Paradigms & Principles

Thomas Paine

"That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly. It is dearness only which gives everything its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods".

7 Habits

1) Be Proactive 2) Begin with the End in Mind 3) Put First Things First 4) Think Win/Win 5) Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood 6) Synergize 7) Sharpen the Saw

7 Habits Principles

1) Principles of Personal Vision 2) Principles of Personal Leadership 3) Principles of Personal Management 4) Principles of Interpersonal Leadership 5) Principles of Empathic Communication 6) Principles of Creative Cooperation 7) Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal

Gravity

Like any natural force, gravity pull can work with us or against us. The gravity pull of some of our habits may currently be keeping us from going where we want to go. But it is also gravity pull that keeps our world together, that keeps the planets in their orbits & our universe in order. It is a powerful force, & if we use it effectively, we can use the gravity pull of habit to create the cohesiveness & order necessary to establish effectiveness in our lives.

Reap & Sow

Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.

Aristotle

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.

Money can't buy happiness!

You can buy a person's hand, but you can't buy his heart. His heart is where his enthusiasm, his loyalty is. You can buy his back, but you can't buy his brain. That's where his creativity is, his ingenuity, his resourcefulness.

Thoreau

✅"For every thousand hacking at the leaves of evil, there is one striking at the root". ✅We can only achieve quantum improvements in our lives as we quit hacking at the leaves of attitude & behavior & get to work on the root, the paradigms from which our attitudes & behaviors flow.

Parenting

✅Be an authoritative parent. Listen to your child but set boundaries. ✅In the long run, this will help the develop the ability to make good choices & achieve important goals along the road. ✅Self-growth is tender; it's holy ground. There is no greater investment, but it's not a quick fix.

P/PC Balance

✅Effectiveness lies in balance. ✅P = Production of desired results = Golden eggs ✅PC = Production capability = The ability or asset that produces the golden eggs

What is this for?

✅Expand your perspective. ✅Deepen your understanding. ✅Have the resources to heal & rebuild important relationships. ✅Replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of effectiveness, happiness, & trust-based relationships. ✅Motivation to apply the material to life.

Habits

✅Habits are powerful factors in our lives because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily express our character & produce our effectiveness. ✅Habits can be learned or unlearned. ✅Bad habits: Procrastination, criticalness, selfishness.

Independence

✅I can do it. ✅I am responsible. ✅I am self-reliant. ✅I can choose.

Internal Focus of Loci

✅If I am emotionally independent, I derive a great sense of worth within myself, but I also recognize the need for love, for giving, & for receiving love from others. ✅If i am intellectually interdependent, I realize that I need the best thinking of other people to join with my own. ✅Interdependence is a choice only independent people make.

Inside-Out

✅If you don't pay the price day in & day out, you never achieve true mastery of the subjects you study or develop an educated mind. ✅You reap what you sow. ✅If there isn't deep integrity & fundamental character strength, the challenges of life will cause true motives to surface & human relationship failure will replace short-term success. ✅Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good or evil; the silent unconscious, unseen influence of his life. ✅Strive for enduring happiness & success.

BE A BETTER PERSON

✅If you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy & sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it. ✅If you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathic, consistent, loving parent. ✅If you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. ✅If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. ✅If you want the secondary greatness or recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.

Habits Defined

✅Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do & the why. ✅Skill is the how to do. ✅Desire is the motivation, the want to do. ✅Habit of continuous improvement creates upward spiral growth that lifts you to new levels of understanding & living each of the habits as you come around to them on a progressively higher plane.

Compassionate Listening

✅Patience ✅Openness ✅Desire to understand

Principles of Growth & Change

✅Personal effectiveness ✅Rich & deep relationships ✅Personal strength ✅Maturing ✅Family unit ✅Teamwork ✅Adaptive synergistic organizational culture

Personality Ethic

✅Personality growth ✅Communication skill training ✅Education in the field of influence strategies & positive thinking

Three Assets

✅Physical ✅Financial ✅Human

Maturity Continuum

✅Physical ✅Mental ✅Emotional ✅Financial

Principles

✅Principles are territory, values are maps. ✅Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value.

Character Ethic

✅Quick-Fix Influence Techniques ✅Power strategies ✅Communication skills ✅Positive attitudes

Effectiveness Defined

✅The 7 Habits bring maximum long-term beneficial results. ✅The basis of a person's character creating an empowering center of correct maps from which an individual can effectively solve problems, maximize opportunities, & continually learn & integrate other principles in an upward spiral of growth. ✅If you adopt a pattern of life that focuses on golden eggs & neglects the goose, you will soon be without the asset that produces golden eggs. On the other hand, if you only take care of the goose with no aim toward the golden eggs, you soon won't have the wherewithal to feed yourself or the goose.

External Focus of Loci

✅The kind of reaction that results in people "throwing off their shackles," becoming "liberated," "asserting themselves," & "doing their own thing" often reveals more fundamental dependencies that cannot run away from because they are internal rather than external. ✅Dependencies such as letting weakness of other people ruin our emotional lives or feeling victimized by people & events out of our control.

Deadbeats

✅These people are weak because they borrow strength from others. ✅They want substance; they want process. They want more than aspirin & band-aids. They want to solve the chronic underlying problems & focus on the principles that bring long-term results.

Interdependence

✅We can do it. ✅We can cooperate. ✅We can combine our talents & abilities to create something greater.

Paradigm

✅We interpret everything we experience through mental maps. ✅Aim for intellectual & emotional experiences. ✅The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps, or assumptions, & the extent to which we have been influenced by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against reality, listen to others & be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture & a far more objective view. ✅Break tradition with old ways of thinking. ✅Paradigms are powerful because they create the lens through which we see the world.