Chapter 10. Interpersonal Communication in Close Relationships

In general, all romantic relationships communicate in ___________ ways whether they involve same-sex or opposite-sex couples.

similar

Relationships with clients need to have clear __________ between personal and professional relationships in order to avoid conflict.

Boundaries

According to the _______ theory, no matter the reason for disclosing information to others, one should always be cognizant of information that a romantic partner expects to be kept private.

Communication Privacy Management

Wilmot and Hocker define ________ as "an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals."

Conflict

One common expectation of romantic relationships is that they are

Exclusive

Even if the rules of friendship aren't __________. most people in a society know and understand them.

Explicitly stated

How have the legal rights of same-sex couples in the United States changed between 2000 and 2015?

It became legal for same-sex couples to marry in all 50 states.

What role do genetic ties play in families?

It is only one element that defines family relationships.

Most friendships are initiated, are maintained, and eventually

Many of them end

Being in only one romantic relationship at a time and avoiding romantic or sexual involvement with people outside the relationship is called __________.

Monogamy

The common marriage vow "till death do us part" reflects what?

Most people see marriage as permanent.

Who has a higher status, you or peer?

Neither

According to the study of workplace friendships following a developmental path, when Holly forms a workplace friendship with Jovana, she will go from being her acquaintance to her friend, then to close friend, and finally to ___________.

No confident & peer

Match the description to the correct type of family.

Origin: Usually consisting of parents and siblings, this is the family one grows up within. Extended: This family might include a grandparent or a cousin. Single-parent: This might include a man raising an adopted child without a co-parent. Blended: This family might be composed of two unmarried men who cohabitate and raise an adopted child. Nuclear:This type of family consist of a married man and woman and their biological children.

Norman has three wives. This is an example of

Polygamy

There are several unique challenges of friendships between superiors and subordinates, but they all come down to the fact that the superior has more _________ than the subordinate.

Power

Nahla's boss...

Quid pro quo

Match the type of sexual harassment with the proper definition.

Quid pro quo: When a supervisor offers an employee rewards in exchange for sexual favors Hostile work environment: When work conditions are sexually offensive or intimidating

Repetitive behaviors that have special meaning are called family _______.

Rituals

A person's most intimate relationship is often a ___________ relationship.

Romantic

Your grandfather loves to recount how he had to work two jobs, supporting a family of his own, while earning his college degree taking night classes.

Story

What is the one usual reason for the ending of marriages and romantic relationships?

There is no single "usual reason" as the reasons for ending are almost as numerous as the relationships themselves.

How should romantic partners handle privacy?

They must choose the best way for themselves.

T or F: In most of the Western world, people think of marriage and romantic relationships as based on love.

True

Pam and Renee argue about how to spend their tax refund. Pam wants to invest it, but Renee wants to take a vacation. Pam tells Renee that, with a successful investment, they can afford two or more vacations if they just wait a few years. Here are four different ways in which this argument can play out. What category does each describe?

Validating couple: *Renee jokingly tells Pam that she'll agree, since Pam is the "financial genius" in the family, but if the investment doesn't work, she's taking a vacation alone. Volatile couple: *Renee reminds Pam that they've had investment failures before and tries even harder to convince her to take a vacation. Renee won't agree and the two leave the room rather loudly. Later, they spend the evening "making up" after the argument. Conflict-avoiding couple: * Renee reminds Pam that they won't have the cash from the refund for weeks and, by then, there may be other financial needs that take priority over investments or vacations. Hostile couple: *Renee reminds Pam that Pam has lost money on investment before. Renee angrily replies that at least she tries to make money rather than merely spending it all the time, like Pam. Pam responds by making dramatic exit, slamming the door on her way out.

Match the type of marital couple to the descriptor of the way they would handle conflict.

