COMM Ch 11

long distance friendships are more likely to survive when

- two people feel a strong liking - friends accept change as natural - they have a sense of shared history

best friends

- typically same sex - greater intimacy, disclosure, and commitment than close friends - provide unconditional support - share substantial activities/experiences - provide identity support for each other's valued social identities

two types of friendship

1. best friends 2. cross- category friends

4 kinds of cross category friendships

1. cross-sex 2. cross-orientation 3. intercultural 4. interethnic

transitioning from friendship to romance

1. expect difference 2. emphasize disclosure 3. offere assurances

Friendship functions:

1. fulfills our need for companionship 2. help us achieve practical goals

three ways to cope with attraction

1. mental management 2. romantic involvement 3. friends with benefits arrangement

maintenance strategies for friends

1. sharing activities 2. self-disclosure

10 friendship rules

1. show support 2. seek support 3. respect privacy 4. keep confidences 5. defend your friends 6. avoid public criticism 7. make your friends happy 8. manage jealousy 9. share humor 10. maintain equity

maintain your long-distance friendships

1. use technologies like cell phones/email 2. remind each other of your affection 3. recount shared events/ experiences 4. show support during big life changes

Friendship is:

1. voluntary 2. driven by shared interests 3. characterized by self disclosure 4. rooted in liking 5. volatile

Euro-American men avoid expressions of

affection with other men

identity support

behaving in ways that convey understanding, acceptance, and support for a friend's valued social identities

the most commonly reported reason for ending a friendship

betrayal

cross-sex friendships

between men and women

cross category friends

cross demographic lines and defy friendship norms

friendships are most important for...

elderly

_______ helps manage grief

emotion-sharing

agentic friendships

focus primarily on achieving practical goals together

communal friendships

focus primarily on sharing time and activities together

cross-orientation friendships

friendships between LGBTQ people and heterosexual men or women

intercultural friendships

friendships between people from different cultures or countries

interethnic friendships

friendships between people of different ethnic groups

friendship rules

general principles prescribing appropriate communication and behavior within friendships

friendship wanes for...

married

people who regularly call and text their friends are

more likely to seek face-to-face encounters

male and female same-sex friendships are

more similar than different

the defining feature of friendship

self-disclosure

valued social identities

the aspects of you public self that you deem the most important in defining who you are (musician, athlete, dancer)