Chapter 3: Attraction
Both men and women are
less selective when they're picking a partner for a casual fling than for a lasting union
Fatal Attraction
something we initially like about a new partner can gradually become one of the most obnoxious, irritating things we dislike about the partner
The theory of psychological reactance
states that when people lose their freedom, they strive to regain it
Stimulus-value-role theory
suggests that there are three different types of information about new partners that gradually unfold over time and dissimilarities can become apparent long after a relationship ends
Balance Theory
suggests that we prefer consistency and symmetry in our relationships, so we like those who like us, and dislike those who dislike us
Interpersonal Attraction
the desire to approach someone, doesn't guarantee a relationship
A basic assumption: we like those who reward us
Direct Rewards: praise, treating us well, giving us stuff Indirect Rewards: good looks, general kindness, being present when positive events occur
"Compared with evolutionary psychology, a unique aspect of the stimulus-value-role(SVR) theory is that ?"
SVR theory is more concerned with stages of development, arguing that the critical factors that foster attraction differ according to the relationship's evolution
Judgments of attractiveness are multifaceted:
Height, Smell, Hair, Intelligence, The Color Red
"Three waitresses work at a local diner. Who is most likely to get the greatest tips from the customers?"
Wendy, who is very attractive
If you are physically attracted to someone, you are likely to attribute to him/her all of the following qualities EXCEPT which one?
a.sociability b.success c.intelligence D.chastity
"Analisa has three brothers. Her best friend, Jordan, also has three brothers, and they bonded over this fact when they met for the first time. This is an example of _______"
an indirect benefit
Attractive faces in both sexes are also:
-Average, possessing dimensions that are neither too large or too small -Symmetrical, with the two sides of the face being very similar to one another
Proximity
-liking those near us -repeated contact with someone usually increases our liking for him or her
Physical Attractiveness
-liking those who are lovely -our bias for beauty AKA The Halo Effect
Reciprocity
-liking those who like us -our expectations regarding the probability of others' acceptance are influenced by our own mate value(our overall attractiveness as reproductive partners
Complementary
-one way opposites may attract -we like responses from others that help us reach our goals and partners occasionally "fit together" better when they behave differently -but most complementary behavior is similar behavior with partners desiring the same goals and working together to attain them
Around the world, everybody prefers partners who offer:
-warmth and loyalty -attractiveness and vitality -status and resources
Fatal Attraction refers to being attracted to abusive(emotionally, or physically) partners
False
The saying "familiarity breeds contempt" is challenged by which concept?
Mere Exposure
Perceived Similarity
how much we think we have in common
For long-term mating:
men insist on only moderate attractiveness, but they want all the warmth, humor, and intelligence they can get women insist on only moderate status and resources, but they want all the warmth, honesty, humor, and intelligence they can get