Validating couple: *Talk openly and honestly; communicate respect for other's opinion; remain calm; use humor and positive emotions. Volatile couple: * Talk openly but try to persuade the other; expressions of negative emotion; intense periods of "making up" Conflict-avoiding couple: *Deal with conflict indirectly; focus on similarities; often "agree to disagree" Hostile couple: *Frequent and intense conflict; use negative emotion displays; engage in personal attacks

It is commonly expected that romantic relationships are

Voluntary

How do we become friends with someone?

We choose to do so.

Which of the following best describes the challenge of friendships between superiors and subordinates at work?

What's best for the work relationship isn't always best for the friendship.

Friendships among men are different than friendships among women. Categorize the areas of emphasis for each.

Women's Friendships: *Greater emphasis on conversational & emotional expressiveness. Men's Friendships: *Greater emphasis on shared activities & interests.

What does it mean to share genetic ties in a family?

You are related "by blood," sharing a certain proportion of genetic material.

Which of the following would be your peer?

Your roommate & Your best friend

Ten-year-old Analise lives with her parents on Highpoint Lane. Her older sister Kora lives with her husband on the next street over. Analise's neighbors are a brother and sister who have recently gotten their own house, and on the other side lives two roommates who met each other on Craiglist {Family of procreation}

",,,Kora lives with her husband"

Lawan and Naira {Conflict of interest in the workplace romance}

",,,must award the next promotion

Marion arrives for her first day of work as a telephone sales rep. Chaska, a sales rep in the next cubical, says hello. {Find Marion's peer}

"Chaska"

Sophie and Jamar both want out of their relationships,,, {find the reasons that has been identified by Denise Previti and Paul amato as being among the most common for involuntarily maintaining relationships.

"Worries that he can't afford the rent"

Which of the following is a type of family?

*Blended *Family of origin *Family of procreation *Nuclear

Studies demonstrate that negative feelings are likely to arise when one friend

*Constantly nags or criticizes the other *Betrays the other's confidence or trust *Behaves in a hostile or physically violent way around the other *Begins abusing alcohol or other drugs *Fails to provide help or support when the other friend needs it *Becomes intolerant of the other friend's romantic partner or other friends *Feels he or she no longer has anything in common with the other friend.

What a general categories explain why friendships end?

*Event cause friends to dislike each other. *Changes in life circumstances decrease opportunities for communication and attention.

Which of the following explain the significance of familial relationships in our lives?

*Family introduces us to the concept of relationships and teaches us how to engage in them. *Family can provide us with a feeling of belonging and a sense of our own history. *Family can provide us with unconditional love and support that cannot be found anywhere else.

What are the two qualifications about sex difference in friendships?

*Friendships are not more important to one group, men or women, than they are to the other. *The differences are only averages and don't apply to all friendships.

What are the patterns of emotional communication that differentiate happy from unhappy couples?

*Happy couples are less likely to reciprocate expressions of negative emotion. *Happy couples communicate more positive emotion and less negative emotion with each other.

When it comes to privacy management, which of the following factors influence the information you disclose?

*How much you trust the person to whom you are disclosing *How much the person has disclosed to you *The person to whom you are disclosing info.

Which of the following could present a challenge when you have a social relationship with a client?

*If the friendship interferes with your professional delivery of services *If your client does not provide full and prompt payment.

Which of the following accurately describe the practice of arranged marriage?

*In some cases, a person can reject the chosen spouse. *The parents typically choose a person's romantic partner. *People who expect to have their marriage arranged actually prefer it.

According to many scholars, most family relationships have one or more of which characteristics?

*Legal obligation *Role behaviors *Genetic ties

Which of the following are examples of changes in life circumstances which can cause friends to drift apart?

*Marriage *Moving away *Chronic illness *Work demands *Having a baby

Which of the following are true about marriages and long-term relationships and their effects on our health and well-being? ("Married people" includes those in long-term, marriage like relationships.)

*Married people live longer *Married people are less likely to engage in risky behavior. *Married people live healthier lives.

