfully take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and issues check perceptions look for points of agreement look for ways to preserve the other's face imagine how you'll feel in the future

interpersonal conflict can only exist...

between people who depend on each other in the area of conflict

contracting

building a solution through negotiation and the acceptance of parts of proposals

neglect response

denies or minimizes problems, disagreements, anger, tension, or other matters that could lead to overt conflict

what is a family?

different personalities

deterioration

dyadic breakdown intrapsychic phase dyadic phase telling other people seek social support grave dressing (accept death of relationship) resurrection process? (rekindle relationship)

responses to conflict

exit (withdrawal) neglect (denies, minimizes problems) loyalty (stay committed despite differences) voice (address and try to resolve conflict)

conflict responses

exit, neglect, loyalty, voice

conflict must include

expressed disagreement interdependence felt need for resolution

storge

friendship love

types of relationships

gradual progression (some conflicts, working through) rapid escalation (few ups and downs due to high similarity) medium length courtship (hesitations and improvement based) prolonged courtship (major differences)

three stages of relationships

growth, navigation, deterioration

bracketing

identifying and setting aside for later discussion the issues peripheral to a current conflict

growth

individual invitational explorational intensifying revising commitment

development of romantic relationships

individuality invitational communication (person is interested) explorational communication (exchanging information) intensifying communication (partners spend time together) revising communication (come off the honeymoon phase) commitment (deciding to stay committed to the relationship)

pressure on friendships

internal tensions - relational dialects (see previous chpt) - diverse communication styles - sexual attraction External pressures - competing demands - personal changes - geographical differences

the exit response

involves physically walking out or psychologically withdrawing

orientations to conflict

lose-lose: toxic relationships win-lose: one is at an expense win-win: differences are positively resolved

secondary love styles

mania (obsessive love) pragma (longstanding love) agape (unconditional love)

mania

obsessive love

aspects of romantic relationship

passion commitment intimacy

ludus

playful love

pragma

practical love

navigation

relational culture placemaking

development of friendship

role-limited interaction friendly relations moving toward friendship (self-disclosure) nascent friendship (begin to share feelings) stabilized friendship (trust and continuity) waning friendship (lack of investment)

loyalty response

staying committed to a relationship despite differences

kitchen-sinking (unhealthy)

throw in external issues into the argument

marriage types

traditional(couple is close physically and emotionally) independent (couples schedule time together, satisfaction inside and outside marriage) separate (primary satisfaction outside of marriage)

primary love styles

eros storge (stable and committed in their relationships) ludus (view love as a game)

family stages

establishing enlarging developing (raise kids) independence (of child) Launch Post launch reestablishing? retirement

friendship

willingness to invest emotional closeness acceptance trust support