Relationship Comm Chapter 3
simiarity
"Birds of a feather flock together"
fearful and avoidant individuals
fear intimacy and lack self-confidence
similarities in attraction
matching hypothesis
complimentary
opposites attract
interaction appearance theory
people perceive others as more physically attractive if they have warm, positive interactions with them
narcisism
people that are attracted to people who admire them, focused on more short term goals. They usually have low self-esteem
Qualities of the other
physical attractiveness, communication, hard-to-get phenomenon
Qualities of the physical or social environment
physical, proximity, social environment
dismissive individuals
prefer to be alone and are unmotivated to develop and maintain relationships
Qualities of the pair
similarities and differences between relational partners across a range of characteristics
Qualities of the Pair make up
similarity the similarity in comm skills the similarity in physical attraction the similarity in musical preference the similarity in names and birthdates complementary
similarity in musical preferences
social bonds are created through shared music preference
attitudinal similarity
source-receiver similarity built on common values, beliefs, or attitudes
sexual attraction
the desire to have sexual contact with a certain person
attraction
the feeling of being drawn toward another and desiring the company of a person
matching hypothesis
the tendency to develop relationships with people who are approximately as attractive as we are
hard-to-get effect
the tendency to prefer people who are highly selective in their social choices over those who are more readily available
Reinforcement-affect model
the theory that we like people with whom we associate positive feelings and dislike those with whom we associate negative feelings
attachment styles
Secure individuals dismissive individuals fearful and avoidant individuals Preoccupide indivduals
assimilation effect
The idea that people benefit (gain attention) from being around physically attractive others.
Romeo and Juliet effect
The intensification of romantic love that can occur when the couple's parents oppose relationship.
Destiny Beliefs
assume that two people are either well-suited for each other and destined to live happily ever after, or they're not
physical attraction
attraction to someone's physical appearance
Preoccupide individuals
want intimacy fear being alone
implicit egotism
we like what we associate with ourselves
social attraction
we see the other person as someone with whom we would like to engage in social interaction and be friends
fatal attraction
when the very qualities that draw us to someone eventually contribute to the relational breakup
Secure individuals
comfortable both alone and in relationships
similarity in communication skills
1. Differential importance 2. ignorance is bliss 3. sour grapes 4. skill as culture
loss-gain effect
Attraction lessens when a person's behavior moves from positive to negative; in fact, people are less attracted to those who initially enact positive behavior and then enact negative behavior than they are to those who consistently enact negative behavior.
relational beliefs
Destiny Beliefs Growth beliefs
personal qualities
Personal characteristics of an individual.
task attraction
being attracted to someone's abilities and dependability
self esteem
how people feel about themselves
Growth beliefs
good relationships are believed to develop gradually as the partners work at surmounting challenges and overcoming obstacles, and a basic presumption is that with enough effort, almost any relationship can succeed
Qualities of the physical or social environment
microenvironmental features, the social network, proximity
excitation transfer
residual physiological arousal caused by one event is transferred to a new stimulus