Which of the following are among the benefits of friendships between co-workers?

*Resource of info. *reliable source of emotional support

Which of the following are among Hall's rules of friendship?

*Stand up for your friends and support them *Offer resources to your friends *Be enjoyable to be around *Provide help even without being asked *Share common interests and viewpoints *Be the kind of person with whom friends can share thoughts and secrets

Which of the following are examples of legal obligations and regulations in family relationships?

*Stepparent marriages *Parental obligations *Marriages *Adoption *Domestic partnerships

Which of the following accurately describe opposite-sex friendships?

*They are an opportunity for men to be emotionally expressive. *They are an opportunity for women to enjoy shared activities.

Which of the following are among the primary reasons for opposite-sex friends to resist making their relationship romantic?

*They aren't physically attracted to their friend *Their relatives and other friends wouldn't approve of a romantic relationship with the friend. *They aren't ready to be in a romantic relationship. *They want to protect their existing friendship *They fear being disappointed or hurt *They are concerned about a third party, such as a sibling, who is romantically interested in the friend.

Why is the way in which partners negotiate the division of everyday tasks important?

*Those tasks must be done *The division often reflects the balance of power in the relationship.

Match the type of online workplace communication with the correct example.

*Upload communication: Dale sends an email to her boss requesting the off for her sister's wedding. *Downward communication: Chewital sends an email to his assistant asking him to schedule a meeting with the company's vice president. *Lateral communication: Vasillid just saw Brad in the meeting where their boss outlined their workload for the week. She emails to see if he wants to have lunch to strategize.

Regardless of whether a relationship is bound by genetics or legal ties, many people believe that the most important characteristic that defines it as familial is that the individuals in it _____________ like a family.

Act

In opposite-sex romantic relationships where the partners believe in traditional gender-role behaviors, how do they divide day-to-day tasks?

Along stereotypical gender lines.

Rawlins describes sis stages in the life span of most friendships. Place them in order, form first to last.

1.)Role-limited interaction 2.)Friendly relations 3.)Moves toward friendship 4.)Nascent friendship 5.) Stabilized friendship 6.) Waning friendship

What percentage of people in world will get married at some point in their lives?

95%

What is a martial schemata?

A cognitive model for what marriage is and should be.

Which of the following couples would be most likely to divide day-to-day tasks equally?

A same-sex couple

As in any relationships, you want your online communication in the workplace to be both

Appropriate & effective

T or F: Family secrets are kept only to protect the family from outsider judgments.

False

T or F: Friendships between two people who are not peers are doomed to failure.

False

Categorize the examples as either a family role or family position.

Family Role: *Troublemaker, Peacemaker, and Problem solver. Family Position: *Mother, Father, and Cousin.

What criteria are used primarily to determine how spouses are chosen in many collectivistic societies?

Family and Social group preferences

Which best describes the family you grow up in?

Family of origin

When Lily was growing up, she lived with her dad who was her primary caretaker. Now, Lily is 28, married to Brian, and mother to their two daughters. Lily's dad is now married too, adding a stepmother and stepbrother to Lily's life. Lily's experience is an example of

How families come in many forms.

What does the way in which romantic partners express emotion to each other tell us about the quality of the relationship?

How satisfied the partners are with each other

Omar and Eva have been married for almost ten years. He stays home and takes care of their children full time while she works full time as a financial manager. They often argue with each other about family issues but usually resolve said arguments peacefully. Omar and Eva are a(n)_________ couple.

Independent

Liam and Kathrin have been married for eight years. One weekend, Liam is sexually involved with a coworker, but it never happens again. Liam is guilty of

Infidelity

Jae-Hwa's father tells her the story, as he does every few months, of a fateful fishing trip he went on when he was ten years old. One of the two common characteristics of family stories, being retold often, is represented here. For the other characteristic of family stories to be satisfied, the story must have

an underlying message

The quality of romantic relationships can be determined by how couples

communicates