Chapter 3: Attraction

Both men and women are

less selective when they're picking a partner for a casual fling than for a lasting union

Fatal Attraction

something we initially like about a new partner can gradually become one of the most obnoxious, irritating things we dislike about the partner

The theory of psychological reactance

states that when people lose their freedom, they strive to regain it

Stimulus-value-role theory

suggests that there are three different types of information about new partners that gradually unfold over time and dissimilarities can become apparent long after a relationship ends

Balance Theory

suggests that we prefer consistency and symmetry in our relationships, so we like those who like us, and dislike those who dislike us

Interpersonal Attraction

the desire to approach someone, doesn't guarantee a relationship

A basic assumption: we like those who reward us

Direct Rewards: praise, treating us well, giving us stuff Indirect Rewards: good looks, general kindness, being present when positive events occur

"Compared with evolutionary psychology, a unique aspect of the stimulus-value-role(SVR) theory is that ?"

SVR theory is more concerned with stages of development, arguing that the critical factors that foster attraction differ according to the relationship's evolution

Judgments of attractiveness are multifaceted:

Height, Smell, Hair, Intelligence, The Color Red

"Three waitresses work at a local diner. Who is most likely to get the greatest tips from the customers?"

Wendy, who is very attractive

If you are physically attracted to someone, you are likely to attribute to him/her all of the following qualities EXCEPT which one?

a.sociability b.success c.intelligence D.chastity

"Analisa has three brothers. Her best friend, Jordan, also has three brothers, and they bonded over this fact when they met for the first time. This is an example of _______"

an indirect benefit

Attractive faces in both sexes are also:

-Average, possessing dimensions that are neither too large or too small -Symmetrical, with the two sides of the face being very similar to one another

Proximity

-liking those near us -repeated contact with someone usually increases our liking for him or her

Physical Attractiveness

-liking those who are lovely -our bias for beauty AKA The Halo Effect

Reciprocity

-liking those who like us -our expectations regarding the probability of others' acceptance are influenced by our own mate value(our overall attractiveness as reproductive partners

Complementary

-one way opposites may attract -we like responses from others that help us reach our goals and partners occasionally "fit together" better when they behave differently -but most complementary behavior is similar behavior with partners desiring the same goals and working together to attain them

Around the world, everybody prefers partners who offer:

-warmth and loyalty -attractiveness and vitality -status and resources

Fatal Attraction refers to being attracted to abusive(emotionally, or physically) partners

False

The saying "familiarity breeds contempt" is challenged by which concept?

Mere Exposure

Perceived Similarity

how much we think we have in common

For long-term mating:

men insist on only moderate attractiveness, but they want all the warmth, humor, and intelligence they can get women insist on only moderate status and resources, but they want all the warmth, honesty, humor, and intelligence they can get