Session 7. The skill of choices and the Powers of Free will

Child says "yes"

"That must be hard to have someone else bossing you around all day."

Child: Yes

Adult: How sad! That must be hard for you with Lexi bossing you around all the time?

Child "Lexi made me do it!"

Adult: So Lexi is the boss of you?

Child: Lexi made me do it!

Adult: So Lexi is the boss of you?

Child: No

Adult: What could you do differently if you were your own boss?

You MUST take what?

Brain breaks

When we feel like we're making authentic choices, we get a hit of ____________________.

Dopamine "Yahoo!

Offer two positive choices to help a child experiencing an ______________________ state.

Emotional

You can only think of two positive choices when you are in an ________________________ state.

Executive

We must shift from "How do i make the child....." to "___________________________________"

How do i help the child to successfully............?

"Line up now or you will go to the principals office"

Manipulation

You can finish your homework or I can cancel your play date.

Manipulation

Erica made me do it!

So erica is the boss of you?

Do you want the red marker or the orange one?

True choice

The structure for choices is ___________________.

Visual rules.

Child says "no"

What could you do right now if you were the boss of you?

Conduct __________________ throughout the day.

brain breaks

The intent behind control is to ___________________.

coerce

in spite of all that is positive about them, choices also have a downside. The downside is known as ________________________.

decision-making fatigue

The intent behind structure is to _____________________.

help

___________________ and ___________________ inhibit higher order brain function and forfeit the release of dopamine because the choices feel coerced and manipulative/

reward; punishment

You can stand with your hands by your side or in your pockets.

true choice