Session 7. The skill of choices and the Powers of Free will
Child says "yes"
"That must be hard to have someone else bossing you around all day."
Child: Yes
Adult: How sad! That must be hard for you with Lexi bossing you around all the time?
Child "Lexi made me do it!"
Adult: So Lexi is the boss of you?
Child: Lexi made me do it!
Adult: So Lexi is the boss of you?
Child: No
Adult: What could you do differently if you were your own boss?
You MUST take what?
Brain breaks
When we feel like we're making authentic choices, we get a hit of ____________________.
Dopamine "Yahoo!
Offer two positive choices to help a child experiencing an ______________________ state.
Emotional
You can only think of two positive choices when you are in an ________________________ state.
Executive
We must shift from "How do i make the child....." to "___________________________________"
How do i help the child to successfully............?
"Line up now or you will go to the principals office"
Manipulation
You can finish your homework or I can cancel your play date.
Manipulation
Erica made me do it!
So erica is the boss of you?
Do you want the red marker or the orange one?
True choice
The structure for choices is ___________________.
Visual rules.
Child says "no"
What could you do right now if you were the boss of you?
Conduct __________________ throughout the day.
brain breaks
The intent behind control is to ___________________.
coerce
in spite of all that is positive about them, choices also have a downside. The downside is known as ________________________.
decision-making fatigue
The intent behind structure is to _____________________.
help
___________________ and ___________________ inhibit higher order brain function and forfeit the release of dopamine because the choices feel coerced and manipulative/
reward; punishment
You can stand with your hands by your side or in your pockets.
true choice
