Brene Brown
Shame Resilience
1. Recognizing Shame and Understanding Our Triggers 2. Practicing Critical Awareness 3. Reaching Out 4. Speaking Shame (I Thought It Was Just Me Chapters 3-6)
Addiction
Addiction can be described as chronically and compulsively numbing and taking the edge off of feelings. (The Gifts of Imperfection pg. 69)
Numbing
Again, after years of research, I'm convinced that we all numb and take the edge off. The question is, does our _______________ (eating, drinking, spending, gambling, saving the world, incessant gossiping, perfectionism, sixty-hour workweek) get in the way of our authenticity? Does it stop us from being emotionally honest and setting boundaries and feeling like we're enough? Does it keep us from staying out of judgment and from feeling connected? Are we using _____________ to hide or escape from the reality of our lives? (Gifts of Imperfection pg. 72)
Hope
I was shocked to discover that hope is not an emotion; it's a way of thinking or a cognitive process. Emotions play a supporting role, but hope is really a thought process made up of what Snyder calls a trilogy of goals, pathways, and agency. In very simple terms, hope happens when: We have the ability to set realistic goals (I know where I want to go). We are able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternative routes (I know how to get there, I'm persistent, and I can tolerate disappointment and try again). We believe in ourselves (I can do this!).
Self trust
If braving relationships with other people is braving connection, self trust is braving self-love.
Resilience
If you look at the current research, here are five of the most common factors of resilient people: They are resourceful and have good problem-solving skills. They are more likely to seek help. They hold the belief that they can do something that will help them to manage their feelings and to cope. They have social support available to them. They are connected with others, such as family or friends.
